Broke-Ass Tag: bridesmaids


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Although I’m not having a formal bridal party, or a formal wedding, I still have some great friends that are helping me celebrate. Some of my closest friends have come together to throw a shower for me. Sometimes it seems weddings become an exchange of gifts: Your bridesmaids do something for you, you buy them gifts. You feed your guests dinner, they buy you gifts. Your man gives you a ring, you buy him a watch. It’s a fine line between gifts for the sake of doing something nice and gifts because you feel like you owe them something — but I really wanted to give my crew a little token of appreciation.

A simple search of “bridesmaid gifts” will give you a good list to start with. Many of the gifts pertain to getting ready for the wedding ceremony like matching robes to wear that morning, or bedazzled “bridesmaid” tank tops. Jewelry that matches their dress to wear in the wedding is also a popular gift. Personalized items are also very popular, particularly tumblers and wine glasses. Some of these things can get pretty pricey, especially with personalization, and it adds up when you have to buy multiples of everything.

I really wanted to find something they would use again, that was for them and not just for my wedding. I’m a sucker for a theme! Being a makeup artist, I decide to go with what I know and put together a little gift package with some of my favorite beauty items. I bought canvas makeup pouches from Amazon, and personalized each one with their name using a fabric marker. I also got sheet masks and foot treatments, also courtesy of Amazon. I picked up little manicure kits, lip glosses and nail polishes for each of them. ¬†To round it out, I ordered these pretty personalized compact mirrors with their initials from Etsy.

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All together, each gift with cost about $40, and they will all have something that is personal and also useful!

  • 6/8

    Meg and Steve's New Traditional Wedding || Image: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Photo: Sharyn Frenkel Photography

    Wedding parties. They can be a real pain in the ass.¬†Who do you choose? Is your sibling the automatic choice for maid of honor or best man?¬†Do you have to include someone just because you were a member of their wedding party? What if said wedding was like a decade ago … is there a time limit? My answers are whomever you want, no, no and no, but I also fully realize that not everyone is going to have the same answers. As with all wedding-related decisions, you should do what makes you happy … and as with life in general, that can be easier said than done.

    I don’t think of myself as a dramatic person (who does, though?), but there was definitely a little drama when it came to choosing who was going to stand up beside us on our wedding day.¬†Like it or not, that’s what happens when family, friends and feelings are involved. Right off the bat, Russel and I did not agree on the size of our wedding party. He wanted small, I wanted … not small. He made some super valid points. The more people, the more money we would be spending on flowers, our rehearsal dinner and gifts. We’re broke, so more money = bad. Wrangling a huge group of people can really be a pain, too. He also only has one brother and a fairly small circle of close friends, so it was going to be more difficult for him in that regard. I have five brothers and three sisters (yeah, it’s crazy), plus an amazing group of girlfriends, so that was never going to be an issue for me.

    So yeah. Russel is super logical and reasonable, but I am a stubborn brat. Even after he made those great arguments, I knew there were seven ladies who I wanted to be there with me on the most important day of my life. Nothing was changing my mind. Once that realization was made, I broached the subject of having an uneven bridal party. I had absolutely no problem with Russel having fewer groomsmen than I had bridesmaids. I’ve seen it done several times, and I think it’s great. I’m actually surprised it’s not done more often. Not every bride and groom have the same number of siblings or close friends, so it makes sense that bridesmaids and groomsmen wouldn’t match up. Russel was not a fan of this idea. And that’s fine! It’s his wedding, too. But now we were at a bit of a stalemate … and we stayed there.

    It actually took us almost three months to come to a decision. And by decision, I mean I finally just asked my girls to be my bridesmaids. I couldn’t handle any more conversations about it, since neither of us seemed to be budging. Probably not the best way to do it, but I had to save my sanity. Russel still had the option to have less than seven dudes, plus he also had five of my very awesome brothers to choose from if he really needed help rounding out his side. And it’s not like he would just be settling — he is actually great friends with them. Two good choices, in my opinion.¬†I think it took him another month or two to finally come to terms with a 14-person party (not counting the flower girl and ring bearer), but it did eventually happen. As a bonus, two of my brothers get to be up there with me when I tie the knot.¬†We really couldn’t be happier now that it’s all said and done. Our people are awesome, and they are going to help make our day super legit.

    So here we are. We have a big bridal party. So far, it really hasn’t been an issue. We aren’t to the part where we pay for the rehearsal and gifts, but even then I really don’t think it will cost us an arm and a leg. We are planning a super casual BBQ at our wedding venue Friday evening, and burgers, brats and corn on the cob aren’t exactly extravagant. We can choose how much to spend on bridal party gifts, but no matter the cost, there is no doubt in my mind that it will be worth it to have my sister and best friends standing next to me on my wedding day. Add in the fact that my mom is using fake flowers to make the¬†bouquets and¬†boutonnieres, and I can confidently say that big bridal party does NOT have to equal big money. There are so many ways to cut costs, and cutting the people we love doesn’t have to be one.

    How did you decide on your wedding party? Are you having a big one or a small one?

  • 4/15

    Team Bride Badges by MakeLoops

    Team Bride Badges, $7.28 by Etsy seller¬†MakeLoops It's a fact of wedding planning that people are the second-most unpredictable variable (weather is the first!). There will always be someone who doesn't do or say what you're expecting or¬†hoping, and it can be extremely frustrating when it's someone close to you.¬† Every now and then it's a bridesmaid that seems to go rogue, not following The…

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    Courtney Gown by Donna Morgan, available at Vow to Be Chic

    Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! Let's talk bridesmaids looks this week, shall we? We love our girls -- love 'em so much, in fact, that we've asked them to stand by our side on our wedding day. Shouldn't that love also translate into loving their bank accounts -- no matter how empty they may be? We think so. Which is why we try v. hard to provide…

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    Photo by Shaina Sheaff

    We talk a lot about taking the stress out of wedding planning and learning when to take a deep breath and let things go, but when it comes down to it, this is an incredibly special day and some things are worth a little fight. As our wedding day slips further and further into the past (almost five months, yo!), the glow of happiness is…

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  • 8/21


    A little reminder can help. Print by Etsy seller Hairbrainedschemes My friend Mindy is a Disney wedding blogger, and during her Q&A on Periscope (@MindyJoyM) yesterday, a bride asked her if she should cut¬†one of her bridesmaids. It wasn't working out. Her¬†bridesmaid didn't seem to be into the wedding and all it entailed, should the bride let her go?¬†What would the best way to do…

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    A few years ago, I was in a lot of weddings.¬† It seemed like all of my friends got married within a short period of time. Although I was honored to be a part of their special days, I would be lying if I said that the 'maid duties didn't put a strain on my enjoyment of the event. There I am in the bridal…

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    How to Make an Ugly Supermarket Arrangement into a Lovely Wedding Bouquet

    Supermarket arrangements aren't always, the prettiest. Kiss My Tulle has a great how-to on giving those bunches a gorgeous makeover. Speaking of bouquets -- Something Turquoise has some tips on how to fill out your floral arrangement. Getting your ideas from the fairest of them all? Inspired by Dis created a great Snow White-inspired styleboard for your bridesmaids. Not sure what wedding dress style will…

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  • 4/1

    You guys. I recently read that the average bridesmaid spends $1,700 for your broke-ass wedding. Wait, what?! As it turns out, this number is pretty real. Check out this breakdown: ¬†Average cost of bridesmaid dress: $200 (without alterations!) ¬†Average cost for bacholerette party: $400/bridesmaid ¬†Average cost for wedding day hair and makeup: $100-180 ¬†Average cost on gifts (engagement, shower, wedding): $200 ¬†Average cost for traveling…

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