Broke-Ass Category: The Wedding Party

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Danielle's bridal party invitations

“Will you be my bridesmaid” card I made

Bridesmaids. This single word can hold so many emotions, meanings, joys, and nightmares. I have a whole gang of important women in my life that I want to stand by me on my special day. My fiance, Michael, has a lot fewer friends than I, so I’ve always known that the number of bridesmaids I had would be dictated by how many brothers he could rally to his side. Even numbers are a must in my book.

After Michael popped the question, I asked my sweetie to go out and find himself five groomsmen. We had already discussed making his older brother his Best Man and my little brother one of his groomsmen, that left him three gents to hunt down. Needless to say, I was a tiny bit peeved when Michael called me and happily declared that he had rallied all six of the groomsmen. Six … that number doesn’t at all sound like five. They don’t even start with the same sounds … how could you not underst- … *SIGH* yes, thank you dear. *Quietly grinding teeth*. Yeah, it’s a bit tacky to “unask” a guy to be one of your groomsmen so, I had to go rally another bridesmaid.

I had taken pains to ask all of them individually in a unique way to be my bridesmaid. I had a lass in mind, but it was legit MONTHS after I had asked all the other girls to be my bros. How do you ask a lass to be your wingman without making it look crazy obvious that you need her to fill a quota? Then, how do you tactfully drop the, oh by the way, we have an appointment this weekend to go look at bridesmaid dresses, I hope your Sunday is open?

A huge smile, a tiny bit of groveling, and a really nice card (with a killer presentation) help along your case if you land yourself in the same spot. She took it well, didn’t even blink or bat an eye when I gave her the card I’d made. Panic levels? Dropping back to manageable levels. Oh yeah, and thanks for saying you’d be a bridesmaid Ashlee, did I mention that we are going dress shopping in four days? Got plans this Sunday? *Panic-meter jumps* What? No plans you say? Great, meet you at David’s Bridal at 10am then.

Danielle's troupe goes bridesmaid dress shopping

My junior bridesmaid begging for a dress

For the complete trainwreck asking my girls to stand with me was, I’m surprised at how well they all got along while we went dress shopping. We hit David’s Bridal and Alfred Angelo that day with a lunch break in between. I had asked them all to look at some dresses beforehand so we had some ideas of what they wanted. I secretly wanted everyone to pick the same dress, but as long as it was the same fabric and color, it didn’t matter. They all have vastly different body shapes, especially my just recently flowered junior bridesmaid who’s only 11. After at least 20 dresses and two stores, they were all leaning towards one dress that I pretty much hated but they all seemed rabid over … or so I thought.

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The dress we all apparently hated

We decided to order that dress in March to give some of them a chance to finish their weight loss plans. Weeks crawl into months and one by one they casually mention to me how much they also hate the dress. Seriously y’all, why didn’t anyone say something in the store? One of my ‘maids is a bit more … outspoken, than the others and must have led them down that path of least resistance. So … we find ourselves back at square one again. My sister, Angela, and I went out over Christmas break and picked a fabric, color and two designers. I think this time I will just pick a handful of dresses that I don’t think suck and just ask them to pick one from that selection instead. This way, if they hate the dress, they are the ones who picked it. I made it super clear that if all the ones I picked suck, to let me know and I can hunt out another dress they’ll like. I love all of them, but picking a dress is apparently like herding cats.

What about you, any bridesmaid moments that make you want to scream and pull out your hair?

  • 12/16

    Affiliate Disclaimer NewIt’s that time of year again! Gift guides are back! From now until the holidays, we’ll be rounding up some of our favorite gift ideas, mostly in broke-ass budget range (but with one or two splurges thrown in). Whether you’re shopping for your best gal, your favorite dude, your family or yourself, you’re going to find some stellar ideas for everyone on your shopping list. This week Ryan’s bringing you a little something for the guys.

    ‘Tis the season for list-making and gift-giving. We’re dashing through our lists with some of our top favorites of the year. Stumped on what to add to your list? Check out this Ultimate Gentleman’s Gift Guide for some serious inspirations.

    The Broke-Ass Bride's 2016 Gift Guide The Ultimate Gentleman

    Top row, left to right:

    Drink up, in a delightfully macabre way.
    Skull Decanter, $33.08 from Etsy seller JayEngrave

    Pineapples are still having a moment.
    Pineapple Jam Pocket Square, $15 from The Tie Bar

    Art + Science = Perfect home decor.
    Atmosphere Print by We Are Brainstorm, $45 from Upstate MN

    Middle row, l to r:

    It’s a knife! It’s a corkscrew! It’s a lifesaver for all situations!
    No. 10 Knife and Corkscrew by Opinel, $32 from Upstate MN

    There’s no better way to start your day with a classy AF cup of French Press coffee.
    White Ceramic French Press, $75 from J. Crew

    Bottom row, l to r:

    A burgundy tie for each holiday party!
    Basic Burgundy Gift Set, $39 from The Tie Bar

    For the artiste, the doodling game just leveled up with a 3D doodler.
    3D Doodler, $69.99 from Michaels

    For the music lover and collector of vinyl who has a knack for tech.
    EP-33 Bluetooth Turntable with Speakers, $169 from Urban Outfitters

    Anything you think we need to our lists this year? Let us know in the comments below or on Instagram @thebrokeassbride.

  • 11/18

    Combatant Gentleman Navy Tux

    Go vintage! Check out this 50s midnight blue tuxedo from Etsy seller StyleStash ($275) Fellas, let’s talk tuxedos. Being a groom is probably one of the few times in our lives that wearing a tux is appropriate. Some of you may want to take a little advice from Jay Gatsby and suit up for this magical occasion. And guess what? You don’t have to look…

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    11/4

    Steampunk Notepad

    Steampunk Notepad, $13.50 from Etsy seller OldWaysFussNFeathers Hey dudes, do you remember way back when people used to have giant desks and write letters to each other all day? Major #fbf, I know. There are some of us out there that still practice this ancient art form, believe it or not. Though there's the ease of sending an email or setting up a Facebook invite,…

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  • 10/21

    Personalized Pocket Square

    Personalized Beer Cooler, $30 from Etsy seller HeritageWedding Gifting is hard. Gifting on a budget is really hard. Especially when it's for your favorite dudes. You want to get your groomsmen something awesome, yet thoughtful — but holy crap everything always seems so expensive. While it would be nice to be able to get them all big screen TVs or spring for a dudes' trip…

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    10/7

    Etsy MyScrapbookDesigns Myrtle Beach Overlay

    Scrapbook overlay available from Etsy seller MyScrapbookDesigns Hello, beach babes. This post is all about one of the most temperate beaches in the U.S., Myrtle Beach. It’s a great honeymoon destination because of all the amusements, parks, entertainment and dreamy sunsets. It’s also a great place for the low-cost honeymoon, since there are so many things to do under a tight budget. Alright, fellas. You’ve…

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    9/23

    TheTieBarAccessories

    Dudes, let’s face it. When it comes to saving money for your wedding, every single penny counts. One of the easiest ways to trim down your budget is to cut down the costs of small things, like fashion accessories. Our friends over at The Tie Bar have an immense assortment of pieces for guys, in a wide range of options. Here’s a list of items…

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  • 9/9

    Nordstrom Classic Cashmere Sport Coat

    Classic Cashmere Sport Coat, $348.98 from Nordstrom “To achieve the nonchalance, which is absolutely necessary for a man, one article at least must not match.” – Hardy Amies, Fashion Designer Patterns can be a tricky style element—do it wrong and you might end up looking like a character from Alice in Wonderland. There are some pretty simple rules regarding patterns, and how to mix them,…

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