Broke-Ass Tag: Holly


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Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We’ve also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling.

While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits paid, dress fittings and hair trials booked, wedding bands ordered …

I have this constant creeping feeling that I should be planning at every spare moment I have.

What should we serve at the rehearsal dinner?

What kind of favors should we have?

How should we organize the tables?

Its a disconcerting feeling at the best of times, its extra intrusive and annoying when someone such as myself is, lets say, trying to focus on something like writing her master’s thesis.

I don’t concentrate well to begin with. All these random details flying around my head have me feeling like I’m constantly spinning. Part of me just wants to sit down and bang out the details from start to finish, but unfortunately, my fiance doesn’t share my sense of urgency, and I think we’ve only received back about 15% of our RSVPs. Dang.

I’m guessing these situations are part of the reason why some people might hire a wedding planner.

Speaking of things I can’t afford …

Holy smokes, are we ever over-budget.

I remember the days of innocence, where I was baffled by the idea of a single event costing tens of thousands of dollars. This is partially our fault for failing to do research beforehand. When we drew our budget up initially, I just massively spitballed what I assumed things cost based on previous experience: For example, I used to work at a flower shop when I was in undergrad. I remember mid-size floral arrangements costing about $50-$75 (CAD). Therefore, I assumed my bridal bouquet, at approximately the same size, would cost roughly that. I’m not proud to admit this, and I’m assuming everyone who’s reading this right now is laughing at the sheer naïvete of my assumption. You can bet your collective asses that the lowest estimate I got for my bouquet was more than double that. So naturally, in the end, our entire floral budget was more than double what we thought. Oops.

Thankfully, we were able to make some cuts, like requesting smaller centerpieces, and eliminating the flower girs’s floral crown (as adorable and Instagrammable as it would have surely been, she’s 4 years old and it would have been pulled off and trampled on the ground in a matter of seconds). Our relatives were also able to lend us some money to cover the additional costs. Thankfully, all is not lost, and we can adjust.

Word to the wise: Don’t rely on what you think you know — do some research!

There are entirely too many helpful websites (like this one *wink*) available to help you make an informed decision.


How’s your planning coming along? Share in the comments!



  • 5/30

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    As I may have mentioned already, my partner, bless him, has been wonderfully supportive and helpful throughout the entire process of planning our wedding. This has transpired despite my occasional failures to delegate, as I wrote about in my last post. He’s also been extremely chill about pretty much everything that’s been suggested.

    Whereas, his list of must-haves for the wedding were limited to:

    a) A wedding happens

    b) I’m there

    As the months progressed and plans materialized, he presented me with two more requests:

    c) A late-night poutine bar


    d) A choreographed first dance

    Sadly, our caterer was not able to make the late-night poutine bar happen for any kind of reasonable cost — apparently renting and operating a deep-fryer on site was going to cost us nearly a grand, which we both conceded was way too much. I was bummed, though, he’s agreed to so much of my insane demands, that I was determined to accommodate the second: A choreographed first dance.

    Problem is, I am possibly the world’s worst dancer of all time. I have zero rhythm, and even less awareness of where my limbs are in space. I find even the most basic steps to tax all of my concentration.

    Evan’s parents had him in dance lessons as a child, and dang does the guy ever know how to move. So, I knew it was going to be an uphill battle for sure, but also a wonderful fun thing we could do together, and (maybe?) be proud of. I finally sat down last week and did some Googling to see how much professional dance lessons and choreography costs and OH MY GOD.

    Mind you, I don’t begrudge professional dancers for charging what they do for their services — they are insanely talented and deserve it. However, it costs nearly as much as the DJ and the finished product will only last one song. I’d pay for it in a heartbeat if I had the means, but, dang, I don’t think we do.

    So, I’m considering some more options:

    Take a group class?

    Try a Youtube tutorial?

    I’m not sure yet, but I will hopefully figure out a solution soon that makes all of us (and our bank account) happy.

    Any tips? Share in the comments!


  • 5/15

    To do notepad available from Etsy seller marrygrams Here's the thing: I've been gifted with a degree of creativity and innovation, however, I'm really, really bad at delegating. With a project as colossal as a wedding, this is not a good thing. I'm pretty sure if I try to micromanage every little thing, I'll be so busy that I wont have time to enjoy one…

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    Rehearsal Dinner Napkin available from Etsy seller MemorableWedding I finally had some time last weekend to buckle down get our invitations ordered, printed and mailed out, and our wedding website fully functional. This had me feeling the pressure like crazy -- now that people are actually going to RSVP to this thing, I really have to have my sh*t together (but to be honest, I…

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    Work has calmed down a bit in the last few weeks, so Ev and I have started putting some official wedding prep in motion. I managed to wrangle everyone's address, and after entirely too much obsessing, I picked out an invitation I liked and customized it. We are just waiting on our engagement photos to come back so we can post them up on our…

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  • 4/3

    Did you miss Part I? Catch up here. Printable sign available from Etsy seller MonCheriPaperie Here are a few more bridal party norms in place that I’ve observed, which are also huge money suckers for both the marrying couple and the attendants: Bridesmaids and groomsmen must all wear the same dress/suit, and the bride/groom gets to choose it, and it must be expensive-looking and formal.…

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    I want to talk about our wedding party. There seem to be a lot of traditions and rules in North American/European anglophone culture surrounding bridesmaids and groomsmen that there is heavy pressure to follow. I imagine that if you have been reading my posts thus far, you probably know how I feel about arbitrary rules, especially if they are outdated, rooted in sexism or classism and/or…

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    Photography print available from Etsy seller HumboldtStreet One big question about wedding planning that loomed over us for months was, where were we going to have it? Evan and I are both originally from the prairie region of Canada, and most of our families live out there. Currently, we both live and work in Ontario. Most people expected that we would have our wedding in…

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  • 2/20

    TinyTalk Invitation Pillow available from Etsy seller cayteelynn Ah, invitations. So simple in theory, so complex in reality. They look like innocent paper beacons of joy, but they come with a lot of, well, baggage. This is my how the invitation process of my wedding has gone down so far: The Save-the-Dates (aka. The pre-invitation): I get this. The vast majority of our family and friends…

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