As I mentioned in my first post, I’ve planned to make my own wedding cake. I realize this is not an easy undertaking, and have been warned by multiple friends that this could add additional stress to my wedding day. DIYing is awesome, but making a cake is something you have to do basically the day before and can end in multiple disasters. However, I am a huge baking geek. I love coming up with new and exciting recipes. For me, baking is my “thing.” It’s my creative outlet. It relaxes me, so hopefully that will offset the additional stress. For me to make something beautiful and unique all on my own for my wedding day, something I can share with my husband and my closest loved ones … it’s just very meaningful.
While my self-taught cake decorating skills are still a work in progress, I feel like by then I might be able to make something pretty damn good. My freehand buttercream isn’t too bad, as seen below in last year’s Easter cake:
And my creativity and punniness is on point, as seen in Evan’s last birthday cake (if you can’t tell, it’s supposed to be shaped like a pint):
I know it’s not on par with something a professional would do … yet. So, I did what any grown-ass woman would do with a goal: I took a class!
Here’s the Disney-princess themed cupcakes I made after my first class (with fondant):
Not bad, right?
Since then, I’ve been practicing and watching online tutorials as well and have invested in some good quality tools and gear such as a cake turntable. My plan will be to bake the layers a few days before the wedding, freeze them and then do the assembling and baking on-site the day before. I won’t put pressure on myself to do anything too crazy extravagant, but something I can be proud of. Plus, my fiance has eaten every baking success and disaster that has happened so far in our relationship and no matter how badly I fail, he insists it still tastes good. So long we can still shove it in each other’s mouths, I’m happy.
I want to talk a little about our broke-ass approach to our engagement. Ever since I saw the movie “Blood Diamond” in 2006, I decided that I wanted an engagement ring with an ethically sourced stone. Mind you, i was 19 and single at the time, so my thought process pretty much stopped there. Flash forward nine years, Evan and I had been living together for a while and we had began to discuss marriage, so I began to explore my thoughts on sparkly rocks a little bit more. I was happy to find that there were lots of alternative gems out there, thanks to articles like this. For me, even without ethical concerns, I just didn’t see the appeal of a diamond. I had never owned diamond jewelry before and never felt that I was missing out. Knowing that if I chose a different stone, I could spend a lot less money and still get a pretty and meaningful ring, well, it, to me it just seemed like an obvious choice. That is what my partner and I chose based on our values, as everyone should do for themselves! Some people don’t even do engagement rings at all, and that’s great too! Do you! I just think it’s important that we are given the capacity to make an informed choice — to know that diamonds aren’t the only possibility, and that how much money your partner spends on a ring doesn’t indicate a direct correlation to how much your partner loves you. Forget that!
Plus, the idea behind moissanite is SO cool to me. Being a huge sci-fi nerd, having a gem that’s synthesized based on particles FROM SPACE is pretty freaking cool. So, I told Evan that’s what I wanted. He picked out an absolutely beautiful gem for a very reasonable amount, and we saved the rest to furnish our new apartment without going into debt. Nobody has been able to tell that my ring was not a diamond based on how it looks, but I’ve also been very open about it — my intention was never to fool anyone into thinking my fiance dropped stacks on my engagement ring. I’m happy to report that not a single person has judged me for it (I wouldn’t stand for it if they did, obviously), and two of my friends were so taken by the idea they asked their significant others for moissanite rings when they pop the question.
Oh, right — maybe you want to see it.
Do you have a story behind the ring that you and your partner chose? I’d love to hear it!
Hello everyone! My name is Holly, and I am a Broke-Ass Bride. I guess it's important that before we get going on the creativeness and the snarkiness, you get to know the woman behind it. I'm in my late 20s, I'm a graduate student and I live in a large city in Canada with my fiance and my our dog. I love cooking, baking, yoga,…