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Ask Heather: What Are Our Other Registry Options?

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Dear Heather,

I’m helping my daughter with her wedding details. She and her fiance are 31 and 40 years old and have been living together for several years, so they don’t need the normal registry items like a toaster, a blender, towels, etc. They are hoping to buy a home together and maybe some larger pieces of household furnishings. Is a money tree an option? If so, how do you set it up and does it need to be attended at the reception? What about cards, or a gift basket? How do you address this issue in an invitation? Are there other options? I look forward to your input. Thank you.

Jlee (older generation mother-of-the-bride that got toasters!)

Dear MOB Jlee,

I’ve somewhat addressed this issue in a few previous columns, but I think it’s worth it to tackle it again, since it seems to be an ongoing issue with BAB readers.

When it comes to registering for a wedding, there are many, many options. Speaking of not getting a toaster, BAB did a post a while back about PresentValue, which is a way to ask for monetary gifts rather than more traditional items. Other options include Hatch My House and Traveler’s Joy, a honeymoon registry. Even with these types of registries, though, I would still have a more typical registry, since there are some guests who simply prefer to give an actual gift rather than money. I have faith that your daughter and her fiancé can come up with some material items they could use. Personally, I’m of the opinion that one can never have too many towels, and spare bedsheets are always useful. They could also register for upgraded versions of items they already have.

In regards to letting folks know where you’ve registered, it’s typical to include this information with shower invitations, since the whole purpose of a shower is to “shower” the guest of honor with gifts. You can also have a wedding website and include registry information on it, with the URL for the website printed on the wedding invitations. And simply letting close friends and family members know where the couple has registered also works.

As far as having a money tree, I’m not a huge fan of setting one up at the wedding reception. It looks a bit too “gift grabby” in that setting. Instead, I would have a basket or box for cards, and a table for those folks who bring the gift to the wedding rather than sending it to the couple in advance. Doing a money tree at a bridal shower, though, would be far more appropriate.

Are you planning on doing a money tree? Did you use a cash registry website? If so, what was your experience? Let us know in the comments below!

Ask Heather: How Do I Return an Off-Registry Gift?

Ask Heather How Do I Return an Off-Registry Gift

Dear Heather,

I have an etiquette question for you. Someone sent me a gift in the mail, and it was off registry. It is a kitchen item I already own. It didn’t have a receipt, so I don’t know how or where to return it. What do I do?

Ansley

Dear Ansley,

Hopefully there was a card with the gift, so you at least know who sent it. If so, and it’s a close friend or family member, I see nothing wrong with calling them and explaining that, due to them clearly having fabulous taste, you already own what they purchased for you, and that you’d like to exchange their present for something you don’t already have. If they’ve already given you something, clearly they want you to enjoy whatever you end up getting! In a perfect world, they might even still have the receipt, which would make your life much easier.

If that won’t work, but the item in question is fairly common, I’d go to a store with a liberal return or exchange policy and simply ask if you can exchange it for something else, explaining that it was a present without a gift receipt included. You can verify ahead of time, either online or in person, that the store sells the item you need to exchange.

If the gift is uncommon, or only sold at stores with a painful exchange policy, you can attempt to exchange it for something else, or save it for later re-gifting. Just make sure you don’t give it back to the person who gave it to you.

Have you received any off-registry gifts that you either already owned or did not want? Did you exchange them or just end up keeping them? Let us know in the comments below!

Five for Friday: Registry Essentials for the Entertainer

Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! For this week’s Five for Friday, we’re partnering with Blueprint Registry, a free registry site that helps you set up your wishlist based on the layout of your home. Since Blueprint partners with a huge number of retailers, you can build the registry more with your home in mind and less by the restrictions of one specific store. Which is pretty cool. 

With summer comes parties and cookouts and loads of time with friends spent noshing on some grub, sipping cocktails and shooting the proverbial shit. If you’re big into hosting your homies, as I am, it’s always a fun idea to have eye-catching pieces that compliment your style and strike up a conversation. Here are five of my favorite pieces that crank up the hostessing notch:

border stripe yarn die place mat

These striped place mats from West Elm are fun and classy at the same time. Whether you love an abundance of color on your tabletop or just strategically placed pops, they’ll bring the rainbow to your next dinner party. ($12 for set of 2)

PB barcelona melamine plate

If you’re HUGE on color, color, everywhere! Then the Barcelona Melamine dinner plates from Pottery Barn are pretty perfect for your next hostessing festivities. ($34 for set of 4)

gold flatwear

Y’all, I love a good gold … anything, as long as it’s used sparingly. And this gilded serving set fits that bill perfectly. ($39 at West Elm)

Drummond Frosted Vases

Got some blooming buds you want to make center of attention at your feast? Terrain’s frosted Drummond vases come in a variety of sizes, shapes and shades to pair with any color scheme. ($44 each)

anthro champagne bubbles glasses

Of course, what would any gathering be without super fun drinking vessels? Gold confetti? Yes please!

($58 for a set of 4, Anthropologie)

Are any of these must-haves for your fabulous self? Head on over to Blueprint Registry to see how they’d look in your home!

Five for Friday: Fun, Vintageous Finds for Your Registry

Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! For this week’s Five for Friday, we’re partnering with Blueprint Registry, a free registry site that helps you set up your wishlist based on the layout of your home. Since Blueprint partners with a huge number of retailers, you can build the registry more with your home in mind and less by the restrictions of one specific store. Which is pretty cool. As usually happens when my love affair with Don Draper returns to the airwaves, I’ve gotten on a vintage-y kick lately, so Blueprint Registry helped me find some awesome gems that lend a retro air to any abode. Bonus: All the goodies are under $100. Ya dig?


Seattle Map Poster

Map Poster – Birdseye View of Seattle, 24″x14″, $15.99

This map is a great reminder of what a now-bustling city once looked like.

 SIDE-MOUNTED STATION CLOCK

Side-mounted station clock, $99

All aboard! I love that this clock instantly reminds me of the days of smoking cars and when single-serving friends were those dapper fellas drinking highballs and ladies with hat boxes.

Encyclopedia of Forgotten Yet Delightful Things

Let’s Bring Back: An Encyclopedia of Forgotten-Yet-Delightful, Chic, Useful, Curious, and Otherwise Commendable Things from Times Gone By, $9.99-$28.46

I want this book. Plain and simple.

Crosley CR6019A-BK Executive Portable USB-Enabled 3-Speed Turntable (Black & White)

Crosley CR6019A-BK Executive Portable USB-Enabled 3-Speed Turntable (Black & White), $99.95

Psshhh! Beck has nothing on this turntable. “Moonrise Kingdom” is one of my favorite movies, and just having this in my vicinity would make me feel like I belong in that mod, mod world.

5-Pc Linus Whiskey Set
5-piece Linus Whiskey Set, $49

Real talk: Absolutely nothing says classy retro like a sleek decanter filled with a good brown liquor.

I’ll take mine on the rocks, please.

What retro, vintage-y pieces would you love for your home? Head on over to Blueprint Registry to see how it would fit in your casa!

Ask Heather: What Do I Do with Store Registry Cards?

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Dear Heather,

I have all these cards and slips from the stores where we registered that I want to distribute, but all of the books and websites say to not include them with your invitations because it’s rude. My save the dates already went out, so I can’t include them with those. What am I supposed to do with these cards? How do I let people know where we registered? I’m mostly referring to my guests who are not computer literate. Thank you!

Confused about registry

Dear Confused,

In some areas, it’s customary to include those registry cards with the invitations. However, if you don’t know for certain that it is what’s done in your social circle, I would avoid including them. Personally, I sort of feel like the stores give them to folks who have registered just to drive up business at their own stores, but that might be just me :)

There are a few ways to let people know where you registered. First, if you’re having a shower, it’s totally acceptable to include registry information with those invitations. After all, the whole point of a shower is to “shower” the guest of honor with gifts. Second, if you’ve made a wedding website, you can definitely include a page with registry information there. As for those guests who are not computer literate and who will not be invited to a shower, the best way to reach them is to make sure your immediate family knows where you are registered, so they can spread the word when asked.

No matter what you do, though, odds are some folks will go “off registry” and buy something you haven’t specifically requested. My husband and I received gifts that definitely don’t go with our aesthetic, but we know the people who gave those presents meant well. And one of our “off registry” gifts was one of my favorites; a friend of mine had one of our invitations custom-framed using stained glass. It’s nothing I ever would have asked for, but I absolutely love it. So, give them a chance — your guests might surprise you!

How did you let your guests know where you registered? Is it the norm in your social circle to include registry cards with the invitations? Did you get anything fantastic that wasn’t on one of your registries? Let us know in the comments below!

Real Bride Jess: Registries … aka Buy Us Presents

Wedding registries are hard. Everyone’s telling you “don’t forget anything!” “register for more than you need!” “don’t forget China!” “you can always return it!”

Why can’t I just register for the things I want? Neither Michael nor I drink coffee so we really don’t need a coffee maker. My parents have used their wedding China maybe one time, so I probably don’t need wedding China, can’t I just get regular cute dishware? I do see the use of those “things most brides forget to register for” lists, I like to look at those lists! But I don’t think I’m a bad bride for ignoring the item Espresso Machine or Fondue Pot.

What I love about this day and age is you can basically do all of your registering online. The one thing I did want to do in person was register for sheets. I wanted to feel them & make sure that I wasn’t going to receive some thin sheet sized cardboard, but rather cloud-like perfection.

Now I thought this was going to be easy: go in, say you have a registry & would like to add to it, they give you a scan gun, boom. False. You have to sit down, they have to give you paperwork, they discuss your registry & why you don’t have certain things. I felt like I was being interrogated by undercover cops. And THEN (this part was actually the most scarring) someone has to go with you and scan what you want! You’re not even trusted to handle a scanner. The reason for this, I’m sure, is to make suggestions as to what else you should register for and drive up the amount of money guests will hopefully spend. I did succeed in only shopping for bed-related things, but she did win and get me to register not just for sheets but also for fancy pillows,a comforter and a quilt.

Will I be glad to possibly have these items: yes. After I recover from my bitchy resentment will I be glad I went to the store to feel the sheets: yes.

Ok, whining over.

I do have a confession: I am a registery-o-holic. I have four registries. I just like options! I registered at Bed, Bath & Beyond, Crate & Barrel, Target and Anthropologie. You want to know something else? If four registries is wrong, I don’t want to be right!

 

Use Your Registry To Go BPA-Free In the Kitchen

Oh, the registry. Definitely one of the more fun aspects of wedding planning, because you get to think about your space and your life and how you want to live it. And with all the harmful, nasty-ass shizz out in the world, why not let your home be a sanctuary of sorts? Here are 15 fabulous BPA-free items that are perfect for any registry and kitchen!BPA-Free Kitchen Registry

1. Prepworks from Progressive GPC-3681 Dice and Slice Chopper
2. Lekue Lemon Press Set, Green, 2-Piece
3. S/3 Assorted Fluted Mixing Bowls
4. Glass Dharma Decorative Dots Multicolored 5 Piece Glass Straws and Brush Set
5. Ninja Professional Blender with Single Serve Blending Cups (BL660)
6. Lekue Silicone Kitchen Grip
7. Knife Sharpening Steel
8. New Snaplock Lid: Tempered Glasslock Storage Containers 18pc set
9. 5 Piece cmsHome Ultimate Kitchen Utensils Tools Gift Set
10. Chef’s Knife
11. S/4 Assorted Porcelain Spoons
12. Essential Bakeware Set
13. 3-Pc Nesting Bowl Set w/ Handle, White
14. Norpro Silicone Mini Pinch Bowls, 4 Piece Set
15. Soma Water Filter {eds. note: I have one and I love it. It makes stinky Florida water taste AMAZE.}

What items are you pumped to be able to add to your registry?

Get the Gifts (or Experiences) You Really Want with SimpleRegistry

So, here you are. Ready to dive deep into the world of wedding planning and frothy dresses and parties and cake tastings and registries!

While so many other parts of the whole wedding planning process can be stressful and frustrating and aggravating, the registry is (almost universally) the superfun part. If you are just starting to nest, the registry is where you can delightfully request all the fun kitchen and home gadgets you need. Or need. If you have your nest built and are looking more for experiences to share or nest eggs, the registry is where you can hint at that, too.

And so often you have to set up different registries — one (or more!) for the stuff, one for the dollaz, one for the experiences. That’s a lot of registries, yo!

BUT. SimpleRegistry takes all headache away and lets you keep it simple (schtoopid). Duh. You set up one site (fully customizable!), add images of things you want — or scan barcodes with the mobile app — and then you wait. Cackling is optional.

And it’s not just simple for you and your beloved: Your homies and family can split those big-ticket items (oh, hai awesome dinner experience). And if you’re more of a “I’m just going to ask for salt and pepper shakers” kinda gal because you don’t want anyone to go to any trouble, then your more assertive friends can pony up suggestions for your registry. SimpleRegistry also helps keep everything in check to make writing those “thank-you” notes uber easy, too, because trust me, after your wedding, you are going to have trouble remembering your name, much less who got you the tea set.

But the best part? It’s FREE to set up and there’s a teensy 5% fee at checkout that either you and yours pay (taken off the top of the gift) or your guest pays (added to their total).

So, ask yourself, what do you really want? Got it figured out? Now go ask for it!

*Brought to you by our friends at SimpleRegistry

Enough with the Toasters! Get the Gift of Stability with a Present Value Registry

Hey there, newbie BABs! Welcome to the party! Amid the piles of tulle and yummy cake tastings lies the golden nugget of fun that is your wedding registry. For some of you, this will be the chance for you and your honey to start your cohabitation off on a shiny new foot. For others, those of you who are already well-familiar with bodily functions, smelly socks, and morning cups of coffee in bed, building your bridal registry can be tough, since you are fairly stocked when it comes to household goodies.

Regardless of which camp you fall in, Present Value is a wedding registry you’ll definitely want to set up. Beyond standard cash registries that can go toward vacations or experiences, Present Value registries focus on your financial future. From house downpayments to debt reduction, college funds to investment portfolios, your wedding guests can give you a little peace of mind.

While scanning for new fine china or that killer KitchenAid stand mixer (in turquoise!) is always fun, Present Value knows the real value of planning for your new life together. The registry site has a clear and concise interface that you can personalize with a welcoming note and a photo of you and your other half and the whole experience is completely free – for both you and your guests. No fees are incurred and there is no charge to set up your Present Value registry.

While new goodies are great, a little financial freedom and stability go a long way. So whether you’re decking out your casa or planning a honeymoon of a lifetime, give your guests the opportunity to help you plan for your future. Because as any BAB knows: Every cent counts.

Note: This post was brought to you by our friends at Present Value.