Broke-Ass Tag: wedding advice

3/21

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We made all the big decisions within the first month of planning and everyone had advice for us.

I say this with love from the bottom of my heart: I didn’t care what anyone said.

From the “enjoy planning” to the “you need to do this first,” I ignored everyone. I didn’t want their advice. Guidance about how to go about the logistics of wedding planning, sure, if I’m asking. But advice? No. Keep it to yourself. I have this problem where I’m easy to read and it’s very difficult for me to hide the emotions because everything is visible on my face. I think people started to realize. Maybe it was my dead-eye stare or my RBF?

My bigger problem with taking advice was how to not be a bridezilla about whatever they said to me.  I’m still looking for help on this one, so I could probably use some guidance on this matter.

My next issue was people with suggestions.

Fun fact: EVERYONE will have suggestions that you “need” to do for your wedding.

Sometimes these suggestions are passive-aggressive comments from the family. Sometimes it’s your friends trying to be helpful. Sometimes it’s complete strangers who happened to hear from a cousin’s aunt’s best friend’s father-in-law that you’re getting married. Everrrryyyoooonnneee.

I’ve done pretty good at taking these suggestions, I like to think. Yet, I know there are some things that I’ve had to be downright rude about to get people to stop  There are also things I wish I had set my foot down about that I got pressured into doing (looking at you save-the-dates).

Have you received unwelcome advice and suggestions about your wedding?  Please share some of the stuff you’ve been graceful enough to endure.

  • 10/14

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    I’ve been wracking my brain to come up with some truly epic wedding advice for you, BABs. This being my last advice post for The Broke-Ass Bride for the moment, I’m feeling some (self-imposed) pressure to get it right! ? I hope you enjoy it, and remember that you can always reply in the comments or email BAB directly with your questions.

    It’s been my honor and pleasure to write for The Broke-Ass Bride and to answer your wedding planning questions and concerns, and I hope to bump into some of you out there in Weddingland! ? For now, I leave you with good vibes, best wishes for a happy wedding and marriage, and the following final tips:

    Talk About Money

    We talk a lot about gowns (yay!) and reception food (NOM) and pretty little details (:swoon:) during wedding planning. We talk about all the feels. And we talk about savvy ways to save on wedding expenses. But today my advice is to talk about the much bigger money picture with your partner. The wedding can be a yuuuuuuuge expense, to be sure, but how you navigate expenses going forward into your marriage is also kind of a big deal. We’ve all heard that money is one of the things married couples fight about most often, so raising the topic sooner than later will set you up for success. Do you have debts? What are your spending habits like? How do you budget for expenses? Will any of that change when you’re married? Will you share accounts, or keep them separate? How will you divide expenses? Do you expect to discuss all major expenses together, or will you make those decisions independently? Who will manage the bills? All of these questions — and more — are important to talk about with your partner, and if you’re paying in full or part for your wedding you may want to start talking about it now. Once you can come up for air in the wedding planning department, schedule a budget planning party with your partner, and hash out what your post-wedding budget will look like.

    Save For Your Future

    Leading up to the marriage there’s a lot of spending: buying things for the wedding, buying things for your home together, and maybe even buying things for a baby (or furbaby!) on the way. #ProTip: Don’t forget to also save. As soon as the two of you have figured out how you’ll tackle expenses and shared (or not) accounts (see above), it’s time to come up with a plan to save for your future — for medical bills, vacations, retirement, school tuition for yourselves or kids, a new house, etc. Have fun dreaming up a future together, then create special accounts where you’ll sock away money toward those dreams. You’ll be surprised how quickly the spare change adds up!

    Invest In The Marriage

    Once upon a time, marriages were transactions about money or power. We’re lucky to live in a time (and place) when love and choice reign, and partners are chosen for compatibility and companionship, when we get to marry our best friend and the person who just gets us. My parting wish for you is that you invest not necessarily money, but your time, care, and attention in your marriage, and in nurturing your partner, and your partnership. Because BABs, your marriage is worth way more than the wedding. ❤️

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    – Party on!

    Lisa

    Planning a wedding in Northeast Ohio? Here’s where you can find me for wedding planning assistance.

  • 9/16

    Buffet line

    Credit: Lucky Photographer from Kate & Daniel's Real Wedding One of the decisions that can significantly impact your wedding budget is about how you'll serve your guests. This applies whether you're serving dinner, appetizers, cake and punch, breakfast-for-dinner or any other type of meal. So let's break down some of the options, shall we? Buffet Pros: This is typically a more cost effective option if you want to offer…

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    2/4

    Photo by Shaina Sheaff

    Photo: Shaina Sheaff Photography Hindsight’s 20/20, right? Oh, it’s great to look back with all of your knowledge accumulated through experience, but when you’re in the thick of things, it can be hard to see the forest for the trees. This truism applies to planning a wedding about as nearly as anything I’ve ever experienced. You get inundated with advice: some well-meaning, some completely self-serving,…

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    1/19

    Real Bride Julie: Learning to Be Married

    For a weekend last March, Matt and I set aside our wedding planning to take a big step in our spiritual journey towards marriage. We had opted to get married in a Catholic church. The Church we got married in. Photo by SK Photography This had nothing to do with the cost of things. If we had chosen the cheaper option, we would’ve gotten married…

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  • 1/13

    just remember- you're not alone

    Being a BAB has been an amazing experience for me. With my limited budget and limited crafting skills (I try, but I’ve learned when it comes to Pinterest fabulous chalkboard direction signs and flower arrangements ... I’m better off using my other talents), I’ve had to learn to be resourceful to get what I want. And I’ve also learned that many things we’re told we…

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    12/11

    World's Best Boss Mug

    World's Best Coffee Mug, $13.75 by Etsy seller MagicCityDesigns Hiya BABs! Today's advice question comes from a reader who wants to know about the etiquette of inviting coworkers to her wedding. (Hence, the mugs. Because coffee. And Dunder Mifflin. #pamandjimforever)  Hello and happy holidays!! I am writing to request etiquette guidance: I had a very strong relationship with my former coworkers, which has not carried over to…

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    12/7

    OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

    Being a bride and also working in the industry gives me a unique perspective. I'm involved with an online community of bridal professionals and creatives, and I reached out to them this week when my bridal side had questions. Long story short, I was getting some anxiety because I was getting bad vibes from my photographer. Nothing terrible, just not feeling like we were clicking.…

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  • 11/18

    engagement

    Love must be in the air: Between my graduate school cohort, the assistant lecturers with whom I share an office, and my Facebook news feed, I think I’ve seen about 10 engagements, six weddings, three babies, and one vow renewal in the last month alone. All this love and excitement lately has me feeling a little nostalgic; as a person who had a Pinterest board full…

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