Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding planning


Photo from this wedding

As I mentioned last time, my partner and I don’t always agree on our perception of the urgency of certain things. Generally, I plan in advance, and he does things at the last minute. In undergrad, I would study for the whole week up until the exam. He would cram the night before, and usually do better than me. I plan events in advance, and he wings it at the last minute. It’s so infuriating! The guy was born under a lucky star for sure.

Naturally, the wedding has been the same.

For example, I purchased my dress 13 months in advance. He started thinking about getting his suit when his mom mentioned it about a month ago at her last visit, declaring that she wanted to chip in to buying him a new suit for the wedding. Awesome!

I know nothing about suits, as I’ve never worn them.

I didn’t realize that they’re not just purchased off the rack, but that they have to be ordered, tailored and custom made. I figured that out when we went to the shop for a consultation, with Evan insisting that he just wanted to look but not choose anything right away, as he wanted some time to decide what he wanted.

The obscenely well-dressed and meticulously-coiffed man at the shop insisted that we order a suit immediately, because the summer colors would be sold out by June.

I panicked.

He wanted grey, and I made the mistake of pointing out that my dress is a bit of a creamy-champagne color. Suddenly, a discussion about clashing and complementing began happening. He would have to pick a grey that would contrast the dress appropriately, or else we might blending together in the wedding pictures like an amorphous blob. I began to worry … what if they ran out of the color he liked? What if they didn’t have it in time?

However, when we finally picked out he suit last week, the lucky star struck again. He looked amazing in a great suit that needed only minor tailoring, and because it was later in the season, it was on sale … about 60% off, to be precise.

I don’t know if I’d recommend doing the same thing, but if you have a year or more before the wedding, consider buying items at the end of the season — they might be on sale!

Another checked off the to-do list!


  • 6/23

    Happy Thursday, BABs! Today’s CAI/GOI request is from reader Jenny, who is searching for a Rue de Seine “Haze” look-alike for under £1,000 (approximately $1,300) and available in the UK. She writes:

    “Hi, I really love Rue de Seine’s Haze dress but only have a budget of max £1000. Do you know of any similar but cheaper dresses out there & available in the UK?
    Thanks, Jenny”

    The Rue de Seine gowns are very popular with BABers, and it’s not hard too see why.  Each of the gown designs are gorgeous and have a unique flair to them.  In this case, the embroidered skirt look provides an extra ‘Je ne sais pas’ to make it truly unique.  Jenny, you are in the UK, and I will try my best.  Most online shops will chip worldwide, but I’ll do my best to look around for UK shops as well.  I’ll focus on that textured skirt that the Haze gown has going for it.  Wish me luck!

    Rue de Seine’s Haze gown


    Pandora Wedding Dress; £495 (approx. $640) by Phase Eight

    The Josephine; $850 (approx. £650) by Fame and Partners

    The Kensie; $700 (approx. £540) by Fame and Partners

    Naya Dress; $350 (approx. £270) by BHLDN

    Aurora Gown; $1,000 (approx. £770) by BHLDN

    A Star is Born Embellished Sheer Insert Long Sleeve Maxi Dress; $550 (approx. £425) by ASOS

    Pearl Katherine Wedding Dress; £395 (approx. $510) by Phase Eight

    Anabella frilled bridal dress; £360(approx. $465) by Nine by Savannah Miller Ivory

    Aura wedding dress; £550 (approx. $710) by Phase Eight

    Andi Lace Dress; £364 (approx. $470) by BCBG MAXAZRIA

    Marilyne swirl lace cutout gown; £300 (approx. $400) by BCBG MAXAZRIA

    Isolde; £950(approx. $1225) by Rebecca Ingram

    Each of these textured or embroidered gown offers something unique.  What do you think, Jenny?  Anything strike your fancy?

    Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you. Please be aware, though, that because you guys love this column so much, we can often build up quite the queue and it may be a while before we can get to your dream dress. Rest assured, though, Team Broke-Ass is on the case!

    *As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.
  • 6/19

    I got engaged Memorial Day Weekend in 2016. We set our wedding date for September of the next year because September is a special month for us and it gave us about 15 months to save for our wedding. I asked all my girls to be my bridesmaids and I was locked and loaded to go. I was trying to be gracious. Then one of…

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    Hello fellow BABs! I'm back with Part 2 of my Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments. I know you have wedding planning and general badassery to get to; so let's get right into it. Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments 6. Thou Shalt Not Feel Guilty for Cutting your Guest List. The size of your guest list is what drives up the cost of your wedding; mo’ guests equals mo’ money…

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    Welcome back CAI/GOI lovers!  Today's request is from reader Terri, who commented on this post: Hi! I landed on this page while searching Amsale-inspired dresses! I'm in love with the Amsale-inspired May, specifically the minimalistic style and elegant sheer look and buttons on the back, and am hoping to find an alternative for under $1000! Please help!! Hi Terri! We are happy to see more…

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  • 5/26

    Music isn’t always a priority for couples, and that’s totally cool. Why pay someone big dollars to do something that doesn’t really mean a whole lot to you? There’s no need (and yes, we know that DJs often act as emcee, but if you have a coordinator or a friend who would be rockin’ at that role, ask them to step up). Especially not when…

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    To do notepad available from Etsy seller marrygrams Here's the thing: I've been gifted with a degree of creativity and innovation, however, I'm really, really bad at delegating. With a project as colossal as a wedding, this is not a good thing. I'm pretty sure if I try to micromanage every little thing, I'll be so busy that I wont have time to enjoy one…

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    Reader Sandra commented on this post looking for a floaty dress for her 30th anniversary vow renewal: "Just found "Can't Afford It" today. Wonderful! My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in 2018, and would like to have a vow renewal and small party. I really like Inga Nataya's "River Fairy" dress in Lilac, but $900 is too much for me to…

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  • 4/17

    Work has calmed down a bit in the last few weeks, so Ev and I have started putting some official wedding prep in motion. I managed to wrangle everyone's address, and after entirely too much obsessing, I picked out an invitation I liked and customized it. We are just waiting on our engagement photos to come back so we can post them up on our…

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