Broke-Ass Tag: wedding photos


Yes, I know. The first look has been a Thing for a few years now, and granted this post was originally published Nov. 12, 2010. However, the debate is still real, y’all.

BAB Throwback to see or not to see that is the question

From the moment you put on THE dress, you’ve been anticipating the look on his face when he sees you at the end of the aisle. You’re going to look so beautiful, and he’s going to be so proud, and happy, and excited to see you. You two are going to be grinning at each other so much you can hardly hear the minister pronounce you married.

It’s tradition, and it’s the way that most brides think that they’re going to see their grooms for the first time. But more and more, I’m watching couples decide to go with another alternative — The First Look.

Here’s how it works: Your photographer usually begins about three hours before the ceremony, starting with shots of you putting on THE dress, make-up, hair … all the “getting ready” stuff. While you’re doing that, your photographer’s second shooter is over with the guys, taking their pictures, and then about an hour or so into it, everyone meets in the middle for pictures of the wedding party and family. And that’s when you see each other for the first time.

Most photographers make it into a special event, at a secluded place where it’s just the two of you. And once they get that special shot of him seeing you for the first time and you two smiling at each other like whoa, you can hang out together and talk, and get to spend some time alone. Even if it’s for 10 or 15 minutes, that’s going to be hard to come by for the rest of the day, trust me. Then you finish photos with the rest of the gang.

Real Wedding: Summer & Peter's Family-Friendly Destination Tahoe Beach Wedding

From Summer & Peter’s Real Wedding. Credit: Lauren Lindley Photography

Practically speaking? It’s a real time saver. Most of your pictures are done before the wedding, which means you can join your guests for the cocktail hour and enjoy those appetizers you’re paying $X per person for. There’s less family wrangling because it’s a little easier to tell everyone to show up early at an appointed place and time rather than try and track them down after the ceremony. If you’re a blubberer and worry about crying your way down the aisle so much that you worry your guests, the first look might be for you. And since you can make that moment between the two of  you special, these are the reasons why brides of mine have done it.

Emotionally speaking? Well … that’s up to you. Not all of my brides want to do a First Look, because that moment walking down the aisle is just too important and vivid for them. I have one bride that won’t talk about the color of her dress in front of her fiance — that’s how excited she is about him seeing her from the end of the aisle. And I’m grinning as I write that, because that love and anticipation is really what that first moment is all about, no matter where and when you choose to do it. Which is just cool, you know?

And if you do want to wait, of course, it’s fine. You make it work like everyone’s always made it work — separate wedding party pics before the ceremony, and then use the cocktail hour for family pics after the ceremony. Have your wedding planner or a friend bring you a sample of cocktails and apps during the photos, and then join your guests at the reception. Like with most wedding things, (and in life, actually), whatever it is that you mind is what matters. I’m not “Team See” or “Team Not See,” I’m team YOU. Either way, I’m probably going to tear up when it happens. Like always.

So, which team are you? When is your intended going to first see you on your wedding day?

See you at the end of the aisle,

  • 8/12

    So you’re planning a wedding.

    Duh. You’re here.

    It’s a little overwhelming sometimes, isn’t it? Chances are, this is your first merry-go-round and you’re kinda sorta just learning as you’re going. And man, that can be tough. You probably had to wade through one of those big ol’ websites that have ALL the information, and then you probably narrowed down your specifications by budget, aesthetics, ideas … and somewhere in all that Google-fu, you landed on The Broke-Ass Bride. Yay! So you’re getting some awesome tips on how to have a badass wedding on a broke-ass budget. I’m here for you.

    So here for you, in fact, that I’ve got another tip for you: If you haven’t found your photographer yet, get thee over to Photographer Central. The super pretty, super new website is a registration-free (yay! No random emails! No extra password to remember!) database of shutterbugs, searchable by style (portrait, plants, kids, weddings, etc.) and location, then can be further narrowed down by style, price, distance and then some.

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    Guys, seriously? This is great. If you tried to run these kinds of criteria through a search engine, you’d have to wade through a holy mass of websites to maybe find what you want.

    By the way, when I said “registration-free” I really meant ALL THE WAY free. Like, FREE-99, yo. It costs you exactly zero, zip, zilch to use this site and find the photog who will be snapping away on your wedding day. And you don’t have to click all over the place to try to find relevant photos that show off their styles — because rather than itty bitty thumbnails, Photographer Central‘s interface displays the sample images front ‘n’ center. BOOM.

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    You can save your favorites for later reference, suss out minimum coverage prices and get other key information, including contact deets, and compare all the pertinents. Ya dig?

    Wedding planning doesn’t have to cost a ton of money or be uber complicated. Photographer Central knows this. Check ’em out, and keep up on Facebook and Twitter.

  • 10/15

    Hey newlyweds! Congratulations! Your wedding is finished, you survived the big day and now you're ogling all your gorgeous photos and reveling in the memories of your fantastic party, full of heartfelt moments and sweet shenanigans. But what are you going to do with all those gorgeous moments caught on camera? And as for all you soon-to-be-weds, how would you like a sweet-ass deal on…

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    Editor's note: Our little Carrie is MARRIED, y'all! She just returned from her honeymoon, and we're giving her a little time to bask in newlywed-dom, but she wanted to pop in and share the good news with our fabulous readers! Join us in wishing her a hearty congrats! Greetings from married life, BABs!  I want to wait for our professional photos to come back before…

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    Editor's Note: Today, Carrie is dishing about the wedding photographer that made her change her mind about hiring a pro. I just wanted to take this opportunity to shout this from the rooftops - a professional wedding photographer is ALWAYS worth the splurge. (You'll notice I said a "professional" wedding photographer. While hiring a newbie or handing the task over your cousin Buzz might save…

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  • 9/19

    The big day has come and gone, and now you have a number of beautiful photographs just sitting on your hard drive or a cd...what to do with them? Why not go digital with a tablet photo album from Star Wedding Albums? Star Wedding Albums takes the photos you provide and turns them into a beautiful digital album, the files of which you can have…

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    We just introduced you to our new sponsor, Wedding Republic, a couple of weeks ago. Now they're back and they've teamed up with Blurb to bring you a ballin' giveaway. One slammin' couple is going to be lucky enough to score a free wedding photo book when they submit their favorite engagement photo. HUZZAH! What's at stake, you ask? Well BABs, Blurb is throwing one wedding photo book…

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    You might've noticed that matting and framing your photos isn't cheap - and it's definitely not always within a broke-ass budget. If you ponied up the cash for snazzy engagement photos, and you need a simple yet elegant way to display them at your wedding, or forever after, check out The Perfect Card Box! Your favorite photos can double as fabulous wedding centerpieces or bridal…

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  • 7/7

    Full disclosure: I was that girl. You know, that girl whom, after a number of years of dating/cohabitating, becomes a dreadful nag about engagement. To be clear: I wasn't the girl who cared about what "people" would think if we didn't, or about Holy Ceremony, or even about the diamond. I was the girl who wanted to throw a terrific party to celebrate her overflowing love…

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