It’s been really nice to take a breather from wedding planning for a bit. I feel like we’ve really stayed ahead of the game by scheduling roughly a task a month or so. It has always been a goal to make planning as stress-free as possible. I never wanted to look back at this experience as a frustrating or stressful time. It helps that my fiancé and I have the same taste, in literally everything. Things have simply been moving along effortlessly.
It felt really good to get those Save the Dates out a week or two ago. I might’ve bit off a little more than I could chew with those, but I think we’re both happy with the end result. It felt like I had really checked something major off of our to-do list when I dropped them in the mailbox.
It was also a weird sense of self-consciousness. I felt unexpectedly concerned about what other people thought of them. In my mind, this is the first impression that people are getting about your wedding. It was only after a friend texted saying they were sweet and the amount of care, time and handiwork shows, that I felt like I made the first impression that I had hoped.
So the next thing coming up is to try on my dress. It’s scheduled to arrive at the beginning of April, and I am dying to try it on. In the moment I made the decision about my dress, it was definitely a gut decision. I was 100% convinced until the next day or so, when I looked back at a picture of it. Now that the look and feel of the wedding has evolved and started to come to life a little more, I’m really thrilled to try it on again.
One of the last major details is our invitations. I have been looking into ways to create them as cost effectively as possible, without fully DIY-ing them. I am looking into purchasing a design, possibly from Etsy, and printing them ourselves. I really like the look of those wax stamps, similar to the one found on Etsy below, so I’m hoping to secure some jute cord (the same that’s on the Save the Dates) on the front of the stack of invitations and RSVP cards. So while they aren’t DIY’d, per se, there will still be that hand crafted element that’s really important to me.
Our Broke-Ass budget is still pretty well intact, which I’m happy to report. Some things came in high, some came in low, but I still consider that a win!
Our first official wedding correspondence is going out in a week or two (as soon as I get around to DIY-ing them) — our Save the Dates. Everyone we’re close to knows that we’re getting married. It shouldn’t be a secret or surprise to anyone when they arrive in the mail. It’s also not as if our wedding and getting married doesn’t already seem real; my dress is ordered, our venue is secured, our photographer is booked.
For some reason, sending out the Save the Dates brings up another wave of the “I can’t believe this is really happening” feeling all over again. I will be both relieved and anxious to drop these bad boys in the mailbox.
Relieved because that’s another thing to cross off the to-do list (or Trello board, which is what I’ve been using to stay organized but that’s a topic for another day). Anxious because other people are officially involved now — people we love and care about. In other words, elopement is off the table, and there’s no going back now.
I love wedding planning. I am a solid decision-maker. I am convinced that we are going to have a lovely wedding, and our friends and family will have a wonderful evening. With that being said, there have definitely been a few times where I look at this production we’re creating (albeit a relatively casual one) and think how much easier it would be to run away with my fiance and go somewhere, anywhere, and get married alone and scrap the whole thing.
But alas, we’re definitely past the point of no return now, and the Save the Dates simply solidify that. From here on out, friends and family are making plans, preparing to attend and we’re preparing to be the centers of attention which is neither of our favorite places to be. Not to mention, it would absolutely devastate my parents, and I’m confident my future parents-in-law as well.
Our Save the Dates will be on burgundy and kraft brown card stock that we’re purchasing from a local store called Broadway Paper, a rubber stamp from Etsy and some undetermined doodads from Joann Fabrics. We have jute string and ivory lace and we haven’t decided which we’re using yet. I purchased gold and black ink pads as well. I’m looking forward to sharing photos with all of you, dear readers, once they’re completed, hopefully next weekend!
Have any of the other BAB’s out there felt this way about their Save the Dates?