Oh hey, we’re married! It’s been a little over a month since we tied the knot, and things are getting back to normal. The first thing that people asked us when we returned from our mini-moon was, “how does it feel like to be married?” And honestly, we both say that nothing really feels all that different … I just have a new last name and it’s been like a Jane Austen novel around here, referring to each other as “Mr. Hamilton” and “Mrs. Hamilton” 24/7. Life is pretty good.
I will say though that all of the wedding cliches people tell you when you’re engaged are absolutely true — especially that the day will fly by and be over before you know it. I couldn’t believe it when our photographer came up to me at the reception, told me that it was 9 p.m., and she was wrapping up for the day — how could it be that late already and the day was coming to an end?? I’m so glad I listened to everyone’s advice to just take in the day and enjoy every possible moment.
With my sister, my Maid of Honor
The other cliche I heard time and again was that things will go wrong that you won’t have any control over. Oh boy, was that one right. Not to dwell on the negatives, because I wouldn’t have had my wedding any other way (and hello, the weather was perfect!), but we had our fair share of things going wrong.
- Balloons: Our main decoration for the ceremony and reception were giant, 3-foot balloons that I ordered through an event company that specializes in balloons for large parties and events. I ordered 14 balloons, all single large balloons of different colors, on a wide ribbon with a weight, to be delivered and set up at our venue. I had a bad feeling about everything before the wedding since my emails weren’t being returned about getting a final bill for what I owed. The day before the wedding, I got a call from the owner saying that she ordered my balloons months ago and they didn’t tell her they didn’t come in the 3-foot size in a specific color I asked for. I could have gone bridezilla, but I didn’t really care all that much, and told her to pick out a color that would coordinate with the rest of the balloons. The day of the wedding, my fiance went over to the venue to make sure they were delivered and texted me a photo — not only were they not set up to my specifications (on the tables and placed outside for the ceremony), they were giant 3-foot balloons with a cluster of four different balloons underneath, on a string, with a ribbon streamer. I’m not sure what got lost in translation when I told her I wanted a single balloon and sent her several photos of exactly what I wanted! My bridesmaids fixed everything when we got to the venue and popped the small balloons, but I forgot to have some of the balloons set up outside for the ceremony, and didn’t realize we didn’t have any ceremony decorations until I saw photos our guests took. But hey, if I didn’t miss the balloons outside, no one else did either. We ended up just having a bunch inside for our reception scattered all across the room.
- We were late: For some reason I still don’t understand, I had to wait for my sister to get a water bottle from her hotel room before we left to go to the venue and we ended up being a half-hour late for taking photos. Plus, it was 85 degrees out that day and everyone had been waiting outside in the heat when we showed up, the guys all in black suits. I was furious with my sister (who was my Maid of Honor) the whole way to the venue, especially when she flippantly said that the bride is supposed to be late on her wedding day. Not me! I hate being late, and especially having our wedding party and family waiting for us when they showed up on time for photos before the ceremony
- We had an unexpected guest: Yes, one of my fiance’s family members, who he is not close with and hasn’t seen in years but we had to invite, didn’t RSVP but showed up for the wedding. I didn’t realize this until we were sitting down for dinner and I looked over at a table and asked him who was sitting next to one of his relatives. We called our venue coordinator over and explained everything to her, and she took care if it and had plate of food made up for him for dinner — no extra charge, which was really nice of her.
All in all, those were the major things that went wrong, but all of the positives outweighed the negative things that we were probably the only ones the noticed or knew about. We had perfect weather, the food was delicious, our guests and friends had a great time, and at the end of the day we were married and ready to start our new adventure together. I wouldn’t have done it any other way!