Hiya BABs! What have you accomplished in your planning this week? Now be honest, how much of it involved Pinterest?
Pinterest can be a double-edged sword for couples planning a wedding, both your BFF and worst enemy, the coach in your corner, or your opponent about to take you down for a TKO. Arguably, social media may even be killing weddings. In today’s post, we’ll examine The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly of planning a wedding with the help of Pinterest.
The Good: Pinterest is a Warehouse of Wedding Inspiration
I’m sure I don’t need to tell most of you about the advantages of using Pinterest: It’s a gorgeous, centralized place to store your visual inspiration for weddings or any other project or event you’re planning — a veritable digital picture diary, if you will. House redecorating? Pinterest to the rescue! Need tips on cleaning, holiday recipes, or a DIY craft idea for homemade gifts? Pinterest has it all — and if not, you can easily add almost anything you find on the Web with the click of that little Pin It button. You can share secret boards with family, friends, or your hairstylist or wedding planner (if you’re going that route) while hiding surprises from the rest of the world. Or you can share images you find, and tag friends, like, or comment to keep others in the loop.
The Bad: Pinterest Enables Indecision
Pinterest has to be one of the top purveyors of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out), right behind glossy magazines and “reality” television shows. There’s always more to see, and the sheer quantity of pins and therefore options and ideas can seriously overload the senses. It’s easy to get lost in the “research” (legit!) and never take action, making it a perfectly unproductive distraction from the more challenging and less pleasant wedding planning tasks. (Fess up! How many pins do you have in your Stuff Imma Make Someday board?) And we’ve all seen (or even experienced … ahem!) the Pinterest fails — expectation vs. reality. DIY projects often require a degree of skill that may not be disclosed in inspiration images — especially if you don’t bother to click the link to the source page — and our optimism might overshadow reason. (“I can totally knit 150 mini-sweaters for beer bottles as favors for my wedding that’s a month away!”)
The Ugly: Pinterest Might Blow Your Budget … And Your Confidence
Worst of all, though, is that Pinterest can fuel neverending consumption, the longing for more, more, MORE!!! And that’s bad news for BABs planning budget weddings. You’ll put together your Wedding Inspiration Board only to see The. Most. Amazing. Wedding. Ever. on Pinterest two months later and want to change the entire thing, right down to the venue you’ve put a deposit on or the fully paid gown sitting in your closet. Guys, I’m here to tell you that this is dangerous, both for your budgets and for your sanity- – as well as the sanity of those around you.
The Solution: Moderation With Inspiration
So what’s a Pinterest-addicted BAB to do? My recommendation is to give yourself a month or three to explore Pinterest (and any other inspiration sources) to your heart’s content, then talk it over with your partner and settle on a loose design concept. With that in mind, going forward pin whatever you like — but pin ideas that don’t work with your current budget and plans to a separate Stuff I Love board. That way, you get to hold onto the idea for future inspiration without clouding your vision for your wedding, or overextending your budget trying to do All The Things. Once decisions have been made as to your main decor and functional elements, PUT DOWN THE PINTEREST AND NO ONE GETS HURT.
Limit your time on inspiration sites like Pinterest, especially once you get past the six-months-to-the-wedding mark. If you’re prone to getting FOMO and feeling badly about yourself or your wedding when you see something amazing, ditch the inspiration sites altogether, at least until after the wedding. (But really, if that stuff makes you feel terrible, I’d suggest skipping it entirely. There’s no reason to subject yourself to unnecessary sources of stress or negativity!)
If you use the safe Pinterest practices outlined above, there are plenty of hidden gems that will help you to save money while planning the next Pinterest-worthy wedding … yours!