Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding planning

6/20

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Although I’m not having a formal bridal party, or a formal wedding, I still have some great friends that are helping me celebrate. Some of my closest friends have come together to throw a shower for me. Sometimes it seems weddings become an exchange of gifts: Your bridesmaids do something for you, you buy them gifts. You feed your guests dinner, they buy you gifts. Your man gives you a ring, you buy him a watch. It’s a fine line between gifts for the sake of doing something nice and gifts because you feel like you owe them something — but I really wanted to give my crew a little token of appreciation.

A simple search of “bridesmaid gifts” will give you a good list to start with. Many of the gifts pertain to getting ready for the wedding ceremony like matching robes to wear that morning, or bedazzled “bridesmaid” tank tops. Jewelry that matches their dress to wear in the wedding is also a popular gift. Personalized items are also very popular, particularly tumblers and wine glasses. Some of these things can get pretty pricey, especially with personalization, and it adds up when you have to buy multiples of everything.

I really wanted to find something they would use again, that was for them and not just for my wedding. I’m a sucker for a theme! Being a makeup artist, I decide to go with what I know and put together a little gift package with some of my favorite beauty items. I bought canvas makeup pouches from Amazon, and personalized each one with their name using a fabric marker. I also got sheet masks and foot treatments, also courtesy of Amazon. I picked up little manicure kits, lip glosses and nail polishes for each of them.  To round it out, I ordered these pretty personalized compact mirrors with their initials from Etsy.

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Available from AllAboutYouCreations on Etsy

All together, each gift with cost about $40, and they will all have something that is personal and also useful!

  • 6/9

    The thing with planning a wedding that gets to a lot of couples is that it feels like there are so. many. decisions. that, in the grand scheme of things, seem pretty inconsequential, but when it comes to the event that is your wedding actually make a big difference. It really is OK to waver back and forth between linen colors and wonder if you should alternate the seating colors with the buffet and dessert table colors. These seemingly teensy choices can have a large aesthetic impact, so give them some thought, but friends, make those decisions and own them.

    As stressed as I allowed myself to get through my own wedding planning I discovered that I genuinely love weddings and that I have a bit of a knack for putting others at ease. Combining that with my love for DIY and Christen’s general wedding badassery, we started Little Wedding Extras where we focus on bridging that empty market space between full wedding planners and mere day-of coordinators, so we’re there for much of the process. We hear the questions (and guide as appropriate); we see the frustrations and know the struggles. Ultimately, though, our goal is not to encourage couples to do things a certain way; our goal is to encourage couples and the biggest, most significant piece of advice I can give them is just own it.

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    Is your mother/brother/cousin giving you guff over something that you want? Well, is that person financially contributing a large portion to the day? Opinions can be bought and if someone is contributing it’s fair to be at least respectful of their opinion, but when it comes down to it it’s also fair to say: “This is our (not just ‘my’) wedding.” Explain why you prefer something and how it’s meaningful to you and your partner and how changing that would be detrimental to the overall feel you’re hoping to achieve … OR find a compromise and let it go, but remember to take responsibility for the choices you make.

    Do you have a vendor who is failing to communicate with you? If you haven’t booked them (i.e., paid them a deposit and signed a contract), drop them. You may think that’s your dream photographer, but if you can’t get a response when you’re basically trying to say, “Hi, I’d like to pay you money to do something you supposedly like to do,” that’s a sign that your dream is probably going to be a nightmare. You do have to be reasonable. If you email a vendor on a Thursday during peak wedding season, they’re probably getting ready for a wedding that weekend. Try following up a few days later. If three weeks and a couple of emails go by with nothing, move on.

    Don’t say, “I can’t find a [vendor]!” if you haven’t reached out to a few. As my mother would say, “Baby, get on the stick” (a reference to a manual shift, not a more … phallic … stick)! An unfortunate truth: for every potential vendor you cross off your list, you feel like you’ve been through a dozen. My personal experience leads me to believe that venues in particular can be daunting because you really feel like you need a place to get married and while most other vendors come down to price, little ticky-tacky things like not allowing animals when you wanted to include your dog or only being able to use their bartenders when you really wanted your badass uncle slinging those dranks can make you say nuh-uh. But any time something doesn’t work, it’s onward and upward.

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    Christen in action, guiding a groom through event space set-up.

    Do I sound like a drill sergeant? Probably a little bit, but I PROMISE you that crossing those tasks and vendors off of your (reasonable) to-do list is going to make you feel a lot better. We all have differing levels of importance when it comes to the details of our weddings, but we can all agree that the outcome is very important, so we need to treat it like it is. Stand up for yourself; hold vendors accountable for their communications or lack thereof and keep moving if your first choice doesn’t work. You’re going to make it and, hey, if you’re in the North Texas area, we can help!

    Where are you struggling to take ownership of your wedding? What have you done to overcome it? Let us know in the comments below!

  • 5/30

    Etsy Hellosugarmint Beatles Custom Printable Quote

    Printable Beatles Quote available from Etsy seller hellosugarmint Previously, I posted about scoring a great deal (AKA free) on a venue for our wedding. One of my closest friends had offered to let us use her property for our wedding day celebration. Turns out that as the housing market begins to rebound in this area, she is going to start the process of getting her…

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    5/24

    matt299

    One thing you may or may not know about me from my writing is that I do my very best to have a positive attitude in all parts of my life. It's something I adopted at a time in my life when I was particularly miserable in a former job and it surprisingly has been making my life happier ever since. This is far from…

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    5/20

    Etsy TheAngelPaperie These are My People Quote on Canvas

    Quote on Canvas available from Etsy seller TheAngelPaperie I recently re-shared a post I wrote last year about fear-mongering, shaming and budget weddings because I've been noticing a trend that concerns me -- not necessarily among our readers, but more among wedding businesses. Recently on BAB's Facebook page, one of our advertisers was harassed and bullied due to the nature of her business. See, she…

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  • 5/18

    Beau-Coup Celebration Balloons

    Celebration Balloons from Beau-Coup As my fiancé and I are in the home-stretch to the big day (17 days to go, June 4!), I've been reflecting on the ups and downs we've had in the last year planning our wedding, and there's a big, obvious headache that sticks out. What I'm about to state may be controversial, but here goes: you do not have to have a…

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    5/12

    Photo by Shaina Sheaff

    So, uh, this is weird, even if it is really wonderful. It may not be weird for you if, say, your parents divorced in your childhood as many people's did, but after 36 years and a whole lot of hell, my parents called it quits. That's not the weird part. In fact, I'm about as happy about the situation as an adult kid can be. I…

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    5/9

    Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

    Photo: Carole Cohen Before I got engaged, I always said I wouldn't let my wedding take over my  life. I watched so many friends become consumed by their wedding planning process. Every time we hung out would become about some wedding-related activity, whether it be dress shopping or a trip to Michael's. Our dinner conversations would revolve around their latest updates. I vowed this would not…

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  • 4/5

    bridal_sash

    Something that we value is shopping local or independent retailers when we’re able. We love supporting the Milwaukee economy and I’ve sort of made it a personal wedding mission. Obviously, most people’s wedding photographers or florists are local, but I thought I’d share a rundown of how we’re supporting local or other independent vendors elsewhere. Dress: While Maggie Sottero is an international designer, I was…

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