Broke-Ass Tag: wedding party


Hello again, BABs! While we very (im)patiently wait for our wedding album to appear, I thought I would share with you one of my favorite wedding related things: PRESENTS! No, not for us. But for our amazingly awesome wedding party members. I love, love giving gifts and finding amazing deals!

If you’ve been following my posts for a while, you know that I don’t like things that don’t have a purpose or that are severely cheesy. Basically, any traditional wedding party gift you could think of. So I challenged us to think outside that traditional box and get our wedding party gifts that aren’t etched with our names and likelihoods.

And here are the results!

FOR THE MENS: The obligatory tie (I know, did I just contradict myself? Its a really nice tie though!). And a Marvel bottle opener. Each groomsmen got a different character, purposefully chosen by Justin. Amazon has a surprisingly large selection of these, at which Justin was OVERJOYED. The cost of each opener varied, putting the total cost of the gift around $40-50.

mens gift

I was really, REALLY proud of my wrapping presentation. My handwriting? Could definitely use some work.

FOR THE LADIES: Kate Spade earrings in a BAB gift? BRIDES. I cannot yell this enough. Sign up for the Kate Spade newsletter and when there is a surprise sale just BUY ALL THE THINGS (and watch the deal and link roundup on Fridays, because you know the Ten for the Weekend will include it!). I snatched up 5 pairs of those gorgeous earrings for less than $100. RIGHT? Go sign up now, I’ll wait here …

Okay, so I may have gone a little overboard with the girls. The sequins on the bottom are actually from a clutch that I acquired from Brickyard Buffalo ($8 each). The bracelet on the left was custom made by a dear friend of mine. I commissioned her to make them for the Moms and she wanted to make them for all the girls. They were her gift to us and absolutely beautiful and special. The You Smell soap was just something my 12-year old self thought was hilarious (World Market, $2). The pumpkin pie flavored edible lip scrub is TO DIE FOR. Because naturally I got one for myself (because it was only $3.75 which was a STEAL and I’m going to buy all of my Christmas gifts from that shop).  And that little handkerchief situation was totally an afterthought because I knew there would be tears and I didn’t want anyone to be stuck without a wiping device. It was also a total hit ($12.99 for 9 hankies, or $1.44 each).

Total cost for each lady gift: $34.

girls gift

I actually think there is a Kate Spade sale going on right NOW.  Get those maids something shiny!

The littles got a variety of things but let me just give you a pro-tip: a sticker book will keep a child quiet and occupied for at least 45 solid minutes.


I think this is the quietest he was all weekend. STICKER BOOKS WIN.

And because he has 4 daughters and has lost most of his sanity because of that, and because I love nothing more than giving my father a hard time, I made him a custom father-of-the-bride T-shirt. Seriously though, buy the man a drink!


Two down, two to go! #fatherofthebride. He only pretends to be this annoyed with me.

We went a bit over budget, but it is hard not to when you have an amazing wedding party that has been spoiling you throughout the entire process. We were really proud of our gifts and our wedding party definitely appreciated the thought that we put into them. But I mean, you can’t really go wrong with superheros and sparkly things, right?

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    I called my Sister-in-Law last week for a very big reason. I wanted to convey that despite her not being in the wedding party, it was important for me that she knows how much she means to me. And that I value her friendship and love equally with everyone who will be wearing a gray chiffon bridesmaid dress that day.

    She replied gently, “I don’t need a gray chiffon bridesmaid dress to feel special on your big day. I will already feel special, just by being there.”

    Immediately, the anxiety I was feeling just melted out of my bones. We as Brides feel so much stress around the decisions of who to include, who we wish we could include and inevitably, whose feelings are squashed because we cannot for whatever reason … it is so amazing and refreshing when we are met with compassion and understanding. Amiright?

    On top of her graciousness, she also taught me a huge lesson that I want to share with my other Real Brides out there.

    I went on to ask her then, okay … what would make her feel included and appreciated most on my big day? Was it to help with programs or the guest book, or something else? And her answer was so surprising! She responded that her biggest hope was that on my wedding day, she could accomplish one thing: Do something, somehow to help me on my wedding day, in a way that I will always remember.

    I froze. What could I possibly task her with or include her on to make this happen? Luckily, before my brain went into panic mode, she went on to explain.

    She told me, “Without [one particular friend], my wedding day with your brother would have been a mess.”  Hmmm, now I was even more intrigued. This person she mentioned was male and NOT a member of the bridal party. This person was also one of my college roommates, coincidentally, and continues to be a very close friend of L’s and mine. And he was her hero on her wedding day?!?  I listened intently as she described the ways he stepped up throughout the chaos: Helping direct lost guests looking for the ceremony/bathroom/reception/food, etc. My aunt had a 2-week-old infant (bless her!) and at one point before the ceremony she needed a private place to breastfeed. He found it for her and stood guard. He went in search of lost bow-ties, missing flower girls, ran back and forth from start to finish, tirelessly helping anyone who looked in the least like they needed it — guest, vendor, what have you.

    This person. This is who L is most grateful for, from the Wedding Day aspect. The one who will stand out in her memories forever. She made it clear that it wasn’t that she didn’t appreciate the efforts of her bridal party or vendors or planners. But it was this one person who selflessly gave, without agenda or recognition, that made all the difference for her.  I don’t know if she’s ever told him this in person, but I hope she did … or at least wouldn’t mind if I pointed him to this post.

    Because all of us brides need to remember that it is not necessarily just the bridal party that steps it up a notch on the big day. There may be one or several generous souls attending your wedding who become your Xena, Warrior Princess (or Prince) because it’s needed, not because they feel obligated.  And they’re willing to do so whether you as a Bride are aware of it or not. If you’re lucky enough to see it or hear about it, I hope you’ll do what you can to thank that unsung hero. I know I will. Because we all need help, even when we don’t know we need it.

    It makes my heart so happy that L wants to be that person for me — the one who can be present and help so many others at the same time — all to help make the day run smoothly for me. And I couldn’t be more grateful to her. I’m a lucky gal.

    What about you out there? Did you have an unsung hero at your wedding? Do you think you know who yours will be?