Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding planning


Exactly 14 seconds after you announce your engagement, you will get bombarded with questions. Have you set a date? Where? Theme? Colors? If you are anything like me, you kind of wanted to scream at everyone. “CHILL OUT YO, the ring hasn’t even gotten warm on my finger yet, I’ll let you know as soon as I know!!!”

Confession time: We only got to share one day together engaged before Michael had to go back home. That night, I had a nightmare where I was standing on a tiny island alone, surrounded by a sea of wedding ideas, concepts, colors … junk essentially. I could see a tornado of all of this screaming towards me, and I had no place to run. I get swept up in this swirling vortex of nuptial doom and I’m trapped with no way out. Even in my dream I start having a mini panic attack. OMG, what color will the napkins be? Should I use real flowers or silk? Is there really a difference between ivory and ecru? Faster and faster I’m swirling until I wake up in a cold sweat gasping for air. Holy crap, did I just have a nightmare about wedding planning?! UGHHH! I had the same nightmare every day for the rest of the week. By the time the weekend came, I made a mad dash to Connecticut to see Michael. Maybe we could help me master the nuptial vortex.

Now, I’ll admit I had been quasi wedding planning for about a year or two. Don’t pretend you don’t have that secret Pinterest board where you squirrel away your wedding ideas. We all do it. My fiancé, Michael, on the other hand, has not been secretly planning a wedding since birth. So, while I was sort of expecting this bombardment of people demanding information, he was completely blindsided. It doesn’t help that we are separated by 250 miles and didn’t get a chance to absorb everything in one sitting. I was going to set some things straight if it killed me. Four sleepless nights aren’t pretty.

Real Bride Danielle...and Mike

Everyone always teases me that I live my life in a series of lists. Meh, so what, it’s how I organize my thoughts. After we had full bellies and a glass (or three) of bubbly to celebrate, I pulled out a notebook and started making a list. We realized, before we could even begin navigating this insanity known as wedding planning, we at least needed to lay out our priorities. In hindsight, this is perhaps the best thing we could have done together. There are all of these things I’d love to have and have always wanted but this one little list made me stop and think: What are the absolute most important things that I want for my wedding day besides my guy? What did I absolutely have to have in order to be happy? We both set out to write three things we needed in a wedding and then shared the notebook.

Once I sat down and really thought about it, the only things I HAD TO HAVE were great food, fun (hopefully in the form of a bouncy castle) and a short wedding dress. All Michael wanted was to minimize cost and scale. Bless his penny-pinching skills! Putting these things down on paper lifted a huge burden off my heart. No matter what happened, as long as we had these things and each other, we’d be just fine. It felt like we had waded through the wedding planning tornado and actually found ourselves on the other side. . That night, I slept like a baby. I now know who we are as a couple, and this can keep me anchored as I navigate these stormy seas.

What about you? Did you feel suddenly overwhelmed once you landed the ring? How did you find yourself again?

  • 8/12

    Affiliate Disclaimer NewHey there, dudes! It’s time to talk about rings. We’ve covered the baubles for the ladies, and now it’s time to focus on you. I won’t go into a long diatribe about their significance, the symbolism of eternal love and blah, blah, blah. Instead, I’ve done a bit of shopping and I’m gonna share the loot I’ve found. The list is separated into three categories: narrow, regular and wide. This is important: in the case of rings, size matters. The general rule is the more slender the hands, the narrower the band. However, I think it’s more about comfort. For someone who doesn’t wear jewelry often, a wide band might feel cumbersome and awkward (note that this can be remedied by the type of metal as well).

    All the rings below retail under $300, but remember that doesn’t include any sort of extra custom work you might want. Also, I’ve indicated if it’s available in other metals, though the price may vary.
    Let’s get to shopping.

    Narrow Bands

    White Gold Wedding Band from jared14K White Gold Band, $229.99 from Jared

    Mens Tungsten Wedding Band 3mm from Jared
    Triton Slender Tungsten Carbide Band, $139.99 from Jared

    Mens Titanum and Wood Wedding Band from Robbins Brothers Hawaii Titanium and Pink Ivory Wood, $200 from Robbins Brothers

    Mens Gold Wedding Band from Kay JEwelers10K Yellow Gold Comfort Fit Band, $149.99 from Kay Jewelers

    Mens Gold Thin Wedding Band from Blue Nile18K Gold 2mm Band, $170 from Blue Nile

    Mens Brushed Gold Wedding Band from Blue Nile
    Matte Mid-Weight Comfort Fit White Gold Band, $300 from Blue Nile

    Hand Cut Filigree Mens Wedding Band from Etsy seller tinahdee Hand-Cut 14K Gold Fill Filigree Ring, $40 from Etsy seller tinahdee

    Unisex Love Knot Wedding Band from Etsy seller AroshaMode18K Plated Yellow, White or Rose Gold Band, $160 from Etsy seller AroshaMode

    Mens Gold Flake Wedding Band from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery
    Gold Chaos 4mm Wide Band, $173.03 from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery

    Mens Narrow Palladium Wedding Band from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery
    1.5mm Dainty Palladium Band, $181 from Etsy seller AnnaReiJewellery

    Regular Bands

    Mens Titanium Wedding Band from Etsy seller RobandLean
    Titanium Elder Wood Meteorite Band, $200 from Etsy seller RobandLean
    Mens Cobalt Wedding Band from Robbins Brothers7mm Cobalt Band, $250 from Robbins Brothers

    Mens Titanium Wedding Band from Robbins Brothers
    Titanium Comfort Fit Band, $95 from Robbins Brothers

    Mens Multi-tone Stainless Steel Wedding Band from Kay Jewelers
    8mm Multicolor Wedding Band, $109 from Kay Jewelers

    Mens Black Cobalt Wedding Band from Kay Jewelers
    Cobalt 8mm Band, $295 from Kay Jewelers

    Mens Engravable Silver Wedding Band from Kay Jewelers
    Stainless Steel Engravable Band, starting at $107 from Kay Jewelers, $107
    *Neat Feature: The middle piece spins so you can read the full message!

    Mens Tungsten Carbide Wedding Band from Jared
    Tungsten Carbide Band, $229.99 from Jared

    Mens Gold Wedding Band from Jared
    14K Yellow or White Gold Band, $279.99 from Jared

    Mens Etched Black Tungsten Wedding Band from Jared
    Florentine Etched Black Tungsten Band, $279.99 from Jared

    Mens Cobalt and Black Diamonds Wedding Band from Blue NileCobalt and Black Diamond Band, $240 from Blue Nile

    Wide Bands

    Mens Wide Cobalt Wedding Band from JaredCobalt 8mm Band, $149.99 from Jared

    Mens Stainless Steel Wedding Band from Kay JewelersStainless Steel Band, $149 from Kay JewelersMens Copper Stainless Steel Wedding Band from Jared
    Copper and Stainless Steel Band, $99.99 from Jared

    Mens Mother of Pearl Wedding Band from JaredMother of Pearl Inlay Stainless Steel Band, $129 from Jared

    Mens Distressed Silver Wedding Band from Etsy seller TinahdeeSterling Silver Distressed Band, $50 from Etsy seller Tinahdee

    Mens Whiskey Barrel Wood Wedding Band from Etsy seller HawkinsHandicrafts Whiskey Barrel Wood Band, $50 from Etsy seller HawkinsHandicrafts

    Mens Brushed Titanium and Wood Wedding Band from Etsy seller GrandJunctionGuyBrushed Titanium Bubinga Ring, $285 from Etsy seller GrandJunctionGuy

    Mens Wood and Meteorite Wedding Band from Etsy seller GrandJunctionguy
    Bentwood Meteorite Band, $215 from Etsy seller GrandJunctionGuy

    Mens Carbon Fiber Squared Ring from Etsy seller ElementringsWave Squared Carbon Fiber Ring, $179 from Etsy seller Elementrings

    Etsy Rings Paradise Meteorite Inlay Wedding BandMeteorite Inlay Rose Tungsten Band, $196 from Etsy seller RingsParadise

    That’s all chaps! Hopefully I’ve made ring shopping a little less stressful for you.

    Any catch your eye? Let me know in the comments!

  • 7/4

    Real Wedding: Elizabeth & Bryce's Traditional, Romantic North Carolina Nuptials || Photo: Jon Black Photography

    Credit: Jon Black Photography Last week I got an email with "exciting news" from my bridal store that my gown had arrived! I wasn't expecting it until next month, so I was pleasantly surprised that it was ahead of schedule! I didn't take my mom along during the dress shopping phase, so I brought her with me to pick it up. We headed to the bridal…

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    Etsy MyLittleShopofWonder Thanks for Holding My Dress Card

    Card available from Etsy seller MyLittleShopofWonder Although I'm not having a formal bridal party, or a formal wedding, I still have some great friends that are helping me celebrate. Some of my closest friends have come together to throw a shower for me. Sometimes it seems weddings become an exchange of gifts: Your bridesmaids do something for you, you buy them gifts. You feed your…

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  • 6/9

    owning your wedding

    The thing with planning a wedding that gets to a lot of couples is that it feels like there are so. many. decisions. that, in the grand scheme of things, seem pretty inconsequential, but when it comes to the event that is your wedding actually make a big difference. It really is OK to waver back and forth between linen colors and wonder if you should…

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    Etsy Hellosugarmint Beatles Custom Printable Quote

    Printable Beatles Quote available from Etsy seller hellosugarmint Previously, I posted about scoring a great deal (AKA free) on a venue for our wedding. One of my closest friends had offered to let us use her property for our wedding day celebration. Turns out that as the housing market begins to rebound in this area, she is going to start the process of getting her…

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    One thing you may or may not know about me from my writing is that I do my very best to have a positive attitude in all parts of my life. It's something I adopted at a time in my life when I was particularly miserable in a former job and it surprisingly has been making my life happier ever since. This is far from…

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  • 5/20

    Etsy TheAngelPaperie These are My People Quote on Canvas

    Quote on Canvas available from Etsy seller TheAngelPaperie I recently re-shared a post I wrote last year about fear-mongering, shaming and budget weddings because I've been noticing a trend that concerns me -- not necessarily among our readers, but more among wedding businesses. Recently on BAB's Facebook page, one of our advertisers was harassed and bullied due to the nature of her business. See, she…

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