Broke-Ass Tag: bridal showers

8/2

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Yeah, it’s not just the distance that’s tricky.

Dear Liz, 

Is a 35-40 minute drive too far between the ceremony and reception sites? I want to get married overlooking the valley that I live in, then have the reception at a hotel on the beach. It’s a pretty drive…

Signed, 

Actual Miles

Dear Miles,

If this is what you want, you should do it – it happens all the time. But, you need to be realistic about the distance, in order to make it work. First of all, 30-45 minutes is at least an hour, given “people flow” (TM Liz), the amount of time it takes folks to leave, get in the car, figure out where they’re going and how to get there, and arrive. Oh, and traffic. Traffic is not going to miraculously disappear because it’s your wedding day. I wish it would, because that would certainly make my professional life easier, but it won’t, especially if everyone else is heading to the beach, along with your guests.

So, what does that mean? It means that you have to figure out the logistics of decorating two locations that are a two-hour round trip apart. It means that you have to make it very, very clear to your guests that the ceremony and reception are not a hop, skip and a jump away from each other. It means that you have to schedule cocktails and dinner both early enough and late enough so that everyone will actually be able  to enjoy them. It means that you have to be prepared if some of your guests can make either the ceremony or the reception, but not both.  A lot of thought, a little bit of effort. Prepare for the worst, and work towards the best solution.

JEALOUS.
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Dear Liz, 

I have a question relating to destination weddings. My fiancé and I have chosen to wed in Italy, because frankly, it’s surprisingly less expensive! We also wanted to highlight the true celebration of marriage, which is Love, and avoid the big circus production of a wedding, too. With that being said, are brides still allowed to have bridal showers despite having a destination wedding? Are honeymoon registries tacky? We will celebrate with close friends & family on our return.

Signed, 

A Broke-Ass Sposa

Dear Sposa,

You can have a bridal shower, as long as someone is willing to throw one for you – you can’t host it for yourself. “Etiquette” also says that you shouldn’t invite people to the shower who aren’t invited to the wedding, but I think there might be a little wiggle room in there, depending on who you’re inviting to the wedding, and who’s hosting the shower. As far as the tackiness of honeymoon registries, the debate rages on. Me? I’m a fan.

So, what are you doing to make the travel between your wedding and reception easier for everyone involved? Any tips for managing a destination from home? What do you think of my advice? Let me know in the comments below. And, if you would like to find out more about me and my little part of wedding world, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz
Liz
  • 3/22

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    Dear Liz,

    I am in the process of planning my wedding, which is this October 12. I ‘m having a really hard time staying in my $7,000 budget. I have already purchased my dress (which is not included in my budget because I way over did it). Food is my biggest dilemma,now. I could care less about the food but my mother is telling me that is what people remember most about a wedding. I am doing buffet style which is cheapest, but do you do chicken and fish, fish and beef, beef and chicken?? IM OVER IT! I wish my wedding planning was more enjoyable at this point but I do not know how to get out of this “money over everything” rut!! Please give me the best advice on saving on food, center pieces AND wedding favors for my guests!

    Signed,
    Seven months out, and FREAKING out

    Always a crowd pleaser, you know?

    Dear Seven,

    How about “good” and “quick” advice? If your budget is tight, then keep it simple: Beef, chicken, and a vegetarian option, if you (or your Mom) think that there are enough guests who will want it. If not, keep it to beef and chicken. I’m cutting out fish because it can be a little expensive depending on the market value. Add a couple of side dishes or a salad, no extras. You didn’t say if your venue is catering, but if not, do you have a favorite restaurant? Start there and see if they can deliver to your venue.

    Centerpieces and bouquets. Again, keep flowers simple, small and seasonal. Check out my Budget Wedding Tips Pinterest Board for ideas.  Throw votive candles around at will.

    Favors. Food – Candy, cookies, cupcakes – are still the only things I never have to pick up and toss at the end of the night. A DIY candy buffet with cute take-home bags works, too.

    What happens in Vegas is…just too hard for everyone to get to.

    Dear Liz,

    I live on the west coast.  Two of my bridesmaids as well as most of my close friends live on the east coast, as do my future in-laws.  My family, which includes my sisters who are also bridesmaids, is in the Midwest.  I have friends spread throughout the US.  When it came to the wedding, we decided to have it near where we live now and everyone’s been very cool about that.  However, I’m now getting a lot of questions about where I want to do my bachelorette party and bridal shower.  I HATE when brides or grooms make their bridal party and friends fly somewhere expensive for elaborate bachelor or bachelorette parties.  But it seems like there’s no way to include all of my important people without SOMEONE flying.  The east coast would have the highest number of important people but having a shower and bachelorette party there would inevitably lead to my family being hurt – yet I don’t really want to make my friends all fly to the Midwest.  I’m really torn as to how to do something fun with the people I care about without costing most of them a ridiculous amount of money.  Any suggestions?

    Signed,

    -Tri-State of Mind

    Dear Mind,

    Actually, the simplest solution would be for YOU to be the only person flying around! So, bridal shower and bachelorette on the East Coast on one weekend, and then a bridal shower and bachelorette party in the Midwest on another weekend. Two trips. Talk to you hosts about spacing them out enough so you can recover in between!

    How is everyone getting to your pre-wedding parties? And do you have any budget tips for Seven? Share in the comments below. And, if you would like to find out more about me and my little part of Wedding World, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.

    See you at the end of the aisle,

    Liz
    Liz
  • 8/20

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    12/9

    Dear Liz, My fiance and I are both getting married for the second time. I love the idea of wearing a beautiful dress and sharing this day with my closest friends and family, but I'm not sure the etiquette for a second wedding. I am content with court-house nuptials and a low-key party afterward. I have spread the word that I don't expect or want…

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