Obviously, technology plays a huge part in our lives, but there’s a lot of corners you can find yourself banging into when it comes to tech in Wedding World.
Look, first it started with personal wedding websites and online gift registries. Then e-vites and e-RSVPs and cute apps that keep your guests and your wedding party constantly updated on your plans for the Big Day. You know, if they download the app.
It can never be enough, it seems, but it can also be too much. Because your pursuit of a perfectly efficient, streamlined, green wedding planning experience, will, somewhere along the way, fall victim to human nature.
The Tech That is Good
Wedding websites. One stop shop for additional information, which is just the best. Sign up on The Knot, Wedding Wire, Wedding Paper Divas or one of a dozen other sites, put it somewhere on your invite. Done.
Evites. The popular thought is still that you either have to send out paper invites or you have to send out both, but I’m not sure. I think that’s more of an expectation thing – you expect your grandmother (last seen checking email on her Kindle) won’t be able to open up an email, or will be offended that she has to. We’ve been working with this internet thing for over 20 years, now. Might be time to save a little money, a little paper and give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Online registries. Listed, hopefully on your wedding website. Ready to ship your wedding gifts to the house of your choice. For the most part, it prevents guests from having to bring gifts to your wedding, which you then have to lug to the house of your choice. For the most part.
When you’re looking for good Wed Tech, again, think “one-stop shopping.” The wedding website or e-vite that can track your RSVPs, that can tell your guests, with a click, where to buy your gifts and where to stay. Don’t drive yourself or your guests nuts trying to find the right information in a combination of seven different places.
The Tech That is Not So Great
Wedding apps. You can build a wedding app that takes the place of a wedding website. An app that stores/sends any pictures guests take at your wedding. The aforementioned app that keeps everyone informed on your planning progress. It’s not that the apps in of themselves are bad, but you’re going to lose most people when you send them to a secondary location (the app website) to get them to the third location (the app), and expecting everyone to download it, and then remember to use it. I checked – I have 120 apps on my phone. I use seven, maybe, on a daily or weekly basis. How about you? And before you think, “well, I can set up a notification system for updates”?
Just … No. Don’t spam your guests.
That’s a good rule for any Wed Tech you use. Don’t spam. Universal truth: No one cares about your wedding as much as you do. No one is as invested as you are, and it would be a little weird if they were. Don’t get me wrong, they care about you. They care about whether or not they can be there, and about doing the right thing when they get there. So, give them a place to go to get that information. But don’t worry that they have to know about every little change when it changes. Everyone’s grown. For the most part. Which brings us to …
The Tech That Will Not Work As Well As You Want It To
Manage your expectations:
Online RSVPs. It does not matter what you do, you will not get a 100% RSVP by your deadline. The human nature thing. People procrastinate, people aren’t sure if they can come when the deadline hits, people forget. Or they assume that you know that they’re coming, or that you know they’re not. Whatever the reason, you will have hunt the RSVP AWOLs down. Be proactive: Set up a spreadsheet with everyone’s names, phone numbers and email address and avoid scrambling. Scrambling sucks.
Online registries will not prevent some guests from physically bringing their gift to your wedding. Many guests will also bring envelopes with checks and cash. Have a place where those can go when they get there, and a plan for how to get them out.
So, seriously, is it time to go full green and make e-vites the new norm? What tech are you using for your wedding?
Let me know in the comments below. And if you’d like to find out more about me and my part of Wedding World, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.
See you at the end of the aisle,