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Ten for the Weekend: California Wine Club, Wedding Paper Divas, Poppin and more!

Hey-yo! Welcome to the first edition of Ten for the Weekend! I don’t know about you all, but after a long week of working, I often have a strong urge to shop when Saturday and Sunday roll around. But, being a broke-ass, I tend to wince at busting out my debit card on full-price items. So, Ten for the Weekend aims to find 10 rockin’ deals for you, on anything from wedding-related items to office supplies to kitchen goods to cute new dresses. Here we go!

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1. Poppin, one of my favorite sources for bright, fun office supplies, is offering 20-60% off select products at Poppin.com *Valid 4/01 – 4/30. No code necessary.

2. For all you lovers of the grape, The California Wine Club has a Buy 3 Months, Get 1 Free deal (a savings of about $53) going on for April only. Get your sip on!

3. Putting off getting your wedding underthings? Hourglass Angel is gonna help you out with that: During April, take 15%-25% off  special occasion shapewear until the end of the month!

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4. Drooling over some invites on Wedding Paper Divas that you just can’t live without? Good news! Score 25% off those beauties through April 8th using code WEDAPR25.

5. For the dudes in your life, whether it be your pops, bro or husbo-to-be, a good tie wardrobe is essential. Knock 12% off any size order at Ties.com. Use SPRING12 at checkout. Expires 4/30/2014.

6. Minted is celebrating six years of providing the world with beautiful stationery, and wants you to join in! Get 15% off anything and everything through Monday using code 6YEARS.

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7. Score some sweet style from Ann Taylor. Their bridal line is to die for! Use code SPRINGUP at checkout to get 40% off your entire order.

8. If you’re itching to add some new life to your abode, C. Wonder has got your back. Take an additional 50% off items for your home!

9. Get cute, retro styling without hurting your wallet. Enjoy 10% Off Spring Favorites at Unique Vintage using code SPRING10. Ends 4/19/14. Shop now!

10. Obv. saving the best for last: Kate Spade’s Friends and Family deal is still going on! Score any designer duds (and way cute bridal gear) for 25% off through Sunday with S14FFUS.

Get your broke butts in gear and start some savvy shopping!!!

Broke-Ass Brides Against Breast Cancer

The Broke-Ass Bride is proud to partner with Brides Against Breast Cancer, turning gently used designer gowns into a beacon of hope in the worldwide fight against breast cancer. If you’d like to donate your gown, here’s how. If you’re in need of a gown, Brides Against Breast Cancer runs a nationwide tour of gowns, and you should most definitely check it out when it rolls into your town!

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Hurst, TX – Dallas/Ft. Worth Area April 4 – 5, 2014 Feragne Villa Wedding & Event Venue
Boston, MA April 4 – 5, 2014 Benjamin Franklin Institute of Technology
Boca Raton, FL April 4 – 5, 2014 Embassy Suites Boca Raton
St. Louis, MO April 4 – 5, 2014 Holiday Inn St. Louis South County Center
Mobile, AL April 6, 2014 The Battle House Hotel & Spa
Columbus, OH April 6, 2014 The Fawcett Event Center
Reston, VA – Washington DC Area April 11 – 12, 2014 Sheraton Reston Hotel
Wichita, KS April 12, 2014 Holiday Inn Wichita East I-35
San Ramon, CA – SF Area April 12 – 13, 2014 Crow Canyon Commons
Austin, TX April 19, 2014 Hyatt Regency Austin
San Diego, CA April 19, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn San Diego/Del Mar
Cincinnati, OH April 19, 2014 Hyatt Regency Cincinnati
Columbia, SC April 26, 2014 Hilton Columbia Center
St. Petersburg, FL May 4, 2014 NOVA 535 Event Space
New Brunswick, NJ May 4, 2014 Hyatt Regency New Brunswick
Philadelphia, PA May 9 – 10, 2014 Wyndham Philadelphia Historic District
Sioux Falls, SD May 10, 2014 Sheraton Sioux Falls Hotel & Conference Center
Richmond, VA May 10, 2014 The Westin Richmond
Metairie, LA – New Orleans Area May 10, 2014 Four Points by Sheraton New Orleans Airport
Tulsa, OK May 16 – 17, 2014 Hyatt Regency Tulsa
Providence, RI May 16 – 17, 2014 Hilton Providence
Dover, DE May 18, 2014 Maple Dale Country Club
Charlotte, NC May 23 – 24, 2014 Embassy Suites Charlotte
Roanoke, VA May 24, 2014 Sheraton Roanoke Hotel & Conference Center
Arlington, VA – DC Area May 31 – June 1, 2014 Le Meridien Arlington
Woodland Hills, CA – LA Area May 31 – June 1, 2014 Hilton Woodland Hills/Los Angeles
Bangor, ME June 1, 2014 Four Points by Sheraton Bangor Airport
Erie, PA June 8, 2014 Sheraton Erie Bayfront Hotel
Henderson NV – Lake Las Vegas Area June 14 – 15, 2014 The Westin Lake Las Vegas Resort & Spa
Lombard, IL – Pretty in Pink June 21 – 22, 2014 Jasmine Galleria
Laramie, WY June 21, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn Laramie & UW Conference Center
Carbondale, PA June 21, 2014 Best Western Pioneer Plaza
Bakersfield, CA June 22, 2014 Four Points by Sheraton Bakersfield
Weehawken, NJ June 28, 2014 Sheraton Lincoln Harbor Hotel
Marietta, GA – Atlanta Area June 28 – 29, 2014 Hilton Atlanta/Marietta Hotel & Conference Center
Louisville, KY July 12 – 13, 2014 Ramada Plaza Louisville Hotel & Conference Center
Orlando, FL July 19 – 20, 2014 DoubleTree by Hilton Orlando Downtown
Emeryville, CA – San Francisco Area July 26 – 27, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn San Francisco/Oakland Bay Bridge
Whittier, CA – LA Area August 15 – 16, 2014 Radisson Hotel Whittier
Fort Worth, TX August 22 – 23, 2014 Renaissance Worthington Hotel
Beachwood, OH – Cleveland Area September 12 – 13, 2014 DoubleTree by Hilton Cleveland East – Beachwood
Welches, OR – Mount Hood Area September 13 – 14, 2014 The Resort at the Mountain
Jacksonville, FL September 20 – 21, 2014 Sheraton Jacksonville
Bridgeville, DE October 5, 2014 Heritage Shores Club
York, PA – Lancaster Area October 17 – 18, 2014 The Holiday Inn Conference Center of York
Birmingham, AL October 24 – 25, 2014 The Harbert Center
Ontario, CA – Inland Empire Area October 31 – November 1, 2014 Radisson Ontario Airport
Minneapolis, MN November 1 – 2, 2014 Millenium Hotel Minneapolis
Riverhead, NY – Long Island January 30 – 31, 2015 Atlantis Banquets & Events
Bloomington, MN February 27 – 28, 2015 The Park Plaza Hotel Bloomington

Win This: Score A $125 Gift Card To FineStationery.com!

finestationeryYour wedding stationery is the first impression anyone will get about your wedding: it will give them cues about what to expect from the evening (or morning, or afternoon) and how to dress appropriately. No matter what your style, from traditional to modern, rustic to preppy, black and white to bold color, you’re certain to find an invitation that suits your event and your budget at FineStationery.com.

At FineStationery.com, they’ve got designs from the most sought-after brands, like Kleinfeld Paper, Crane & Co, and Vera Wang, as well as up-and-comers like Jasmine & Woo; you’ll see designs you’ve never seen before, and won’t find anywhere else! Not ready to shop for wedding invitations yet? FineStationery.com also offers a huge selection of save the dates (including magnets!), party invitations, and couples stationery so flipping cute that I’d feel hard-pressed to actually mail it to anyone else. No matter your stationery needs, you owe it to yourself to pay a visit to FineStationery.com first! Plus, this week, everyone wins: BABs can save 10% on save the dates with FineStationery.com with the code LOVE10 from now through March 31st!

This week, one lucky BAB reader will win a $125 gift card to FineStationery.com! Want it bad? You can get an easy entry by subscribing to our bi-weekly newsletter! It’s packed with BAB-exclusive deals, contests, and the best the wedding web has to offer, and we’ll never spam ya!

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Ask Heather: Day-Of Transportation and Seating the Little Ones Separately

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Dear Heather,

Is there a good way for saving on transportation for the wedding party to get to the venue? Our ceremony and reception are all in the same spot, and we just need pick up and drop off, really, but it looks like limo services don’t typically offer pick-up/drop off. It would be a waste (and super expensive) to have the drive wait in the parking lot for 4 hours. Any tips for unconventional ways to get everyone where they need to go?

Thanks!

The limo has failed me

Dear Limo,

There are several transportation options available to you. Alas, I don’t know where you live, so I can’t really tailor this to your geographic area. However, hopefully this will help regardless. The easiest option is to simply have the wedding party drive themselves. Obviously, though, this requires that there be designated drivers and eliminates the possibility of hanging out with one another on the way to and fro. Next up: Some form of public transit. This can range from a subway to a taxi to a trolley car. Get creative! This could lead to some really fantastic photo opportunities, and no one has to be sober enough to drive home. Or, if you’re in a city with either Lyft or Uber, that could also be a possibility. (Hey, you said I could be unconventional!) The final option – If you’re staying at a hotel, find out whether they have some sort of shuttle service. If you reserved a block of rooms, odds are you’ve brought them a decent amount of income, so they might be more likely to help you out.

Dear Heather,

I have a question regarding invites. I am getting married at a historical mansion in September. Dinner will be held in the main ballroom that seats just 70. When we first booked the venue we were planning on having a wedding under 70, but with the input of both sets of parents the number soon grew. The venue manager suggested that we move the kids into another room which we are planning on doing along with providing a babysitter. Kids will not have the option of sitting in the main ballroom as we now have 70 adults. My question is how do I word this on invitations that a babysitter will be provided and if you chose to bring your child they must eat dinner in the separate room? (The separate room will be immediately off the ballroom.) I’m worried that guests will bring their child and just plop them down in a chair next to them taking up another guests chair. Any advice will help! I love your column and thank you so much for your time!

Chelsea

Dear Chelsea,

I’m honestly not sure there is a good way to word this on your invitation, but there are other ways to communicate this information. If you’re having a wedding website, make sure to mention it there. Inform all of the VIPs (wedding party, parents, other immediate family) of the plan and ask them to spread the word. Or, if there aren’t too many of them on your guest list, just call each family with children and let them know that the size of the venue has dictated that this happen, and that you completely trust the babysitter you’ve hired. Also, stress that this is just for the dinner portion of the reception, and that their kids will be free to hit the dance floor when it opens up. And on the day of your wedding, make sure the kids have their own escort cards (which I’m betting they’ll absolutely love), directing them to the kids-only room. And for what it’s worth, I think this is a wonderful plan. The parents get to participate in an adult conversation, and the kids get to avoid being bored out of their minds and enjoy themselves, too.

What wedding-day transportation option did you utilize? And did you have a separate seating area for children at your wedding? Let us know in the comments how it worked out!

Ask Heather: Navy, knee-length, one-shoulder dress sold in stores

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Dear Heather,

I need to find navy, knee-length, one-shoulder bridesmaid dresses. The catch – under $100 and something that stores carry. My maid of honor lives out of state and wants to try it on before she buys, and I totally agree! I’ve heard too many horror stories of online dresses not fitting right! Help me, please!

Bride Seeking Little Blue Dress

Dear Blue,

I will admit that this is a little outside of my bailiwick. However, I’m attempting to tackle it anyway in the hopes that my lovely readership will chime in with their suggestions.

After copious Googling, it seems like The Dessy Group might be your best bet. I’m not sure where your MOH lives, but they have an easy-to-use store finder and tons of stores. They also sell Alfred Sung, who offers a navy, knee-length, one-shoulder dress for $99.

And now, I’m going to be annoying. I know you said you wanted it to be sold in-store. However, Target now sells bridesmaid dresses. They are not sold in stores, BUT don’t stop reading! They’re affordable (most of them are around $70) and you can return them at Target stores, no questions asked. I actually purchased one a few weeks ago. It arrived super-quick, but it was a bit too small. I went to my local Target Guest Service counter, said “this doesn’t fit”, and they took it back, no further questions, full refund. Plus, if you have a Target REDcard (which is that whole “Would you like to save 5% at Target today” script you hear whenever you shop there), shipping is free. Your MOH could order a few in different sizes, see if anything fit, then return whatever she didn’t like. And they definitely have navy, knee-length, one-shoulder dresses for less than $100.

And now, valuable readers, please chime in! Do you have any recommendations for Blue? Tell us in the comments below where she should go for her ultimate bridesmaid dress!

Real Wedding: Angela and Jay’s $5000 Laid-Back Family-Powered Semi-Traditional Arizona Fete

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Angela and Jay had their beautiful wedding in January of this year, incorporating meaningful locations, the support of their community, and some Arizona flair. Seriously, how cute are these cactus favors? It goes to show that you don’t need to spend $30,000 to have a beautiful, memorable wedding day…and since their family and friends were involved throughout, they were able to start their married lives feeling truly loved and blessed.

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Names:  Angela and Jay

Occupations: Angela- PhD Candidate, Cultural Anthropology, Jay: Video Game QA Lead, Red5 Studios

Wedding location: Phoenix, AZ (Immaculate Heart of Mary Church and the Science and Heritage Park)

Wedding date: 01-04-14

Wedding budget: Original $3000…..Actual $5000

Approximate guest count: 100

How would you describe your wedding? Laid-back, informal, with traditional aspects

What was your favorite part of your wedding? I loved getting to talk with all of my friends and family during the reception. I just wanted it to last forever.

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What did you splurge on? The reception venue. We met on NYE 4 years ago at a bar owned by my husband’s friend. The venue is RIGHT behind it, so we both wanted to celebrate our marriage there, even though it was pretty expensive for our budget. It didn’t include much. It had a small catering kitchen and tables and chairs we could use. I also spent $444.00 on my wedding gown. I felt guilty for this, since Jay was wearing a suit he already owned. I REALLY wanted a simple white dress, off the rack. But I couldn’t find anything I liked. My mom made me go to a David’s Bridal one day and I found something that wasn’t too shiny and fancy for me. I hoped to sell it…but, then a friend burned a cigarette hole in it, and I spilled my beer on myself. I’m sure someone would still buy it…

What did you save on?  Everything else!! The cake/cupcakes were made by my best friend from high school. I won a few bottles of champagne in an online contest. I cut out all the paper flag decorations with my mom. My brother bought decorations off Craigslist from a woman who had similar colors for her wedding (candles, cake plates, lights, lanterns). I bought all the servingware (bowls, trays, and tongs) at a dollar store. I didn’t want flowers at first, but my mom wasn’t having that. So I found 10 bouquets at Costco for $100. They doubled as bouquets for the bridespeople and table decorations. We gave small cacti as favors (only 50 of them) and my friend purchased them for me at cost ($1 per cactus) from his cousin who runs a nursery. We decided a build your own sandwich bar would be good instead of a caterer. It was very simple. We had sliced cheese, turkey and roast beef with condiments. We bought bolillo rolls from a Mexican bakery which was cheaper than the same rolls at Costco. I made three grain/pasta salads that were very very inexpensive. One was quinoa, one was a pasta salad, and one was Israeli couscous. The biggest saving was the alcohol. My husband’s friends who own the bar gave us free beer and wine! We also received free coffee due to a mixup at the coffee house. That was a nice surprise!

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Was there anything you would have done differently, in retrospect? I would have done two things differently. First I would have managed time better. We were married in a church service and since my husband is not Catholic, we didn’t have the full ceremony. In fact it only took 30 minutes. We had no idea it would be that quick! This meant that our guests had to wait about 2 hours between our ceremony and the reception. Since our reception was only a block from the church, most of our guests just headed to our friends’ bar for food and drinks. We had to set up the wedding while they did this. We decided to set up our own wedding to save money (of course!). Since we were early, the young men we had hired to set up the tables hadn’t gotten started yet. Everyone was stressed out and working hard. They wouldn’t let my husband or I do much, which was nice, but also frustrating.

The second thing I would have done differently is I would have hired a day-of coordinator. I would have just asked an old friend and paid her $50 or something. That way she could have fielded the 10,000 questions everyone had for me that day. The questions freaked me out because I really wasn’t very picky about how everything looked, but of course no one believed that. Most of the questions were related to the decorations.

What was your biggest challenge in planning?  We had a few challenges. The biggest challenge was money. We don’t have a lot and everything really added up.  I was in Washington teaching for the Summer and Fall semesters right before the wedding. So not only did Jay and I not get to see each other, but all of my planning was done through email and phone calls. I didn’t even see the church until the rehearsal dinner. Luckily we were familiar with the reception venue.

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What lessons did you learn from planning or from the wedding itself?

1.Our families really care for us. When we needed help purchasing something they always came through and just gave us money. We didn’t abuse this privilege, however.

2. I wouldn’t have bought so much food. Lots of our friends who said they were coming didn’t show, so there were too many sandwiches. Also, we had made sure to tell people that we were only serving light food, and during that 2 hr break between wedding and reception, lots of our guests ate dinner. My mom ended up donating bread to a soup kitchen which was great, but it would have been better for us not to spend the money in the first place.

3.I also learned that dancing is not as important to other people as it is to me. I spend what seemed like weeks and weeks creating our playlist. It was nuts. I went from slower dancing at the beginning to all out party music at the end when everyone would have been drunk. Well, The only dances that happened were our first dance and the father/daughter dance. Everyone else just used the wedding as a way to catch up with old friends and family, which was lovely, but not what I had envisioned. I wish I’d not cared about the music so much.

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What were your top 5 favorite things about your wedding? 

1. Seeing friends and family that I hadn’t seen for years. I have lived in CA and WA for the last 4 years, so I’m out of touch with a lot of my Phoenix peeps. My husband is the same way. It was nice to have everyone together.

2. The cake and decorations! I really loved what I did. Yes it was simple, but it reflected us. We aren’t flashy people. I was really proud about the money I saved.

3. The help we received from friends and family. They worked so hard and the night of the reception I felt really very guilty for it. I saw my mom running around putting lunch meat on platters and making a veggie tray. My bridespeople and other friends all helped immensely with various food and decorations. It made me feel awful at the time, but everyone says it wasn’t a problem and that they had a good time. Also, it made me feel very loved.

4. Wine and beer! Not only was it free, but it helped both me and my fiance loosen up a bit.

5. Getting to celebrate our commitment to each other in front of all our friends and family. Although Jay and I have been committed to our relationship for a while, it felt good to share that with everyone else. Everyone was really happy for us, and that felt great!

Top 5 least favorite?

1. I didn’t like the music at the wedding ceremony, but it wasn’t a big deal. It was just boring church music that didn’t really fit the wedding.

2. My fiance was nervous and I didn’t know how to cheer him up. He didn’t smile once during the service and his hand was sweaty when I met him at the altar. I felt like I was failing him by not creating a happy wedding. He finally loosened up at the reception after we cut the cake….. about 3 hrs in…

3. I don’t have a picture of my parents walking me down the aisle.

4. Friends and Family who said they were coming that did not show up.

6. We only paid for a 3 hour reception. I wanted it to last at least 2 hours longer into the evening. We did all move over to the bar, but my fiance and I didn’t stay as late as our guests. I guess that was probably a good thing!

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What was the worst piece of wedding advice you received? I didn’t have any bad advice, just a LOT of judgement from others. When you tell people that you are getting married, suddenly everyone has an opinion on things. (tablecloths, flowers, food, “You HAVE to have the Chicken Dance!”, etc.) That was a little annoying at first, then a lot annoying. Also, I really thought that our relationship would somehow grow deeper at a profound level after getting married. It didn’t. I still feel the same love for him that I felt before the wedding. Although there are times when I think “Wow, that was a whole fiasco, wasn’t it? Getting married in a church when neither of us are religious, having a fancy white dress, registering for gifts, etc. I can’t believe he loves me SO much that he would do it all and not complain once.”

The best? A few friends told me “Do what you want and try not to listen to other people.” and “This is about a marriage, not about a wedding.”

Any other bits of wisdom? Just have fun on your wedding day! Soak it all in and try to remember everything. Smile and say thank you as much as possible. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

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Budget breakdown?

Venue (4 hour rental, includes a $500 refundable deposit): $1645.00

Security (We had to hire an off-duty cop for the venue.): $120

Marriage License: $107.00

City Fees (sound permit, alcohol permit): $38.00

Food,cups/napkins (Costco, regular supermarket, Mexican Bakery): $423.00

Sparkbooth (only 5-6 guests used this…I could have skipped it.): $55.00

Stereo speaker rental (we borrowed a few from friends too): $80.00

Vistaprint invitations w/postage(we emailed most people but sent out 60): $61.50

Photography (elizabethbatesphotography.com): $500.00

Decorations: flowers ( Costco ) Tablecloths ( TableclothsFactory ): $406.87

Dress (David’s Bridal): $444.99

Shoes/Veil (DSW Outlet and Claire’s Workshop ): $52.30

Church marriage prep: $350.00

Hair (The Root Salon)$65.00

Bouquet (made by a friend who does this as a small side business): $100.00

Rings (I used my grandmother’s but it needed a few prong repairs. I traded in some gold to help pay for that. We bought a stainless steel one onAmazon for Jay for the ceremony. He got a tattoo of his ring because he doesn’t like jewelry): $210.00

Hotel room for wedding night ( Sheraton Phoenix Downtown ): $112.00

Total: $4770.66

Free items: Cake/cupcakes, alcohol, tables/chairs were included with rental, extra help setting up was a gift from BIL’s girlfriend, Church fees were paid by my parents (because they wanted the church wedding), Coffee (there was a mix-up at the coffeeshop, so we got it for free!), and FIL paid for the rehearsal dinner.

Ask Heather: Asking Your Family For Money

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Dear Heather,

I just discovered The Broke Ass Bride and I’m happy. I really needed a website like this. My fiance and I had been together for 7 years, lived together for 4 and have a 3 year old son. We got engaged last October and are planning our wedding for next December. The problem is it is really going to be a low budget wedding. Most of everything, including my dress, the catering, flowers, the music, the photographer, the cake, some decoration, and even the alcohol has been covered by relatives since my fiance’s family is extremely close and really love throwing parties and helping each other in every way, including economically.

The problem is this: my family is big, my fiance’s family is huge. After taking out every single person that does not HAVE to be there, our guest list is 205 people. My fiance and I have been facing a hard time economically, which happened after we started planning and set a date, so we didn’t know we were going to have money problems. This is causing us to have a very hard time paying for a venue and we may not have a honeymoon right away. We will also need money for decorations, his tuxedo rental, and my dress accessories and alterations. A LOT of people have been telling us that if we need anything we should just say so because THEY WILL help with something for the wedding, but they don’t come asking what we need or offering anything. However, we need that help now or otherwise we will miss the venue due to availability. Plus, some relatives have made arrangements already to spend the holidays here because of the wedding.

We are trying to decide if we should write a note politely asking for help with the wedding planning instead of wedding gifts, since we don’t need anything for our home. The only thing we need is help for the wedding, be it money or other kind of help. I have read that it is always wrong to ask for money; that if I don’t have it, I shouldn’t be celebrating the wedding. I don’t want a big wedding. Right now, everything I need for the wedding to happen is the money for the venue.

What should I do? This is really stressing me out. Your response would really be a blessing.

Thank you very much!!

No Money For Venue

Dear Money,

It sounds like your main struggle right now is finding money for the venue you want. Is this particular venue nonnegotiable? If you haven’t considered all of your options, including finding a less expensive venue, do that first. If that venue is the only one that will work in your area, then you should talk to your fiance’s family. Since they’ve already offered money for various aspects of the wedding, ask if some of that money could be transferred to paying for the cost of the venue, especially if you have your heart set on a particular place. If they’re amenable to that option, then work on decreasing the cost of the other things they were going to pay for. Find a less expensive dress. Downscale on flowers and use only things in season. Talk to your caterer about ways to make the menu less expensive. Hire a more affordable DJ (or do an iPod reception) and photographer.

Once you’ve done all that, realize that it’s extremely unlikely that everyone on the invite list will attend. You said that you don’t want a big wedding. I’m not sure what constitutes “big” to you. While I don’t think that your invite list of 205 will ever turn into a 15-person super-intimate ceremony, I also don’t think that you’ll truly have 205 guests. Obviously, though, if you can cut the invite list, it will make other things more affordable, what with fewer meals, tables, chairs, centerpieces, etc. If you cannot cut the list, though, prepare to cut everything else, as referenced in the previous paragraph.

Speaking of invitees … some of them have offered to help. Take them up on it! When it comes to weddings, people want to help, but they need to know what you want. It’s extraordinarily unlikely that anyone will come up to you and say, “You know, I really want to do [x] to help with your wedding.” Instead, they make general offers of assistance, and it’s up to you to take the next step. Figure out some ways they could help – put the crafty ones to work on making decorations, have your seamstress friend help with dress alterations, tell the friend who makes jewelery what you want in regards to accessories and let her run wild – and give them specific tasks. The key here is that you have to actually ask them to help and give them achievable jobs.

You mentioned that you might not be able to afford a honeymoon right away. While it sucks, this is not the end of the world. I would suggest doing some sort of mini-moon; maybe see if there’s an affordable nearby bed and breakfast that you could escape to for a couple of days immediately after the wedding. And then, on your one-year-anniversary, take a bigger trip.

As for asking for money – I agree that writing a letter and explicitly asking for money is a no-go. However, there are plenty of registries out there now that let you ask for cash. We actually did a post recently about Present Value, which you should check out. I think something like that could serve you quite well.

Have you had friends or family offer to help? Did you take them up on it? How did it go? Tell me about it in the comments below!

Broke-Assedness For A Cause: Brides Against Breast Cancer

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Brides Against Breast Cancer is an amazing charity that we’ve partnered with–they accept new and used gown donations, which they then send on roadshows across the country to sell to brides like you for an average price of $600! They also do “Run and Renew” 5K events as fundraisers, and every year, they raise around a million dollars for those impacted by cancer. Incredible, no? If they’ve got an upcoming event in your area, you should definitely check it out! PLUS, our very own Christen will be volunteering at the Jacksonville show, so definitely come and say hi!

The Nationwide Tour of Gowns upcoming schedule:

Northbrook, IL – Chicago Area March 15 – 16, 2014 Renaissance Chicago North Shore Hotel
Lee’s Summit, MO – KC Area March 15 – 16, 2014 The Pavilion at John Knox Village
Oklahoma City, OK March 15, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn – Quail Springs
Altamonte Springs – Orlando Area March 16, 2014 Embassy Suites Orlando – North
Tallahassee, FL March 16, 2014 Four Points by Sheraton Tallahassee Downtown
Houston, TX March 21 – 22, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn Houston Energy Corridor
Albuquerque, NM March 21 – 22, 2014 The Hotel Cascada
Denver, CO March 22 – 23, 2014 Denver Marriott Tech Center
Sarasota, FL March 29, 2014 Westfield Southgate Mall
Temecula, CA March 30, 2014 Mount Palomar Winery
Essex, VT – Burlington Area March 30, 2014 The Essex Resort & Spa
Hurst, TX – Dallas/Ft. Worth Area April 4 – 5, 2014 Feragne Villa Wedding & Event Venue
Boston, MA April 4 – 5, 2014 Benjamin Franklin Institute of Technology
Boca Raton, FL April 4 – 5, 2014 Embassy Suites Boca Raton
St. Louis, MO April 4 – 5, 2014 Holiday Inn St. Louis South County Center
Mobile, AL April 6, 2014 The Battle House Hotel & Spa
Columbus, OH April 6, 2014 The Fawcett Event Center
Reston, VA – Washington DC Area April 11 – 12, 2014 Sheraton Reston Hotel
Wichita, KS April 12, 2014 Holiday Inn Wichita East I-35
San Ramon, CA – SF Area April 12 – 13, 2014 Crow Canyon Commons
Austin, TX April 19, 2014 Hyatt Regency Austin
San Diego, CA April 19, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn San Diego/Del Mar
Cincinnati, OH April 19, 2014 Hyatt Regency Cincinnati
Columbia, SC April 26, 2014 Hilton Columbia Center
St. Petersburg, FL May 4, 2014 NOVA 535 Event Space
New Brunswick, NJ May 4, 2014 Hyatt Regency New Brunswick
Philadelphia, PA May 9 – 10, 2014 Wyndham Philadelphia Historic District
Richmond, VA May 10, 2014 The Westin Richmond
Providence, RI May 16 – 17, 2014 Hilton Providence
Charlotte, NC May 23 – 24, 2014 Embassy Suites Charlotte
Roanoke, VA May 24, 2014 Sheraton Roanoke Hotel & Conference Center
Lombard, IL – Pretty in Pink June 21 – 22, 2014 Jasmine Galleria
Weehawken, NJ June 28, 2014 Sheraton Lincoln Harbor Hotel
Louisville, KY July 12 – 13, 2014 Ramada Plaza Louisville Hotel & Conference Center
Emeryville, CA – San Francisco Area July 26 – 27, 2014 Hilton Garden Inn San Francisco/Oakland Bay Bridge
Whittier, CA – LA Area August 15 – 16, 2014 Radisson Hotel Whittier
Beachwood, OH – Cleveland Area September 12 – 13, 2014 DoubleTree by Hilton Cleveland East – Beachwood
Welches, OR – Mount Hood Area September 13 – 14, 2014 The Resort at the Mountain
Jacksonville, FL September 20 – 21, 2014 Sheraton Jacksonville
Bridgeville, DE October 5, 2014 Heritage Shores Club
York, PA – Lancaster Area October 17 – 18, 2014 The Holiday Inn Conference Center of York
Birmingham, AL October 24 – 25, 2014 The Harbert Center
Minneapolis, MN November 1 – 2, 2014 Millenium Hotel Minneapolis
Riverhead, NY – Long Island January 30 – 31, 2015 Atlantis Banquets & Events
Bloomington, MN February 27 – 28, 2015 The Park Plaza Hotel Bloomington

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Run and Renew upcoming schedule:

Wildwood, NJ 5K Run & 1 Mile Fun Run October 4, 2014 Memoreys by Morey’s Piers

 

RealBride Elizabeth: SOS! My Budget Ship is Sinking!

 

In the short time I’ve been engaged, I feel like I’ve got a lot of the big stuff done. I’ve booked my venue (an awesome 1920′s theatre in downtown Greensboro), secured my photographer, found a DJ, my dress is hanging safely in my parent’s spare bedroom, and I’ve sent out my save-the-dates. My mom recommended I assemble a spreadsheet as to track my expenses. Now, to be honest with you, math and financial responsibility have never been my strong suits, so I was a little apprehensive.

She walked me through all the columns and rows, and everything looked good. I was well under budget and feeling pretty good about it. Then, today, I remembered the caterers (Apparently its in good taste to feed people when they’re coming 1,000 miles for your wedding). We’re having Carolina barbecue for our meal, which is damn tasty (and cheap). Since I don’t have to give them the final head count until 3 days before the wedding, I calculated as if every single one of our guests RSVP’d yes.

YIKES. If everyone shows up, I will officially have approximately $250 left for the following:

  • Flowers (bouquets,  boutonnieres, etc)
  • Any decorations
  • Bridesmaid gifts
  • Hair/make-up for myself
  • Alcohol

Now, I know every single person we invite will likely not show up, but it’s still enough to skyrocket my anxiety through the roof, and start freaking out a little about my budget. Before today, I was fairly confident that I wasn’t going to have too many problems staying in the lines.

It looks like it’s time to get creative, and I would love to enlist my fellow broke-ass brides in any tips, tricks, or things I can do to get my life together. Please help me!