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Affiliate Disclaimer NewReal Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Name: Diana C. Vasquez and Tom McGovern

Occupation: Renaissance Man
Wedding Location
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Wedding Date: May 9, 2015

Budget: $14,000

Number of Guests: 80

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

How would you describe your wedding?

Our wedding was a creative application of traditional concepts.

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What was your favorite part?

My favorite part was having an unofficial first dance. I am an incredibly shy and private person and the idea of sharing such personal moments with a crowd was frightening. As a compromise the now-hubs and I agreed to create little pockets of privacy where we could share intimate moments that only he and I knew were happening. We prepared two songs for the DJ: the official one that had meaning and made sense as a “first dance” was Clem Snide’s cover of Journey’s “Faithfully” and the unofficial one was Louis Armstrong’s version of “La Vie En Rose”; the song we associate with our relationship and drunk slow-dance to in our kitchen on date nights. We then scheduled the cake cutting ceremony right before the first dance. We cut the cake, everyone cheered and laughed; the cake was wheeled away and we had our official “first dance” while the cake was being portioned out. While all the guests were enjoying the dessert bar and the wedding cake we were able to quietly linger on the dance floor and dance the song we love by ourselves with no one watching — just like we do at home on date night.

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What did you splurge on?

We splurged on the venue, the food, and the photographer.

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What did you save on?

The main things that we saved on the most were the invitations, the flowers, and my dress.

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Was there anything you would have done differently?

Looking back we both wish we had taken more time to selfishly enjoy the food rather than socializing with everyone. Personally, had I known better, I would have hired a makeup artist. I got ready by myself and it worked out fine in the end, but I was so nervous that morning that my hands were shaking and it took me 20 minutes and too many cotton swabs just to get my eyeliner right.  Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What was your biggest challenge in planning?

The biggest challenge was the seating arrangement. I didn’t realize that the actual number of the table signified how important you are to the bride and groom i.e most important guests expect to sit at tables one and two. I thought it was just for efficiency when ordering food like at a restaurant. Consequently, I sat everyone in terms of relational associations and common interests not at all being mindful of what numerical value the table had been assigned. Unaware of the implications at play, I had made some major mistakes which were thankfully caught by my mother-in-law and addressed before the event. Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself?

One of the biggest lessons I learned is that traditions are important. There is a kind of beauty and sense of wholeness in traditional concepts when we claim them for ourselves, in our own modes, and appropriate them in ways that are meaningful to our being. Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?

  • It was classic yet creative
  • Our 7-year-old son was old enough to know and recognize how important this event was and even cried during the ceremony
  • The food
  • My father-in-law officiated
  • Because we planned and worked on every single aspect of it, we knew exactly what went into making every little part of that day possible. It was really in more ways than I can count a true reflection of who we are as a couple and a family.

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Top 5 least favorite things:

I hate to be that person but there really wasn’t anything about the event or the day that I didn’t like.Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received?

“Just go to a catering hall and they will do everything for you.”

What was the best advice?

“Do it your way, it always works out”dianatom-14

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

If you’ve been married for more than a year, what have been some challenges?

We haven’t been married for more than a year, but we have been together for almost eight years now: living together and raising a child. One of the biggest challenges and the greatest lessons we work on everyday is not keeping score. Knowing and functioning, as a couple and a family, under the cellular understanding that no matter what we are a unit, a team. Our loyalties and our efforts are to each other and this vision that we have for ourselves as a family.

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Any other bits of wisdom?

Be friends with your spouse. Love and passion come and go in a wave like patterns. What sustains you through the ebb and flow is your friendship. That crazy friend who gets your dysfunction, that’s the kind of person you can build a life with.Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Real Wedding: Diana and Tom's Handmade, Personal New York Celebration

Budget Breakdown:

Wedding announcement and save the dates: Free

Invitations: $100

These were hand-embroidered handkerchiefs that I made from squares of linen. They took about two years of steady work to complete and were personalized for each family that received one.

  • Paper goods (Kraft cardstock, envelopes, vellum paper) from Amazon.com
  • Linen was purchased from Mood Fabrics
  • Ink for printing RSVP cards and other inserts, as well as the shipping labels and glue, were purchased from Staples.​​

Website: $30

Ceremony: $500

Central Park Conservancy: It was officiated by Tom’s father who became ordained just for the occasion.

Pipe player: $250

We contracted the services of a bag piper, Darius Kaufman, (718) 358-0747 whom provided musical accompaniment to the ceremony.

Rings: $700

Reception, including dinner: $10,000 (this is not their actual rate — we negotiated a deal so anyone wanting to host here should expect to pay way more)

Venue: Liederkranz Foundation http://www.liederkranzny.org/

Catering: Chef Albert Schmidt of Open Skies Hospitality

Wine: $300 (this was a gift from a guest who had a connection)

Cake: $250 (this was a reduced rate through business relationships) Pan Ugo Bakery 

The stand for it was DIY from leftover wood from Tom’s job and leftover moss from the centerpieces

The topper was from SimplySilhouetteWeddings on Etsy

DJ: $500, Flava DJ

Centerpieces and Flowers: $105

  • Cocktail hour:Following Chef Albert’s suggestion, and my personal distaste for flower arrangement, the portion of the “flower budget” allocated for this was appropriated into a kind of “edible arrangement” (fashioned out of herbs, crispy bacon roses, pretzels, breadsticks) that served as centerpieces during the cocktail hour.
  • DinnerThese were a DIY project I put together the night before:a.     The apples I bought from my local produce vendor (I bargained a deal for an entire box of apples that were about to go bad) $10 for 100 applesb.     Manzanita branches we order on sale from Blooms.com

    c.     The moss I bought from the flower market the day before (the moss was also about to go bad and the shop agreed to sell it to me for $5 for the whole box)

    d.     The oversized vases I owned and had purchased one at a time whenever I saw them go on sale at my local TJMaxx or Marshalls

    e.     The plastic hanging crystals along with the candle votives I ordered from Amazon.com. I cleaned and polished them in order to make them look more expensive than they actually were

    f.      The hanging table numbers were DIY from Tom and were made from little rounds of tree branches that he cut and dried on our radiator, and then numbered using a wood burning tool

    2.     The cherry blossom arch behind our table was a cherry tree I purchased at that flower market at a discounted price the day before. It is now planted in my mother’s backer

Place card/ Thank you gifts: $60

  • We bought 12 regular plants from The Indoor Outdoor Gardener a retail gardening store in Bay Ridge. We separated and planted them into individual little pots (read: plastic cups) that we then covered in burlap. I printed personalized labels, utilizing leftover materials from the invitations, with the name of each individual guest and secured them onto toothpicks that we then inserted into each little plant. These served double-duty as place cards and thank you gifts for our guests to take with them at the end of the night. It was also a thoughtful way for Tom’s grandmother, who had passed away a few years ago, to be present. I also included some of these blooms in my bridal bouquet.

Transportation: $100

Photographer: $1,000

Wedding portrait: $100

  • For our wedding portrait we booked a session with the wonderful artists at the Tintype Studio through the Penumbra Foundation in exchange for signing a release form that allowed them to use our image on their website they gave us a discount.
  • Other than the venue our other BIG splurge was hiring Carole Cohen to document our ceremony and parts of our reception. Photos, unlike flowers, live on forever and we wanted beautiful images that felt personal and captured everything this day represented for us as well as our families. Carole provided us with that and so much more.

Groom outfit: $340

  • Kilts where from Rent A Kilt
  • Suit jackets, shirts and ties were from Century21
  • Tom wore his grandfather’s hat which was restored by The Hat House
  • Shoes were from DSW
  • Traditional accessories and trimmings like the sporran, the silver kilt pin and flashers were special ordered from Scotland through ScotWeb
  • Boutonnières were made from the same herbs as my bouquet

Bride’s outfit, including flowers: $380

  • Dress was handmade. All of the silk organdy, lace, closures and tulle (for the petticoats) was purchased from Mood Fabrics. Cost was around $300
  • Details were hand-beaded and embroidered with materials from Beads World USA
  • DIY crowd made from laurel leaves and Lily of the valley blooms
  • Bouquet was DIY from laurel, myrtle, lavender, thyme, mint, rosemary, oregano, sage, Scottish thistles (the national flower of Scotland) and a sizeable air plant for architectural appeal. I got all of these at the flower market and the union square farmer’s market the day before.
  • My pearls were an heirloom engagement present I received from Tom

Thank you notes: $20

  • These were printed copies of one of the photos from the wedding which we got through MPix (they calibrate the photo before printing it and each item is personally inspected for quality by a member of their staff.
  • I made frames from cardstock and placed them in envelopes leftover from the invites
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  • 10/7

    Affiliate Disclaimer NewReal Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel PhotographyNames: Meg & Steve

    Occupations: Development Coordinator for a community revitalization non-profit; high school Spanish teacher

    Wedding location: Pearl S. Buck Estate, Perkasie, PA

    Wedding Budget: $25,000 **

    Number of Guests: 207

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Wedding Date: June 20, 2015

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    How would you describe your wedding: Our wedding had a little bit of everything. We had some traditional elements, but also did things our own modern way. For example, we had very traditional vows, but I wore a blush dress. We didn’t toss anything at the reception, and our table numbers were clocks. It was a modern day wedding with a vintage feel. When people ask how it was, I say, “magical!”

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    What was your favorite part of your wedding? Having every single person we love all in one place for 6 hours. It was so incredible to have people from different families and different parts of the country mingling together because they all had one thing in common — us! And of course, it was great to have them all witness the second we became husband and wife.

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    What did you splurge on? Photography — worth it!

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel PhotographyWhat did you save on? Our family was heavily involved in the day, so our flowers, cake(s), our officiant, and some decor was done (mostly) as in kind gifts!

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Is there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect? I would have worried less about the small details a lot sooner than I did. I realized I was the only one who would notice if something was missing, but the day of, I didn’t even notice.

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    What was your biggest challenge in planning? Narrowing down our guest list. It truly pained us to not be able to invite everyone! I think our original count was somewhere around 275, and we wound up having 254 invitations go out.

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself? There was definitely a time when I wondered if 18 months of planning was really worth it. I decided to take a few weeks off right around the holidays — I didn’t do any DIYing and barely even spoke about it. It was nice to step back to regroup and reflect on the things that are really important about a wedding.

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding?

    1. The kiss.Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    2. Our guests. For real, though.Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    3. Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel PhotographyAll of the speeches– they were on point!Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    4. The weather — 80% chance of thunderstorms all day, but not a single drop!Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    5. Having a husband to take home with me at the end of the night, and every other night for the rest of my life!Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Top 5 least favorite?

    1. Fearing the threatening weather. So stupid.
    2. Not eating enough cake and ice cream.
    3. That it had to end at some point.
    4. That’s it. Couldn’t have asked for a more magical day.

    What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? “Are you sure you want to do this?” or “There’s still time to back out.” I heard these sentences way too many times. It’s supposed to be the happiest day of my life — do we have to put a damper on it?!

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography
    The best? “Are you having fun?” My aunt (mother of the flower girl) was with me when I was getting ready. She looked at me and said those words because someone said them to her on her wedding day. Of course, your natural reaction is to say, “Yes!” but you really do have to stop, look, see and feel all of the great things around you that day. Take it all in, ladies and gents!

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel PhotographyAny other bits of wisdom? This is going to sound cliche and repetitive, but seriously, just take it all in. I heard this bit of wisdom multiple times, even before we were planning a wedding. So, I just remembered what everyone said and truly absorbed every second I possibly could, so much so that when I was walking down the aisle with my dad, I said, “Hey, guys!” to our guests like it was just any other day.

    Right after we were done with our dinner and everyone else was just finishing up, we left the reception so we could walk back in and experience everyone and everything happening in that moment. We got some weird looks, for sure, but it was so nice to take a few seconds to appreciate everything you have.

    There are so many people coming to see you, so many emotions going around, and so many life events happening all in a very short amount of time. It can be overwhelming if you let it. Those few short hours will go by in a flash, but they are all happening because of you and your groom. After all of the time you put into planning, you deserve to enjoy — and remember — it!

    Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography Real Wedding: Meg & Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Photos: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Rental Company: Open Aire Affairs

    Officiant: Will Halsey

    Photography: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Florist: Cultivating Joy

    Caterer: Sage Catering

    Cakes: The Flour Child Home Bakery

    Ceremony Music: Elysium Quartet

    Cocktail Hour Music: Micheal Mancini & Gerard Mancini

    DJ: Synergetic Sound & Lighting

    Hair & Makeup: Daneene Jensen & Associates

    Gown: BHLDN

    Groom’s Suit: Macy’s

    **Budget Breakdown:

    Eds Note: It’s not unusual for weddings to go over-budget. It happens often, just as many weddings can come in under-budget. Our goal here at The Broke-Ass Bride is not to have a competition over who spent the least on their wedding, rather to share with couples that a beautiful, meaningful wedding celebration is possible on any budget. It’s important to keep in mind that the size of the guest list and the geographic location have a huge impact on the dollars spent. Please be kind when commenting, as every wedding is different. Hateful, disrespectful and intolerant comments will be deleted.

    Projected Budget: $25,000

    Hair & Makeup: 150

    Attire: $1,800

    Accessories: $200
    Venue: $4,000
    Food & Drinks: $16,000 (the real budget killer — too many people to feed!)
    Photography: $3,000
    Music: $1,500
    Decor & Rentals: $3,000
    Total: $29,650
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    Names: Peach and Jersey Occupation: IT geeks Wedding location: Little Gardens Wedding Date: October 19, 2014 Budget: $15,000 - $20,000 How would you describe your wedding: We had an intimate, simple, outdoor garden wedding with a rockin’ party afterward. The ceremony was short and sweet, spiritual but fun, and we wrote our own vows.  Afterward, everyone enjoyed cocktails, dinner and a fun party. What was…

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    Names: Tiffany & Justin Occupation: Educational Writer & Video Game Designer Wedding location: Karl Strauss Brewery Gardens, San Diego California Wedding Date: October 11, 2014 Budget: Well, here's the thing. My kindly generous parents didn't give us a solid figure to work with, but I wanted to be reasonable and arbitrarily chose $15,000. And then when we really got into things I realized that would be…

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    Oh, how naive I was to think I could cruise through these 8 months of wedding planning without any drama. And, much to my surprise, all this drama came from the groom's side! You don't hear that very often, do you? Made with PicMonkey Back in December when we got engaged, Bryce's best friend from childhood, Ron, was back in their hometown of Greensboro. Ron…

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  • 11/27

    Today we have quite a treat for you, BABs ... it's our beloved Real Bride/BAB Editorial Assistant Extraordinaire MELLZAH's wedding! (She's chosen to use her formal name here, but trust me, it's her.) If you've read her DIY/real talk-centric "Real Bride" columns, you already know that Mellzah and her man Jason were faced with the arduous task of keeping it Broke-Ass in the pricey Seattle…

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    6/28

    Got a question for Liz? Go to the contact page, and let us know what’s up! Dear Liz, Our current plan is for my fiance and me to have a local celebration party with friends and my family, and a destination wedding with his much larger family. The hitch with the local celebration is that he and his friends are Muslim. My fiance is also…

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  • 5/23

    This weekend, I made a proper appointment at The Princess Bride in Bothell and was accompanied by only two other people: my maid of honor and another of my bridesmaids, both assertive enough to ensure that I wouldn't allow an opinion other than my own to determine my ultimate purchase. It was by all accounts a smashing success, as I ended up buying a dress…

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