Broke-Ass Tag: bridesmaid dresses

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Danielle's bridal party invitations

“Will you be my bridesmaid” card I made

Bridesmaids. This single word can hold so many emotions, meanings, joys, and nightmares. I have a whole gang of important women in my life that I want to stand by me on my special day. My fiance, Michael, has a lot fewer friends than I, so I’ve always known that the number of bridesmaids I had would be dictated by how many brothers he could rally to his side. Even numbers are a must in my book.

After Michael popped the question, I asked my sweetie to go out and find himself five groomsmen. We had already discussed making his older brother his Best Man and my little brother one of his groomsmen, that left him three gents to hunt down. Needless to say, I was a tiny bit peeved when Michael called me and happily declared that he had rallied all six of the groomsmen. Six … that number doesn’t at all sound like five. They don’t even start with the same sounds … how could you not underst- … *SIGH* yes, thank you dear. *Quietly grinding teeth*. Yeah, it’s a bit tacky to “unask” a guy to be one of your groomsmen so, I had to go rally another bridesmaid.

I had taken pains to ask all of them individually in a unique way to be my bridesmaid. I had a lass in mind, but it was legit MONTHS after I had asked all the other girls to be my bros. How do you ask a lass to be your wingman without making it look crazy obvious that you need her to fill a quota? Then, how do you tactfully drop the, oh by the way, we have an appointment this weekend to go look at bridesmaid dresses, I hope your Sunday is open?

A huge smile, a tiny bit of groveling, and a really nice card (with a killer presentation) help along your case if you land yourself in the same spot. She took it well, didn’t even blink or bat an eye when I gave her the card I’d made. Panic levels? Dropping back to manageable levels. Oh yeah, and thanks for saying you’d be a bridesmaid Ashlee, did I mention that we are going dress shopping in four days? Got plans this Sunday? *Panic-meter jumps* What? No plans you say? Great, meet you at David’s Bridal at 10am then.

Danielle's troupe goes bridesmaid dress shopping

My junior bridesmaid begging for a dress

For the complete trainwreck asking my girls to stand with me was, I’m surprised at how well they all got along while we went dress shopping. We hit David’s Bridal and Alfred Angelo that day with a lunch break in between. I had asked them all to look at some dresses beforehand so we had some ideas of what they wanted. I secretly wanted everyone to pick the same dress, but as long as it was the same fabric and color, it didn’t matter. They all have vastly different body shapes, especially my just recently flowered junior bridesmaid who’s only 11. After at least 20 dresses and two stores, they were all leaning towards one dress that I pretty much hated but they all seemed rabid over … or so I thought.

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The dress we all apparently hated

We decided to order that dress in March to give some of them a chance to finish their weight loss plans. Weeks crawl into months and one by one they casually mention to me how much they also hate the dress. Seriously y’all, why didn’t anyone say something in the store? One of my ‘maids is a bit more … outspoken, than the others and must have led them down that path of least resistance. So … we find ourselves back at square one again. My sister, Angela, and I went out over Christmas break and picked a fabric, color and two designers. I think this time I will just pick a handful of dresses that I don’t think suck and just ask them to pick one from that selection instead. This way, if they hate the dress, they are the ones who picked it. I made it super clear that if all the ones I picked suck, to let me know and I can hunt out another dress they’ll like. I love all of them, but picking a dress is apparently like herding cats.

What about you, any bridesmaid moments that make you want to scream and pull out your hair?

  • 2/19

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    Shopping for a wedding dress is one of the huge milestones of the wedding planning process — and can often be intimidating and overwhelming. This can be even more true when you’re a Broke-Ass Bride and are operating on a v. tight budget. While some broke-ass couples may allocate more for the wedding gown (because there are some of us who put that as a high priority, and good on ya, girl!), there are also a number of us who cringe at the thought of dropping some serious dough on a dress they may only wear once. Putting a strict threshold on the amount you’re willing to shell out for your gown may limit your options — you can pretty much count out that schmancy bridal salon — it does open up the doors for some creative shopping. For this week’s Five for Friday, I dug up some perhaps surprising places where you can get your wedding dress online, and for a measly $500 or less.

    Asos

    While Asos is often known as an affordable stop for adorable clothes for work and play (guys, they have a great selection of extended lines, too — plus, tall, petite and maternity), they’re also a total hidden gem for gorgeous dresses that can easily translate to wedding attire. They have a huge selection under $500, which should leave enough room in your budget to accessorize the hell outta yourself!

    ModCloth

    I mean, is anyone really surprised ModCloth made this list? Their super cute vintage styles are everything a Broke-Ass Bride could dream of — and in recent months, they’ve expanded to include very wedding-specific styles, all at a price point that would make any BAB happy.

    Shopbop

    While Shopbop may be better known for high-end designers and labels, if you dig deep enough into their Wedding Boutique, you’ll find a plethora of gorgeous frocks that totally fit a Broke-Ass budget. With names like Badgley Mischka, Rachel Zoe and Jill Stuart, you can totally rock a designer gown without forking over too much cash.

    Nordstrom

    The well-known department store has a gorgeous selection of wedding dresses — but many fall well outside the parameters of what Broke-Asses may want to pay. The real hidden treasure at Nordstrom is in their bridesmaid dress selection — most of which come in some shade of white or off-white, and bear labels by the likes of Jenny Yoo and Monique Lhuillier. Score one of these beauties for a fraction of the cost of a wedding gown by the same designer and rock your wedding day in style!

    BHDLN

    What’s not to love about Anthropologie’s wedding line? Very little, in our opinions. Often a go-to resource for our “Can’t Afford It? Get Over It!” column because of their approachable price points, BHLDN has certainly become a mainstay here on BAB. While most of the gowns run in the $900-$2000 range, checking under the Reception Dresses or Sale tabs will yield a whole wonderland of beautiful options for well under $500.

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  • 7/30

    Real Bride Shannon custom bridesmaid dress

    Many a friendship has suffered some scrapes and bruises over bridesmaids dresses. Much like diamonds, dresses come with a handful of “C’s” to consider, too: color, cut, cost … you get it. I never felt too picky about what my ladies were wearing; I just wanted them to look good and feel good, and knowing the cash wasn’t exactly flowing for anyone, I wanted to…

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    3/31

    As a Broke-Ass Bride I want to be as equally wallet conscious for my Broke-Ass bridesmaids. As much I love being in many weddings, I have been known to silently shed a tear looking at my bank account during wedding season. Between the dress, shoes, makeup, hair, bridal shower, bridal shower gift, bachelorette and wedding gift, it adds up. However, I am lucky that the weddings I have…

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    10/29

    Oh, it's been a minute since we've had a giveaway, hasn't it? Well, TopWedding is here to change that. In honor of their beautiful new arrivals of bridesmaids gowns, TopWedding is giving away one of the sleek silhouettes, perfect for a formal affair or wintry bash. With a huge range of colors and styles available, and since they're manufactured overseas, TopWedding has dresses to complement…

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  • 10/10

    Happy Friday, darlings! I'm pretty stoked about this week's Five for Friday, because the lovely, lovely peeps over at Unique Vintage and I schemed up something super special for you. In honor of this girl's 30th birthday (which, you guys, I've been waiting FOREVER for this), Unique Vintage is knocking a cool 30% off select styles this weekend just for you, BABs, which knocks most…

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    9/30

    It's no surprise that I uber heart gold and pretty much anything black + white patterned. I mean really, it's kind of the perfect color scheme and can translate easily to almost any wedding theme. But what about wintry weddings that are trying to go a little more cozy than ultra-glam? Welp, plaid, my dears. Think about it: Sleigh rides, flannel shirts, fleecy throws. Plaid,…

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    5/13

    I gave my bridesmaids the most blessed gift of all: The Freedom of Choice. Please excuse me while I toot my own horn ... Honestly though, in my very own humble opinion, formal and official bridesmaids dresses are an extremely dated practice. Even if I did like the tradition, there is still no way in Hades that I would ever ask my girls to spend more than…

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  • 2/14

    "Audrey," by Weddington Way

    Happy Friday, BABs! I scoured the Interwebz for five gorgeous and timeless bridesmaids dresses for you to ogle. Bonus: They're all $150 or less! Enjoy! "Elizabeth," by Weddington Way. D574 by Alfred Sung. D518 by Alfred Sung. D516 by Alfred Sung. "Audrey," by Weddington Way. Which is your favorite? What feel are you going with for your ladies? Tell us in the comments!

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