Posts in the 'gay marriage' Category

Best Proposal Ever? Dustin Gets Flashmobbed At Home Depot!

This ridiculously adorable proposal has been making the rounds for a few days now, but I can’t resist posting it here for posterity and/or in case any of you missed it. What a sweet and charming way to pop the question, right?!

Watching Dustin’s face is just priceless. Totally made me cry.


{Real Bride: Mellzah} Marriage Equality Day In Washington State!

Dan Savage & Terry Miller, photo courtesy Lori Fredericks

As an eight year resident of Washington state and an ally of the LGBT community, I was overjoyed when the results began coming in for Referendum 74 in favor of allowing same sex marriage – barring, of course, the overall grossness I felt about voting on the civil rights of other human beings. Marriage is a human right, and I can’t imagine spending so much time talking about weddings while denying all the rights and benefits they convey to my friends. As it became clear that Referendum 74 would pass, I began to brainstorm things I and other allies could do to help celebrate the joyous occasion and stumbled upon the idea of handing out flowers to the happy couples on what was to become marriage equality day, December 9th.

At first I tried to get corporate and local business donations to maximize impact, but they all fell through for one reason or another…and that’s when people stepped up. Between private donations, my contributions, and friends bringing their own flowers, we handed out over 300 flowers last Sunday, and when the back doors to Seattle City Hall opened and the first couple stepped out into the light, the first happy tears began to fall and the air was filled with nothing but love.

People have asked why everyone was making such a big deal about marriage equality day in Washington, when everyone having the right to marry should be normal instead of extraordinary. I cannot speak for everyone, but I celebrate precisely because it’s not normal, because it’s one hard-won step in the battle for marriage equality everywhere, on the federal level, not just in Washington, Iowa, New York, Maryland, Vermont, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and Maine. Everyone should have the right to have a nervous breakdown over a seating chart, agonize over a registry, and be wooed by wedding vendors for their big day, not just straight couples. So in the future, in Washington, marriage equality will be commonplace, but for now, it’s a victory, a shining beacon of love and “it gets better” in a sea of inequality. That’s something worth celebrating.

If you’d like to see some more of the day’s celebrations and question whether someone is cutting onions near your computer, check out this gallery of professional photos.

{Weekend Wrap-up} Last-Minute Cyber Monday Deals, Giveaways Galore, & An Epic Celebration Of Gay Marriage In WA!

Hey-o! We’re coming off one of the biggest shopping weeks of the year – and we wanna know what you bought! Did you make a major score that would make any BAB proud? Well brag on, with your broke-ass self! Tell us all about it in the comments!

If you got NOTHIN’, there are just a few Cyber Monday STILL deals hanging around, and we’re sharing them with you here so you don’t miss out completely.

First off, this is the LAST CHANCE to get your discount from our good friend Debi Sementelli from Lettering Art Studio. Debi designs fabulous fonts that add a calligraphy-style look to  any wedding project! She’s lent her lettering talents to fancy corporate clients such as Neiman Marcus, Target, The Paper Source, and Marriott Hotels –  and now she has a special deal exclusively for BABs! Debi has just unveiled her latest, vintage-inspired font creation: “DOMLOVESMARY“. Created with the wedding client in mind, this set of 66 typeface designs includes envelope friendly titles: Mr and Mrs, Mr, Mrs, Miss, Ms, Doctor, the Doctors, as well as words to fill out your invitation suite: RSVP, Respond, Save the Date, Accommodations, Directions and more! You can get 40% off this correspondence ink package right now through Dec. 1st at with the coupon code “BLOGLOVE”.

Adorn is offering 20% off on all jewelry rentals with coupon code “FALLBRIDE”.  There’s a gorgeous piece for every taste – whether you prefer diamonds, pearls, or platinum bling! Coupon code expires TODAY, 11/30.

Noritake is running its biggest sale of the year – 30% off all merchandise, including sale items! Plus, FREE ground shipping on all orders! This sale starts Thanksgiving Day at 8 pm EST. If you’re missing a few sets of that flatware you registered for, or you’d like to pick up a few matching dinnerware accessories, now is your big chance! Act fast, because this crazy sale ends TODAY.

Get 20% off ridiculously pretty bridal hair accessories, hair clips, and headbands from the lovely Etsy seller Bella & Beya! Just use coupon code “THANKFUL”.

If you or your groom are shopping for groomsmen gifts, is giving you 15% off ALL WEEK LONG with coupon code “CYBERMON2012″!

Shabby Apple is STILL having a site-wide sale on their ADORBS, vintage-inspired dresses, shoes, and accessories for gals of all sizes! Get 20% off with coupon code: “JOYFULSEASON.”

Southern California’s De-Lovely Events is offering 15% off all wedding planning services through December 31, 2012! Book ANY service with a $500 deposit on Black Friday! All services include a complimentary initial meet and greet, Pinterest design/vision board and some UNBELIEVABLE support throughout your planning process! More details or to hook up this deal: visit their site and enter code “LUVDE2012″ in your inquiry!

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Alrighty! Now on to some news of a more life-affirming variety…

As you know, Washington was one of the first 3 states to ever legalize gay marriage via popular vote! WOOT! Our BAB team member Mellzah is helping out with a fabulous project instigated by infamous sex and relationship advice columnist Dan Savage, of “Savage Love” fame. On December 9th, same-sex couples will be flooding Seattle City Hall to FINALLY make it official (in a 100% legally binding way! More deets here. ). Dan Savage and co. hatched a plan to give Seattle City Hall an epic make-over by professional set designers, paper artists, and the like, and fabulous peeps like Mellzah are doing their part by handing out boutonnieres and bouquets to brides and grooms on their way to marry other brides and grooms! Mellz and her crew are issuing a shout out to benevolent, LGBTQ-friendly florists to donate bouts and bouquets so that can bestow a little floral lovin’ on as many couples as possible! If you’d like to help out,  here’s the event facebook page, and you can watch Dan Savage’s video here! (We’ll be covering this extensively on the blog, btw.)

Are you desperate to find someone to do odd jobs around the home, or for your wedding day? Dana tried out TaskRabbit for the very first time this week, and she is ALL ABOUT IT. Every TaskRabbit is a friendly, reliable, background checked individual (no more Craigslist shadiness!) that can help you with practically everything from pet-sitting to personal shopping to home delivery to mastering Microsoft Excel! And did we mention, there’s an entire section for “Event Help”?! (BONUS: you can get $10 off your first task if you click this link!)

Lastly but not leastly, we have not one but TWO totally bumpin’ giveaways this week – one for a $200 DIY wedding videography package form Storymix Media! (For full deets, click here!) You can also snag a 16 X 24 stretched canvas of your fave wedding print from our pals at CanvasPop! (Get in on that sweet giveaway action right here!)

And for all you BAB-lovin’ vendors out there, we’ve got something a little special for you too! Our 20% off Holiday Sale is still going on for December! Email our Advertising Guru Christen at for all the deets!

I’m Gay For Equality!

Hell YES California! We are celebrating at Broke-Ass HQ because yesterday, a (bad-ass) California judge ruled the (effed up) ban on same-sex marriage known as (that asshole) Prop 8… freakin’ unconstitutional, yo! Equality ROCKS!

Here’s to all of our L/G/B/T/Q brothers and sisters in love. Here’s to marriage equality and the progress of civil rights. And here’s to america… land of the free, home of the brave gay!


Google, That’s Just Gross!

I received a few emails today from readers making me aware that a “Yes on 8″ ad has been running on my site. Thank you for your concern and outspokenness… and for watching my back, yo!

I took a peek and it seems that the ad was running through my google adsense widget, which I have now completely removed and will reinstate once the election is over and these types of ads disappear from circulation (and we can all breathe a collective sigh of relief). For my fellow bloggers, I urge you to be aware of what ads google is running through your sites as well. I expect that I got hit with it after posting my emphatic stance against prop 8.

Suffice it to say, I still am 100%, no holds barred, guns a-blazin’, balls to the wall, shout it to high heaven against Proposition 8…. and I hope you are too. But it doesn’t matter if we don’t vote, so please get in line early and stick it out to help keep the civil rights movement alive and protect our fellow Americans from the ills of discrimination.

For those of you in California, who may not understand Prop 8 or any of the other measures being proposed, my very sexy fiance has written a “cheat sheet” guide explaining the Propositions and giving his view of how they could best be approached. You can read it here.

And, while we’re on the subject, if any of you gals is tempted to vote for McCain/Palin solely on the basis that voting for a woman is long overdue, please hear this. I totally get the desire to put a woman in the white house. It would be a dream come true. But, putting the right woman in the white house is what matters most. If we just pledge allegiance to the only candidate with a vagina, regardless of her competency or values, we risk everything. Because when she fails miserably, and she will, it will only solidify for all the rest of the world that we aren’t ready for a woman leader. We must be patient, and wait for the right woman. Trust me…. this one ain’t it. The time just isn’t right. We’ll have other chances and the right gal will come along in a future election, but we have to be patient. I mean, vote for McCain if you really love him (I respectfully disagree), but please do not vote for him based only on the gender of his running-mate. That’s just silly.

Anywho, there you have it. Get out and vote tomorrow! Change is a’comin! Party time!

I don’t know about you, but I sure could use a break from all this politics! Coming soon, a look into my bridal party, our wedding website, and some other wedding-y goodness :)


My Civic Duty

As a woman who is giddily looking forward to marrying the man I love, it is easy to take for granted the fact that for us, its an unquestioned and universally-accepted union. However, for many of my friends and family and people I have yet to meet, its not as simple.

Whether or not you endorse same-sex relationships, believe that homosexuality is genetic or a choice, and no matter where or to whom you pray…. it is never, I repeat NEVER acceptable to discriminate and deny members of our community basic human rights. It wasn’t okay during slavery and segregation, or before women could vote or hold high-powered positions, and its not okay now for our LGBTQ population.

Who are we to pick and choose who our fellow humans else should or shouldn’t share their life with? Who are we to judge? And who are we to deny two people, who pledge to love and honor one another ’till death do they part (just like you and yours), the rights to hospital visitation, shared health insurance, or even just the simple joy of creating a marriage together?

Regardless of your beliefs, it’s just plain unfair to treat one group of people differently from another. We’re all in this together.

The truth of the matter is, it doesn’t harm you or me to help others enjoy this right. No wonder every major newspaper, the California Teachers’ Association, Apple Computers and so many other major, influential and intelligent groups are standing up and voicing their support of same-sex marriage. The time is now. We have an incredible opportunity to change the future, and participate in the continued progress of the Civil Rights movements that have made America the country that sets the standard for the world.

Please vote No on Prop 8. Spread the love around… there’s plenty for everyone.

Thank you. *hops off soapbox* We now return to our previously scheduled Broke-Ass Bloggerness.