That’s the sound I made when we stepped off the plane and the Caribbean air hit my face. It’s the noise my new husband had mentioned two weeks before when he said, “I can’t wait until I hear you sigh in relief on our honeymoon and finally get to relax,” during a stressful night of wrapping up our wedding plans.
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Guys, it’s really, really important for you to take note of when you’re feeling super overwhelmed and stressed out, and to make time to take care of it — before and after your wedding day. I know how it can be to feel like you’ve gone in over your head and you’ll never get it all done in time. But trust me when I say that it’ll all work out, and you need to take care of yourself first.
The week before our wedding day, Steve and I set a deadline of when everything needed to get done. Like, everything. So, we decided the Wednesday before the wedding would be that day. Why? Because after more than seven years of dating, we wanted to take a step back and reflect on all of the great things we had been through in those last seven years. We were taking our relationship to the next level — new titles, new anniversary date, etc., — so we wanted to enjoy our last days being “single.”
The great part about having this deadline is that I scheduled some time to pamper myself during the day Thursday, and we made plans for a dinner date that night. We didn’t give ourselves much of a choice — we had to get everything done the night before. It was nice to spend some one-on-one time with my fiancé one last time.
The next night was our rehearsal dinner. You know what’s great about your rehearsal dinner? All you have to do is show and up and enjoy it! Or at least this was my case. My in-laws took care of everything. My only request was that it was casual and relaxed — and it was! We spent the night dining at a vineyard, and a cupcake truck even showed up at one point.
The whole crew at rehearsal dinner! Courtesy of Shanna Cattell
The 48 hours of chill time bled into the day of the wedding, which was the ultimate goal — to not be stressed out or anxious. While Steve and his groomsmen were getting shaved and bumming around at his parents’ house, us ladies were at a hotel getting our hair and makeup done with mimosas. My ‘maids were seriously THE BEST that morning. While I didn’t feel nervous at all, my stomach was doing somersaults all day long. They kept me laughing while we rocked out to vintage love songs. That’s about where my relax time ended for the day as we had some seriously partying to do!
Can we talk about how I literally stayed in bed until 2 pm? Courtesy of my new sister Katelyn Gudknecht
Now, the tricky part about marrying a school teacher in a snowy state is that you don’t know when the last day of school will be when you book your wedding. With that said, we both went back to work the week after the wedding, but not with a little breather in between. The Monday after, we slept in (a luxury these days) and then spent a day acting like tourists in our own city.
Then, came the honeymoon. AHHHHHHH. While we went back and forth on where we wanted to go, what we wanted to do and when we wanted to do it, we eventually settled on going the all-inclusive route, or what I like to refer to as “turning your brain off for a few days.” We didn’t have a care in the world — as long as we had the sun, sand and each other, we were good! We ultimately came home feeling refreshed and ready for the next stage in live — being husband and wife!
We honeymooned in La Romana, Dominican Republic!
So, my advice is this: When you’re feeling like this whole wedding planing thing has no finish line, just realize that at some point, you gotta let it go and let it all happen. Your wedding day is your day, so be able to enjoy it!