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Your “I dos” are a moment of gravitas, a quiet but weighty culmination of your decision to spend your lives together. In honor of their serious decision to make this commitment, Destry and Lanny decided on a similarly intimate wedding ceremony and reception: 40 invited guests, immediate family and the closest of friends. By this decision, they were able to spend more time with the community that has watched them sow the seeds of their relationship, helped them nurture it, and witnessed it flourish.
Names: Destry & Lanny
Occupations: Destry is a design drafter, Lanny was an administrator for a private travel company but currently attends business school full-time
Wedding location: Kingston, Idaho
Wedding date: July 27, 2013
Wedding budget: My crazyperson spreadsheet tells me our final total was $4,300-ish. We didn’t give ourselves a hard maximum. Instead, we decided to spend by priority. Neither of us gave two hoots about centerpieces or expensive favors; instead we cared about food and photos and got INCREDIBLY lucky on both counts. While we spent a lot less than the national average, we still feel like we spent an enormous amount of money for one day.
Approximate guest count: We limited our invited guests to 40, but counted on 35 attending for sure. We only invited our immediate family members and very close friends. Destry is the oldest of five, so you can imagine that it adds up quickly.
How would you describe your wedding? At the risk of sounding cliché and ridiculous, I’d describe it as a balance of country, rustic and vintage. We kept it subtle though. We didn’t want guests to feel like we were beating them over the head with kitschy crap. We didn’t have time or energy to invest in kitschy crap either.
What was your favorite part of your wedding? It’s a cliché, but it’s so true: It’s really hard to choose one favorite. I would say that driving from our hotel to the venue together was so special and important to me. We both had a chance to be alone together, in our own car, just being together, quietly. Because we knew it was going to be such an emotional day, that short drive was so important to both of us.
We were lucky to have an equally-meaningful moment alone at the end of the night after everyone had left. The sky was inky black with bright stars and the barn was lit up with twinkling lights woven throughout the Virginia creeper that covered its entire frame; we stood silently at the top of the hill wrapped in a blanket, looking down upon the scenery and reflected on the deluge of pure love we’d experienced that day.
What did you splurge on? Without a doubt, the food and furniture were our most costly expenses. Our wedding was held over 60 miles from our home in Spokane. So, we felt it was important that we provide a really solid meal to our nearest and dearest if we were going to drag them to a mountain farm in the middle of the woods. Have you ever been to a wedding on a Saturday at 6:30 pm, only to find that it’s a cake and punch reception in the church gym/basement/lobby? Those are basically the worst (in my opinion) and we were against that at all costs.
Additionally, we really scored with a venue that embodied everything we hoped for and wanted to provide some aesthetic continuity by using furniture that didn’t clash. We found an up-and-coming furniture rental company out of North Idaho who provided some stunning pieces for us.
Also, I know it’s silly, but I totally went all out with my hair as well. I was pretty close with my hairdresser at that time, but after her two previous attempts at formal styles left me crying in the car we decided to go another direction. My hair is fairly long, but I wanted it longer for the wedding, so she offered to pick me up some extensions with her discount and color them to match my hair. After several unanswered texts and voicemails left me feeling like a jealous ex-girlfriend, I bought the hair myself and scheduled an appointment with someone else. I ended up spending a small fortune on the whole ordeal, but it felt worth it: $200 for the hair, $70 to color it, $50 for the trial and $100 for the wedding day style. (I feel compelled to note that I’m still pissed that I spent as much as I did on the day of the wedding because the salon’s active price list shows the trial hair as included in the total price.)
So, what became of my former stylist? Well, I finally heard from her three days before the wedding letting me know that she had blocked out the entire day and we could go get hair, color and style it starting at 9 AM. A note about that – the wedding took place on a Saturday, and the hair extension shop isn’t open on weekends, so despite the sketchy billing practices, I am glad I opted out.
What did you save on? Ev-er-y thing. We saved by doing our own flower arrangements – actually, we didn’t use flowers at all. We bought raw cotton online and put everything together. The allergic reaction was totally worth it. Picture, if you will, my then-fiancé and I in our non-air-conditioned kitchen, trimming and cleaning raw cotton bolls. We spent countless hours picking dried leaves out of the cotton so we could spend ADDITIONAL countless hours stringing each one just-so on jute twine and arranging them into our respective bouquet and boutonniere.
I had intended to splurge a little and treat myself to a morning of girly pampering, however that never materialized. I scheduled a makeup trial a few weeks prior to the wedding, but I didn’t feel that this woman was listening to me. I’m 30, and I don’t think it’s in my best interest to try out a new personal style on my wedding day. I’m old enough to understand what looks good and what works for me. Since I’m a jeans and hoodie kind of girl, you can imagine how hard it was to mask my disappointment when she revealed my potential makeup. Winged eyeliner and I are never going to be best friends, nor do I have aspirations of acquainting myself with berry lip-stain. Adding insult to injury, I paid $75 (after tipping, because I’m a doormat) for a look I couldn’t wait to wash off my face.
Ultimately, I didn’t feel that she was especially honest or talented so I lied and canceled my appointment about a week before the wedding, citing something about the cost being budget-prohibitive. The (supposedly) agreed-upon rate was $100 for both sessions, but I had already effectively paid the bulk of it after listening to her talk shit about everyone else in town while she applied makeup that didn’t match me or my coloring. After the rage-tears subsided, I went to Nordstrom (alone) and met with the only kind of makeup artist I can trust with utmost confidence – a gay man. I showed him a photo and he whipped my look into shape, directing me to all the right products and showed me how to recreate his work at home. I hugged him, and practiced nearly a dozen times before the wedding and I’m thrilled with my choice to do my own.
The piece-de-resistance, though, were our photographers. We happened to have two very close friends who are, not only incredibly talented, but provided their services for free. Without their generosity, as every bride knows, we would have EASILY doubled our expenses.
Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect? Looking back, I would have asked more people to help. We would have had a little more fun during the planning stages if we’d allowed more folks help us out from the beginning. Instead, we stubbornly refused offers for help until much closer to the wedding date. That cotton-stringing party I mentioned above? Ultimately, my in-laws came to the rescue with four additional hands for stringing.
I can’t quite remember why we were so secretive about planning, but I suspect part of it had to do with a bizarre idea that someone might steal our ideas? Weddings make people crazy. Like, crazy-crazy.
What was your biggest challenge in planning? 1.) Hurt feelings. If I had known beforehand, how personally other people would take our wedding choices, we might have eloped. We received unsolicited suggestions, advice, and requests for invitations for people we’d never conceive of including in our celebration. It was an ongoing challenge of (and testament to) our patience, kindness, and ability to tolerate other people.
2.) Money. It would be so much easier to throw everything on a credit card, but that’s not our style for anything we do in life. We felt incredibly fortunate to have been in such a position that allowed us to do everything we needed and wanted to do on our own terms. Still, having more money might have abbreviated our timeline considerably but we don’t regret any of it.
What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? ALWAYS (and I mean ALWAYS) have a contingency plan. ALWAYS. For good measure, have three or four backups. We picked out a favorite restaurant to host our rehearsal dinner and made reservations to hold the date (I can’t remember if we paid a fee or not). A month before our wedding, my best friend drove up from Portland, Oregon for a bridal shower hosted by my mother-in-law and I had hoped to take her to dinner there … as we were walking up to the building, it dawned on me that they weren’t just not open, they were closed. Like, for good.
Obviously, we ate elsewhere, but I was determined to keep from getting ruffled by the situation. Later in the week, my fiancé and I ate at another restaurant that had recently undergone a major renovation and appeared to be a great place to host our rehearsal – so we booked it on the spot.
By sheer bad luck, we were forced to resume our search on June 17 (about a month before our wedding) because our second choice BURNED DOWN. I crowdsourced suggestions on Facebook and had friends beg me to stop ruining Spokane with our wedding. It was about this point that I stopped giving a shit about it but it turned out to be better than I ever could’ve imagined. A family-owned bar/café where we spend Saturday nights playing trivia stepped up to bat and hit a grand slam (those are the same sport, right?) with how they handled our dinner. We told them how much we could spend, the headcount, and offered a vague suggestion of the kind of food we liked. It was such a success that our families are still raving about it to this day.
What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? It was a day full of love and laughter and ridiculously delicious food. Because we chose to invite literally nobody outside our immediate families and our closest friends it made the day so ridiculously special, I still struggle to elucidate my feelings.
Top 5 least favorite? We had a lot of people offer to help or provide something (mostly food) and we were far more comfortable hiring people to do that job for a number of reasons, including (but not limited to) sanitation. Remember, if you will, the comment above where I mention that the venue and our hometown are sixty miles apart – now imagine chicken salad, pasta salad, potato salad, and basically mayonnaise-based anything in someone’s back seat for nigh on two hours. Sounds like fun, right? Sorry to let the booster club down, but I’m not trying to battle diarrhea on my wedding night. For the sake of feelings, let’s just say it’s because I want everyone to have a good time and avoid being unfairly labeled bridezilla, okay?
One of my photographers is married to a former marine and bodyguard. Why on earth is that even remotely of consequence? Because my husband’s ex-girlfriend (one he’d broken up with before we even met; IN 2002.) has a super-adorable habit of making her presence known. Neither of us expected anything especially dramatic, but he studied photos as a precaution and kept her out of sight when she did, in fact, show up.
What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? “Just relax! It’ll all come together” – Everyone who ever planned a wedding but experienced a subsequently immediate Telenovela-style bout with amnesia. Nothing ever just “comes together” and anyone who suggests otherwise probably didn’t have a DIY wedding if you know what I mean. Are you fucking kidding me? RELAX? I am relaxed (sort of), but I am still allowed to give like, ONE shit about how this day goes down. Will I remember all of it, not likely; but I don’t expect to.
The best? From my older sister, more than ten years ago: “Wedding planning is so stupid. It is literally the DUMBEST thing I’ve ever done.” Having done it, I can confirm that she’s right. The wedding itself wasn’t stupid, but the kinds of things that consumed my thoughts throughout the planning process were so cosmically insignificant; but they felt so god damned essential in the moment.
Second best was between my husband and me – it became kind of a mantra between the two of us: “This is our party; our wedding is not our marriage.”
Any other bits of wisdom? Just Relaaaaax! Okay, I’m kidding … kind of. It’s easy to get upset and overwhelmed when people overstep boundaries, but standing up for yourself is the best thing you can do when you’re planning your wedding. I desperately wish I had just told a few vendors to piss off directly instead of skirting the issue as if their feelings were supposed to take precedent above mine. I wish I had been more assertive and direct when people acted in a way that made me feel like they were taking advantage of an emotionally charged event. But there’s nothing I can do about it now. (Except write some passive-aggressive Yelp! reviews.)
Oh, and don’t you dare listen to anyone who has the nerve to tell you that you must spend more or else your wedding won’t be “everything you ever dreamed of.” Your wedding will be everything you dreamed of because you’re marrying someone you love. Anyone who suggests otherwise is presumptuous, snide and condescending.
Wedding vendors and links:
Venue: French Gulch Farm and Garden, Kingston, ID
Furniture Rental: The Attic, Coeur d’Alene, Idaho
Catering: Couple of Chefs, Spokane, WA
Bride’s Makeup: BRIDE!
Flowers, bouquet and decor: Bride and Groom designed all decor using dried wildflowers and cotton purchased online. Tabletop arrangements were styled by Groom’s brother and sister in law. (Bride made bouquet, Groom made his own boutonniere)
Rings: Bride (same ring, except blue) Groom
DJ: iTunes, operated by Groom’s brother
Invitations: Designed Online, Printed at Home (We purchased the full suite; including save the dates, thank you cards, and custom map)
Photographers: Andrew Callaci (Portland) and Nicole Varnell (Spokane)
One of the biggest perks of being a wedding blogger is the shared sense of community we have with our fellow wedding bloggesses. Today, we’re gonna take a warm n’ fuzzy moment to draw your attention to a few fabulous titles some of our favorite blogger friends have published in the last few months – because blogs are great and all, but we know cuddling up with a nice hardbound publication (or your cute little e-reader) is so much cozier. Our top recommendations for new brides are, in no particular order…
The Broke-Ass Bride’s Wedding Guide by Dana LaRue
Why we love it! Well, duh. It’s ours. Written by Dana, edited by the team. Using couples who had real broke-ass weddings. You know all those nifty little tricks and tips we’ve been giving you over the years? Well, they’re in there. Along with a lot that we’ve been keeping stashed, just for this very occasion. Plus, there’s a veritable plethora of real wedding budget breakdowns, best-approach ideas on negotiating your way to a more budget-friendly celebration without sacrificing your vision and, guys, there are recipes. Because: FOOD.
Who’s it for? YOU. And everyone you know. Because who doesn’t need a little help making smart money choices, especially where a wedding is concerned?
Why we love it! Ok, by now you’ve probably had occasion to stumble across Style Me Pretty – one of the most extensive resources of beautiful wedding images and inspiration on the web. But a book of similarly gorgeous and inspirational wedding imagery just seems totally redundant, right? WRONG. I was blown away by how beautiful this book was. Page after page after page made me want to get married AGAIN, like RIGHT AWAY. This book basically redefines the term “WEDDING PORN”. Every page overfloweth with fresh, inspired wedding ideas. CAUTION: If you love your single friends, don’t just leave this book lying around willy nilly. Handling may causes mild to serious cases of wedding fever, which, much like the common cold, remains incurable even to this day.
Who’s it for? EVERYONE. Except that bride who’s going to totally develop a complex if her wedding isn’t subsequently featured on Style Me Pretty. You know who I’m talking about.
The Handcrafted Wedding by Emma Arendoski
Why we love it! This beautiful book was penned by our friend Emma from Emmaline Bride (check out the fabulous Paper Pinwheel Wedding Backdrop DIY Tutorial post she contributed to BAB last year!). Emma is an ace in the hole when it comes to fabulous DIY wedding ideas. This book organizes all of her best ones by category, so if you’re on the hunt for a totally unique save-the-date idea, or an easy peasy gift card box project, you can use this book as a handy reference guide. Or you could just read it cover to cover – you’re going to want to anyway.
Who’s it for? If you’re freaking everyone out with the number of DIY wedding projects you’re undertaking, you need this book. If you love all things DIY, but you’re short on clever ideas of your own, you need this book. If you’re full of great ideas, but you have no idea how to execute them…hey – hey you! You need this book.
Plan Like a Planner: A Revolutionary Wedding Planning Guide by Bitchless Bride
Why we love it! You thought you loved us for our tell-it-like-it-is, Wedding-Industrial-Complex-be-damned attitude? Well…there is another…Bitchless Bride is our favorite foul-mouthed wedding blogger in disguise…not that there’s a lot of them…let’s start over – Bitchless Bride is one of our favorite wedding bloggers, period. She blogs and vlogs anonymously because she’s an industry pro with almost 20 years experience – and she has a lot to teach you about bridal etiquette, bridal bitchery, and general bridezilladom. (Also, spoiler alert: she doesn’t always sugarcoat it. And we love her for that.) Her latest book, available for instant download, is full of essential planning advice for every phase of your journey – buying the dress, maintaining healthy wedding vendor relationships – you name it! PLUS, there are totally helpful tools for the proactive bride – timelines, anyone?!
Who’s it for? The bride who can’t figure out where to start. The bride who’s throwing her hands up in the air because wedding vendors never call her back. The bride who has QUESTIONS! SO MANY QUESTIONS! So basically, EVERY bride.
Rustic Wedding Chic by Maggie Lord
Why we love it! Here’s another fabulous title that falls under Wedding Inspiration/Wedding Porn. If you find yourself drooling a little at the thought of burlap table runners, candy apple wedding favors, barn weddings, and loose, organic floral arrangements in antique blue Mason jars, then this is the book for you, my friend. Maggie shared just a few ideas for fall weddings from her book with us last year, be sure to check those out for a tiny taste of Rustic Wedding Chic goodness. And of course, check out her BLOG of the same name for non-stop countrified wedding inspiration!
Who’s it for? Are you getting married in a barn? Are you getting married on a farm? Are you getting married in a park? Are you getting married in the dark? (Ok, that last one is a non-sequiter, but you see where this is going…)
There you have it, brides! Which titles are you adding to your e-shopping cart asap? May we recommend all four?!
Having a rustic chic wedding isn’t as easy as it looks–there’s a balance involved of form and function. How do you make that folder of inspiration photos on your desktop a reality? Maggie Lord, author of the new book Rustic Wedding Chic and the founder and editor of RusticWeddingChic.com, wants to help you make the burlap, raw cotton bouquet, and shabby chic chandelier wedding of your dreams come to life!
Rustic Wedding Chic features inspiring real weddings, tips and advice from the pros, and tutorials and highlights of some of the best details that Maggie has seen in her years of chronicling rustic weddings. And as a self-professed wedding junkie since the age of thirteen, you can be certain that Maggie has a discerning eye for details that your guests will talk about for years to come!
Better still, Rustic Wedding Chic will help you put your personal, individual stamp on the rustic wedding trend, ensuring that your wedding speaks to your unique taste! If you’re planning a barn/outdoor/backyard wedding, there’s no better resource than a copy of Rustic Wedding Chic–don’t believe me? Check out the guest post she wrote for Broke Ass Bride for a taste of what Rustic Wedding Chic has to offer!
This week, one lucky BAB will win an autographed copy of Rustic Wedding Chic by Maggie Lord! You must be subscribed to our newsletter to win (we check!). Not a subscriber? No problem! Sign up here: http://www.thebrokeassbride.com/subscribe/
Today we’re handing the reigns over to one of our favorite ladies in the wedding blog biz – Maggie Lord – Founder and Editor of Rustic Wedding Chic, and author of a brand new book, aptly named: Rustic Wedding Chic! She’s got 3 fabulous DIY ideas to share with you that are absolutely perfect for fall weddings. (BONUS: Tell us which one is your favorite in the comments, and instantly enter to win a signed copy!)
The natural beauty that is alive in the fall is just one of the reasons why this season is perfect for rustic chic weddings. In my new book, Rustic Wedding Chic, I have several inexpensive wedding décor ideas that play into the fall season effortlessly. These projects are not only budget-friendly, but they’re also low on DIY effort, which allows every bride the ability to pull them off.
When I first started to gather ideas for the “Get The Look” section of the book I went back to my archives of the Ask Maggie section on the Rustic Wedding Chic website to see what advice brides where looking for when trying to design the right fall look. Most of the brides were hoping to incorporate the fall season into their wedding but wanted to stay away from the traditional path of pumpkins, fall leaves, oranges and browns. It was from these cries for wedding décor help that I came up with three fall wedding looks that are both easy on the budget, DIY-friendly, and rustic chic.
Burlap Table Runners With Hand Sewn Hearts & Initials
Burlap table runners are very trendy right now in the wedding world but I believe that by adding a few small hand-sewn details this look goes from trendy to classic country. In the Rustic Wedding Chic book this image of a long wedding table with the couples initials in this standout red color is one my favorites. There is something so simple and homemade about this project, like something that we would see in another place and time. If you can sew, then this should be an easy weekend project. If you can’t sew then I suggest you try these three strategies:
2. Ask around. You might be surprised that a friend, your aunt, the local craft store or even your dry cleaner can embroider your ideal pattern.
3. You might be able to get the hand-sewn look without actually having to sew it. Head to your craft store and look for iron decals, which can allow you to execute a rustic wedding idea with the latest technology. Use a computer to you can design an image, print it out and iron it on.
Apple Cider In Hollowed Out Apples
The warm feeling of hot apple cider warming your body as the crisp fall air settles in is a delightful thought! Treat your wedding guests to a warm drink (can be alcoholic or nonalcoholic depending on your preference) of apple cider as they enter your cocktail hour. Your guests will be charmed to not only have a warm seasonal drink but they will love the fact that they are served in hollowed out apples. The apples are an inexpensive vessel and eco-friendly as well; it’s just up to you to transform them from a snack to a cup.
This project may seem like a lot of work, but after you see the Fall Harvest Inspiration in the book, you’ll be taking on all sorts of projects to bring the autumn look to your wedding day. My tip for making this project easier on the bride is to contact a local apple orchard, buy the apples in bulk and ask them to hollow them out for you since many orchards have this sort of machine on hand.
Hay Bale Seating Option
Whether your wedding is on a farm, in a barn, at a vineyard or just in your backyard, you have the option of using hay bales as seating for your ceremony. If you are worried that this look might be “too country,” add a vintage twist by adding faded tablecloths, mismatched lace and even muted colored blankets help to dress up the hay bales. Many times farms have more hay on hand then they have a use for, so reach out to local farms to see if you buy the hay from them or go right to the source and work with a hay farm and have them delivered to your wedding site.
About Maggie Lord:
A self confessed wedding junkie since the age of 13, Maggie Lord loves the romance and beauty of weddings. Passionate about the rustic style and eager to share her discoveries and ideas while planning her lakeside wedding at her family’s summer cabin in Northern Wisconsin she started blogging. Now RusticWeddingChic.com has become the number one online resource for rustic & country weddings. In addition to being the editor of Rustic Wedding Chic, Maggie is also a contributing author for various other online and print publications and is sought after as an expert on rustic & country weddings.
The Rustic Wedding Chic book is now available at all major bookstores and online. Signed copies can be found at Whispering Pines Catalog.