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Danielle's bridal party invitations

“Will you be my bridesmaid” card I made

Bridesmaids. This single word can hold so many emotions, meanings, joys, and nightmares. I have a whole gang of important women in my life that I want to stand by me on my special day. My fiance, Michael, has a lot fewer friends than I, so I’ve always known that the number of bridesmaids I had would be dictated by how many brothers he could rally to his side. Even numbers are a must in my book.

After Michael popped the question, I asked my sweetie to go out and find himself five groomsmen. We had already discussed making his older brother his Best Man and my little brother one of his groomsmen, that left him three gents to hunt down. Needless to say, I was a tiny bit peeved when Michael called me and happily declared that he had rallied all six of the groomsmen. Six … that number doesn’t at all sound like five. They don’t even start with the same sounds … how could you not underst- … *SIGH* yes, thank you dear. *Quietly grinding teeth*. Yeah, it’s a bit tacky to “unask” a guy to be one of your groomsmen so, I had to go rally another bridesmaid.

I had taken pains to ask all of them individually in a unique way to be my bridesmaid. I had a lass in mind, but it was legit MONTHS after I had asked all the other girls to be my bros. How do you ask a lass to be your wingman without making it look crazy obvious that you need her to fill a quota? Then, how do you tactfully drop the, oh by the way, we have an appointment this weekend to go look at bridesmaid dresses, I hope your Sunday is open?

A huge smile, a tiny bit of groveling, and a really nice card (with a killer presentation) help along your case if you land yourself in the same spot. She took it well, didn’t even blink or bat an eye when I gave her the card I’d made. Panic levels? Dropping back to manageable levels. Oh yeah, and thanks for saying you’d be a bridesmaid Ashlee, did I mention that we are going dress shopping in four days? Got plans this Sunday? *Panic-meter jumps* What? No plans you say? Great, meet you at David’s Bridal at 10am then.

Danielle's troupe goes bridesmaid dress shopping

My junior bridesmaid begging for a dress

For the complete trainwreck asking my girls to stand with me was, I’m surprised at how well they all got along while we went dress shopping. We hit David’s Bridal and Alfred Angelo that day with a lunch break in between. I had asked them all to look at some dresses beforehand so we had some ideas of what they wanted. I secretly wanted everyone to pick the same dress, but as long as it was the same fabric and color, it didn’t matter. They all have vastly different body shapes, especially my just recently flowered junior bridesmaid who’s only 11. After at least 20 dresses and two stores, they were all leaning towards one dress that I pretty much hated but they all seemed rabid over … or so I thought.

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The dress we all apparently hated

We decided to order that dress in March to give some of them a chance to finish their weight loss plans. Weeks crawl into months and one by one they casually mention to me how much they also hate the dress. Seriously y’all, why didn’t anyone say something in the store? One of my ‘maids is a bit more … outspoken, than the others and must have led them down that path of least resistance. So … we find ourselves back at square one again. My sister, Angela, and I went out over Christmas break and picked a fabric, color and two designers. I think this time I will just pick a handful of dresses that I don’t think suck and just ask them to pick one from that selection instead. This way, if they hate the dress, they are the ones who picked it. I made it super clear that if all the ones I picked suck, to let me know and I can hunt out another dress they’ll like. I love all of them, but picking a dress is apparently like herding cats.

What about you, any bridesmaid moments that make you want to scream and pull out your hair?

  • 12/23

    Happy Holidays from Team Broke-Ass

    Hey BABs! Whew, what a year! We had some great times, some hard times and some just flat out rad times. Huge things happened near and far — from the very scary to the very wonderful (hello, marriage equality!) in 2016. There were amazing Real Weddings; some seriously rad DIYs; riveting, overwhelming and always relatable Real Bride Stories; and sage, on-point advice from our stellar wedding pros. Behind the scenes, Christen got married and had a baby and our book is still climbing the charts.

    Because it’s been such a good (and insane) year, we’re giving ourselves a little break over the holidays (because we earned it, damnit). Though we won’t be posting any new content to the site until after the new year, we will continue sharing some of our favorite stories, inspirations, how-tos and real weddings on our Facebook, Twitter and Pinterest accounts. But don’t worry, we’ll still be around, prettifying things on the back end, collecting perfect nuggets of wisdom and adding your Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! requests and Broke-Ass Advice pleas to the calendar.

    We’re also searching for some new Real Brides and Can’t Afford It? Get Over It! shopping gurus! If you’re interested in either, email info@brokeassbride.com with a little info about yourself and for Real Weddings, about your wedding. If you’re interested in CAI/GOI, send us a link to a Pinterest board with one designer gown and your get over it offerings! Put #TeamBrokeAss and either Real Bride or CAI/GOI in the subject line!

    Thank you all for helping to make this year as un-freaking-believable as it was! We hope your holidays are filled with love, wonder, glitter, unicorns and general badassery.

    xoxo!

    christen
  • 12/22

    Berta 15-18

    Y'all have some major love for Berta gowns! Today's CAI/GOI request is from Amber, who commented on this previous Berta post. She writes: "HELP! I also fell in love with a Berta gown, Berta 15-18 to be exact. My budget is around $3,000. Any recommendations?? Thanks!" The Berta gown in question is an embellished lace sheath number, complete with detachable train, from the 2015 Spring/Summer…

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    12/20

    RR-31

    Our wedding was the best day ever, so naturally we wanted some really fun ways to remember it. I talked about my way too expensive Instax guestbook a while back, and while it did cost a pretty penny, I am SO glad we ended up doing it. I am obsessed. There was a time when we had no idea where the guestbook was going to…

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    12/19

    diy real wedding

    Credit: Juniper Photography I’m sure many people have ideas about how they want their weddings to be even before they start planning them. Maybe they know for sure they want to get married on the beach, or they’ve always known they would wear a family heirloom that has been passed down for generations. I had ideas like that too -- my matrimonial must-haves, if you will.…

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  • 12/16

    The Broke-Ass Bride's 2016 Gift Guide The Ultimate Gentleman

    It’s that time of year again! Gift guides are back! From now until the holidays, we’ll be rounding up some of our favorite gift ideas, mostly in broke-ass budget range (but with one or two splurges thrown in). Whether you’re shopping for your best gal, your favorite dude, your family or yourself, you’re going to find some stellar ideas for everyone on your shopping list.…

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    12/15

    Nicole Miller Ashley Gown

    Hey BABs! This week, we have a request from reader Katelynn who commented on this post saying: Nice Work! I love BAB!! I've got my own CAI/GOI conundrum: I've fallen in love with the Ashley bridal gown by Nicole Miller (http://www.nicolemiller.com/as... but it's more than I wanted to spend at $1800. Ideally, I'd love a dress between $500-$800. I love the lace, low back, and halter…

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    12/13

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    Cupcake paper mason jar embellishment Ah the holidays, a wonderful time of year where families hemorrhage money trying to get each other awesome and thoughtful gifts. I don’t know about your broke ass, but mine has a long list of people that I’m obligated to gift to. When I was still in college (and even more broke), I struggled to check everyone off my list…

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  • 12/12

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    So the wedding registry process is NO JOKE!  So many options and so much advice, not to mention I need to select things that I think I will like -- rather love -- for a long time ... seriously?! Thank goodness I have a fiance who has an appreciation for the finer things in life and was down to join me at a couple of…

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