Broke-Ass Tag: Ciji

6/21

Early in my engagement, literally in the first few months of adorning my new bling, I shared with friends that I planned to plant a rose garden and DIY my wedding bouquet and flowers. Of course everyone thought that I was crazy and that eventually the idea would fade as I began to make decisions and evaluate how much time I would have during the week of the wedding.

Well they were right, kind of right …

I aborted the idea of growing my own garden but secretly I held on to the idea of DIYing my flowers. I tried to do it the traditional way: I made appointments to look at florist portfolios, I invested hours in explaining my “vision” and I reviewed a pile of quotes. At the end of the day, I returned to my original DIY decision! Now I just need to narrow down where I will purchase the flowers. I did some research and explored lots of options, It’s By U caught my eye and I decided to give them a try. Once my sample bouquet arrived, I quickly discovered …

Five ways to avoid a DIY bouquet meltdown.

1. Delivery timing is EVERYTHING!  The contact at It’s By U asked me if a Saturday delivery would work and I thought that it would be perfect. I just didn’t think about the flowers being delivered to the leasing office, the FEDEX notification email landing in my inbox after the leasing office was closed and my fresh flowers sitting in the office until Monday at 10 a.m. because the office was closed on Sunday. Lesson learned! When I order my flowers for the wedding I will think about all of the potential risks and plan ahead for them. It’s very important that you get your flowers in water ASAP so that they remain hydrated.  The upside is that once I picked up the flowers, I immediately put them on water and they were still in good shape.

I immediately placed the flowers in the kitchen sink to hydrate!

2. While my flowers were soaking up some water, I began to read through all of the instructions and supplies that were included with my delivery. This is a VERY important step! If you think that you can just create your bouquet based on the pictures that you have seen on Pinterest, you may be in for a surprise. I learned everything from the way that you should cut your stems to the proper way to hold the stems in order to achieve the shape that I wanted. It’s by U covers all bases to ensure that you have what you need to be successful. The instructions were on paper, in my email inbox and on a Youtube video.

Detailed instructions from It’s By U

3. Next up, I prepared my working space. Parchment paper or newspaper is a good idea because loose stems and leaves were all over the place. I would DEFINITELY recommend laying everything out so you have all you need right in front of you. The flowers need to stay near water because you don’t want to pause while you are in the middle of the process. Also, this is not a task that should be done while watching Lifetime. I had to pay attention to the Youtube video while keeping my paper instructions nearby and there was no room for multitasking.

Setting up my space

4. Once I started to make my bouquet, I gave myself GRACE — remember this is not your day job. It’s OK if you make a mistake or two. If I didn’t like the shape or I forgot to add the berry fillers, I would just start over. Also, I could appreciate that in the instruction video, they give you a heads up that it may take two or three attempts before you make a perfect bouquet. Basically your wedding day bouquet should not be the first time you embark on this journey. I plan to pick up some flowers from the grocery store once a week and each time do a little practice session. I might even try making corsages next!

Practice makes perfect!

5. Last but certainly not least, once you are done, the #1 way to avoid a meltdown is to CELEBRATE your success! You did it! It may not be perfect but you tried. I immediately took a picture and sent it to my bridesmaid GroupMe. They were authentic and supportive and it was just what I needed to stay motivated. After I cleaned everything up, I dropped the bouquet in a vase, poured a glass of wine and put my feet up.

Not too bad for a first try!

Are you taking on any big wedding day DIYs? How are you avoiding a DIY meltdown?

  • 6/5

    Hi, my name is Ciji and I am a rule breaker. Now that we have established who I really am, let me tell you more about my EPIC bridal shower.

    A tea party just didn’t seem like my kind of fun. We “brunch so hard” every weekend that a ladies brunch just didn’t seem like anything special. I needed to share with my bridal shower hostesses exactly what I wanted, but I just didn’t know what I wanted to do. Lightbulb moment … let’s have a fiesta!!

    Mexican food is my favorite, I’m no stranger to tequila, I love taco Tuesdays and my shower was already planned to take place in May, so why not tie in a Cinco De Mayo theme?

    Photo Credit: JFX Digital

    In addition to a celebration that perfectly fit my personality, there were budget benefits to a themed bridal shower:

    • We picked the Saturday after Cinco De Mayo, so decorations were available everywhere as well as many of them were discounted!
    • Margaritas were the signature cocktail and there were options: strawberry, jalapeno and regular. Easy to make with minimal ingredients!
    • The nacho bar was perfect for me as I am “nacho average bride.” The shower was after lunch but before dinner so we didn’t need a full meal (and the costs that are associated with ensuring that guests are fed). We just needed nibbles and bites to hold us over until dinner.
    • My amazing friend and bridesmaid made mini churro cupcakes from scratch. Did I mention that she is AMAZING?!?

    I am still dreaming about these cupcakes! Photo Credit: JFX Digital
    • The hostesses honored my wishes and we only played one game. It was a fun questionnaire filled with special memories of my relationship with Travis, and all the things that I love!
    • There was a pinata. Let me reiterate for emphasis: there was a PINATA and it was filled with adult goodies! Let’s just say “I hit that.”

    Photo Credit: JFX Digital

    It was definitely a day to remember with my favorite ladies!

    How are you putting your own spin on your bridal shower? Share in the comments!

     

  • 4/27

    I don't want to skip any steps on my engaged journey. All of the celebrations, the special moments and opportunities to connect with loved ones are a part of my experience. However, I know those moments can be costly, so although not super-involved in the planning of my bachelorette party, I wanted to ensure that it did not break the bank.  I shared with my Matron of…

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    4/12

    Modern RSVP card available from Etsy seller EmmyPaperie Every wedding planning book, blog, article advises that you should set your RSVP date for one month before the wedding. It seems to be a logical request. Most important vendor deadlines require that you confirm your final head count at least one month before the wedding. Let's re-read that last sentence, "at least one month before the…

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    3/15

    Paradise, a place of timeless harmony. Yes, sign me up! That's exactly what I need after months of planning and a day of the best case of sensory overload that I anticipate I will ever feel. We just don't want to invest a TON of money into an amplified vacation, better known as our honeymoon. With that in mind, Travis and I sat down and mapped…

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  • 3/1

    ... I am still on the hunt for a florist, how about you? The original plan was to keep the flower plan simple: bouquets and boutonnieres only. Well that plan is not realistic! Who was I kidding? I love fresh flowers and buy them weekly to decorate my house. A minimal flower presence at my wedding was a silly idea. What was I thinking?  I…

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    2/14

    Invitations are just one of those things on my list that are not super important. At least they weren't important in the beginning. Of course, slowly but surely as I started to confirm my wedding vision my thoughts started to shift. I naturally began to consider foil cut designs, envelope liners and beautiful calligraphy until I realized that these extras were costly and time was…

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    1/31

    My Pinterest board is filled to the brim with ideas. I've considered everything from building an altar from used pallet boards to growing my own rose garden and assembling the bridal bouquet. It's time for an intervention! I've known for years, well before I was officially engaged that I would be a "do it yourself" bride. Not just because of the cost savings but also…

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  • 1/16

    My fiancé and I are social and at times private people. We enjoy both quiet and unpublicized time with loved ones as well as social media engagement and interactions. It's a healthy balance. With that being said, our wedding website needed to reflect both sides. We desired to create an informative and functional wedding website to share our love story with visitors and inform our…

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