Broke-Ass Tag: New York Bride

6/6

Keepsake box from Etsy Seller mariaallenboutique

Tradition recommends a bride have something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue as she goes down the aisle. I’ve been throwing tradition to the wind all Willy Nilly the entire time but this one gives me pause. Four items — how hard can that be? Famous last words.

Obviously the something new is easy enough. Essentially everything I’m wearing is new: Dress, shoes, jewelry … all of that has been purchased expressly for the wedding. Something blue is also not an issue at all: My colors are navy and sunflower, so I could tie blue in anywhere. My shoes will be blue and the stone in my ring is blue as well.

Something new and blue, check.

Where I’m currently struggling is something borrowed and something old. My mother didn’t save her wedding dress when she got married because she knew neither my sister or I would fit in it when we were old enough to be married. My sister and I hit that size in our youth. So there goes that idea. While Michael’s mother probably still has her wedding dress, it is from her second marriage. You don’t realize you have a superstition until it stares you in the face. So that’s out.

One of my girlfriends has offered to let me borrow an apron her mother made her for her wedding day to wear while she eats BBQ. While I have no fears of spilling BBQ on a white dress, it is likely a good idea. But, I’m not going to be wearing it when I go down the aisle, so maybe it doesn’t count? I’m pretty much fully decked out already, what else can I possibly add to what I’m wearing/carrying for this old borrowed stuff? I don’t have a garter, I’m not really sure I want one. We aren’t having a garter toss and I doubt Michael will even care if I have one, let’s be real. Also, borrowing one of those seems a bit icky, not really sure how I feel about that.

I have seen some brides wrap family heirlooms or scraps of fabric in their bouquets to help incorporate items. Neither of my parents really have any pieces of fabric that are important enough to borrow. My grandmother on my mom’s side was married three different times, so I don’t want anything from her. My father’s mother (and father) have already passed away so I can’t ask them. Of my assorted aunts and uncles on both sides, none of their first marriages lasted. Oy vey.

My stuffed bro Pango

I have a stuffed toy that I’ve had since birth. I’m not really wild about cutting a piece of him off to take with me, but I could steal a bit of his stuffing I suppose. He’s a bit too big to bring with me down the aisle.

I feel like I’m spinning my wheels on something that, ultimately, doesn’t really matter. It would be nice to do, but maybe I’m just wasting my time on something pointless.

Has anyone else had this problem? Thoughts? Suggestions?

  • 5/23

    Gift-giving is perhaps one of my favorite pastimes. Michael thinks I’m insane for getting the amount of sheer joy I get from purchasing/making, wrapping and giving gifts to others. I also love getting gifts, too. Yes, I have come to terms with the fact that I’m a small child trapped in a grown person’s body. That being said, I have known, even before we got engaged, what I wanted to get Michael as a wedding present: boudoir photos.

    Credit: Celebrate Your Sexy

    You just had either two reactions after reading that: abject horror or the intrigued little head tilt that you see on puppies. Don’t worry, I’ve had both reactions too. I have never been more nervous about doing something in my entire life, but now that it is done and I’ve seen the results, I couldn’t be more pleased.

    A girlfriend of mine who is getting married attended a bridal show and won a pretty sweet package session with a company that offers their services nationwide called Celebrate Your Sexy. She knew this was something I had been dying to do and gave it to me. The entire experience was super professional and I would highly recommend it to literally anyone who identifies as female.

    Credit: Celebrate Your Sexy

    In some states, CYS has their own studios. In New York, they rent a suite in an upscale hotel to do all the photos. I dragged my sister, Angela, along for moral support and we met our photographer, Michelle, in the lobby. The session lasted an hour and a half, and I was allowed four outfit changes.

    Credit: Celebrate Your Sexy

    Michelle was super chill, funny and patient as she explained and sometimes demonstrated what positions she wanted me to be in. That, by far, was the hardest part of the session. She’d lean on the wall in some seductive-looking pose and ask me to do the same and I was totally like, I can do that. Then I attempt to do the same thing and realize I look like a wooden voodoo doll propped against the wall. Despite my lack of being a natural at posing for the camera, she still managed to coax my inner goddess out to capture on film. She’d show me some of the photos as we were going and I kept being surprised at how awesome they looked. Who knew you could look sexy with your ass stuck up in the air like that?

    If you decide to get boudoir photos done, here are a few tips you might appreciate:

    Wear an obscene amount of deodorant

    I get really hot when I’m nervous. Like, clinical strength Dove kind of hot. You will be sprawled all over a room in your skivvies with a stranger. Both of you will appreciate your foresight.

    Put your least favorite outfit on first

    The first few photos Michelle shot were not my best work. I was still running with a dose of terrified in my system and the camera knew. I didn’t smile as well in these ones and overall ordered less of them when I bought photos. I’m glad that I didn’t waste shots in the outfit that I loved the most.

    Stretch before you shoot

    Your body will be in positions you never knew existed unless you’re a model or yoga master. Do yourself a favor and stretch before you start. It will help relax you a bit and you won’t get an ass cramp while trying to arch your back on a chaise lounge.

    Make sure you are comfortable in what you pick to shoot in

    Being comfortable in your own skin can be really hard. Every man and woman is conditioned from an early age with a view of what a “perfect” body looks like. There’s no such thing as a perfect body. Everyone has a beauty of their own that can only be found after you embrace it yourself first. Remember, the person you are marrying loves you for who you are, including every single dimple, roll and stretch mark. Keep this in mind when you purchase your lingerie or whatever you decide to shoot in. Try it on, too, and wander around in it to make sure when you’re asked to strike an insane pose, you can do this without busting a seam and smacking yourself in the face with a nipple.

    Have fun

    This was one of the single coolest, most fun things I have ever done. The three of us laughed so hard we cried at moments. I realized that, holy crap, I AM sexy, who knew?! I would do this again in a heartbeat and I’m telling everyone I know (who would get it) that they should give it a try.

    Credit: Celebrate Your Sexy

    I would 400% recommend checking out Celebrate Your Sexy if you are looking to get boudoir photos done. They were awesome and professional and made me feel like a total sexy boss. They were also nice enough to let me use their photos so you got an idea of their work quality.  

    Are you getting boudoir photos done? Have you considered it?

  • 5/9

    An older person once told me that you shouldn’t marry someone unless they were your best friend. At the time I didn’t really understand what he meant, but I think I have a better idea now. Michael and I have been going out for almost eight years now. We’ve fought as fiercely as siblings at times. We’ve laughed so hard we cried and cried so…

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    4/26

    So the bridal shower has been sort of an ongoing issue with my bride tribe and I. To be honest, a shower was never even on my radar as something I would need to worry about. Isn’t that a time when friends and family get together and shower the bride with gifts? Shouldn’t her only job be to show up? Welp, apparently not. My MOH…

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    4/11

    If you saw my last post, you know what I’m in the middle of packing and moving everything. I can’t find anything because most of it is already packed. A few days before I found out I was getting a new job and moving, I started doing trials on drying flowers. As a broke, DIY bride, I was hoping I could preserve my own wedding…

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  • 1/30

    Free notebook from Cornell Catering I love shows and conventions; there is always swag, raffles, and free snacks. All things right up my alley. Good news my fellow brides and bros, bridal shows are huge and plentiful. Now, I’m essentially done planning my wedding, but I still like going to shows for inspiration and a few last minute vendors I need. Here are some tips…

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    1/2

    "Will you be my bridesmaid" card I made Bridesmaids. This single word can hold so many emotions, meanings, joys, and nightmares. I have a whole gang of important women in my life that I want to stand by me on my special day. My fiance, Michael, has a lot fewer friends than I, so I’ve always known that the number of bridesmaids I had would…

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  • 11/16

    I have always planned on having different centerpieces at each table. I saw a photo of another bride’s wedding that had her escort cards as little ticket stubs with each person’s name on one side and the name of their table on each. I completely fell in love with the idea. Unfortunately, the Etsy seller who made her cards no longer makes them. I found…

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