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We made all the big decisions within the first month of planning and everyone had advice for us.
I say this with love from the bottom of my heart: I didn’t care what anyone said.
From the “enjoy planning” to the “you need to do this first,” I ignored everyone. I didn’t want their advice. Guidance about how to go about the logistics of wedding planning, sure, if I’m asking. But advice? No. Keep it to yourself. I have this problem where I’m easy to read and it’s very difficult for me to hide the emotions because everything is visible on my face. I think people started to realize. Maybe it was my dead-eye stare or my RBF?
My bigger problem with taking advice was how to not be a bridezilla about whatever they said to me. I’m still looking for help on this one, so I could probably use some guidance on this matter.
My next issue was people with suggestions.
Fun fact: EVERYONE will have suggestions that you “need” to do for your wedding.
Sometimes these suggestions are passive-aggressive comments from the family. Sometimes it’s your friends trying to be helpful. Sometimes it’s complete strangers who happened to hear from a cousin’s aunt’s best friend’s father-in-law that you’re getting married. Everrrryyyoooonnneee.
I’ve done pretty good at taking these suggestions, I like to think. Yet, I know there are some things that I’ve had to be downright rude about to get people to stop There are also things I wish I had set my foot down about that I got pressured into doing (looking at you save-the-dates).
Have you received unwelcome advice and suggestions about your wedding? Please share some of the stuff you’ve been graceful enough to endure.