A few weeks ago I wrote about how excited I was about my customized wedding dress – it’s very unique and very me. I also found some gorgeous, comfortable low wedges (and then bought two more pairs in other colors for work, if that says something), the perfect dangly earrings, a matching belt, and a really fantastic feathered, sparkly hair clip for the reception. I can’t wait to put everything together on the big day … except my veil. I really, really dislike the veil I bought, and it’s non-refundable, non-exchangeable, and, unlike the rest of my bridal ensemble, non-Elissa. I tried it on when I initially bought my dress, and loved the way it coordinated with the ribbon belt I put on in the store. The salesgirl told me it was the only one left (in hindsight a sales tactic), and I got caught up in the thrill of the find. I never even looked at the pricetag – it was such a simple veil, one narrow layer of tulle, how bad could it be? It ended up being $80, and even though I felt in my gut that wasn’t a good price, I let the WIC get the best of me and plunked down my credit card.
So now, almost a year later, the look of my dress, and my bridal look altogether, has changed so drastically from what I envisioned when I bought the veil. I so wish I’d saved this piece for last, or at least shopped around a bit more, because now I’m feeling stuck. Buying another veil is certainly easy enough, but I’m feeling guilty about essentially wasting $80, especially since I’ll likely only be wearing the veil for an hour or two.
Option One: Get over myself and wear the darn veil. It’s really not that bad, but it’s just not what I’m envisioning for my day. I feel like it’s kind of plain, cheaply constructed, and doesn’t add anything, but chances are strong that I’ll be caught up in the joy of my wedding day and not care anymore.
Option Two: Like a proud BAB, try and get crafty and re-configure the veil I have. One of the styles I’m leaning toward is an oversized birdcage. I have plenty of tulle to play with on my current fingertip option, but the ribbon edging on it may prove tricky, and I could ruin it altogether. I wouldn’t be able to either wear it or re-sell it, and will have truly wasted the $80.
The Mabel Birdcage Veil from Etsy
Option Three: Get over myself and buy a new veil. My bridesmaid Emily made a great point: yes, I’m only wearing it for two hours on my wedding day, but I’ll be wearing it for the rest of my life in photos. Why tinge them with any kind of regret? With this option, I can try and sell my current veil on a site like Tradesy or OnceWed.
Even if I decide to go this route though, I still can’t even settle on a style – I just know it has to be different than the one I have. I’ve trolled Etsy for days, and visited a few other bridal salons (including one who tried to sell me a five-foot-long piece of plain ivory tulle for $650). Do I go retro with the oversized birdcage, that shows off the detail on my dress? Classic and dramatic with a chapel length and blusher that can romantically blow in the wind? Or compromise with a full, two layer cascading elbow length, like the one below? I also can’t bring myself to spend more than $50 on a new one, as there are SO MANY other places I want to spend that money right now (like … an awesome meal on our honeymoon).
I know I have to make a decision ASAP, so that I have plenty of time to order the new one if that’s the route I choose. I also know this is such a silly problem to have, but it does feel good to rant about it. And if nothing else comes from this, I hope another bride reads this post and thinks twice about impulse-buying something non-returnable, a year before the wedding!