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Help! I’m getting married at a local museum, and we have to bring in all of our rentals. My wedding is in November, and we’ve already made at least 8 changes to the rental list, and it’s driving me crazy!! I’m not even sure I need half the stuff that’s on there. Is there a complete list of rentals that I should get for 150 guests?
Heh, “Forked.” Sorry, I’m 12 years old today. Rentals can drive you nuts, so I get it. So, now is time to back up, take a deep breath, and look at the big picture again, instead of the details. Print out the list, and walk through the wedding in your head. Guests are coming in from where, and what are they going to see or do before they get to the ceremony area? What needs to be there? Tables? Linens on the tables? Programs? Where are they dropping off gifts? How many chairs do you need for the ceremony? Are those being taken over to the reception after? Can you afford to get double the amount of chairs? After the ceremony, people are going where, and what needs to be there when they get there? Are there enough plates, silverware, cups/glasses for all of your guests for the cocktail hour and reception? This is where the crazy comes in, because realistically speaking, one of each won’t work, it’s more like three of each thing. Once you go through the list, my next stop would be your caterer or catering staff. Send them the list, ask them if anything looks like it’s missing. Most often it’s trash cans, trash bags, and anything related to scullery and serving. If they feel that you need more of anything, get it. If they feel that you need less of anything, drop it. Usually, you need more of something. Go over the list again a couple days before the balance is due to your rental company. Don’t make changes unless your guest list drops by more than 10. Excess is a relief in this case.
We stated “No kids” at the wedding, because of the expense and not wanting to have crying babies. Now, I’ve been suckered into inviting my only two cousins (8 + 12). My fiancé’s cousins’ kids are coming too, but only for the rehearsal dinner, not the reception. Should I now tell the adult cousins that their children can come to the reception, too? The expense wouldn’t be too much for them to come, and they were going to make their kids stay upstairs in their hotel room during the wedding. I feel like since we allowed the other couple of kids, we should extend the invite to those, too. We do have legit reasons- they’re all traveling from other states, and they’re not babies. Or should I just allow the original pair of kids that were coming, and risk hurt feelings?
Two Pairs or a Straight Flush?
I say let them all come. You don’t sound too put out about it, other than that you said “no kids”, and now there’s going to be kids, so you might look a little hypocritical, or whatever. Let it go. Bottom line is that circumstances change, and you can invite, or not invite whomever you want to. If someone does say something about it, just shrug and reply, “Yeah, we ended up having to invite them.” And then keep moving.
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See you at the end of the aisle,