Broke-Ass Tag: wedding priorities


Bride brain is a real thing, and I hate it.



I’m getting this post to our lovely BAB editor late {Eds Note: It’s OK. We still love her.}, after mentally reminding myself about a million times.

I open browser tabs and forget why I opened them.

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Any errands I have to run must come with full lists.

And last night, I caught myself trying to drink out of a glass that didn’t have any water left in it … more than once.



No matter how you slice it, weddings are stressful, and stress brings consequences. With so many things to do and so many bits of information swirling about in my brain, it’s hard to keep track and keep focused. I’ve found myself telling people things repeatedly, because I can remember that it’s important but I can’t remember that I already told them!

At every point in the planning process, but especially in the last couple weeks leading up to the wedding, it’s really important to take time to take care of yourself, whether it’s just a few deep breaths or a day off to relax. Try not to panic, and be gentle on yourself. I know I’ve cut, downgraded, or delegated several things in the past couple days because they just aren’t worth the stress at this point.

I’m focusing on the prize at the end: marriage!

…and maybe a little bit on that beachy honeymoon 😉

How have you been dealing with bride brain?


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    Dear Liz,

    My brother is getting married in May and his bride-to-be has asked for my help with planning the wedding. We will have to travel about four hours to where it is taking place. There will more than likely be 50 (or less) guests in attendance, which is what they want. She doesn’t feel terrible about leaving a lot of people out on her special day especially since she knows a lot of them wouldn’t want to make the trip. I was just wondering is it acceptable to invite uninvited guests to a huge bridal shower in her honor??


    Shower Struggle

    Dear Struggle,

    Yeah…no. You really can’t invite people to the shower who haven’t been invited to the wedding. Showers = gifts and money. So basically you’re telling them that even though they weren’t important enough to watch her get married, they can still travel X amount of hours to give her a blender. Plus, you’ll be positioning your future sister-in-law – publicly – as “the woman that didn’t invite them to her wedding”. At some point, to someone, she will have to explain why, and probably have to do so over and over again.  Trust me, someone will mention it or ask for details. Awkward. Awkward, awkward.  If you are worried about a low turnout, invite the guys, too.

    Resistance is futile.

    Dear Liz,

    I just got engaged! Is there some type of simple check list, for starting to plan a wedding? Like…

    1- Budget

    2 – Guest list

    3 – Dress??

    I’m so overwhelmed by the whole process!


    In the Deep End

    Dear Deep,

    Welcome to Wedding World! First of all, bonus points for putting your dress third. That sort of practical thinking will get you far around here. Start with your guest list – his list, your list, and your parents’ lists. And, yeah, if your budget is a consideration, figure that out while you’re getting your guests together. You should reserve half of your budget for your ceremony and reception site, and your catering. A little perspective – a comparable wedding dinner at Olive Garden for 100 guests would be around $5,000. Those are also the first three things you need to pay for. Once you got that done, I give you permission to start shopping for your dress. You should probably book a photographer first, but there’s no reason to be a saint. Have fun!

    Who did you invite to your bridal shower? How long did you resist shopping for your dress? Just engaged, and got questions? Let me know below! And, you can find out more about me and my slice of Wedding World at

    See you at the end of the aisle,