Broke-Ass Tag: real brides

6/14

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Four months to go, BABs!

I’ve always assumed I’d be one of those brides who was impossibly low-key and go-with-the-flow. And that has remained true for most things, but I’m finally starting to feel like things are creeping up on me; family and vendors are needing more and more details and decisions that haven’t been finalized.

Within the last two weeks or so questions from the officiant, cellist, photographer and venue have all started piling up, and I’ve been too overwhelmed and mentally exhausted from other things in life to tackle any of them.

In my head, it feels like we have a ton of time. But in reality, I know that we need to start making some of these decisions. If for no other reason than to get it checked off and move on. In order to maintain my sanity between wedding planning, two jobs, co-organizing a Meetup group, quarter-marathon race training and other social events, I really needed to get organized.

Planners specifically dedicated to weddings are fantastic. I have tried a few of them online, and they are extremely helpful. But for me, I need one place to keep work, wedding, volunteer, personal goals and social things all in one place. I know, it sounds a little Type A, but I needed a singular resource to avoid over-booking, forgetting or procrastinating. For some reason, I never latched on to using a calendar app. I like physically writing things, giving them due dates, highlighting and crossing things off. It’s sort of therapeutic.

I have gotten a lot of wedding planning use out of my Passion Planner. It’s given me a place to create monthly and weekly wedding-related goals, create work and personal to-do lists, and block out my time so that everything gets appropriate effort dedicated to it. I’ve used the notes section in the back to help with working out wedding timeline, schedules or to simply write notes as I think of them so they don’t get lost.

I have added my vendors’ needs into my planner and given them due dates so that when my day starts, I can easily schedule in a half-hour to dedicate to it. It’s so easy to get caught up in everyday things that planning begins to slip. Being deliberate about when I spend time on wedding things has been extremely helpful!

How do you juggle work and your personal life while wedding planning?

  • 5/31

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    Cake Topper available from Etsy seller Glittered Bride

    I am not one of those women who get excited about baby showers or bridal showers. A bunch of women mingling about the hors d’oeuvres and mimosas and how they know the bride or mother-to-be has never been my forte. I can’t say as I’ve been to a single shower that I wasn’t dying to leave by the end. And don’t get me started on the games.

    We are not having a bridal party, so there’s no Maid of Honor to help plan a bridal shower, and I was actually totally fine with that. I was prepared just to skip the whole thing. My mom, the darling woman she is, Googled who’s responsible for the bridal shower when there is no Maid of Honor and she was elated to learn that modern etiquette indicated that it was her responsibility.

    The idea of a bunch of women crammed into my mother’s living room, sitting uncomfortably on folding chairs and drinking mimosas while I awkwardly open gifts that I already knew I was receiving (registry, duh) made my stomach turn. I’m not a fan of the decorations, the themes and on top of that, the games. Ugh.

    I am relieved to find out that my mother really does know me as well as I thought she did. It may have helped that I was pretty vocal about how much I hate bridal showers. There is no potluck, no living room, no folding chairs. There are games, but they are at an absolute bare minimum.

    My mom and I went to check out Motor Bar and Restaurant at the Harley-Davidson Museum this past week. Motorcycles, the Milwaukee River, amazing outdoor seating, plenty of space for everyone — WIN. It was perfect. I am not a motorcycle rider, but it’s significantly cooler than my mom’s living room or the banquet hall at your local Italian restaurant chain.

    The bridal shower was totally one of those things I was dreading, but my mom’s managed to find a place that isn’t hokey, or ordinary. I will deal with Bridal Bingo or whatever if I have good food, a good bar and a good atmosphere in return. It might actually be … sort of … fun?

    Did you end up having a bridal shower against your better judgment? How did it turn out?

  • 5/17

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    Photograph available from Etsy seller StovallPhotography Whelp, BABs. Turns out the hotel contract that I raved about in my previous post got pulled. Last week Monday, I gleefully took my lunch hour to walk up to the hotel to drop our contract off. The hotel was more beautiful than the pictures. The historic look of the hotel would be perfect for our photos. I ended…

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    5/3

    hotel

    Photo available from Etsy seller KevinKlimaPhoto Hotels have been my largest vendor disappointment to date. Last year, I was really excited to learn that a brand new, boutique-style hotel was being built directly across the street from our ceremony location and venue. Couldn’t get much easier than that, right? I knew it would be a bit pricey, but was prepared to shell out some cash…

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    4/19

    Art Deco Garnet Earrings from Etsy seller DeKaraDesigns

    It’s taking everything I have to not call my bridal shop and check up on the ETA of my dress. I ordered it in November, and they said it would be in, in “April.” So vague. I’ve been waiting patiently, Googling the phone number of every ignored political robo-call, just in case they called ... and didn't leave a message for some reason. You never…

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  • 2/23

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    If you caught my last post, life has been a little unpredictable lately, right in the midst of preparing for an industry talk at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee, and trying to DIY these Save the Dates. When I decided to make these myself, I knew that the industry talk was coming, but assumed I’d be able to manage both of those simultaneously. Our unexpected circumstances…

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    11/17

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    Things are clicking, you guys! I mentioned previously how enamored I was with Relics Vintage Rentals and what an amazing resource they were for cool, vintage décor rentals. We made an appointment a few weeks ago, and have finally started making some decision on items and I couldn't be happier seeing this coming together. The first thing we knew we wanted was chalkboards. We chose two…

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    11/3

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    Source Dress shopping has brought me equal parts excitement and anxiety. You're shopping for the dress. I've never been a spectator for anyone's shopping experience before, and have only been bridesmaid dress shopping once. Ten years ago.  I'd like to add that I sort of hate shopping. I don't like to try on clothes. I have a solid idea of what looks good on me, and purchase 90%…

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  • 3/18

    Spring is upon us, BABs, and you know what that means: wedding season is just around the corner! In honor of this fabulous time of year, I reached out to some of my favorite former BABs to ask them for their tried-and-true wedding planning advice. Every bride's wants and needs are different, and it really shows in their answers. Needless to say, each one of them…

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