Broke-Ass Tag: wedding advice

10/14

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I’ve been wracking my brain to come up with some truly epic wedding advice for you, BABs. This being my last advice post for The Broke-Ass Bride for the moment, I’m feeling some (self-imposed) pressure to get it right! ūüėČ I hope you enjoy it, and remember that you can always reply in the comments or email BAB directly with your questions.

It’s been my honor and pleasure to write for The Broke-Ass Bride and to answer your wedding planning questions and concerns, and I hope to bump into some of you out there in Weddingland! ūüėÄ For now, I leave you with good vibes, best wishes for a happy wedding and marriage, and the following final tips:

Talk About Money

We talk a lot about gowns (yay!)¬†and reception food (NOM)¬†and pretty little details (:swoon:)¬†during wedding planning. We talk about all the feels. And we talk about savvy ways to save on wedding expenses. But today my advice is to talk about¬†the much bigger money picture¬†with your partner. The wedding can be a yuuuuuuuge expense, to be sure, but how you navigate¬†expenses going forward into your marriage is also kind of a big deal. We’ve all heard that money is one of the¬†things married couples fight about most often, so¬†raising the topic sooner than later will set you up for success. Do you have debts? What are your spending habits like? How do you budget for expenses? Will any of that change when you’re married? Will you share accounts, or keep them separate? How will you divide expenses? Do you expect to discuss all major expenses together, or will you make those decisions independently? Who will manage the bills? All of these questions — and more — are important to talk about with your partner, and if you’re paying in full or part for your wedding you may want to start talking about it now. Once you can come up for air in the wedding planning department, schedule a budget planning party with your partner, and hash out what your post-wedding budget will look like.

Save For Your Future

Leading up to the marriage there’s a lot of spending: buying things for the wedding, buying things for your¬†home together, and maybe even buying things for a baby (or furbaby!) on the way. #ProTip: Don’t forget to also save. As soon as the two of you have figured out how you’ll tackle expenses and shared (or not) accounts (see above), it’s time to come up with a plan to save for your future — for medical bills, vacations, retirement, school tuition for yourselves or kids, a new house, etc. Have fun dreaming up a future together, then create special accounts where you’ll sock away money toward those dreams. You’ll be surprised how quickly the spare change adds up!

Invest In The Marriage

Once upon a time, marriages were transactions about money or power. We’re lucky to live in a time (and place)¬†when love and choice reign, and partners are chosen for compatibility and companionship, when we get to marry our best friend and the person who just gets us. My parting wish for you is that you invest not necessarily money, but your time, care, and attention in your marriage, and in nurturing your partner, and your partnership. Because BABs, your marriage is worth way more than the¬†wedding. ‚̧ԳŹ

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  • 9/16

    Buffet line

    Credit:¬†Lucky Photographer¬†from Kate & Daniel’s Real Wedding

    One of the decisions that can significantly impact your wedding budget is about¬†how you’ll serve your guests. This applies whether you’re serving dinner, appetizers, cake and punch, breakfast-for-dinner or any other¬†type of meal. So let’s break down some of the options, shall we?

    Buffet

    Pros:

    • This is typically a more cost effective option if you want to offer more variety to your guests (and yourselves!).
    • Often guests can go back for seconds since buffet-style calculations tend to overestimate to prevent running out of food.
    • Guests can pick and choose exactly what they want on their plates.

    Cons:

    • A buffet line can really slow down the flow of your reception. (Pro Tip: Try for two¬†buffet lines to keep things moving, and assign someone to call each table.)¬†
    • The buffet display itself takes up a good chunk of space in the room — and it might take away from your dance floor or make things crowded.
    • Although most caterers are awesome about calculating for buffets, humans are unpredictable and it’s a good possibility that you may run out of one or more popular food choices … or on the other hand, that you’ll have a lot of wasted leftovers. (Some venues / caterers will allow you to take leftovers home, but many will not.)
    • If guests self-serve at the buffet, the chances increase that you’ll run out before the last table gets up. (Pro Tip: Hire catering staff to serve appropriate portions at the buffet.)
    • Buffets force guests to make decisions on the fly, which is part of what takes so much time at the buffet line.¬†(Pro Tip: Display menus either at each guest place setting or on a board at the front of the buffet line, so that guests can plan ahead and make quicker decisions in the buffet line.)¬†

    Sit Down / Plated

    Pros:

    • Plated meals can be served more quickly than buffet service by an experienced catering staff.¬†(Pro Tip: If you want dinner to move faster, have bread and salads or appetizers preset on the tables before guests enter the room, and keep the dinner service simple — two courses, max.)
    • It’s easier to greet guests table-to-table while they’re waiting for plated service.¬†(Pro Tip: Or just have a receiving line. Either way, make time to¬†eat your own dinner!)¬†
    • With plated service it’s easier to close down the bar¬†and serve wine at the tables — which can save you an hour or more of bar time (and $$$).
    • Takes no extra space in the room, since meals are served directly at the tables. More space for dancing!
    • With plated service there’s almost no leftover wasted food since each portion is calculated in advance.

    Cons:

    • Plated meals are usually¬†more costly, and require additional staff. (Pro Tip: Check to see if your catering package includes the cost of service, or if that will be added to the total meal cost.)¬†
    • You and your guests will have fewer meal options on the wedding day.
    • Guests are a bit “stuck” at their tables until after dinner, whereas getting up for the buffet line lets them stretch their legs and mingle with guests at other tables.

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    Credit:¬†A Sight of Love Photography¬†from Elissa & Nick’s Real Weddingtaco-signage-elissa-nick-southern-california-real-weddingCredit:¬†A Sight of Love Photography¬†from Elissa & Nick’s Real Wedding

    Family Style:

    A cross between buffet and plated, where each table gets its own larger servings and then guests serve themselves at the table

    Pros:

    • Like with a buffet, guests can pick and choose exactly what they want on their plates.
    • Again, as with buffets, guests might have the option to self-serve¬†seconds.¬†(Pro Tip: It’s still a good idea to have catering staff bring the platters to each table and maybe even serve the first round of each item, but after that, guests can usually manage their own service.)¬†
    • Often family style offers a couple of options to each table, so more variety is possible here than with plated meals.
    • Family style encourages guest interaction in a way that the other meal service options don’t.

    Cons:

    • Family style platters can be heavier, and messes are almost inevitable.¬†(Pro Tip: If serving family style, make sure there’s at least one adult at each table where children are seated.)¬†
    • Larger platters crowd the tables.¬†(Pro Tip: If you’re serving family style, cut back on the glassware, favors at the table and centerpieces. There won’t be room for them as well as food unless you increase your table size.)

    Stations

    Pros:

    • Stations are pretty similar to buffets in many ways, but because they’re spread out into different areas, they move¬†guests around the room and can go¬†more quickly.
    • Stations allow for a bit of extra creativity, since you can serve mini-buffets at each. Think mashed potato stations, s’mores stations, carving stations, sushi stations, etc.
    • Guests seem to love the novelty of station food service, and it allows them to mingle with other tables more than other methods.
    • Some stations can be left up while the dancing begins.

    Cons:

    • Like¬†the buffet, stations¬†usually take longer than plated meals.
    • Stations can take up a lot of space in a room, depending on how many you have.
    • Stations can create traffic jams unless the traffic flow is carefully mapped out.
    • Guests can be indecisive at stations, especially if they’re set up as mini-buffets / bars.¬†(Pro Tip: As with buffets, providing menus at the table or at each station will help to speed up guest decision time.)

    And as always …

    Be sure to find out definitively if any of your invited guests (or their guests, if you’re offering a +1) have food allergies or dietary restrictions — don’t guess!
    It’s a good idea to offer at least one vegetarian option, even if you don’t think any of your guests are vegetarian. First,¬†it’s often the top choice for kids (if invited), but it’s also usually a safer choice for those with dietary restrictions and guests looking for lighter options.

    Note, too, that if you have any guests with gluten sensitivities or other food allergies, you’ll need to check on (or assign someone else to check on)¬†those specific meals with the catering staff on the wedding day.

    Finally, make sure you take time to eat at your own reception¬†(don’t forget appetizers, cake and plenty of snacks beforehand! And hydrate!), and if you’re not serving appetizers to guests¬†(especially after a cocktail hour), consider placing non-perishable pre-dinner snacks on the tables, like popcorn, pretzels or chips and salsa.

  • 2/4

    Photo by Shaina Sheaff

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    1/19

    Real Bride Julie: Learning to Be Married

    For a weekend last March, Matt and I set aside our wedding planning to take a big step in our spiritual journey towards marriage. We had opted to get married in a Catholic church. The Church we got married in. Photo by SK Photography This had nothing to do with the cost of things. If we had chosen the cheaper option, we would‚Äôve gotten married…

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    1/13

    just remember- you're not alone

    Being a BAB has been an amazing experience for me. With my limited budget and limited crafting skills (I try, but I‚Äôve learned when it comes to Pinterest fabulous chalkboard direction signs and flower arrangements ... I‚Äôm better off using my other talents), I‚Äôve had to learn to be resourceful to get what I want. And I‚Äôve also learned that many things we‚Äôre told we…

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  • 12/11

    World's Best Boss Mug

    World's Best Coffee Mug, $13.75 by Etsy seller¬†MagicCityDesigns Hiya BABs! Today's advice question comes from a reader who wants to know about the etiquette of inviting coworkers to her wedding.¬†(Hence, the mugs. Because coffee. And Dunder Mifflin. #pamandjimforever)¬† Hello and happy holidays!! I am writing to request etiquette guidance: I had a very strong relationship with my former coworkers, which has not carried over to…

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    12/7

    OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

    Being a bride and also working in the industry gives me a unique perspective. I'm involved with an online community of bridal professionals and creatives, and I reached out to them this week when my bridal side had questions. Long story short, I was getting some anxiety because I was getting bad vibes from my photographer. Nothing terrible, just not feeling like we were clicking.…

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    11/18

    engagement

    Love must be in the air: Between my graduate school cohort, the assistant lecturers with whom I share an office, and my Facebook news feed, I think I‚Äôve seen about 10¬†engagements, six weddings, three babies, and one vow renewal in the last month alone. All this love and excitement lately has me feeling a little nostalgic; as a person who had a Pinterest board full…

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  • 10/30

    Wedding Planning + Pinterest

    Hiya BABs! What have you accomplished in your planning this week? Now be honest, how much of it involved Pinterest? Pinterest can be a double-edged sword for couples planning a wedding, both your BFF and worst enemy, the coach in your corner, or your opponent about to take you down for a TKO. Arguably, social media may even be killing weddings.¬†In today‚Äôs post, we‚Äôll examine…

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