Broke-Ass Tag: budget wedding planning

6/27

Photo from this wedding

As I mentioned last time, my partner and I don’t always agree on our perception of the urgency of certain things. Generally, I plan in advance, and he does things at the last minute. In undergrad, I would study for the whole week up until the exam. He would cram the night before, and usually do better than me. I plan events in advance, and he wings it at the last minute. It’s so infuriating! The guy was born under a lucky star for sure.

Naturally, the wedding has been the same.

For example, I purchased my dress 13 months in advance. He started thinking about getting his suit when his mom mentioned it about a month ago at her last visit, declaring that she wanted to chip in to buying him a new suit for the wedding. Awesome!

I know nothing about suits, as I’ve never worn them.

I didn’t realize that they’re not just purchased off the rack, but that they have to be ordered, tailored and custom made. I figured that out when we went to the shop for a consultation, with Evan insisting that he just wanted to look but not choose anything right away, as he wanted some time to decide what he wanted.

The obscenely well-dressed and meticulously-coiffed man at the shop insisted that we order a suit immediately, because the summer colors would be sold out by June.

I panicked.

He wanted grey, and I made the mistake of pointing out that my dress is a bit of a creamy-champagne color. Suddenly, a discussion about clashing and complementing began happening. He would have to pick a grey that would contrast the dress appropriately, or else we might blending together in the wedding pictures like an amorphous blob. I began to worry … what if they ran out of the color he liked? What if they didn’t have it in time?

However, when we finally picked out he suit last week, the lucky star struck again. He looked amazing in a great suit that needed only minor tailoring, and because it was later in the season, it was on sale … about 60% off, to be precise.

I don’t know if I’d recommend doing the same thing, but if you have a year or more before the wedding, consider buying items at the end of the season — they might be on sale!

Another checked off the to-do list!

 

  • 6/26

    So, have you picked a date yet?

    Ugh. No one warned me that have you picked a date yet would be the most frequently asked question once we got engaged. I didn’t think I would hear that question so soon, and I wasn’t prepared to give an answer. Once we were engaged, we shared the good news with our family and friends, and I did two things:

    1. I took the obligatory ring selfie and posted it to Facebook and Instagram.
    2. I started my wedding planning Pinterest board.

    That’s it. That’s as far as I got.

    Team Take Your Time versus Team Get It Done

    As the weeks passed, I realized that there were two schools of thought on the subject. On one team were the folks who encouraged me to take my time and get married in 18 to 24 months. On the other team were the folks who encouraged me to get married in a year or less. I also realized that most people felt strongly about which side they were on and were not afraid to share their opinion. Luckily, I’m pretty easygoing and didn’t mind hearing everyone’s thoughts on the subject. It gave me some food for thought, but I was acutely aware that my fiance and I would be the ones to decide what worked best for us.

    What to do, what to do.

    If money were no object, there wouldn’t have been a debate. I would have run full steam ahead and planned a beautiful wedding and married my beloved as soon as possible. But, alas, money is an obstacle and my fiance and I need time to save. Not an uncommon situation for many couples, especially those who are paying for their weddings themselves. Now, I’m sure you’re thinking, “Kimberly, if you know you need time to save money then you must be on Team Take Your Time — why the debate?” Good question BABs: You’re right, it should have been a simple decision. But, of course, what makes sense isn’t necessarily what the heart wants.

    I knew it would take us at least year and a half to save money for the wedding plus six months to plan it, but I didn’t want to wait that long. The idea of waiting two years to marry the love of my life made me a little sad. We could have eloped and had a little party to celebrate afterward, but I wanted to walk down the aisle with my father, in a beautiful dress, surrounded by close family and friends. I couldn’t imagine my wedding any other way. Hence, the set-the-date debate.

    Decisions, decisions.

    After going back and forth on the subject, I sat down with my fiance to talk it through. I shared with him my thoughts, and we talked about the pros and cons of each option. As we spoke, I realized that I wouldn’t be able to have my dream wedding if we rushed. I didn’t want an extravagant wedding, but I did want a beautiful one. To make my dream a reality, I would need time to not only save money but to do the various DIY projects that would make our wedding uniquely us. We decided that two years was doable, and taking our time would not be the end of the world. In fact, I’m willing to bet that when I’m in the middle of planning the wedding, I’ll be wanting some of those months back.

    Why yes, we have set a date … sort of.

    While we decided to get married in 2019, it’s too early to book a venue and set an official date. We do know we want a summer wedding, and since I want an outdoor ceremony, we don’t want to go too late into summer and melt while we say our I do’s. So … now when anyone asks me, have you two set a date, I can smile and say June 2019.

    How did you end up picking your date? Were you Team Hurry Up or Team Take it Slow?

  • 6/23

    Happy Thursday, BABs! Today’s CAI/GOI request is from reader Jenny, who is searching for a Rue de Seine “Haze” look-alike for under £1,000 (approximately $1,300) and available in the UK. She writes: “Hi, I really love Rue de Seine's Haze dress but only have a budget of max £1000. Do you know of any similar but cheaper dresses out there & available in the UK?…

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    6/21

    Early in my engagement, literally in the first few months of adorning my new bling, I shared with friends that I planned to plant a rose garden and DIY my wedding bouquet and flowers. Of course everyone thought that I was crazy and that eventually the idea would fade as I began to make decisions and evaluate how much time I would have during the…

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    6/20

    Hey everyone! Sorry for the week off, I was dealing with some family issues but I'm back! So when we went to the bridal expo a few months back, we signed up to do our wedding registry at Bed, Bath & Beyond. I'm not going to lie, I didn't even know if we were going to do a registry, but they tempted me with the…

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  • 6/19

    I got engaged Memorial Day Weekend in 2016. We set our wedding date for September of the next year because September is a special month for us and it gave us about 15 months to save for our wedding. I asked all my girls to be my bridesmaids and I was locked and loaded to go. I was trying to be gracious. Then one of…

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    6/14

    Bride to be cellphone case from Etsy seller Guestbookery Originally, we had planned to do evites but I got so much pushback from the "elders" about using that technology that I gave up the fight and went the traditional route of paper invitations. While they are gorgeous and I'm happy with how they turned out, the price tag didn't bring me much happiness, nor did…

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    6/13

    Hello fellow BABs! I'm back with Part 2 of my Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments. I know you have wedding planning and general badassery to get to; so let's get right into it. Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments 6. Thou Shalt Not Feel Guilty for Cutting your Guest List. The size of your guest list is what drives up the cost of your wedding; mo’ guests equals mo’ money…

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  • 6/12

    Wedding countdown chalkboard available from Etsy seller LavishLilLuxuries Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We've also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling. While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits…

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