Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding Logistics

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I am from Texas. Travis is from Michigan. We have different backgrounds and our own way of doing things. A year ago, we traveled to different cities to celebrate the Holidays independently of each other and it was on Christmas morning, 2015 that we decided that we would not spend another Christmas away from each other.

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Home is where the heart is. Photo Credit:  Rayna Wooden Photography

His family travels and rotates households for Christmas and it just so happens that Christmas 2016 was already planned for Atlanta, so I began to plan with my family for them to travel to Atlanta as well. For approximately 100 days —  also known as the 1st half of the year — I reminded, plotted and attempted to help them plan a seamless trip to Georgia. I kicked my efforts into overdrive after we got engaged over the summer. In my mind it was a great plan for the two families to meet over the Holidays and get to know each other before our 2017 wedding.

Fast forward to December 19th. After weeks of Holiday parties, end of the year meetings and basking in the spirit of Christmas it finally dawned on me that our families were about to meet each other … for the first time!

Lots of lessons learned and sharing is caring, so here you go:

  1. Over-communicate: I had a lot of great ideas in my head, but I didn’t share them with anyone. Oops! Next time, I will communicate early and often the plan, itinerary, dinner menu, schedule, etc. … Basically all of the stuff that was in my head that would have been beneficial for others to know 🙂
  2. Informal is Key: we planned to have Christmas dinner at a house that I don’t live in and I was a little concerned about not having all of my tools for success to properly host so I planned an informal dinner on Christmas Eve that was intimate and cozy enough for everyone to get to know each other. An added bonus was that my dad traveled with my Aunt Edna’s world-famous chicken tetrazzini all the way from Texas and lifted some of the burdens of slaving in the kitchen so that I could enjoy my guests.
  3. Delegate: mixing family traditions can be HARD! Everyone has their favorite dish that they like to prepare and/or the dish that they have been waiting all year to eat. I connected with the cooking crew a few days out (I should have done it earlier, but we already hashed that out in #1) and we mapped out the menu. Two lessons learned on this one: I wasn’t solely responsible for preparing everything which was a win; and no one person carried the weight of the grocery expenses!
  4. Movies are movies and not real life: Maybe I’ve watched one too many “Meet the Parents,” “This Christmas” and “National Lampooon’s Christmas Vacation” movies. I was just waiting for some excitement, some big political conversation or a sports team dispute but nothing happened. My 1st highlight of Christmas day was that I won my 1st Spades game. The 2nd highlight was the BEST one, the families met, they liked each other and I am looking forward to part two when we all come together for the BIG Day!

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One big happy family.

I definitely suggest a pre-meeting between the families before the wedding.  It’s a perfect way to break the ice before the celebration.

  • 11/11

    calligraphy envelope and Epson LabelWorks printed ribbonWhether you’re hand-writing on the envelope or using a convenient print-out label, addressing your wedding invites comes with a few *rules* that etiquette specialists still advise you follow. We don’t want you to be left searching, so here’s what you need to know before sending out that stationery.

    Before you get started, make sure to check and double-check that spelling! Your partner’s cousin Ashleigh is probably used to it, but she won’t be thrilled to be addressed as Ashley. If you’re going at it by hand, scrub ’em down before you get to writing. That smudge of dirt will transfer right onto that pristine white paper! Even pressing labels can leave little streaks if your paws aren’t squeaky clean.

    Let’s start with the easy ones. Formal invitations usually include a title and a full name. Married couples are addressed together as in, “Mr. and Mrs. Homer Simpson.” If the kids are invited as well, a simple “and family” on the end will do. Leaving off “and family” might not be enough to signal that this is an adults-only affair, so it’s wise to further clarify, whether politely stated on an enclosure card or by word of mouth. If the envelope is to be addressed to a single person, include the title and full name — “Miss Marjorie Bouvier.”

    If the wife doesn’t go by her husband’s name, simply list both names on the same line:

    Mr. Homer Simpson and Mrs. Marjorie Bouvier

    Same-sex couples should also be addressed on the same line and alphabetized by first name if they share a last name or last name if they don’t.

    “Mr. and Mr. Brad and George Takei” or “Mrs. Ellen DeGeneres and Mrs. Portia de Rossi”

    If a couple lives together but isn’t married, simply split the names into two lines. You can also use this for roommates if you don’t want to use separate envelopes. List the man first or use the alphabetizing by last name if they are the same sex.

    If one member of a couple has a title like Doctor, Judge or Reverend, list the titled name first (yep, even if it puts the lady first!) like, “Dr. Martin King and Mrs. Coretta King.” If both members of the couple share the title, list it as plural, followed by full names. The same general rules of “which name first?” apply here, too.

    “Drs. Derek and Meredith Sheppard,” “Drs. Arizona Robbins and Callie Torres,” etc.

    If you use inner envelopes, this is your opportunity to spell out who is specifically invited by listing children’s names or including “and guest” if you’re inviting plus ones. This time just use a simple title and name, followed by the first names of children if applicable.

    Mr. and Mrs. Simpson, Bart, Lisa and Maggie

    Once you’re finished addressing, make sure you have the correct postage. The size, shape and weight of your stuffed envelope might require more than a basic stamp. Now you’re ready to send those babies out and get ready to party!

  • 10/4

    A Real Wedding that Eschews Tradition || Photo: Timony Siobhan

    Credit: Timony Siobhan Don’t let anybody tell you that if you have a minute budget, you’d be better off getting married in city hall (unless, of course, that’s something you want to do). If you’ve always wanted to have a wedding, you can have a wedding. More importantly, there is absolutely no reason that you can’t have a gorgeous and memorable wedding no matter your budget.…

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    9/20

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    It's kind of a no-brainer when it comes to saving money -- full open bars are a huge money sink. Not only are they expensive, but if you're DIYing the B-A-R, you have the impossible task of reading people's mind to figure out just how much gin, tequila and bourbon you need to have ready to serve up. In general, the fewer choices you have,…

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    9/12

    etsy pucciprintables rsvp card

    RSVP Cards available from Etsy seller PucciPrintables We are in the home stretch with just a few weeks to go before our big day. There are a lot of last minute details to worry about and loose ends to tie. We're also trying to wrap up our RSVPs. I find it such a nerve-wracking process. Each time I see a response card in the mail,…

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  • 8/19

    Personalized Hand Fans by ModParty

    Personalized Hand Fans - Set of 24, $36 by Etsy seller ModParty If you're anywhere in the U.S. right now, chances are it's crazy hot. I'm talking sweating-while-you-dry-your-freshly-showered-hair kind of hot, coconut-oil-is-a-clear-liquid kind of hot, AC-on-full-blast-is-still-too-hot kind of hot. PSA, guys: HYDRATE! HYDRATE! HYDRATE! But that brings me to today's Broke-Ass Advice topic: How to keep cool at an outdoor wedding. Whether you're a guest, a bridesmaid or a bride,…

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    8/17

    TLNFunctionalArt Dollar Sign Marquee

    Dollar Sign Lighted Marquee available from Etsy seller TLNFunctionalArt Russel says I should start and end this post with "Everything." I'm not gonna do that, but I will confess that the title should probably say "Things *I* Am Spending Too Much Money On." Several of our wedding elements that are super important to me happen to be somewhat pricey. I knew that going in, and…

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    8/15

    HeyShabbyMe Glam Squad Makeup Bag

    Makeup bag available from Etsy seller HeyShabbyMe As a makeup artist, I've learned a few things about doing hair and makeup for weddings. Here are my best tips: Do a trial first. This seems like a no-brainer, but it's an important step for both you and the artist. It gives you a chance to try different looks, and be sure they understand your vision and…

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