I’m pretty organized. Okay, very organized, obsessive compulsive even. I still use a paper calendar and color code events. I’m the one to coordinate events among friends, and plan trips with my fiance, so I thought I would have no problem planning a wedding.
I’m realizing it’s about more than organization, though. I can coordinate vendors and make payments, no problem, but I’m having a hard time coming up with ideas for themes and centerpieces and decor. I can’t see it come together.
My venue has a coordinator, but we haven’t met in person yet. We’ve corresponded via email, but I haven’t been wowed. I’m worried that the day-of coordination, setting everything up and trying to bring everything together, will be stressful and hard for me to manage on my own. I was convinced I didn’t need help, but I’m considering hiring someone, at least for day-of coordination, but I’m still holding back because I hate to spend money on something I can do myself! I mean how hard can it be, right?
Then I have visions of my wedding day, waking up that morning and rushing down to the reception site to arrange centerpieces and set up little chalkboard signs before hair and makeup. And then I wake up from that nightmare in a cold sweat. On the other hand, I like to be in control of all things, and the thought of giving that up and leaving one of the most important days of my life in someone else’s hand is another nightmare altogether. The other factor for me is that my wedding is a bit of a destination, a few hours from home, so I can’t go to the venue often to meet with my coordinator, and I’ll have to load up and bring everything with me for that weekend, having assembled everything and done the work at home beforehand. I’m not even really sure if a planner could help with this. So what to do…