Broke-Ass Tag: save-the-dates

2/20

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TinyTalk Invitation Pillow available from Etsy seller cayteelynn

Ah, invitations. So simple in theory, so complex in reality. They look like innocent paper beacons of joy, but they come with a lot of, well, baggage. This is my how the invitation process of my wedding has gone down so far:

The Save-the-Dates (aka. The pre-invitation): I get this. The vast majority of our family and friends are coming from out of town and will need to book vacation time off very far in advance. Our wedding is being held on a long weekend, so advance purchase of flights and hotel rooms will save them a lot of cash. Our venue was booked over a year in advance, so once we knew the general gist of when and where, why not let everyone know with as much notice as possible?

The one issue I noticed is that by the time the STD was sent, pretty much everyone already knew. Why? Because we were excited, so we told them! It seemed a little redundant. However, still a nice gesture in theory. Keeping that in mind, however, I got the impression that for a simple “heads up” about something most people knew about, I wasn’t about to spend a lot of money or kill a lot of trees, so we elected to send them electronically. We made a personalized e-card on Paperless Post, and it cost approximately $30 total. As a bonus, the card also prompted people for their mailing addresses, which made my life a lot easier with not having to email everyone and ask for their address. 10/10, would do again.

Invitations: As for the invitations, we’re about halfway through the process. We’ve explored a lot of different options. We decided to design ours online and have them printed and mailed to us. I pinned all the pretty invites I liked on Wedding Paper Divas and Minted. Then, I asked my partner to pick his favorites. Then, I had samples mailed to us (which cost about $1 each) for IRL inspection. As a bonus, the sample package came with a coupon, in the event we did order from the company. Score!

The choices were lovely, and we’ve also narrowed it down. But man, oh man, did they come with a lot of other stuff to think about: Matching reply cards. Matching postage-paid reply envelopes. An enclosed photo print of the couple. A second page with detailed information about how to get there. Envelope liners. Customized postage stamps, addressing, return addressing. Ribbons. Confetti. Glitter. I was a little disappointed, however, that they stopped short of selecting a flock of live birds to deliver each envelope directly into each guest, then serenading softly as the guest muses over menu choices.

We’re minimalists, mind you, and very untraditional, so we don’t need most of that stuff. For one, I’ve heard using paper reply cards can be a bit of a nightmare — they get lost, people don’t write their names on them so the couple doesn’t realize who the RSVP is for, people try to RSVP for people who aren’t actually invited, having to keep track of all of them, etc. etc. Thankfully, the wonders of technology offer the lovely opportunity of the wedding website where people can RSVP digitally and the RSVPs get organized into a simple list for the couple to view. So, I’ve decided that when my invitations finally get sent, this is what they will consist of:

  • An addressed, stamped envelope
  • A customized invitation, with a link at the bottom to a wedding website which will contain all further pertinent information.

How are you handling the excess of paper invitations? Share in the comments!

  • 3/8

    Affiliate Disclaimer NewIt’s been really nice to take a breather from wedding planning for a bit. I feel like we’ve really stayed ahead of the game by scheduling roughly a task a month or so. It has always been a goal to make planning as stress-free as possible. I never wanted to look back at this experience as a frustrating or stressful time. It helps that my fiancé and I have the same taste, in literally everything. Things have simply been moving along effortlessly.

    It felt really good to get those Save the Dates out a week or two ago. I might’ve bit off a little more than I could chew with those, but I think we’re both happy with the end result. It felt like I had really checked something major off of our to-do list when I dropped them in the mailbox.

    Valerie's Completed Save the Date

    It was also a weird sense of self-consciousness. I felt unexpectedly concerned about what other people thought of them. In my mind, this is the first impression that people are getting about your wedding. It was only after a friend texted saying they were sweet and the amount of care, time and handiwork shows, that I felt like I made the first impression that I had hoped.

    So the next thing coming up is to try on my dress. It’s scheduled to arrive at the beginning of April, and I am dying to try it on. In the moment I made the decision about my dress, it was definitely a gut decision. I was 100% convinced until the next day or so, when I looked back at a picture of it. Now that the look and feel of the wedding has evolved and started to come to life a little more, I’m really thrilled to try it on again.

    One of the last major details is our invitations. I have been looking into ways to create them as cost effectively as possible, without fully DIY-ing them. I am looking into purchasing a design, possibly from Etsy, and printing them ourselves. I really like the look of those wax stamps, similar to the one found on Etsy below, so I’m hoping to secure some jute cord (the same that’s on the Save the Dates) on the front of the stack of invitations and RSVP cards. So while they aren’t DIY’d, per se, there will still be that hand crafted element that’s really important to me.wax_stamp

    Elephant Wax Stamp available from Etsy seller Backtozero

    Our Broke-Ass budget is still pretty well intact, which I’m happy to report. Some things came in high, some came in low, but I still consider that a win!

  • 12/15

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    I love the holidays as much, if not more, than anyone, but wedding planning during the holidays makes for one overwhelmed BAB. We're 10 months out, and there are things that really need to be decided upon. Save the dates? I do realize they need to go out in about six weeks and I'm DIY-ing them, but for strictly chronological reasons, I need to drop that and start thinking Christmas cards. Booking that…

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    2/16

    Wedding Stationery

    Hunting for wedding stationery can be a totally daunting experience. There are those that say invitations are the first glimpse of your wedding. There are those that press the importance that your stationery is one of the few things you get to hang on to forever afterward. Everyone and your grandma will probz hang your Save the Date and invitation on a refrigerator or cork…

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    12/23

    Told you I'd be back at it in no time! With my show closed, I'm down to just two jobs - my full time work, and then the freelance writing I do on the side. The full time is not very demanding and has a lot of downtime, so I felt comfortable diving back into planning, little by little. The easiest job on the checklist…

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  • 12/9

    Hello! Sorry I've been a little quiet, am-dram life took over for a while and wedding stuff just had to go on hold! But, now I'm back and starting to pick things again. Time is flying...eek! With just under a year to go to our wedding, we've now handed out (most of) our Save The Dates! This is one thing that brides can go ker-azzzy…

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    10/29

    Back when we first got engaged, I had a specific plan in mind for our Save the Dates and wedding invitations. I initially wanted our Save the Dates to look like a tweet (because we met on Twitter) and for our invitations to have a nerd theme. In those first exciting days of our engagement, I started Googling, looking for possible ideas that matched what…

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    3/28

    Your wedding stationery is the first impression anyone will get about your wedding: it will give them cues about what to expect from the evening (or morning, or afternoon) and how to dress appropriately. No matter what your style, from traditional to modern, rustic to preppy, black and white to bold color, you're certain to find an invitation that suits your event and your budget…

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  • 3/18

    Real Bride Peach: Bridal Failure

    This is my face. No one tells you how shitty planning a wedding can make you feel sometimes. I was simply not prepared. Before I expound, I have to make this humble request: If there is actually a 100% tested-and-approved rule book to follow for not pissing people off when planning a wedding, please order it for me on Amazon and send it my way.…

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