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In one of our many efforts to keep our wedding simple and laid back, Zach and I decided not to have an official “wedding party.” It’s not that we don’t have friends who we’d love to honor with this position, as I think both of us could easily pick a few close buddies to stand up with us. It’s more that we just don’t really see the point.
I mean, dressing alike is cute when you’re toddlers…And then all of a sudden it’s cute again when you’re a fully-grown adult if you’re in a wedding? I don’t get it.
We didn’t want to boss people around and tell them what to wear and what to help with for our wedding. Honestly, we hope that our friends and family will voluntarily step up and help us out of the goodness of their hearts, not out of obligation because of some “title” we’ve bestowed upon them. We’re still involving some special people in the ceremony by having them perform readings, and both of our best friends will still be giving toasts at the reception.
Another factor in our decision was that our wedding is only going to have about 60 guests. The more people you put up front the emptier the seats will look! I don’t want our ceremony to look like no one is there because there are no butts in seats!
Anyone else forgoing a traditional wedding party for a more casual approach?
Searching for original budget-friendly gifts for your hard-working bridesmaids and groomsmen? Never fear. My fiance and I spent last weekend culling through the Brooklyn edition of the Renegade Craft Fair, a collection of hand-crafted wares by independent designers and crafters, to bring you the latest and greatest bridal part gift ideas.
All the mind-blowing gifts featured below are under $50 and handmade by independent artists, who may be willing to work with you to customize your gifts. Most are made using sustainable methods and eco-friendly materials.
Give your girls a place to store lipstick, double sided tape and tissues for when you start bawling at the altar with this handmade ikat and leather Shelburne clutch by Shelter, $49.00. Shelter focuses on using local and sustainable materials, and many of their fabrics, including leather, are made in the USA.
Bridesmaids Back-Up Gift: If your girls aren’t into clutches, check out this reversible hand-printed Hunting Circle Scarf by Bark Decor, $42.00. It’s made from fine jersey cotton and eco-friendly inks.
What to get the sports fanatic? How about a custom hand-cut remake of an Official League Baseball from the 1900s for $39.95. Huntington Baseball Co. creates hand-stiched, pitch-perfect replicas of vintage baseballs. Crafted in limited quantities by a single artist, these are among the finest you can buy. Best of all, William, the craftsman and baseball fanatic behind Huntington, can hand stamp a custom message on each one.
Groomsmen Back-Up Gift: If you’re guys aren’t into sports, gift them these men’s cotton handkerchiefs screen-printed with the words “Blow Me” in the corner, $12 for a pack of two. Witty and functional, what more could you want?
Ring Bearers and Flower Girls
It’s not just any toy that can teach tykes cognitive skills and help them prepare for future teenage rebellions, but this Matching Tattoos Memory Game by Seven Acre Toys, $35, pulls it off. The twelve Maplewood tiles are laser-etched with six classic tattoos. Children flip over them over and play a game to help strengthen their memory-building skills. All products are handcrafted and made without paints, dyes or stains. While you’re at it, check out Seven Acre’s Mustache Wooden Pull Toy.
Ring bearers and flower girls back-up gift: The kids in your bridal party might be too old for a game of Memory, but not for a knitted friend, like this Elephant from Sweater Toys, $44.00. All Sweater Toys are one-of-a-kind, hand-sewn from recycled sweaters and vintage inspired cotton prints.
Stay tuned next week for my round-up of envy-sparking registry and wedding ideas from Renegade. Do you have other unique bridal party gift ideas? Share them in the comments!
Originally, we had 4 people on each side of the bridal party. Now, not so much.
The other night Hunter’s best friend and “homey of honor” in our wedding, El, called to share the news that he had been cast in a very exciting and promising off-broadway version of Neil Gaiman’s book (and now movie) Coraline. We are so proud of him and were totally thrilled to hear it. But, he said, the director wouldn’t allow him to miss a performance to be in our wedding. Not a one. No. bueno.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen Hunter more devastated. Young boys don’t dream much about their wedding day, but ever since he was a young boy, Hunter looked forward to the day his best friend stood next to him at his wedding. This is his duuuuude. You know what I mean. Every high school story begins with “this one time, me and El….”
The look on my poor man’s face was enough to break a nation’s worth of hearts. Of course, it couldn’t be helped. Of course, we 100% support El in this incredible opportunity and are beyond happy for him. But of course, having a best friend miss out on standing next to Hunter – or moreso, having Hunter miss out on his best friend being there, is a difficult letdown to reconcile.
There’s just no replacing El. Sure, our bridal party will be uneven, but who really cares? Its not about numbers, its about love. We sure will miss El’s love that day… but I know his spirit will be toasting the moment with us all.
Poor, poor Hunter, though. If MaPo were to step down, I can’t imagine how disappointed I’d feel. It’s just so sad for him. I can’t even fathom.
Ah, showbiz….. Let’s hope El wins a Tony, y’all
What’s up with you? How is it possible that with such a gorgeous, playful and rich color line of bridesmaids dresses, you don’t offer ties to match for the groomsmen? Srsly. How hard could it be…. just take a bit of that leftover girly fabric, fold it over and sew it…. right? With such a beautifully unique line of bridal options, can we just get practical for a minute and say WTF?
I mean, I love love love my bridesmaid dresses. But now I’m stuck trying to find ties to match. And since I don’t own any of the dresses, and my bridesmaids all live in other states, I have nothing to carry around as a color swatch to compare against.
Let’s get with the program JCrew. You’re thisclose to being full-service wedding clothiers. Help a sister out. Let’s take the last step together and put my tie dilemma to bed for good.
The Broke-Ass Bride