Broke-Ass Tag: budget wedding planning


Affiliate Disclaimer NewHiiiii! I know, I know … it’s been a while! That whole wedding and honeymoon thing really keeps a girl busy. Last time I checked in, I was a week or two out from my wedding and was finally having my meltdown moment. I was having the hardest time ever finding the right undergarment for my dress, and while I never found one that was perfect, I did luck out with one that worked pretty well. So let me fill you in on that before we get to recappin’.

Now that my wedding has come and gone, I can show you my dress so you have a better idea of my dilemma.

The back of the Amanda K Bridal Carmen Gown

Credit: Amanda K. Bridal

The satin gown has really thin straps, is super low in back and the sheer overlay covers … well, nothing. Because of my chest size, just adding cups wasn’t an option. I felt like I had scoured the Interwebz and I was just S.O.L., but I kept trying and eventually came across a post on a bridal message board from several years ago that offered some hope. A brand called dMondaine makes a slip/shaper that has a very low back along with straps that can be worn several ways.



Rita Shaping Slip by dMondaine, $160 at Net-a-Porter

I obviously couldn’t wear the straps down the middle of my shoulder blades like that, but luckily there were hooks on the very edge of the garment that made them come down on the side of my back … like right by my armpit. With the beading and other details on my dress, you couldn’t see the straps at all. I could not have been happier with that solution. But remember how I said it wasn’t perfect? Well that’s because the front of the slip was not as supportive as I would have liked. I really wanted it to hold the girls up and give me some killer cleavage … and it just didn’t. Don’t get me wrong, they looked good. Just not spectacular and sky-high like I prefer. Still, it was by far the best option I could find, so I went with it.

All in all, I was very happy with the outcome. I went from panicking daily to having a resolution, so it was a win. Hopefully my discovery can help out other sheer-back brides in the future. And don’t let my one issue dissuade you, either. If you have an A-C (and maybe even a small D) cup, I think it would be perfect for you.

How did you find your undergarments? Did you have any huge challenges? Share in the comments!

  • 10/25

    Affiliate Disclaimer NewI want to talk a little about our broke-ass approach to our engagement. Ever since I saw the movie “Blood Diamond” in 2006, I decided that I wanted an engagement ring with an ethically sourced stone. Mind you, i was 19 and single at the time, so my thought process pretty much stopped there. Flash forward nine years, Evan and I had been living together for a while and we had began to discuss marriage, so I began to explore my thoughts on sparkly rocks a little bit more. I was happy to find that there were lots of alternative gems out there, thanks to articles like this. For me, even without ethical concerns, I just didn’t see the appeal of a diamond. I had never owned diamond jewelry before and never felt that I was missing out. Knowing that if I chose a different stone, I could spend a lot less money and still get a pretty and meaningful ring, well, it, to me it just seemed like an obvious choice. That is what my partner and I chose based on our values, as everyone should do for themselves! Some people don’t even do engagement rings at all, and that’s great too! Do you! I just think it’s important that we are given the capacity to make an informed choice — to know that diamonds aren’t the only possibility, and that how much money your partner spends on a ring doesn’t indicate a direct correlation to how much your partner loves you. Forget that!

    Plus, the idea behind moissanite is SO cool to me. Being a huge sci-fi nerd, having a gem that’s synthesized based on particles FROM SPACE is pretty freaking cool. So, I told Evan that’s what I wanted. He picked out an absolutely beautiful gem for a very reasonable amount, and we saved the rest to furnish our new apartment without going into debt. Nobody has been able to tell that my ring was not a diamond based on how it looks, but I’ve also been very open about it — my intention was never to fool anyone into thinking my fiance dropped stacks on my engagement ring. I’m happy to report that not a single person has judged me for it (I wouldn’t stand for it if they did, obviously), and two of my friends were so taken by the idea they asked their significant others for moissanite rings when they pop the question.

    Oh, right — maybe you want to see it.

    Real Bride Holly's moissanite engagement ring

    Do you have a story behind the ring that you and your partner chose? I’d love to hear it!

  • 10/21

    Personalized Pocket Square

    Personalized Beer Cooler, $30 from Etsy seller HeritageWedding Gifting is hard. Gifting on a budget is really hard. Especially when it's for your favorite dudes. You want to get your groomsmen something awesome, yet thoughtful — but holy crap everything always seems so expensive. While it would be nice to be able to get them all big screen TVs or spring for a dudes' trip…

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    Berta 16-03

    Ok, guys, I'm giving this column a go until I get one of you worthy darlings to step in for me (plz, do that. Email with #CAIGOI as the subject to apply. Details can be found here)! Until then, I'm scooting into the fashionista seat to see how I fare at finding you baller-ass Get Over It gowns. First up: Reader Sarah commented on this post asking:…

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    Real Bride Danielle Engagement Photo1

    So you’ve got the ring, booked the date, and found your photographer. It's time for an engagement shoot! If your photographer offers an engagement shoot for free (all the ones I looked at did) then jump on getting these prints. I’ve been anxiously awaiting the date for our engagement photos so I could put them on our wedding website. Our pending nuptials brought me face…

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  • 10/18

    Real Bride Ciji's Paperless Post Save the Date announcement

    Some ladies dream of the perfect wedding dress, others dream of the Prince(ess) Charming that will meet them at the end of the aisle and many dream of the minute that they will say "I do." Before I joined the sorority of engaged ladies, I too dreamed of the above but the most pressing dream and the images that keep me up at night are the…

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    Julie Vino Jessica Style 706

    Reader Elizabeth NEEDS our help finding a Julie Vino look-alike that's a little less wedding gown and a little more evening attire. She writes: "I NEED to find a Julie Vino dress that I can afford, preferably under $1,000. I want the Jessica dress, style #706, from the 2014 Spring collection. I need something that doesn't look like a wedding gown but an evening gown…

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    So we did it! We're officially married! We had a beautiful, although a bit chilly, day in Vermont, but it didn't rain or snow, so I'll take it! It's been almost two weeks now, and I've had some time to reflect on the experience. Here's some advice for the brides-in-planning out there. Photo courtesy of Joel Boucher of Boucher Visuals People always say it goes…

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  • 10/11


    Hello everyone! My name is Holly, and I am a Broke-Ass Bride. I guess it's important that before we get going on the creativeness and the snarkiness, you get to know the woman behind it. I'm in my late 20s, I'm a graduate student and I live in a large city in Canada with my fiance and my our dog. I love cooking, baking, yoga,…

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