Broke-Ass Tag: wedding etiquette

12/9

Affiliate Disclaimer NewSure, Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn made light (and hilarity) out of swooping in on an unsuspecting wedding or two. But wedding crashers can be a legit issue — you’ve likely worked really hard to plan this wedding and if everyone who actually RSVP’d shows up, then your number count is super firm. Add in a couple of Joes in it for the kicks and all of a sudden your caterers are scrambling (if you don’t notice beforehand) and your bill is likely seeing a pretty decent size uptick. It could also put all of the generous gifts in jeopardy (always a good idea to have someone keeping an eye on the gift table). And let’s not even talk about the photos, mmmkay? Because how super shit would it be to get your amazing images back and realize there’s some rando lurking in the back? Gross.

It’s with this absurd behavior in mind (and a little tongue-in-cheek humor) that our homies over at Gift Baskets Overseas created this schamaze little infographic to capitalize on the crashers. Call ’em out on their bad behavior in subtle ways that may make ’em rethink their mooching for any future nuptials. ways_to_deal_with_wedding_crashers

Love this infographic? Check out 21 Wedding Superstitions and Traditions!

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  • 8/25

    As a brand new Real Bride Contributor, I thought I’d share with you how I became a Broke-Ass Bride in the first place.

    As a teenager, I worked at a hobby shop with an enormous magazine section covering every possible topic you can think of. I would cautiously walk past the bridal section but wouldn’t dare flip through any for some inane fear of jinxing myself into being a life long old maid. This is a true story. Aside from some casual Pinteresting, I’ve totally steered clear of anything related to wedding planning until I was actually engaged. Not to completely digress, but I never thought it was right to get my heart set on anything without having the groom in mind.

    I always thought that the first thing I’d do after I got engaged would be to run out to the hobby shop and come home with an armful of bridal magazines to swoon over. A magazine in one hand, and a glass of chardonnay in the other. (The chardonnay was added to this daydream later, you know, after I turned 21.)

    It didn’t exactly happen that way.

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    I ended up at Barnes & Noble since I live on the other side of town now, and I’m pretty sure that hobby shop is closed anyway. I did get my stack of bridal magazines, and also Emily Post’s Wedding Etiquette (highly recommended, btw). I may, or may not have had my glass of chardonnay. Truthfully, I don’t recall and that detail is irrelevant.

    What I remember is the sinking panic that resulted from the sticker shock I felt when I saw that dresses were upwards of $3000-$4000. Then I started looking at local photographers, and those were a few thousand dollars, venues were a few thousand dollars. I was going to have to figure out some way to pay for all of this. I was totally, and completely unprepared.

    Do guests really expect a four-course dinner? In an upscale ballroom? With a DJ, photographer and videographer? Two hundred of my “closest” friends and family members? Pyrotechnics, glitter and smoke machines? {Eds. note: Always glitter}

    A solid month or two of anxiety, hyperventilation and some brass tacks budgeting followed.

    We’ve been engaged for five months now, and I can confidently answer these questions:

    No, your guests expect nothing but to share in the joy of two people they love, making a commitment to one another. (And food. Yeah, probably some food.) Anything else is a bonus. No one will be disappointed if your wedding doesn’t resemble William and Kate’s, Kanye and Kim’s, or another celebrity’s outlandish wedding du jour. Wedding magazines are gorgeous, but they are often extravagant, and far from representational of what ordinary people actually do. There should really be a disclaimer, or footnote —  or maybe a declaration of the family’s income when magazines share real wedding stories.

    Reading magazines and doing a little initial vendor research made me feel as though the one day that I’ve thought about my whole life would be a disappointment to me, and the people I love. A bride-to-be should never feel that way. That includes you, dear reader. This is how I became a Broke-Ass Bride.

    I’ve accepted our frugal budget as a personal challenge. I refuse to go into any debt to pay for our wedding. I will also not spend the next 14 months being a hermit to save up for it either. This budget was created so that we can have a lovely wedding, and still enjoy ourselves in the meantime. Summer in Milwaukee is a pretty amazing place to be, and I don’t want to miss out on the festivals, rooftop patio-sitting, and other fun things that make this city great.

    With a little due diligence, thinking outside of the box, and some trips to the crafts store, we’re going to throw the best damn wedding. I’m excited to share with you how we’re making this work, and hopefully provide a little inspiration to another Broke-Ass Bride at the same time.

  • 11/26

    Confession: I suck at writing thank you notes. It wasn't something that was a thing, really, as I was growing up -- I suspect my mother wrote them for me. Though, admittedly, this is NO excuse for not extending appreciation for someone else's graciousness. I've recently been trying to change my stubborn ol' ways (30 does that to you, y'all) and I found that if…

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    10/10

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    Dear Heather, I have an etiquette question for you. Someone sent me a gift in the mail, and it was off registry. It is a kitchen item I already own. It didn't have a receipt, so I don't know how or where to return it. What do I do? Ansley Dear Ansley, Hopefully there was a card with the gift, so you at least know…

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    8/8

    Image courtesy of Creature Comforts Dear Heather, I just got a notification that a wedding guest pledged a large amount of money towards my honeymoon fund registry. This person is a new friend of my fiance; I've only met them once. Do I thank them right away or just send a thank you after the wedding, which is in two months? Is it weird to…

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  • 7/25

    Flutes from Beau-Coup, Made with PicMonkey Dear Heather, The next thing on my list of things to do for the big day is make a list of people giving toasts. But it feels awkward to ask people to toast to you, right? I'm uncomfortable asking. But then again -- the last wedding I went to as a bridesmaid, I wasn't asked ahead of time to give…

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    12/6

    Got a question for Liz? Go to the Contact page and let us know what's up! Dear Liz,  My fiancé and I have finally (!) picked our wedding venue and now we are to the point where we are selecting our photographer, caterer, and florist. Our venue has a list of their preferred companies, but I don't know if I want to use them. For instance…

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    10/11

    Got a question for Liz (Coopersmith)? Go to the Contact page and let us know what's up! So, last week, the crew here at BAB  was offered an interview with Lizzie Post, the Great-Great Granddaughter of Emily Post. Yes, that Emily Post. Lizzie has put her famous last name to good use, tackling taboo etiquette topics on TV, radio, in magazines and online. She's also authored…

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  • 7/12

    Got a question for Liz? Go to the Contact page and let us know what's up! Dear Liz,  We're getting married in a month, and we've already gotten a few gifts. Should we send out Thank You Cards now, or wait until after the wedding? What if additional thanks is needed? Signed,  Early Bird  Dear Bird, Oh, my God, YES. What an absolutely fantastic idea, do…

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