Broke-Ass Tag: holidays

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I am from Texas. Travis is from Michigan. We have different backgrounds and our own way of doing things. A year ago, we traveled to different cities to celebrate the Holidays independently of each other and it was on Christmas morning, 2015 that we decided that we would not spend another Christmas away from each other.

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His family travels and rotates households for Christmas and it just so happens that Christmas 2016 was already planned for Atlanta, so I began to plan with my family for them to travel to Atlanta as well. For approximately 100 days —  also known as the 1st half of the year — I reminded, plotted and attempted to help them plan a seamless trip to Georgia. I kicked my efforts into overdrive after we got engaged over the summer. In my mind it was a great plan for the two families to meet over the Holidays and get to know each other before our 2017 wedding.

Fast forward to December 19th. After weeks of Holiday parties, end of the year meetings and basking in the spirit of Christmas it finally dawned on me that our families were about to meet each other … for the first time!

Lots of lessons learned and sharing is caring, so here you go:

  1. Over-communicate: I had a lot of great ideas in my head, but I didn’t share them with anyone. Oops! Next time, I will communicate early and often the plan, itinerary, dinner menu, schedule, etc. … Basically all of the stuff that was in my head that would have been beneficial for others to know 🙂
  2. Informal is Key: we planned to have Christmas dinner at a house that I don’t live in and I was a little concerned about not having all of my tools for success to properly host so I planned an informal dinner on Christmas Eve that was intimate and cozy enough for everyone to get to know each other. An added bonus was that my dad traveled with my Aunt Edna’s world-famous chicken tetrazzini all the way from Texas and lifted some of the burdens of slaving in the kitchen so that I could enjoy my guests.
  3. Delegate: mixing family traditions can be HARD! Everyone has their favorite dish that they like to prepare and/or the dish that they have been waiting all year to eat. I connected with the cooking crew a few days out (I should have done it earlier, but we already hashed that out in #1) and we mapped out the menu. Two lessons learned on this one: I wasn’t solely responsible for preparing everything which was a win; and no one person carried the weight of the grocery expenses!
  4. Movies are movies and not real life: Maybe I’ve watched one too many “Meet the Parents,” “This Christmas” and “National Lampooon’s Christmas Vacation” movies. I was just waiting for some excitement, some big political conversation or a sports team dispute but nothing happened. My 1st highlight of Christmas day was that I won my 1st Spades game. The 2nd highlight was the BEST one, the families met, they liked each other and I am looking forward to part two when we all come together for the BIG Day!

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One big happy family.

I definitely suggest a pre-meeting between the families before the wedding.  It’s a perfect way to break the ice before the celebration.

 

  • 12/23

    Happy Holidays from Team Broke-Ass

    Hey BABs! Whew, what a year! We had some great times, some hard times and some just flat out rad times. Huge things happened near and far — from the very scary to the very wonderful (hello, marriage equality!) in 2016. There were amazing Real Weddings; some seriously rad DIYs; riveting, overwhelming and always relatable Real Bride Stories; and sage, on-point advice from our stellar wedding pros. Behind the scenes, Christen got married and had a baby and our book is still climbing the charts.

    Because it’s been such a good (and insane) year, we’re giving ourselves a little break over the holidays (because we earned it, damnit). Though we won’t be posting any new content to the site until after the new year, we will continue sharing some of our favorite stories, inspirations, how-tos and real weddings on our Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest accounts. But don’t worry, we’ll still be around, prettifying things on the back end, collecting perfect nuggets of wisdom and adding your Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! requests and Broke-Ass Advice pleas to the calendar.

    We’re also searching for some new Real Brides and Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! shopping gurus! If you’re interested in either, email info@brokeassbride.com with a little info about yourself and for Real Weddings, about your wedding. If you’re interested in CAI/GOI, send us a link to a Pinterest board with one designer gown and your get over it offerings! Put #TeamBrokeAss and either Real Bride or CAI/GOI in the subject line!

    Thank you all for helping to make this year as un-freaking-believable as it was! We hope your holidays are filled with love, wonder, glitter, unicorns and general badassery.

    xoxo!

    christen
  • 12/18

    Whether you're shopping for those friends who are poised to walk down the aisle or the ones who are enjoying their first holiday season as marrieds (or you just need some inspo for your own wedding registry), there are plenty of great gift ideas out there. From small knick-knacks to big-ticket items (split it with a few pals!), here are 15 great presents for the…

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    12/15

    I love the holidays as much, if not more, than anyone, but wedding planning during the holidays makes for one overwhelmed BAB. We're 10 months out, and there are things that really need to be decided upon. Save the dates? I do realize they need to go out in about six weeks and I'm DIY-ing them, but for strictly chronological reasons, I need to drop that and start thinking Christmas cards. Booking that…

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    11/26

    Because we want you to maximize your Thanksgiving time with your family and your loved ones, we're refraining from our normal amazing blog schedule. Instead, we wish you the happiest day to you and yours. Enjoy this time with your family and/or friends (me? Personally? I'm going ballz deep with Friendsgiving, even contributing an amaze bacon-jalapeno stuffing and have committed myself to at least one…

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  • 12/24

    BABs, we're knocking off a bit early today, but before we do, we wanted to be sure to wish you a happy, wonderful and safe holiday. We're going to take a little break from regular posting until the New Year, but we'll be revisiting some of our top posts of 2014. In the meantime, though, we'll hard at work getting some shiny new DIYs together,…

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    12/20

    Happy Saturday, BABs! Sorry this is late, but trust a sister: It's worth it. There are some great wedding-friendly deals and some stunning sales from some of our favorites. This is the last Ten for the Weekend for 2014 as we'll be taking a break starting Wednesday (don't worry, we'll be revisiting our top posts from the year over the holiday break), but we'll be back with…

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    12/19

    Hey BABs! I hope y'all are surviving the holiday crush with your sanity intact and glasses of bubbly to help. While I would say any time is a good time for sparklez, I seem to see more shimmering happiness during this time of year, which drives me wild with the -- oh! shiny! So, of course, for this last Five for Friday until the 2015, I…

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  • 12/1

    The holidays tend to bring out that big, nasty stress monster in nearly everyone I know. Even Metro and Dolly are a little more catty. All of this hustle, bustle, pressure and travel can often lead to taking the ones nearest and dearest to us -- who also tend to be our own personal shelters from the storm -- for granted. And that's pretty sucky. This…

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