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With our wedding day fast approaching, we’ve started to pay more serious attention to our registries. As a second time bride, I can’t emphasize the following enough:
REGISTER FOR THE WAY YOU LIVE.
From bridal websites and magazines to the consultants in the stores who take advantage of your excitement over holding a scanner gun, there is a lot of pressure to register for a particular type of item. But after the dust settles and all the wrapping paper has been pitched, you’re the one who has to store all of those items in your home.
Now, if you really are someone who has fancy formal dinner parties on the reg, more power to you. But if you’re not, don’t feel like you have to register for formal china and Waterford crystal. Instead, consider registering for high quality everyday items, like a bigger and/or nicer set of dishes, enough wine glasses for your whole crew, or a set of silverware that is nice to hold but also doesn’t need polishing.
Most of your guests will be happier knowing they’ve gifted you something you’ll actually lose. And if Grandma really wants to buy you something traditional, she’ll find a way no matter what you register for. But isn’t storing one ridiculous crystal bowl easier than storing the whole set?
Have you figured out what you’re doing for your registry? More and more couples are going the cash registry route for their wedding wishlist — whether they’re saving up for a house down payment, are whittling away at starting their marriage debt-free or are looking to go on an adventure of a lifetime with their honeymoon.
Tendr provides the most aesthetically pleasing interface that actually feels like a gift-giving/receiving experience, rather than just the shuffling of cash over the Internetz. Tendr is set up to be elegant and streamlined, but still incredibly personalized and wildly in touch with modern technology.
You as the couple registering, get to set up your own unique page welcoming your guests and giving your friends and family the lowdown on how you plan on using their gifts and all the monies are slid right into your personal bank account for safe-keeping. Simple, right? You have no idea.
Your guests give you a monetary gift in three easy steps:
1. Personalize a card from Tendr’s collection.
2. Fill-a with skrilla.
3. Hit send!
Oh, and you can hit ’em right back with an instant, free thank-you card to let your guests know you got their gift and are super grateful. The rates to use are comparable to other cash sites (5% paid from the couple’s gifts, not on top of the gift paid by the guest), but the personalized cards and pretty interface are really what makes Tendr stand out from the rest of the pack.
One of the super fun parts of planning your wedding is getting to set up your registry … because let’s be real: Gifts, y’all.
I was at a specialty store this weekend making an exchange (though, it’s not like I really ever need a reason to step into said store) and my newly-engaged spidey sense was kicking into high gear as I realized that at least 10 couples in the store were there for the express reason to set up their wedding registry. So, of course, being the creep I am, I tried to eavesdrop as much as possible to see what kinds of items the various duos were pining for. Given the store I was in, many were spendy big-ticket items that BABs have fessed up in the past to feeling guilty about putting on their wishlist. Which is totally legit. But years of living the broke-ass wedding guest lifestyle have tuned me into a key trick: Friends like to split things, especially if it means the less decision-inclined among the group can forego having to make a choice. The trick is to have a couple of big-ticket items your homies or family members can go in on together, and include smaller items for those who opt out of the group gift. Balance, yo.
This broke-ass is a Target junkie for many reasons. But their wedding registry? Yeah, that wins. First, it’s Target, so #duh. Second, you can set the registry up online, but your friends and family can purchase via Target’s website or in-store, making it super convenient for pretty much anyone. And there’s savings and other benefits, too, but you can read about that yourself.
Let’s get ready to ruuuuuummmmbbbbbblllleeeeeeee!!!!! (Note: I’m skipping the kitchen on this one. That’s a whole ‘nother beast unto itself).
Sound + Video: LG Home Theater System and Blu-Ray Disc Player with iPad Dock, $299.99 vs. Sony Blu-Ray Disc Player, $59.99 + VIZIO 30″ 2.0 Home Theater Sound Bar with Integrated Deep Bass, $99.99
Bedding: Waverly Marine Life Comforter Set, $199.99 – $249.99 vs. Fieldcrest Luxury Egyptian Cotton 500 Thread Count Geometric Sheet Set, $54.99-$79.99 + Pop Quatrefoil Duvet Set, $55.99-$71.99
Accent Furniture: Mirrored 6-Drawer Console, $431.99 vs. Threshold Windham 2 Door Cabinet with Center Shelves, $159.99 + Isabella Accent Table, $59.98
Tools: Bostitch 18v Drill/Impact Combo Kit, $154.99 vs. Apollo 162 Pc. Household Tool Kit with 4.8 Volt Rechargeable Cordless Screwdriver, $49.99
What are you excited to put on your registry, BABs?
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I’m helping my daughter with her wedding details. She and her fiance are 31 and 40 years old and have been living together for several years, so they don’t need the normal registry items like a toaster, a blender, towels, etc. They are hoping to buy a home together and maybe some larger pieces of household furnishings. Is a money tree an option? If so, how do you set it up and does it need to be attended at the reception? What about cards, or a gift basket? How do you address this issue in an invitation? Are there other options? I look forward to your input. Thank you.
Jlee (older generation mother-of-the-bride that got toasters!)
Dear MOB Jlee,
When it comes to registering for a wedding, there are many, many options. Speaking of not getting a toaster, BAB did a post a while back about PresentValue, which is a way to ask for monetary gifts rather than more traditional items. Other options include Hatch My House and Traveler’s Joy, a honeymoon registry. Even with these types of registries, though, I would still have a more typical registry, since there are some guests who simply prefer to give an actual gift rather than money. I have faith that your daughter and her fiancé can come up with some material items they could use. Personally, I’m of the opinion that one can never have too many towels, and spare bedsheets are always useful. They could also register for upgraded versions of items they already have.
In regards to letting folks know where you’ve registered, it’s typical to include this information with shower invitations, since the whole purpose of a shower is to “shower” the guest of honor with gifts. You can also have a wedding website and include registry information on it, with the URL for the website printed on the wedding invitations. And simply letting close friends and family members know where the couple has registered also works.
As far as having a money tree, I’m not a huge fan of setting one up at the wedding reception. It looks a bit too “gift grabby” in that setting. Instead, I would have a basket or box for cards, and a table for those folks who bring the gift to the wedding rather than sending it to the couple in advance. Doing a money tree at a bridal shower, though, would be far more appropriate.
Are you planning on doing a money tree? Did you use a cash registry website? If so, what was your experience? Let us know in the comments below!
I have an etiquette question for you. Someone sent me a gift in the mail, and it was off registry. It is a kitchen item I already own. It didn’t have a receipt, so I don’t know how or where to return it. What do I do?
Hopefully there was a card with the gift, so you at least know who sent it. If so, and it’s a close friend or family member, I see nothing wrong with calling them and explaining that, due to them clearly having fabulous taste, you already own what they purchased for you, and that you’d like to exchange their present for something you don’t already have. If they’ve already given you something, clearly they want you to enjoy whatever you end up getting! In a perfect world, they might even still have the receipt, which would make your life much easier.
If that won’t work, but the item in question is fairly common, I’d go to a store with a liberal return or exchange policy and simply ask if you can exchange it for something else, explaining that it was a present without a gift receipt included. You can verify ahead of time, either online or in person, that the store sells the item you need to exchange.
If the gift is uncommon, or only sold at stores with a painful exchange policy, you can attempt to exchange it for something else, or save it for later re-gifting. Just make sure you don’t give it back to the person who gave it to you.
Have you received any off-registry gifts that you either already owned or did not want? Did you exchange them or just end up keeping them? Let us know in the comments below!
Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! For this week’s Five for Friday, we’re partnering with Blueprint Registry, a free registry site that helps you set up your wishlist based on the layout of your home. Since Blueprint partners with a huge number of retailers, you can build the registry more with your home in mind and less by the restrictions of one specific store. Which is pretty cool.
With summer comes parties and cookouts and loads of time with friends spent noshing on some grub, sipping cocktails and shooting the proverbial shit. If you’re big into hosting your homies, as I am, it’s always a fun idea to have eye-catching pieces that compliment your style and strike up a conversation. Here are five of my favorite pieces that crank up the hostessing notch:
These striped place mats from West Elm are fun and classy at the same time. Whether you love an abundance of color on your tabletop or just strategically placed pops, they’ll bring the rainbow to your next dinner party. ($12 for set of 2)
If you’re HUGE on color, color, everywhere! Then the Barcelona Melamine dinner plates from Pottery Barn are pretty perfect for your next hostessing festivities. ($34 for set of 4)
Got some blooming buds you want to make center of attention at your feast? Terrain’s frosted Drummond vases come in a variety of sizes, shapes and shades to pair with any color scheme. ($44 each)
Of course, what would any gathering be without super fun drinking vessels? Gold confetti? Yes please!
Are any of these must-haves for your fabulous self? Head on over to Blueprint Registry to see how they’d look in your home!
Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! For this week’s Five for Friday, we’re partnering with Blueprint Registry, a free registry site that helps you set up your wishlist based on the layout of your home. Since Blueprint partners with a huge number of retailers, you can build the registry more with your home in mind and less by the restrictions of one specific store. Which is pretty cool. As usually happens when my love affair with Don Draper returns to the airwaves, I’ve gotten on a vintage-y kick lately, so Blueprint Registry helped me find some awesome gems that lend a retro air to any abode. Bonus: All the goodies are under $100. Ya dig?
All aboard! I love that this clock instantly reminds me of the days of smoking cars and when single-serving friends were those dapper fellas drinking highballs and ladies with hat boxes.
I want this book. Plain and simple.
Psshhh! Beck has nothing on this turntable. “Moonrise Kingdom” is one of my favorite movies, and just having this in my vicinity would make me feel like I belong in that mod, mod world.
Real talk: Absolutely nothing says classy retro like a sleek decanter filled with a good brown liquor.
I’ll take mine on the rocks, please.
What retro, vintage-y pieces would you love for your home? Head on over to Blueprint Registry to see how it would fit in your casa!
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I have all these cards and slips from the stores where we registered that I want to distribute, but all of the books and websites say to not include them with your invitations because it’s rude. My save the dates already went out, so I can’t include them with those. What am I supposed to do with these cards? How do I let people know where we registered? I’m mostly referring to my guests who are not computer literate. Thank you!
Confused about registry
In some areas, it’s customary to include those registry cards with the invitations. However, if you don’t know for certain that it is what’s done in your social circle, I would avoid including them. Personally, I sort of feel like the stores give them to folks who have registered just to drive up business at their own stores, but that might be just me
There are a few ways to let people know where you registered. First, if you’re having a shower, it’s totally acceptable to include registry information with those invitations. After all, the whole point of a shower is to “shower” the guest of honor with gifts. Second, if you’ve made a wedding website, you can definitely include a page with registry information there. As for those guests who are not computer literate and who will not be invited to a shower, the best way to reach them is to make sure your immediate family knows where you are registered, so they can spread the word when asked.
No matter what you do, though, odds are some folks will go “off registry” and buy something you haven’t specifically requested. My husband and I received gifts that definitely don’t go with our aesthetic, but we know the people who gave those presents meant well. And one of our “off registry” gifts was one of my favorites; a friend of mine had one of our invitations custom-framed using stained glass. It’s nothing I ever would have asked for, but I absolutely love it. So, give them a chance — your guests might surprise you!
How did you let your guests know where you registered? Is it the norm in your social circle to include registry cards with the invitations? Did you get anything fantastic that wasn’t on one of your registries? Let us know in the comments below!
Wedding registries are hard. Everyone’s telling you “don’t forget anything!” “register for more than you need!” “don’t forget China!” “you can always return it!”
Why can’t I just register for the things I want? Neither Michael nor I drink coffee so we really don’t need a coffee maker. My parents have used their wedding China maybe one time, so I probably don’t need wedding China, can’t I just get regular cute dishware? I do see the use of those “things most brides forget to register for” lists, I like to look at those lists! But I don’t think I’m a bad bride for ignoring the item Espresso Machine or Fondue Pot.
What I love about this day and age is you can basically do all of your registering online. The one thing I did want to do in person was register for sheets. I wanted to feel them & make sure that I wasn’t going to receive some thin sheet sized cardboard, but rather cloud-like perfection.
Now I thought this was going to be easy: go in, say you have a registry & would like to add to it, they give you a scan gun, boom. False. You have to sit down, they have to give you paperwork, they discuss your registry & why you don’t have certain things. I felt like I was being interrogated by undercover cops. And THEN (this part was actually the most scarring) someone has to go with you and scan what you want! You’re not even trusted to handle a scanner. The reason for this, I’m sure, is to make suggestions as to what else you should register for and drive up the amount of money guests will hopefully spend. I did succeed in only shopping for bed-related things, but she did win and get me to register not just for sheets but also for fancy pillows,a comforter and a quilt.
Will I be glad to possibly have these items: yes. After I recover from my bitchy resentment will I be glad I went to the store to feel the sheets: yes.
Ok, whining over.
I do have a confession: I am a registery-o-holic. I have four registries. I just like options! I registered at Bed, Bath & Beyond, Crate & Barrel, Target and Anthropologie. You want to know something else? If four registries is wrong, I don’t want to be right!