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How To: Use Social Media, Sanely, During Wedding Planning

How to use social media sanely during wedding planning

Social media, y’all. It’s a part of the world. I know there are still a few holdouts — hell, my friend who works for a popular blog featuring proposals is still a non-Facebooker. I was on Facebook as early as 2004 … so there’s that.

But here’s the thing: Social media ends up kind of being a dumping ground for all of our thoughts, ideas and opinions — for better or worse. And when it comes to planning your wedding and using social media? Well, that shit can get complicated. From nosey Nellys to judgey Judies to snarky Susies, the second you put yourself out there on the Interwebz, you’re opening yourself up to a potential tidal wave of grief. Because: Assumptions. Do you have 400+ Facebook friends, but really only 50 that you’d consider inviting to your wedding? Well, all 400 of them are going to see any wedding update you post, and even though you haven’t seen Ophelia, your college roommate’s best friend’s cousin, since that one frat party, she might chime in with her two cents on all things planning-related. So how do you keep this from happening?

Post wisely, darling.

Stay on the DL

A friend told me she has a Facebook friend who posts updates from her wedding countdown app twice a day. TWICE. A. DAY. Y’all, don’t be that friend. While we’re all very, very excited that you’re excited, and love is a wonderful thing, there is almost nothing that will unexcite your guests / friends / the world more than this constant bombardment. And twice a day?!? Oh, honey. This exuberant behavior will easily earn eye rolls, but it could also have your guests saying “OMG. FINALLY. Now we can stop hearing about this thing.” when your wedding day approaches. There is such a thing as oversaturation, and this is it.

Instead, create a private Facebook group. Invite those you intend to invite to your wedding. Post your updates there, and use this space to collect addresses, share ideas or what have you. Sure, you can post occasional updates on your regular newsfeed, but if you’re the kind of person who just can’t not post, then private groups are your friend.

You can also create a custom friends list so only select people can see your posts on your timeline … but this needs to be changed with every post if you have different audiences in mind.

Chelsea LeVere, of Tidewater & Tulle, used private Facebook groups during her planning:

As a bride who had 5 bridesmaids (with only one of them local), creating a private Facebook group was super important for communication and allowed my bridesmaids to connect with each other/become friends before the wedding day. They’re still friends even today!

Pinterest is another platform where you have the option of keeping things a little under the radar — especially if you have that friend who is constantly nosing into your plans, and you just don’t care to share. Pinterest provides the option to create a secret board (or five), which you can also invite people to pin to, but without others being able to snoop.

A little goes a long way

Sometimes social media is the easiest way to get all your friends in one place — because, let’s face it, we all have that one friend who just won’t respond to texts. But tread lightly, y’all. Over-tagging your bridesmaids on every Instagram photo / pin / Facebook post that inspires you will likely have them running for the hills. Unless they’re as gung-ho as you are, be selective about what you show them, and how much interaction you ask of them.

Real Bride Shannon suggests using a private Facebook message group to collaborate with your bridal brigade:

“Facebook Messenger groups are a great way to collaborate with your bridal party on ideas and schedules, but before you hit send, ask yourself, ‘Would I include all of these people in a face-to-face conversation?’ Save it for the times you need or truly want EVERYONE’S input. If a two-way conversation between you and your MOH starts blowing up the rest of your party’s notifications, they’re likely to check out and miss something big. Most importantly, never use it to call someone out. Some things are just better left one-on-one.”

Separate yourself

While it can be super tempting to connect all of your social media accounts so that anything posted on Pinterest or Insta also gets posted on Twitter and Facebook, proceed with caution, y’all, because here’s where that super fine line between gathering inspiration and bombarding your friends gets blurry.

Or in the words of Cris Stone from Kiss My Tulle:

Don’t connect your Pinterest pins to your other SM accounts. No one wants to be notified every 5 seconds when you pin a new idea.

Think about it: You’re lounging around on a Sunday morning, post-brunch and with a mimosa in hand when you go on a Pinterest spree (it happens, I understand). Next thing you know, you’ve pinned 15 dresses, 20 bouquet ideas and a holy buttload of decor inspiration. You head on over to your Facebook and see that every. single. one. of those pins have also been shared on your timeline. Which means that’s all your friends have been seeing you post. Now think about when you’ve seen it from someone else — say, a pregnant friend who is planning her nursery or that cousin who has gotten really into gluten-free, paleo cooking. Slightly irritating, no?

OK. So. Disconnect those accounts. Cross-post with intention. Feel free to have a melee on Pinterest, but leave it there.

Bottom line?

Be excited about your wedding. Talk to your people. But keep in mind that the more you share, the less things will be a surprise come your actual wedding day … and the surprise is a lot of the fun. You get to wow people, but if they know what to expect, it’ll be hard to do that. No one wants to steal your thunder, I promise, but by sharing every little thang, you’re stealing your own thunder.

How are you staying sane with social media in the lead-up to your wedding day? Tell us in the comments below!

Cool Wedding-y Shizz Around the Web: Pinterest Edition

Wedding Blogs to Follow on Pinterest

Rather than the roundup of awesome things rocking in Weddingland around the blogosphere this week, I thought I’d point out some rad Pinterest accounts to follow, especially for brides on a budget (that’s you)! While not all are budget-specific wedding blogs, many are. Some are just great for location-specific (mountains and coast) and some span content ranging from weddings to beauty to lifestyle. The one thing they do have in common, though, is they all serve up wonderful wedding inspiration on (nearly) everyone’s favorite discovery tool site.

DIY Bride — Of course it’s jam-packed with crafty ideas, but there’s lots of gorgeous inspo, too.

Kiss My Tulle — Not just for super budget weddings, KMT’s Pinterest board is full of life hacks, pretty inspiration and some goodies for your mommy friends, too.

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The Budget Savvy Bride — Great for more classical, traditional brides on a budget.

Mountainside Bride — Does getting married on a summit or at the base of towering peaks appeal to you? This might be the pinner to follow!

Pretty Pear Bride — Sick of seeing stick-thin wedding models? PPB has lots of plus-size real brides and inspiration.

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Budget Fairy Tale — If you’re planning a wedding to your Prince Charming, BFT is a great place to start.

On the Go Bride — Ever feel like you’re alone in the business of life and wedding planning? You’re not.

Hey Wedding Lady — The DIY board isn’t to be missed, mmmkay?

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The Big Fat Indian Wedding — I loooove looking at south Asian weddings: The henna, the colors the gold everywhere!

Classic Bride Blog — We love making our own body goodies, and the Apothecary board is full of awesome how-tos.

Rustic Folk Weddings — Her budget wedding board is bursting with great tips.

Elizabeth Ann Designs — Guys, EAD has a FREE PRINTABLES board.

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Chic Vintage Brides — CVB has a board that proves budget doesn’t have to equal cheap.

Oh Lovely Day — OLD’s DIY wedding board is gorgeous.

And, of course, you should follow us! We have everything from bridesmaid inspiration to life hacks to blogging tips and of course much of the amazing stuff you see here every day!

 

Real Bride Meg: When Pinterest Can Be Your BFF and Your Worst Enemy

Raise your hand if you had a wedding board on Pinterest before you were engaged. Is it possible you made one before you were in a relationship?!

Ladies (and gents), the wonderful, whimsical world of Pinterest can be just that — a fantasyland when it comes to wedding planning. If you are just starting to plan out your wedding day, I feel that it is my duty to tell you to take caution! Your wedding day will not — I repeat, WILL NOT — go as smoothly or beautifully as your Pinterest board makes it out to be. It just isn’t realistic. I tell you this because I care about you, but I won’t stop a girl from dreaming.

Let’s start with the bad side of Pinterest — there is a lot of DIYing involved. For the budget-minded bride, this seems like the most logical route to take. Yes, making things yourself can be a lot cheaper than buying them, and yes, craft stores love sending coupons. But, DIY is very time-consuming, and as Broke-Ass Brides, you’re working hard for your money!

Here’s a reality check: you can’t do it all. For starters, not everyone has the talent to pull off their Pinterest finds. Not only that, but if you take a look at your wedding board right now, I bet you’ll find tons of DIYs you want to do between now and your wedding. I don’t think I need to tell you how precious your time is when planning a wedding. Be realistic and take on what you can. You’re the only one who will notice if something you pinned isn’t on the cake table.

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Photo courtesy of Pinterest via itsalwaysautumn.com

A perfect example of what can turn into a DIY nightmare are paper flowers. I plan on sprinkling a few into my own decor to save a couple of bucks, but I’m also aware of how much time it takes to make them look how you want.

Now, let’s focus on the good side of Pinterest. In my opinion, it is the best tool for organization and ideas, especially when you’re in the very beginning stages of wedding planning. I think it is such a great tool for organization that I’ve started making individual (secret) boards for each part of my wedding, from wedding day looks to ceremony readings and floral arrangements.

And yes, it’s also good for DIYing — in moderation. While I use Pinterest less for DIYing and more for keeping track of my ideas, I have found some really cute table decoration ideas that I’ve altered to my own liking.

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Pinterest’s version of a bar decoration. Photo courtesy of Pinterest via projectwedding.com

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My version of a Pinterest bar decorationDIY– made to match our personalities (and hobbies). Photo courtesy of Meg

My advice is this: every 4-6 weeks, go through your wedding board and weed out whatever you don’t like, or don’t think you need anymore. You’ll have more realistic expectations about how much time you can make for your DIY projects, and in the end, you won’t end up with more than makes sense. With that said, don’t be afraid to ask for help! Your bridesmaids may be dying to get involved somehow, so reach out to them and have a DIY day. It will totally take some of the stress away and be a great way to bond.

And when all else fails, visit Etsy or Aftcra. It will definitely be a bit pricier than doing things yourself, but if it’s something you truly want on your wedding day, you’ll find that it’s worth it when you’re less stressed and/or in a time crunch. More to come on that!

Where are you finding your wedding inspiration? How do you manage your Pinterest time?

{Partner Love + A Contest!} Invitations By Dawn Has Some Baller Invites On The Cheap, & A Pinterest Contest to Boot!

YOU GUYS. (Sorry, I didn’t mean to yell, but this is important.) Invitations by Dawn. Let’s chat, shall we?

I must admit, I’m a pretty serious mom-and-pop-store lovin’ kinda gal. And when it came to my wedding invitations, I wanted so hard to keep it small, but with my 200 invites, it proved a difficult task. So, being the resourceful Interwebz maven I am, I searched high and low for something that would be uber unique to our small Hawaiian fete. I stumbled upon some super rad, and super cheap ones that had the Hawaiian islands and were made to look like an old-school treasure map. Slap some of our faves The Beatles lyrics on there? That’s a match made in stationery heaven!

Our invites were not only something I love so hard it hurts, but they were really affordable and we had so many customizable options, as well as amazing customer service. (Our proofs had a whopping error I missed the first time around and there were no problems fixing them.) They were printed on high-quality paper and were a cinch to fold up and make purdy for those mailboxes.

Thus, I was stoked to find out that Invitations by Dawn was doing a Pinterest contest. Yessssssss!!!!

Here’s the deal:

– Head on over to Pinterest.

-Follow Invitations by Dawn. Http://pinterest.com/dawninvites

– Go ahead. Create a wedding board. Already got one? You’re a step ahead.

– Hit up that hashtag and tag each pin with #dawninvitescontest

– Send it up! Email your completed board to mediarelations@invitationsbydawn.com

Onward, ye brides-to-be! Go forth into the great battle for amazeballz wedding invitations! May the best bride win!

{Partner Love} Brilliance Wants You To Get The Most Bling For Your Buck

Every girl loves diamonds (even a broke-ass). But not every girl can afford them (especially a broke-ass). However, our fabulous partner Brilliance aims to step in and fix that…

Brilliance recognizes that not everyone can afford Kim Kardashian-size bling and wants to help you step out in style, and stay within your budget. From awesome sales people to their Pinterest board of infographics giving the down-n-dirty on your shiny precious, they’ve got your back as you get your bling. And just because you can’t throw down ALL the dolla dolla billz doesn’t mean they’re going to skimp on the attention to detail. Brilliance will take you from a diamond-induced dazed to a sparkly finish.