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DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

My friend Shannon is planning a super-budget wedding in the fairly expensive market of the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex and she’s been sharing her little nuggets of broke-ass wisdom with me, but it wasn’t until she told me about this amazing DIY for mercury glass centerpieces that I decided it was high time for her to share it with y’all, too. Guys, I love this so much. Mercury glass can definitely be a pricey addition to your wedding budget, but Shannon nailed this DIY in totally Broke-Ass fashion. Have at it, lady!

My long-time love affair with vintage vessels began as a kid in my grandmother’s house. Aged, but elegant mercury glass peeked from behind lamps and picture frames, leaving me with a sense of nostalgia for an era I never experienced. It was so wistful, so romantic, that started planning my wedding to a man who gives me that warm and wistful feeling, I knew I wanted to decorate with it.

DIY or Die Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Then price tags shot me straight back into reality. Searching for “mercury glass compote” yielded beautiful pieces — that cost $30, $50, even $75. “Ok,” I thought, “I can have two flower arrangements.”

Being the personification of “champagne taste on a beer budget”, I’ve learned to compromise, but since I’ve been insisting “I’ll do it myself!” since the days of pigtails and Pampers, I decided to do a little (OK, a lot of) scouring of the Interwebz before throwing the towel in on my vision. Dozens of DIY tutorials promised faux mercury glass was easy to create with the right supplies, and — no lie — it’s not that hard at all! My goal was to keep the cost of vases under $10. All supplies included, these came out to less than $4 for 15 compote-style bowls. Broke-Ass score!

Your one non-negotiable, have-to-have-it, don’t-cut-corners supply is the paint. If it isn’t Krylon’s Looking Glass spray paint, you’re going to be disappointed. Because I wanted a gold finish to my pieces, I went with Krylon’s Foil Metallic spray paint to back the silver. One can of each provided more than enough paint for 15 finished compotes.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

I picked up my glass pieces (candlesticks and bowls) for a buck a pop at Dollar Tree, but you can use any clear glass for this technique. You’ll need an adhesive that is specifically made for glass-on-glass, a spray bottle with a “mist” setting filled with 1/2 vinegar and 1/2 water, some rubbing alcohol and a handful of paper towels. Make sure to cover your surface to protect it from rogue spray paint and wear gloves to keep it off of your fingers.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Remove any price tags or stickers and rub the candlestick with rubbing alcohol to get rid of any lingering stickiness. Give it a generous mist with the water/vinegar mix so you see runny droplets.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Spray the gold Foil Metallic paint in short, quick bursts, leaving some of the glass exposed. This uneven application gives you an antiqued look when the process is complete, so don’t worry if the paint pools in places and doesn’t cover others. If you just want a silver finish, skip this step entirely.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

The foil paint dries quickly, so immediately blot the surface with a paper towel. The paint will crack and shift leaving exposed patches where your water/vinegar left droplets.

Spray the candlestick again with the vinegar/water solution and using the same short, quick bursts, apply a thin layer of the Looking Glass paint.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

This paint is much thinner and runnier, so rather than blotting immediately, give it about 5 seconds to set, then gently blot. Through some major trial and error, I found the best technique was to fold the paper towel, hold it at one end and just sort of smack the glass with the other. This absorbs those drops of water, but doesn’t smear the paint or take too much off. If you’re looking for a more silvery and reflective finish, mist, paint and blot again.

The bowl portion needs to be painted from the inside, so you’re going to start with the Looking Glass paint.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Use the same technique of misting, spraying and gently blotting on the inside of the bowl. I used two coats of Looking Glass on mine before adding the gold. The color will look transparent, but once the gold is added, the finish turns much more opaque. For a silvery mercury glass finish, eliminate the gold paint and add coats- alternating between misting with the spray bottle and applying the paint until you achieve your desired finish.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Mist your bowl one last time with the water/vinegar mixture and lightly spray the Foil Metallic paint, blotting away the bubbles. Again, an uneven application leaves you with a more antiqued look, so imperfections are actually, well, perfect. From the outside of the bowl you’ll see silver, gold and clear spots. Admire your work; you’ve done a bang-up job!

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Run a generous ring of glue around the top of your candlestick. You want enough to form a good seal with the bowl, but not so much it squishes out. Let that glue sit for about two minutes, then attach the candlestick to the bowl. Leave it upside down to set for 20 to 30 minutes, or according to your adhesive’s instructions.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Give the candlestick a little tug to see if it’s sticking to the glass. If it stays, flip the entire piece over and let it sit for a day to make sure the glue has really cured and you’re left with one solid piece of DIY delightfulness!

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

If you plan on using a floral arrangement that needs water, line your compote with a disposable picnic bowl to keep water from ruining your paint. This way you can also transport the vases to your venue wrapped safely in a box with the flowers waiting in your liner bowl.

DIY or DIE: Fancy Mercury Glass Centerpieces

Now you and your guests can enjoy your budget-conscious decor that’s both on-trend and timeless. And it’s one of those items that’s perfect to use in your house after your wedding!

Real Bride Peach: I’m Not Scared of My Blown Budget

I don’t want this post to be about regrets. Our wedding day was beautiful and I wouldn’t change a thing about it. However, I feel I should be completely blunt with you fabulous BABs about budgets and how they can easily veer way off course. Because I know I’m not the only bride whose budget took a path into “oh shit” territory, nor should there be any shame attached to it. Instead, there needs to be better communication and knowledge transfer through honesty. So prepare yourself. I’m about to get real up in here.

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Our original budget: $15,000

My  parents were able to contribute $10,000 to our wedding day.  How great are they???  So when our venue price estimate* totaled right at $10K, the groom and I figured, “No biggie! The biggest expense is covered, including food, beverage, ceremony/reception space, linens, the whole nine yards! We’ll grab a reasonable dress, a fancy suit, officiant, rings, DJ … we can do that for about another $5K, easy!” And we danced off merrily into the deluded wedding sunset.

OH, HOW WRONG WE WERE.

Did you notice that (*) up there? It stands for Beware the Caveats. Because while I give our venue credit for being forthcoming that the flowers, decor and cake would be additional charges, I could also string them up by their toenails for not giving us specifics on how much those charges would actually be. Once the day came to choose these items, my parents, the groom and I sat there silently with mouths agape at the prices. When we ruthlessly slashed all the extras and went with mostly the basics across the board, it left us feeling like we were being cheap!  End result? Our final venue payment was still almost $3K more than the original quote. Luckily all of us felt good about the “basic” decor and floral choices we made together. My parents insisted that they could cover the extra $3K. We were grateful, but still felt kicked in the nuts defeated by the Great American Wedding Factory.

Looking back, there were plenty of warning signs about our venue that we should’ve acknowledged. In a nutshell, it was their lack of flexibility on just about everything. (Your guests cannot throw anything or wave sparklers during your exit. You cannot exceed the 6 hour window onsite, or you will incur additional charges. If you want your wedding to be the only event that day, you will pay extra. No, you cannot taste the food ahead of time unless you go to a bridal convention where our caterer will be, this one day in five months, after you sign with us, of course. No, you cannot bring in your own votives for your table decor, you have to use ours at our price. And so on.)

Instead of listening to our instincts, we locked ourselves in with them and paid the price. Dearly. So where are we now?

Parent Budget  ($10K) + $3000.00 = $13,000K

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The Snowball Effect

The venue was the biggest offender, by far. But we quickly discovered we’d under-budgeted for our pieces of the pie, too. We decided together that my husband would get a very nice suit because of it’s long-term use and practicality. Don’t regret that one bit. But what we didn’t expect were the prices on the rest: photography (ouch), DJs in Atlanta are $$$$$, the officiant, our rings and my dress, well … there went a LOT more money. Our own budget was officially toast. And we weren’t even done yet. Shit, double shit.

Parent Budget + 3000 + Our Budget (5K) + 4200 = 22,200

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Here’s where it gets even hairier. Add on videography. Oh, and you still don’t have shoes — for either of you. You don’t have jewelry or any hair or makeup people booked. And let’s not forget paper products and the guest book you made on Shutterfly. But the real kicker — the one I completely and utterly did NOT budget for: bridal party and parent gifts. With 13 in the party + 4 parents, we came in just under $1000 dollars. Dear Budget, excuse me while I prepare my favorite fatality move.

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Parent Budget + $3000 + Our Budget + $2500 + $3300 = $25,500

And there you have it. That’s how a $15K budget became a $25K budget … all in a matter of months.

But I can’t leave you feeling this crappy.

A few disclaimers: Our engagement was 13 months long, therefore our payments were spread out far enough that we didn’t have to dip into extra savings. The payments my parents made to the venue were spread out as well. But we know that if we had had a six month engagement, we’d have been in serious trouble. So remember that the shorter your engagement, the more you’ll need to have cash at the ready.  Another tip — ask around for ballpark figures, not from venues, but from people you know who were married in your town/location. Our original budget wouldn’t have been so laughably bad if we’d priced out DJs, officiants, photographers, etc., in Atlanta before we pulled a number out of thin air.

I hope some of you can learn from our experiences and follow these nuggets of wisdom: read the fine print, plan for the unexpected, ask more questions than you think are necessary and do not, DO NOT, pay one cent more for anything than you think you should.

Lastly, look out for my full Real Wedding post coming up soon here at BAB, which describes some ways that we did manage to save serious cash in other parts of our wedding day and other useful things I learned along the way.

Till next time,

 

Fear-Mongering, Shaming and Budget Weddings

Fear-Mongering, Shaming and Budget Weddings

Credit: Elizabeth Bates Photography

It can be a cruel world out there for brides on a budget. So much of the pretty can be out of reach, and it gets exhausting trying to keep up with the Joneses. Bridal Burnout can take place way early on, because there is a butt-ton of brain juice going into your wedding. That’s why, here at The Broke-Ass Bride, we stress the importance of priorities and focusing your energy in the areas that matter most to you, rather than tossing your hard-earned cash at something you don’t necessarily care a great deal about. The Wedding Industrial Complex has a way of pre-shaming brides into having the biggest, the best and the prettiest, and the this and the that and just the absolute MOSTEST BESTEST.

And also why I want to bring attention to this really shitty thing that happened around the web this week. Our girl Jessica at The Budget Savvy Bride posted a great wedding tip in her series of budget wedding tips — which includes advice on cutting the guest list, bringing in your own booze or even doing non-floral florals. The particular tip in question? No. 18: DJ your own wedding. You know, like set up the iPod to rock the soundtrack to your reception. Not unheard of, right? Well, Jessica did it for her own wedding. We’ve had many Real Weddings featured that have done the same. I mean, I did it. Hell it’s something we’ve been suggesting on BAB since 2010, y’all.

But once Budget Savvy Bride’s tip hit Facebook? A massive shitstorm of vitriolic vile flooded the comments … from “professional” DJs. One even went so far as to use “#killyaself”. UM. Really? Budget Fairy Tale compiled some of the other putrid spew that came forth from this.

If having a big ol’ dance party isn’t your thing, and you’re just not that into the music, DIYing your wedding music is a really great way to provide ambiance — and even just make sure you get the version of a song you want, because not everyone has a copy of Me First and the Gimme Gimme’s version of “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” laying around — without shelling out the big bucks that it takes to have a professional, whether it’s a DJ, band or a fucking opera singer, at your wedding. But hey, man, if you can afford it and it’s a priority for you, DO IT. But there should be absolutely no shaming involved.

Weddings are super, super personal. And they should be. They should represent you as a couple, and they should be something you’re comfortable with. Because, really, what good does it do you to host a party that you don’t want to attend? No good at all. Really.

But here’s the thing for us bitches on a budget: We put priority on different things. Tiffany and Justin totally cared about booze, so they got married at a brewery. Kate gave zero fucks about real flowers, but wanted literature — hence, her book flowers. Courtney and Carli got married in the morning in the loft of a barn. Bianca bought her dress for $10 and it’s still one of my all-time favorites while her groom spend $200 on his duds. Each wedding is different and special, because each couple is different and special. Weddings are personal.

No couple, ever, should be made to feel bad about the decisions they make for their wedding, as long as it’s right for them and their circumstances. Family may be involved, for some, and not for others. Budgets may be huge for some, and not for others. And sure, some weddings might not be super amazing for all the guests, but it’s not really about the guests. It’s about celebrating love.

And if a vendor, or anyone really, gets pushy and especially if they dare venture into being condescending or start shaming you? You might not want to work with them. Know who you’re hiring. It’s important, because it’s your money.

As Liz once said:

“A lot of time  brides feel pushed to do this or that, but really, there aren’t any “haves” in Wedding World, just “wants.” If you don’t want to spend the money, and you don’t see the value of it, don’t do it. That goes for all of your future wedding choices, too.”

So, let’s stop being assholes about the decisions people make for their own weddings and appreciate the differences and similarities we all have. Let’s not compare ourselves to the next person, nor expect them to measure up to us.

 

Real Bride Katie: Finding an Engagement Picture that’s So Us

Hey everyone!

Remember back when I showed you a teaser for our engagement pictures? My friends at Traynor’s Photography gave me the rest of our pictures over the weekend!

And, just like us, our pictures are goofy, ranging from mildly silly …

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… to completely ridiculous.

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We chose to use a fun picture for our Paperless Post save the date, also. Why not have a little fun with them? A shot like this is much more us and much more interesting than a serious posed one anyway, don’t you think? Plus, it’s been said that your wedding stationery helps set the overall feel and expectations of your wedding day, and we think it’s necessary to include a picture that’s totally representative of who we are.

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I think save the dates are a great way to be a little more casual. Only your very close relatives are really thinking about what they need to wear to your wedding, so there’s no need to worry about conveying the formality level of your wedding this far out if you don’t want to. Mix it up!

 

Cool Wedding-y Shizz Around the Web

Issue 3 of the gorgeous Love Inc. Mag just launched, and you can see the whole shebang here.

Valentine’s is still a little ways away, but The Big Fat Indian Wedding’s  heart-shaped cookies are so pretty.

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Aside from the stunning images, Wedding Sparrow is also great for DIY tutorials, such as a fabric dyeing how-to using nuts.

Kiss My Tulle rounded up a solid list of the best bridesmaids flats.

I want to cover my entire refrigerator with the magnets from this glittery DIY on The Budget Savvy Bride.

Tidewater & Tulle has a dreamy inspiration board focused on Pantone’s Color of the Year: Marsala.

Buzzfeed compiled a ridiculously swoonworthy collection of tattooed brides.

This microgarden would be the absolute coolest wedding present/bridal shower/Valentine’s Day present for you cooks.

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What cool things have you seen in wedding world, BABs?

 

Real Bride Meg: Everyone Wants to Help, So Let Them!

“I know someone who does that!” “You can just borrow mine!” “Here, let me help you make one!”

These are just a few phrases I have come — fortunately! — far too familiar with in the past year. The truth is, when you plan a wedding, everyone wants to be involved. It’s not a bad problem to have!

Steve and I chose a venue that doesn’t do packaged deals, so everything has to be brought in by us — meaning all of the setup, beverages, centerpieces … you name it. We are so fortunate to have such talent and creativity in our families alone, and we are using them to our full advantage to save us time and money. In lieu of gifts, we’re having some of our bigger expenses taken care of! Case in point, my sister and MOH is a professionally trained baker. It’s a good thing, too, because having an estimated headcount of about 230 guests means a six-tier cake, or in our case, 3-4 different cakes. I can’t even fathom spending hundreds of dollars on sugar and flour.

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Photo: The Flour Child Home Bakery

While asking my sister to bake our cakes was a no-brainer, we thought of other ways to incorporate the many talents of our wedding guests into the day as well, starting with pre-wedding tasks. One of my ‘maids is an amateur calligrapher, so she immediately offered to address our save the dates and invitations. So far, the save the dates came out beautifully! Still working on the invitations, so more to come on that.

Now, back to the wedding day. The ceremony site and reception tables need to be set up by someone, and this BAB isn’t that someone. My future mother-in-law’s thoughtful friends stepped right up to the task as they live 10 minutes away from the venue. Check!

To piggyback off of that, we’re also having our flowers farmed by a family member, who is an excellent gardner. She’ll be putting together all of the bouquets, boutonnieres and corsages for the wedding party — another huge expense I just can’t wrap my head around since flowers have a short life span. Check!

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The beautiful calligraphy done by one of my darling bridesmaids

Next, the ceremony: We want it to be super personal because, you know, this is our marriage we’re talking about. We didn’t want to hire any old officiant who would be a stranger to us before and after all is said and done, so we hired a friend of ours. We saw him in action during our friends’ wedding, and he’s even in seminary school now. Check!

Moving on to the next part of the day, which might turn out to be my favorite part (if I get to enjoy any of it) — cocktail hour. We really wanted to amp up this part of the day to get our guests excited for the party that will go down later in the night. Lucky for me, two of my uncles are musicians, so naturally, I asked them to entertain our guests while they sip cocktails and nibble on hors d’oeuvres. Our guests will also get to have a little bit of photo booth fun, thanks to a friend of a bridesmaid. With a camera set up by said friend, we’ll have a few chairs, a big frame, some silly props and a book for guests to write down their email addresses to have their photos sent to them. Sure beats spending $500 on an actual booth. Check and check!

And finally, the reception. I don’t have anyone doing any specific jobs for this part of the day, but this is kind of where it all comes together. The work of multiple friends and family members will all be on display at this point, between the floral arrangements, cake(s) table and centerpieces. Although, I do have some ridiculous and thrifty requests for people to be on the lookout for to include on tables (like clocks … so many clocks).

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Who needs table numbers when you have clocks? Photo courtesy of weddingchicks.com

While I have an abundance of people to ask for favors, some BABs might not be as lucky. If they haven’t offered, chances are your guests are just waiting for you to ask. On a similar note, I’m sure a number of you are struggling to find ways to get some your loved ones involved, like dear ol’ Dad. Something tells me he doesn’t have too much of an opinion on your wedding dress (because you look beautiful in anything, #duh) but maybe have him take you to the bridal shop. My dad took me, my mom and half of my bridesmaids up to NYC to go dress shopping. What a guy!

Here are some other ways to have loved ones (like Dad) involved the day-of:

  • Give them the itinerary and ask them to keep track of time.
  • Have anyone guarding the gift table? Someone’s gotta do it!
  • The grand exit: if you’re having your guests throw something or light up sparklers, have someone special take charge of making sure everyone has what they need.
  • Having transportation for your guests? Communicating with transportation services is a lot of back and forth. Assign someone to do the task for you with a report of who has the best prices.

Using your resources will be a key factor to keeping you from becoming a bridezilla in the weeks leading up to your wedding. Not only does it help out your budget, but your entire wedding day will become that much more personal. It will scream “THIS IS WHO WE ARE!” and everyone who contributed will see their work on display. The added bonus: they will all be factors of your successful marriage!

So, now I want to know how you’re getting everyone involved! Is there anyone who has been too willing to help? How have you handled it?

DIY or DIE: Winter-Inspired Centerpieces on an Uber Budget

Guys, I’d like to cordially introduce our new DIY and style guru Whitney, who blogs over at A Touch of Whitney. Homegirl has a way with setting up super pretty designs and by awesome luck, she loves budget goods, too. Whitney will be posting new ideas for weddings every couple of weeks and sharing how she makes it happen on a broke-ass budget!

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What if I told you instead of just a small simple centerpiece for your wedding to save money, you could have all this … and it still won’t break your bank account? Stick with me. I’ll show you the ways.

I had so much fun doing this centerpiece design and putting together this shoot with Danielle Angell Photography. There are a good number of items on the table, but they’re all very easy to score for practically nothing.

Winter Blog Photo Shoot Close #1A winter theme was obviously where my head was at. I began thinking of what reminds me of winter, and nature was the first thing that popped in my head. Wood, antlers, pine, holly berries, snow, fires … oh you get the idea. Here are the key components:

THE WOOD LOGS:

I unexpectedly hit the jackpot that sent me to my full design:  I drove by a house that had trimmed back their crape myrtle tree. And they had cut the tree into these perfect log sizes to put by the road with all the branches. They were there for the taking – read: free – and I did not even have to chop them. The even better part: they favor the beauitful birch wood that is so popular in design.  I know you all won’t luck upon free logs on the side of the road, so think about who you know. Do you know anyone who lives on a decent amount of land or anyone who has many trees on their property that would not mind trimming some tress for you? Be creative with your resources.Winter Blog Logs Close

THE MITTENS AND HAT:

After I piled the wood in the back of my car, I noticed my mittens on the seat. I knew at home I had a matching toboggan … score! (Side Story: my dad just told me recently only us southern folk call a winter hat a toboggan What??!! {Eds. Note: True Story. I never heard that term until I moved to Kentucky — and I’m from wintery Wyoming where EVERYONE wears hats.}) These items cost nothing to use, since I already owned them and were a perfect add to the winter theme. I love the soft texture they add to the design. Hit up Goodwill, thrift shops, yard sales or band your friends together and borrow their old less-often worn items.  Keep it cheap, use your resources, and never be afraid to phone a friend.Winter Blog Shoot Hat

THE ANTLERS:

Thank the deer on this one. They shed these beautiful pieces right off their body, free for the taking (check local regulations). Got some hunter friends? They’ll come in handy: They can grab these for you or may already have some just lying around,  or Pinterest has several how to’s for DIY antlers.Winter Blog Antlers

THE LANTERNS:

Being in the wedding business and having a stockpile of awesome stuff, I get to cheat and walk into my attic to my storage area for supplies and poof! Out I come with three lanterns. Check Goodwill or local hardware or gardening stores for some great options and plop a votive inside.Winter Blog Lantern

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THE PINE TREES, PINECONES, HOLLY AND BERRIES:

Well this was easy, My clippers and I got the job done. Keep in mind pine trees are sappy, so either were gloves or consider your hands and clothes warned. As for holly bushes … ouch! they will poke you. Those gloves may come in handy again. These limbs are a bug’s home. Rinse everything off to avoid creepy crawlers coming as your unplanned wedding guests.

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THE BLANKET:

Few things are more romantic than hanging by the fire snuggling with your baby and your favorite blanket, so naturally a cute fleece fabric is a great addition. I got this piece at Hobby Lobby and got a discount from a coupon spending $9  I got roughly 60 inches cut, then I added slightly more to make sure I had plenty.  And I wanted long enough to become a blanket for my home after the shoot.  Winter Blog Candle

THE FIRE:

Ok, ok there really wasn’t a true fire … but, there were candles. The candles give you a flickering flame, light, and the feeling of warmth on the table, which just adds to the ambiance.

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THE SNOW:

No, I did not pay someone to come blow snow for the shoot. That would not be budget-friendly at all. And no I did not get lucky enough to get free snow falling from the sky … I made the snow! However, this is a story for another day … stay tuned.

So a quick list to sum it all up:

1. The WOOd: Free

2. The MITTENS: Free (bought long ago, so Free for the shoot)

3. The TOBOGGAN: Free (bought long ago, so Free for the shoot)

4. The ANTLERS: Free (borrowed)

5. The LANTERNS: $5 a piece (bought long ago, so Free for the shoot)

6.  The PINE, PINECONES, HOLLY, & BERRIES: Free (thanks nature)

7. The BLANKET-$9 total yardage with a coupon

8. The CANDLES: Average $10-$12 for at least 12  (overall price varies by store, coupons used, and sales)

9. The SNOW: $3-$4

I hope you find this helpful and just know this “discount winter wedding design” tutorial is not over!! I have two other possible designs to come and more on the candles/snow.  Can’t wait … TO BE CONTINUED

Real Bride Jubilance: Bridal Burnout Has Taken Over

Replace “job” with “wedding planning” and this is me.

After my fiancé and I got engaged in May, I threw myself head-first into wedding planning. I LOVED IT. I’m a project manager by training and I love doing research. Wedding planning was also my excuse to buy all those wedding magazines I love instead of spending an afternoon at Barnes & Noble thumbing through them with a chai latte. I’m not the only person that’s done that right? Planning was pretty easy breezy and I was enjoying the experience … emphasis on was.

Y’all … our wedding is less than 60 days away … and I’m officially over it. I’m done. I wanna quit wedding planning so damn bad.

There are plenty of things we have left to do, but I have zero interest or energy to do any of it. I come home each night feeling like I should take care of wedding stuff, but all I want to do is sleep. Originally I was excited to do DIY projects; now I just want to buy something from Etsy and call it a day. I got a guest room full of stuff from Michaels that SHOULD be turning into cute paper flowers and chair signs … but for now it’s just collecting dust. Michaels is making a mint off of me buying stuff for this wedding, BTW. I really don’t want to make another damn decision, do anymore research or look at a million options. And of course, now is the time when all the little decisions have to be made. Joy.

Shit has gotta get done … so I’m plugging through, but not as enthusiastically as when I started this damn thing. I vented to a coworker who is also a recent bride, and she told me the secret to getting through this period: delegating. I haven’t delegated anything, mostly because I didn’t want to burden anyone. Whenever you hear wedding stories, you hear about brides who were bridezillas and expected too much from their friends & family.  I vowed that wouldn’t be me and now I’ve got bridal burnout. I hope there’s a cure for that.

Since I don’t give a damn about things like I once did, I’ve outsourced planning the rehearsal dinner to my fiancé and his mom. My Twitter timeline has also responded to my random cries of “where are all the cute blue wedding shoes that aren’t $800???” with links, resources, and ideas. Who said Twitter wasn’t a village? Oh and Twitter also helped me pick a cute dress for my bridal shower too! I’m also counting down to when my day of coordinator takes over all of this madness and I can relax.

Is this normal? Do other brides get this lethargy? Will I ever get my wedding planning mojo back? I hope so cause there’s still so much left to do in the next two months.

Ten for the Weekend: Crafts, Wedding Things and More!

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Friday! Woop woop! I’m headed to Las Vegas this weekend for a conference and get to hang out with the oh-so rad Budget Savvy Bride and talk to some of our partners, like Luna Bazaar and ModCloth, about how to make more awesome things happen for you guys. So, while I’m boob-deep in meetings, I hope you guys enjoy this Ten for the Weekend. There are tons of good wedding-y deals in here!

1. Craftsy’s New Year New You Flash Sale is going on until 1/18.

Ten for the Weekend: Deal and Discount Roundup 1/16

 

Try your hand at making your own thank you cards.

2. Need some bling? DiamondStuds4Less is taking 15% off all orders + free shipping with code LOVE2015.

3. Save yourself some hand cramps and get 15 % off address labels with wedding announcements from Shutterfly until 1/20.

4. Save some skrilla on wedding decor with 5% off sitewide at Luna Bazaar with code LUNASAVE5.

5. Get killer at-home hair color and take 20% off with your first purchase at Madison Reed.

6. Flirty Aprons is having a huge sale until 1/19. 

Ten for the Weekend: Crafts, Wedding Things and More!

This new design totally needs to belong in my collection.

7. Score some jewels with 80% off at Gloss Jewelry with code NEWYEAR80.

8. Plus-size gals, head over to Kiyonna to get 20% off orders $150 or more with code NEWYOU15.

9. Give your yoga kit an upgrade and get 10% off at YogaAccessories.com with code JANKITS.

10. Get your bling on and shop BaubleBar’s Sparkle Stash: Buy 2 items save 15%, buy 3 and save 25%, buy 4 save 30%! Use codes STASH15, STASH25, or STASH30.

Ten for the Weekend: Crafts, Wedding Things and More!

Will someone please wear this for their wedding?

Happy Shopping, BABs!