Broke-Ass Tag: Wedding Inspiration

6/12

Wedding countdown chalkboard available from Etsy seller LavishLilLuxuries

Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We’ve also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling.

While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits paid, dress fittings and hair trials booked, wedding bands ordered …

I have this constant creeping feeling that I should be planning at every spare moment I have.

What should we serve at the rehearsal dinner?

What kind of favors should we have?

How should we organize the tables?

Its a disconcerting feeling at the best of times, its extra intrusive and annoying when someone such as myself is, lets say, trying to focus on something like writing her master’s thesis.

I don’t concentrate well to begin with. All these random details flying around my head have me feeling like I’m constantly spinning. Part of me just wants to sit down and bang out the details from start to finish, but unfortunately, my fiance doesn’t share my sense of urgency, and I think we’ve only received back about 15% of our RSVPs. Dang.

I’m guessing these situations are part of the reason why some people might hire a wedding planner.

Speaking of things I can’t afford …

Holy smokes, are we ever over-budget.

I remember the days of innocence, where I was baffled by the idea of a single event costing tens of thousands of dollars. This is partially our fault for failing to do research beforehand. When we drew our budget up initially, I just massively spitballed what I assumed things cost based on previous experience: For example, I used to work at a flower shop when I was in undergrad. I remember mid-size floral arrangements costing about $50-$75 (CAD). Therefore, I assumed my bridal bouquet, at approximately the same size, would cost roughly that. I’m not proud to admit this, and I’m assuming everyone who’s reading this right now is laughing at the sheer naïvete of my assumption. You can bet your collective asses that the lowest estimate I got for my bouquet was more than double that. So naturally, in the end, our entire floral budget was more than double what we thought. Oops.

Thankfully, we were able to make some cuts, like requesting smaller centerpieces, and eliminating the flower girs’s floral crown (as adorable and Instagrammable as it would have surely been, she’s 4 years old and it would have been pulled off and trampled on the ground in a matter of seconds). Our relatives were also able to lend us some money to cover the additional costs. Thankfully, all is not lost, and we can adjust.

Word to the wise: Don’t rely on what you think you know — do some research!

There are entirely too many helpful websites (like this one *wink*) available to help you make an informed decision.

 

How’s your planning coming along? Share in the comments!

 

 

  • 6/9

    Welcome back CAI/GOI lovers!  Today’s request is from reader Terri, who commented on this post:

    Hi! I landed on this page while searching Amsale-inspired dresses! I’m in love with the Amsale-inspired May, specifically the minimalistic style and elegant sheer look and buttons on the back, and am hoping to find an alternative for under $1000! Please help!!

    Hi Terri! We are happy to see more Amsale dresses on CAI/GOI, as they are all beautiful! This dress has an illusion tank neckline, a full length button back and a slim fit-to-flare silhouette. I’ll try to focus this search on minimalist slim-fit-to-flare or sheath styles with the higher neckline, and hope for some button or other details to add a little something special. Remember, if you find a strapless gown you love, you can talk with your seamstress about altering to add an illusion top. Here we go!

    “May” by Amsale; $4,000+

     

    Christina Wu Brides Style 15629; around $900

    Amsale’s “Alyce” gown; $310 at Nordstrom

    Mikado Sweetheart Dress; $700 at Camille la vie / Group USA

    Chiffon A-Line Dress with Beaded Bodice; $130 at David’s Bridal

    Embellished Halter A-line Gown by Betsy & Adam; $280 at Macy’s

    White by Vera Wang; $800 at David’s Bridal

    Style 8553; $1000 at Alfred Angelo

    Drape Back Crepe Gown by Katie May; $295 at Nordstrom

    Sawyer Gown; $800 at BHLDN

    Trumpet Hem Maxi Dress; $300 at ASOS

    Short-Sleeve Beaded Bridal Gown by Adrianna Papell; $390 at Dillard’s

    Beaded Embellished Neck Mermaid Gown by Terani Couture; $560 at Dillard’s

    Let us know if any of these help you out, Terri.  That first one is lovely and had a gorgeous button back detail you were seeing in the Amsale May gown.  Until next time!

    Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you. Please be aware, though, that because you guys love this column so much, we can often build up quite the queue and it may be a while before we can get to your dream dress. Rest assured, though, Team Broke-Ass is on the case!

    *As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.
  • 6/6

    Keepsake box from Etsy Seller mariaallenboutique Tradition recommends a bride have something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue as she goes down the aisle. I’ve been throwing tradition to the wind all Willy Nilly the entire time but this one gives me pause. Four items -- how hard can that be? Famous last words. Obviously the something new is easy enough. Essentially everything I’m wearing is…

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    6/5

    Hi, my name is Ciji and I am a rule breaker. Now that we have established who I really am, let me tell you more about my EPIC bridal shower. A tea party just didn't seem like my kind of fun. We "brunch so hard" every weekend that a ladies brunch just didn't seem like anything special. I needed to share with my bridal shower…

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    5/31

    Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut! My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place…

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  • 5/24

    There's a growing trend to purchase a faux wedding cake and because I am not opposed to any tactic that may help with our budget, I am exploring if faux is the way to go. In addition to the cost savings, I'm open to my options after we've had not one but three subpar cake tasting experiences. It all started with a cake baker referral that was slow to…

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    5/18

      Hi BABs!  This week’s request comes from reader Stephanie, who wrote to us on this post and is inspired by several Hayley Paige gowns: I'm a broke-ass-bride and I love Hayley Paige! I am trying to find a style with her signature layered, flowy skirt look, spaghetti straps with a v-neck, and some kind of shimmer or fun detail! My favorites of hers are the…

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    5/10

    Pinterest is a wonderful wedding planning tool. There are so many options, suggestions and design ideas that quite possibly anyone, even without a "crafting thumb" could follow the instructions and make something wonderful. For months, I have collected these ideas on my special secret wedding planning board and I even shared with others that my planning progress was right on track, primarily because I had…

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  • 4/21

     This sponsored post is brought to you by Evite® and Olive Garden as part of the Evite® Influencer Program Wouldn't we all love to jet off and have a romantic destination wedding, especially somewhere as gorgeous as Tuscany? Unfortunately, with Broke-Ass budgets, dreamers can dream ... but, in that same vein, doers can make a dream come to life without even stepping on a plane.…

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