Is it Saturday yet?
How about now?
You guys, my wedding is THIS WEEK. Like, when someone asks “So, any fun plans this weekend?” I can say “Yeah, I’m GETTING MARRIED on Saturday.” As one does.
Oddly enough, I’ve had countless people tell me how miserable this week is going to be: “Oh wow, congratulations! Get ready for the worst week of your life!” Ummm, what? Since this is my wedding, I’m embracing love, not negativity, and I’m going to take any issues that crop up in stride. What’s the point of the last year of planning if I can’t enjoy myself this week? I think a lot of DIY brides (myself included) get overwhelmed with the details, since we’ve had to think of pretty much all of them at this point in the process. I made a list this weekend of literally everything, walking myself through each day, just so I could cross it all off and see that IT’S ALL DONE. I left three items on the list, though: to be grateful, to be in the moment, and to take lots of photos.
To be honest, I’m the most relaxed I’ve been in months. My amazing, wonderful lady friends treated to me a fabulous bachelorette party in San Diego two weekends ago — we went to the County Fair (two words: baby goats), ate some seriously outrageous food, and visited the gorgeous (and budget-friendly) Balboa Park, though my favorite part was just laughing in the hotel room with my girls and some peanut butter stout. But while I’ve certainly had little moments of “OMG this is really happening” during the planning process, it wasn’t until I relaxed and let my friends love on me that it really sunk in that I was a capital B, imminent Bride, and that YES, this is a really special time in a person’s life.
As a very independent woman who has never particularly liked being the center of attention, this whole wedding process has put me a little outside of my comfort zone. On top of that, I can feel pretty uncomfortable when people spend money on me, since I know that – especially for my generation – a lot of times money is tight, and I don’t want anyone to feel put out or obligated. I even put off creating a gift registry until about six weeks ago, feeling like it was materialistic to ask for gifts. After enough people asked about it, my family finally convinced me that this is a (hopefully) once-in-a-lifetime thing; your loved ones want to help you build a home, if you just let them.
The biggest lesson I’ve learned so far then is to Embrace the Love. As stressful as coordinating visitors’ schedules and nail appointments and last minute rental additions seems, it’s all boiled down to the fact that family and friends are all gathering in one place, traveling from places like New York and New Orleans and Missouri and Montana for no other reason than that they love Nick and me (and, I hope, tacos). That’s such an overwhelming feeling, so much so that just typing this is making me a little emotional. I’ve vowed to remember that when things start to get crazy this week, and I’m so happy that we’ve made a lot of plans to spend time with loved ones who are coming in from out of town, even if that means we had way too many errands to run this past weekend. And – I’ve seen this time and time again from other Real Brides – people love to feel like they’re helping you, so let them!
Our parents have never met, so tomorrow night we’re having an intimate dinner with just them before the chaos of Friday’s rehearsal. I’ve also set aside the morning to show my Boston-based bridesmaid around town and get some brunch. Friday, the day before the wedding, my mom is hosting a Ladies’ Lunch since I didn’t have a traditional bridal shower, after which my girls and I are going to get pedicures for a little bit of relaxation before we head to the venue for our run-through. Finally, I’m so thankful we were able to find a rehearsal dinner restaurant with a small private room – that means we had to limit the dinner to just parents and the bridal party, but I think will be a great bonding experience for everyone. Plus it’s BYOB, which equals big savings and better booze. Then I’ll spend the night in a hotel room with some of my bridesmaids, with lots of sleep on the agenda.
I can’t wait to run down the big day for my Real Wedding post, and share some of the DIY projects we did (stressful, but I regret nothing!). Until then, Happy Wedding Day to my fellow June brides. Don’t let anyone kill your vibe — you got this!