Broke-Ass Tag: wedding gifts

5/23

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You may have seen a the story circulating in the media recently about a UK couple who contacted guests from their wedding because they weren’t satisfied with their gift. According to the story, a couple wasn’t happy with the value of a gift they received from one of their wedding guests, and they sent them a note telling them so. Mr. & Mrs. Rude even went so far as to suggest they send an additional amount, and said they expected more based on the guest’s “circumstances.” According to the guest’s account of the story, she had recently come into some money from an inheritance. As I was reading the story, I was thinking how little the gift could have possibly been — maybe they gave $25 at a black tie soiree.

But here’s the kicker; they gave the US equivalent of $145!  That’s nothing to sneeze at, and dare I say, a pretty decent sum for a wedding guest. Not to mention, the guest was a former co-worker. Not a family member, not a best friend. A former co-worker. I can’t think of any circumstance where the couple’s actions would be acceptable. I’ve known plenty of people who received only an empty card from a guest, or in some cases, not even that! Sure, rant about it to your new spouse while writing them a “thank you” note and gritting your teeth. Maybe you even write a snarky note commenting on their gift, or lack thereof, to give yourself a laugh, but then you promptly tear it up and toss it. Beyond being uncouth, this totally misses the point of a wedding.

The whole idea is that people you care about celebrate your marriage with you. Your guests take time out of their lives, often traveling, arranging childcare and making other accommodations to participate in your celebration. It’s not a venture to get gifts and earn money. If you can’t afford your wedding and you need to recoup your losses that badly, that is no one’s fault but your own. Inexpensive gifts are one thing, but I do think it would be very frustrating to receive absolutely nothing from a guest. I don’t think you should ever attend a wedding empty-handed; a small gift card is easy and accessible, or something homemade like a collection of your favorite recipes or a nice frame are nice and affordable ideas. If your circumstances make you unable to give a gift, you should be up front with the bride and groom. At least give a card, and include a nice note with well wishes.  No matter what, though, I don’t see any scenario where it’s okay for the bride and groom to confront the offending guest.

Would you ever bring up a cheap or non-existent gift to one of your guests? What would you do if you received a letter like this from someone whose wedding you attended?

  • 1/8

    Affiliate Disclaimer NewAmidst all the hustle, bustle and must-dos on your list now that you’re in the throes of wedding planning sits one single little nugget of awesome — your registry! Now, of course it’s not “proper etiquette” to discuss gifts, but you’re “supposed” to inconspicuously set one of these bad boys up then let it be discovered by your guests through word of mouth. Everyone knows that getting married and receiving gifts kind of go hand-in-hand, whether we like it or not, and you (almost guaranteed) will be asked / nagged about where you’re registered, so it’s best to just do it and be done. The cool part? It’s a fucking veritable wish list for all (within reason) the cool shit you could think of for your casa, honeymoon and beyond. Whether you go in-store with the zapper gun, running around and scanning the goodies while also making little “pew-pew” noises or you opt to shop from the comfort of your couch with “Seinfeld” reruns in the background and a pizza and six pack to keep you nourished, there are a bajillion options out there. Here are five of our favorites (and the benefits of each):

    Macy’s

    Macy's Wedding Registry

    We already know that Macy’s has some stellar fashion totally attainable for BABs, but did you know they have a killer registry program too? When you set up your registry at Macy’s, you can enter into the Registry Star Rewards program, which means that you get 10% Rewards on every eligible purchase you make (uh, hello wedding day accessories!) PLUS 5% Rewards on every eligible gift you receive from your registry. It’s all added to your Rewards card, so at the end of the day, you have some extra skrilla to splurge after the wedding is long over. Sign up here.

    Bed Bath & Beyond

    Bed Bath & Beyond Bridal Registry

    ” ... a pretty nice little Saturday, we’re going to go to Home Depot. Yeah, buy some wallpaper, maybe get some flooring, stuff like that. Maybe Bed Bath & Beyond, I don’t know, I don’t know if we’ll have enough time.” Sorry … had to. Anyway, Bed Bath & Beyond is like the holy grail for registering because they have ERRY-DAMN-THANG. Seriously. I could go wander around one of the stores forevz, just imagining how I’d add the various doohickeys and thingamabobs to my casa. When you register at BB&B, if you add certain brands from the company’s Freebook, then you stand to receive free gifts from those brands. Not too shabby, eh? Sign up here.

    Amazon

    Amazon Wedding Registry

    Amazon’s obviously a great place to shop for, well, anything. A bride recently posted on our Facebook page that she found her wedding gown for a killer price as a result of shopping on Amazon. And Amazon recently changed their wedding registry so it’s universal — you can add anything from any site. That’s big. Oh, and not to mention that you can save 10% off most products on the site after your wedding, for a savings of up to $100. Sign up here.

    Target

    Target Wedding Registry

    Ugh, I love Target for like, all the things. And I love love love the fact that couples can register at Target, because I totes would (y’all, for serious, 70% of my house is Target). Setting up your Target wedding registry is easy — you can do it online or in-store, and it can easily be managed online. Target offers free shipping over $25 and hassle-free returns (up to one year after your wedding to return or exchange). You can qualify for bonus gifts AND you’ll get a 15% off completion offer toward the remaining items on your registry plus coupons for friends and family. Sign up here.

    Blueprint Registry

    Blueprint Registry Logo

    This one, you guys, this is my jam. The flexibility and the amazingly beautiful design Blueprint Registry this my personal favorite registry option. Add gifts by room from a gaggle of top retailers (Anthro, Crate & Barrel, Dwell Studio and more), register for honeymoon adventures, set up the option for multiple friends to go in on one gift or add anything from any website with their universal bookmarklet. Set up a personalized site with a welcome message to share your registry with friends and family, and receive 10% off all items left on your registry after your wedding date. Sign up here.

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  • 11/30

    Cyber Monday Deals for Your Broke-Ass Wedding

    While our Black Friday post was a hodge-podge in the truest sense, we try to focus our Cyber Monday efforts specifically on wedding-y deals, so you can get the most bang for your buck while planning your badass wedding. Being that we are The Broke-Ass Bride, we understand the too legit value of getting the v. best deal possible, and what better way to do so…

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    7/24

    Yes, "Ask Liz" is back for the rest of the summer. If you have a burning wedding question, send it to info@brokeassbride.com. The team knows where to find me. Photo: Lucky Photographer Dear Liz: We had a small ceremony a few weeks ago, and we're sending out our wedding announcements now. We don't want anyone to send us gifts, how do we word that on the…

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    11/26

    Confession: I suck at writing thank you notes. It wasn't something that was a thing, really, as I was growing up -- I suspect my mother wrote them for me. Though, admittedly, this is NO excuse for not extending appreciation for someone else's graciousness. I've recently been trying to change my stubborn ol' ways (30 does that to you, y'all) and I found that if…

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  • 1/23

    So, here you are. Ready to dive deep into the world of wedding planning and frothy dresses and parties and cake tastings and registries! While so many other parts of the whole wedding planning process can be stressful and frustrating and aggravating, the registry is (almost universally) the superfun part. If you are just starting to nest, the registry is where you can delightfully request…

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    3/19

    Let's face it, finding gifts for newlyweds can get kind of ...ho hum. I mean, do they really need another glass vase or sheet set? Snooze. And stuff like that can really bust your already-precarious wedding guest budget. So what do you get 'em? How about something wildly unique, customizable and fun? LIKE A TREE SWING. For serious. Or how about some personalized wall art? Whether…

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    11/30

    Got a question for Liz? Go to the contact page and tell us what's up! Dear Liz, My fiance and I are planning a wedding 2 years out so we have time to save and I can finish with my graduate degree.  However, when we got engaged, I never dreamed of how expensive everything would be.  I have had little to no emotional or financial…

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  • 4/26

    This past weekend, my friends and family treated me to the most awesomest bridal shower ever! It's a little bit hard to surprise a person that lives out of town, so my shower wasn't a surprise, and I'm sooooo glad that it wasn't. I've heard some real horror stories about girls showing up for their showers looking like a hot mess, and I wasn't trying…

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