Broke-Ass Tag: wedding advice

6/13

Hello fellow BABs!

I’m back with Part 2 of my Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments. I know you have wedding planning and general badassery to get to; so let’s get right into it.

Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments

6. Thou Shalt Not Feel Guilty for Cutting your Guest List.

The size of your guest list is what drives up the cost of your wedding; mo’ guests equals mo’ money and mo’ problems. Because you are on a tight budget, you try to cut your guest list, but every time you remove someone you feel guilty. If you invite Lisa, then you have to invite David because they are cousins. And you have to invite Maria because she’s your great-aunt, twice removed. UGH! It might seem cutthroat, but when you are a Broke-Ass, you can’t afford to invite everyone and their mother. Therefore, a good rule of thumb is: If you wouldn’t notice that a particular person wasn’t at your wedding, then they shouldn’t make the cut. Everyone has a couple of courtesy or obligatory invites that they have to make, but you shouldn’t have table after table filled with them.

7. Thou Shalt Include Your Fiance in Your Planning.

More likely than not, your fiance doesn’t want you to drag him to every craft store and flower shop you visit. He doesn’t care about centerpieces, flowers or table linens, and he probably answers every request for input with a “huh.” As a result, you may decide to avoid frustration by not asking for his help, but don’t give up on him. Wedding planning won’t become a source of stress between the two of you, if you can find something that will appeal to him. For example, if your fiance is handy, maybe he can build the wedding arch out of PVC pipe. Does your fiance have an artistic bent? Great, he can design your wedding invitations. He’ll be relieved you aren’t asking him to do something completely foreign to him, and you’ll be relieved that you don’t have to throttle him with your wedding binder.

8. Thou Shalt Think Outside the Box.

A huge budget-killer that couples often take for granted are all of those traditional wedding “must-haves” that you do or get because you think you “have to.” Ummm … no. Why should you have to spend $50 or more on a book that is going to collect dust on your bookcase just because everyone says you “need” a guest book. If you aren’t a traditional type of bride feel free to think of creative alternatives that are more your style. If cost is the bigger issue, take an ax and cut it right out of your budget. You are the bride, and you’re calling the shots. Repeat after me: “If I don’t want it, I don’t need to waste time or money on it.”

9. Thou Shalt be Organized.

Being organized, whether you are a broke-ass bride or a princess bride, is fundamental. It’s the air that breathes life into your wedding planning. Websites like The Knot and Wedding Wire have tools that will help you stay organized. Furthermore, these apps will help you maintain your sanity and keep your inner bridezilla at bay. If you need something more tangible, you can buy or make a wedding planner. (Hint: That link also has a bunch of worksheets you can download for free!) It doesn’t matter if you use an app, a binder, or a stone tablet, just stay organized. You’ll thank me later.

I have several planning binders, including one for just my DIY projects.

10. Thou Shalt Enjoy Thyself.

Finally, in the whirlwind of planning, budgeting, and crafting, don’t forget to sit back and enjoy your engagement. Cozy up on the couch with your fiance and a glass of wine, and talk about all of the wonderful things you will do together as man and wife. Go out with your bridesmaids for Taco Tuesday and have a gabfest over half-price margaritas; talk about the wedding or trade online dating horror stories. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, or what you do, so long as you have fun with the people that you love and who love you.

I’ll catch ya next time. Keep on being badass!

What rules have you set for yourself during wedding planning?

 

 

 

  • 3/21

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    We made all the big decisions within the first month of planning and everyone had advice for us.

    I say this with love from the bottom of my heart: I didn’t care what anyone said.

    From the “enjoy planning” to the “you need to do this first,” I ignored everyone. I didn’t want their advice. Guidance about how to go about the logistics of wedding planning, sure, if I’m asking. But advice? No. Keep it to yourself. I have this problem where I’m easy to read and it’s very difficult for me to hide the emotions because everything is visible on my face. I think people started to realize. Maybe it was my dead-eye stare or my RBF?

    My bigger problem with taking advice was how to not be a bridezilla about whatever they said to me.  I’m still looking for help on this one, so I could probably use some guidance on this matter.

    My next issue was people with suggestions.

    Fun fact: EVERYONE will have suggestions that you “need” to do for your wedding.

    Sometimes these suggestions are passive-aggressive comments from the family. Sometimes it’s your friends trying to be helpful. Sometimes it’s complete strangers who happened to hear from a cousin’s aunt’s best friend’s father-in-law that you’re getting married. Everrrryyyoooonnneee.

    I’ve done pretty good at taking these suggestions, I like to think. Yet, I know there are some things that I’ve had to be downright rude about to get people to stop  There are also things I wish I had set my foot down about that I got pressured into doing (looking at you save-the-dates).

    Have you received unwelcome advice and suggestions about your wedding?  Please share some of the stuff you’ve been graceful enough to endure.

     

     

     

  • 10/14

    Cash Wallet, $56 by Etsy seller BlackArrowStudio I've been wracking my brain to come up with some truly epic wedding advice for you, BABs. This being my last advice post for The Broke-Ass Bride for the moment, I'm feeling some (self-imposed) pressure to get it right! ? I hope you enjoy it, and remember that you can always reply in the comments or email BAB directly…

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    9/16

    Credit: Lucky Photographer from Kate & Daniel's Real Wedding One of the decisions that can significantly impact your wedding budget is about how you'll serve your guests. This applies whether you're serving dinner, appetizers, cake and punch, breakfast-for-dinner or any other type of meal. So let's break down some of the options, shall we? Buffet Pros: This is typically a more cost effective option if you want to offer…

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    2/4

    Photo: Shaina Sheaff Photography Hindsight’s 20/20, right? Oh, it’s great to look back with all of your knowledge accumulated through experience, but when you’re in the thick of things, it can be hard to see the forest for the trees. This truism applies to planning a wedding about as nearly as anything I’ve ever experienced. You get inundated with advice: some well-meaning, some completely self-serving,…

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  • 1/19

    For a weekend last March, Matt and I set aside our wedding planning to take a big step in our spiritual journey towards marriage. We had opted to get married in a Catholic church. The Church we got married in. Photo by SK Photography This had nothing to do with the cost of things. If we had chosen the cheaper option, we would’ve gotten married…

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    1/13

    Being a BAB has been an amazing experience for me. With my limited budget and limited crafting skills (I try, but I’ve learned when it comes to Pinterest fabulous chalkboard direction signs and flower arrangements ... I’m better off using my other talents), I’ve had to learn to be resourceful to get what I want. And I’ve also learned that many things we’re told we…

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    12/11

    World's Best Coffee Mug, $13.75 by Etsy seller MagicCityDesigns Hiya BABs! Today's advice question comes from a reader who wants to know about the etiquette of inviting coworkers to her wedding. (Hence, the mugs. Because coffee. And Dunder Mifflin. #pamandjimforever)  Hello and happy holidays!! I am writing to request etiquette guidance: I had a very strong relationship with my former coworkers, which has not carried over to…

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  • 12/7

    Being a bride and also working in the industry gives me a unique perspective. I'm involved with an online community of bridal professionals and creatives, and I reached out to them this week when my bridal side had questions. Long story short, I was getting some anxiety because I was getting bad vibes from my photographer. Nothing terrible, just not feeling like we were clicking.…

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