Broke-Ass Tag: cant afford it get over it

4/20

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Reader Sandra commented on this post looking for a floaty dress for her 30th anniversary vow renewal:

“Just found “Can’t Afford It” today. Wonderful! My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in 2018, and would like to have a vow renewal and small party. I really like Inga Nataya’s “River Fairy” dress in Lilac, but $900 is too much for me to spend on a dress. (My original wedding dress, veil and shoes cost less than $300). I love the Edwardian look of Jenny Packham’s Azalea as well. I’d only like to spend $400 or less, and I hope to be able to wear the dress again to occasions like a graduation party or someone else’s wedding.
Also, I’m 52 and love vintage clothing. While I love the floaty look of the above dresses, I don’t want anything too youthful.
Hoping this is not all impossible!
Can you help? Thanks!!!”

Sandra, first off — congratulations on your soon-to-be 30 married years! For your renewal dress, I’ll focus my search on simpler “floaty” dresses without trains and won’t limit it to just traditional white gowns. The River Fairy gown has a soft shrug overlay with sleeve look, and I’ll see if I can find this kind of versatility in the dresses in my search, and keep it from going to “young” looking.  I’ll also keep an eye for some Edwardian dresses, which is also a lovely style.  Let’s see them …

Can't Afford It

Inga Nataya River Fairy in Lilac

River Fairy dress in Lilac, $900 by Inga Nataya

Get Over It

Nordstrom - Embellished Lace Gown 319

La Femme Embellished Lace Gown; $319 at Nordstrom

ASOS - Lace Paneled Flutter Sleeve Maxi Dress 113

Lace Paneled Flutter Sleeve Maxi Dress in blue; $113 at ASOS

ASOS - Needle & Thread Daisy Embroidery Maxi Dress With Cold Shoulder 376

Needle & Thread Daisy Embroidery Maxi Dress With Cold Shoulder; $376 at ASOS

Macys - Adelyn Rae Lace Maxi Dress 148

Adelyn Rae Lace maxi Dress; $148 at Nordstrom

Macys - J Kara Beaded V Back Capelet Gown 289

J Kara Beaded V-Back Capelet Gown; $289 at Macy’s

Macys -Adrianna Papell Beaded Mesh Gown 349

Adrianna Papell Beaded Mesh Gown; $349 at Macy’s

Macys -Adrianna Papell Embellished Popover Xapelet Gown 369

Adrianna Papell Embellished Popover Capelet Gown; $369 at Macy’s

Dillards - JS Collection Romantic Ruffle Sheer Matte jersey Gown 258

JS Collections Romantic Ruffle Sheer Matte Jersey Gown; $258 at Dillard’s

Dillards - R&M Richards Sequined Lace and Chiffon Jacket Dress 130

R & M Richards Sequined Lace & Chiffon Jacket Dress in Lavender; $130 at Dillard’s

Dillards - Adrianna Papell Sleeveless Sequin Lace Organza Riffle Tiered Gown 219

Adrianna Papell Sleeveless Sequin Lace & Organza Ruffle Tiered Gown; $219 at Dillard’s

So what do you think, is there a dress here for your vow renewal, Sandra?  I wish you 30 more years of married bliss.

Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you. Please be aware, though, that because you guys love this column so much, we can often build up quite the queue and it may be a while before we can get to your dream dress. Rest assured, though, Team Broke-Ass is on the case!

*As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.
  • 3/23

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    Hi BABs!  This week’s request comes from reader Randi, who is in love with a Carol Hannah gown:

    “I love your Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! posts… And your book. If I could climb a mountain (Hard to find in New Jersey…) and sing its praises, I would, but for now I’ve been recommending it to all my newly engaged broke-ass friends.
    I recently fell in love with Carol Hannah’s Coralia dress. Like…true, deep, everlasting love. But her prices are way, way out of budget. I’m hoping to spend $500 or less – not $5,000!
    If you could please consider doing one of your Can’t Afford It? posts on that, I would be enternally grateful.
    Randi”

    This gorgeous gown has horizontal bands going under the bust of this empire waist gown and around the back, open sides and back, deep V front, and a full ballgown skirt. The skirt almost has a crochet texture, but still maintains a soft flowing look when moving, not weighed down. I’ll focus my search on the V front, empire waist and open backs with strappy details. Let’s see the roundup!

    Can't Afford It

    Carol Hannah's coralia gown

    Coralia; Siren Call, fall 2016 collection; by Carol Hannah

    Get Over It

    Lulus - Carte Blanche White Maxi Dress 112

    Carte Blanche White Maxi Dress; $112 at LuLus’s

    Etsy seller RenzRags - 2017 off white chiffon dress 299

    2017 Off white chiffon dress; $299 by Etsy seller RenzRags (back of dress pictured)

    Etsy seller LaceBridal - Sexy style wedding dress with chiffon skirt v neck and simple straps back 249

    Sexy style wedding dress with chiffon skirt, V neck, and simple straps back; $249 by Etsy seller LaceBridal

    Amazon OLadyDress - Pleated V-neck Backless Chapel Train Beach Wedding Dress 130

    Pleated V-neck Backless Chapel Train Beach Wedding Dress; $130 by OLadyDress on Amazon

    Etsy seller RenzRags - 2017 Champagne Bridesmaid dress, Long Wedding dress 279

    2017 Champagne Bridesmaid dress, Long Wedding dress; $279 by Etsy seller RenzRags

    Davids Bridal - WG3819 - 449

    Lace halter wedding dress; $449 at David’s Bridal

    Nordstrom - Alyce Illusion VNeck Pleat Tulle Gown 310

    ‘Alyce’ Illusion V-Neck Pleat Tulle Gown; $310 at Nordstrom

    Lord and Taylor - BCBGMAXAZRIA Andi Lace Dress 398

    Andi Lace Dress; $398 by BCBGMAXAZRIA at Lord & Taylor

    I hope we found something to satisfy your craving for a lovely deep V neck empire waist gown. What do you think, Randi?

    Got a gown that you just can’t get off your mind? We’re happy to help you get over it! Just tell us in the comments below! Please remember to include the budget you’re working with so we can find you the best alternative for you. Please be aware, though, that because you guys love this column so much, we can often build up quite the queue and it may be a while before we can get to your dream dress. Rest assured, though, Team Broke-Ass is on the case!

    *As always, please do your own research before buying a gown online. Team Broke-Ass is here to provide you with inspiration and resources, but it is up to the consumer to know what they’re purchasing.

     

  • 3/10

    This week's request comes from reader Tammi for a very unique look: "Can't Afford it - I'm looking for something like the green version of Jenny Packham's Joy dress. You did such a great job finding alternatives with the JP dress before, I'm hoping you can help me. I can't find anything else even remotely similar anywhere. My budget is under $1500, preferably closer to…

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    3/2

    Reader Rachel is searching for a dress for her fairy tale wedding: "Avina Valenta Style 9616.   Any dress you can recommend similar to this dress, which is over $2500 and I can't spend over $400 on a dress, but I want something sexy yet fairytale for my wedding! :) Love your blog, Thank you, Rachel" Thanks for the love, Rachel!  I hear you, this dress…

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    1/27

    Reader Armarni was checking out this previous post, when she fell in love with a Get Over It gown we featured. Unfortunately, the Sabine Dress by Jenny Yoo was sold out and over budget, so Armani asked us for help: "Any suggestions for a similar vintage inspired dress for under $250? Was also thinking of adding a detachable train for the drama!" First off, if…

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  • 1/19

    It's wedding planning season, and the team at The Broke-Ass Bride has been inundated with Can't Afford It? Get Over It! requests, and we need a fashion-savvy contributor with an eye for detail and spend-thriftiness to help divvy out the broke-ass friendly versions of fabulous designer gowns. Does that sound like something you'd be super good at doing? Awesome! Here are the things we need from…

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    1/12

    Today's CAI/GOI request is for a fun and casual dress from BHLDN. Reader Kate commented on this post with: "Y'all are incredible. So glad to have stumbled on these posts--have loved looking at some of the Etsy sellers you've mentioned! After a painful divorce a few years ago, I'm blessed to be a second-time-around bride, looking for something a tad more casual than the frothy…

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    12/22

    Y'all have some major love for Berta gowns! Today's CAI/GOI request is from Amber, who commented on this previous Berta post. She writes: "HELP! I also fell in love with a Berta gown, Berta 15-18 to be exact. My budget is around $3,000. Any recommendations?? Thanks!" The Berta gown in question is an embellished lace sheath number, complete with detachable train, from the 2015 Spring/Summer…

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  • 12/15

    Hey BABs! This week, we have a request from reader Katelynn who commented on this post saying: Nice Work! I love BAB!! I've got my own CAI/GOI conundrum: I've fallen in love with the Ashley bridal gown by Nicole Miller (http://www.nicolemiller.com/as... but it's more than I wanted to spend at $1800. Ideally, I'd love a dress between $500-$800. I love the lace, low back, and halter…

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