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Hey Liz,

We got married in August and have not had a chance to send out our thank you cards. We traveled until the end of September, my father in law died in October, then amongst the holidays, we started the process of buying our own coffee shop, which is opening next week. Obviously, we’ve had a crazy few months. So, this week, a few disgruntled in-laws decided to publicly comment on how rude it is that I haven’t sent out thank you cards yet. Holy moly! All my friends and most of the things I’ve read say that we have till our year anniversary to get those out. It’s not like I don’t want to send them or that we aren’t incredibly grateful. I just had a plan for sending everyone something special and we have not had the time to do it! I mean, we have over 300 of them to do! 

 Am I being the rude one here? How am I supposed to respond to these people?

 Signed,

Thankful and Busy Bride

Dear Thankful,

Yeah, traditionally, you have a year to send them out, so the comments you’re getting are vaguely obnoxious. But if you’re starting to feel pressure, I’d start working on the gift list, little by little. It’s practically March now, time is not going to slow down, and you are not going to be any less busy any time soon. Start slow, by giving yourself a deadline in the next couple of weeks for getting the material together for your Thank you’s. Next couple of weeks, get the list of gifters in one place. Is there anyone, friend or family, who can help you with any part of this? Don’t be afraid to delegate.

Dear Liz,

Can I serve pizza at an evening wedding and have it still look fancy?

Signed,
Sliced About It

Dear Sliced,

Oh, yeah, like any nice Italian restaurant that serves Pizza, or even CPK, it’s all about the atmosphere. Check out Pinterest – Real silverware and china, centerpieces, candles. Stay away from tin dishes and containers. Make it pretty and your guests won’t blink if you don’t.

What do you think? Any advice to add to my own, or do you think I’m off on the etiquette? Let me know below! And, if you’d like to find out a little bit more about me, visit my website at www.silvercharmevents.com.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz
Liz
  • 2/1

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    Dear Liz:

    I got engaged last month, and I was so excited to start planning my wedding. But it’s taking so long to even get to see any venues, we aren’t going to visit the first one on my list until this Sunday. It’s also been really hard to get a hold of any photographers too, and I don’t know what to do.  Is this the way it’s going to go, I just have to keep calling and emailing over and over until I can get meet with anybody? How am I supposed to hire people if they won’t call me back, or can’t see me for weeks?

    Signed,

    Bride Blocked

    Dear Blocked,

    Most of my job as a wedding planner is trying to get in touch with one person or another, so, believe me, I get your frustration. I know it feels like bad customer service, but a lot of  it’s just bad timing. Bad timing and busy, busy schedules. The venue you’re going to see this weekend most likely has a wedding right after your visit and another wedding next weekend. Same thing with photographers, plus they’re editing weddings they’ve already shot, too. Your wedding is months away, and not actually their wedding, yet. It can be easy to get lost in the shuffle…or at least feel like you are.

    Knowing what to expect helps. Generally speaking, the best time to contact any vendor is between Tuesday and Thursday.  Venue managers usually take Mondays off. Friday is not great because everyone is gearing up for Saturday again. Photographers might work on Sundays, too. Never try to contact them during the weekend – anyone who has to work the weekend of your wedding is probably working this weekend too.  Never drop by without an appointment.

    In your initial contact with any vendor, give them as much information as you can. Date, guest count, location, overall budget, anything you know about your wedding so far. Try not to create a phone tag situation – if you are emailing or have to leave a voice mail, tell them best time and wait to get back to you. If you reach an assistant, find out the best time to reach the boss, and try again. Figure out your schedule beforehand too: If you can only meet in person on a weekend because of your schedule, say so. If you can meet after work or at lunch, say so. Give them specifics to respond to.  Always give specifics.

    Now, I’m not saying that I haven’t run into wedding pros who simply will not respond in a timely manner, but that’s not the norm. Most are eager to talk and find out more about your wedding and, well, get paid. A good rule is if you do not hear back in two days, move on to the next company on your list. If they miss a scheduled phone call or meeting, seriously consider moving down the list. It’s not going to get any better once you hire them – it shows disrespect for your time that is  not going to change.

    So, what’s the longest it took for you to hear back from a vendor and meet with them? What do you think of my advice? Let me know in the comments below! And, if you would like to find out more about me and my Wedding World, visit my website at www.silvercharmevents.com.

    See you at the end of the aisle,

    Liz
    Liz
  • 1/11

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    Available at Wedding Paper Divas Dear Liz, I'm getting married this summer, and we just booked our venue. My mom says that I need to send out Save The Dates, but aren't you supposed to use your engagement photos on those? We don't have a photographer yet! Are save the dates necessary, and if so, how do we do it if we don't have pictures?…

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    11/23

    Got a question for Liz? Go to contact page and let us know what's up! So, how was YOUR family gathering on Thanksgiving? Dear Liz, I'm getting married in June and need advice about a guest list dilemma. My father has two sisters and a brother we'll call Bill. Dad doesn't speak to any of them unless it's unavoidable and would prefer if none of…

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  • 11/9

    Got a question for Liz? Go to the contact page and let us know what's up. Break's Over. Oy: Hi Liz, I'm in need of some advice! I'm getting married next year and butting heads with my parents a bit on the guest list. One of my major concerns is my mom's brother. Although he is an alcoholic and has sent time in rehab in…

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    11/7

    It can take a lot of time and effort to find the right vendor for any part of a wedding. And while lots of websites have list upon list of key questions that you should ask each and every vendor, here are the things that send up little flags for me personally as to whether I'll consider doing business with a vendor. 1. Timely responses…

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    2/10

    Dear Liz: Help! We have to bring everything into our venue, chairs, tables, everything. I'm scared that we're going to forget something. Do you have a list of rentals that we need to have for our wedding? Signed, Table Troubled Dear Table, First of all, thanks - it's because of your question that I expanded this topic in  my e-book a couple of nights ago!…

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  • 12/9

    Dear Liz, My fiance and I are both getting married for the second time. I love the idea of wearing a beautiful dress and sharing this day with my closest friends and family, but I'm not sure the etiquette for a second wedding. I am content with court-house nuptials and a low-key party afterward. I have spread the word that I don't expect or want…

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