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Real Bride Katie: Making the Most of Our Wedding Registry

With our wedding day fast approaching, we’ve started to pay more serious attention to our registries. As a second time bride, I can’t emphasize the following enough:


From bridal websites and magazines to the consultants in the stores who take advantage of your excitement over holding a scanner gun,  there is a lot of pressure to register for a particular type of item. But after the dust settles and all the wrapping paper has been pitched, you’re the one who has to store all of those items in your home.

Now, if you really are someone who has fancy formal dinner parties on the reg, more power to you. But if you’re not, don’t feel like you have to register for formal china and Waterford crystal. Instead, consider registering for high quality everyday items, like a bigger and/or nicer set of dishes, enough wine glasses for your whole crew, or a set of silverware that is nice to hold but also doesn’t need polishing.

Most of your guests will be happier knowing they’ve gifted you something you’ll actually lose. And if Grandma really wants to buy you something traditional, she’ll find a way no matter what you register for. But isn’t storing one ridiculous crystal bowl easier than storing the whole set?

  • 7/24

    Yes, “Ask Liz” is back for the rest of the summer. If you have a burning wedding question, send it to The team knows where to find me.


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    Dear Liz:

    We had a small ceremony a few weeks ago, and we’re sending out our wedding announcements now. We don’t want anyone to send us gifts, how do we word that on the announcement?


    No Swag, Please

    Dear Swag,

    Okay, so wedding announcements are a little different from wedding invitations. Traditionally, you’re not supposed to mention gifts on your invites at all — it’s rude to tell your guests that you expect them to get you something. This is why you put your gift registration on a separate card, or on another page of your wedding website. Never shove the gimme-grabbing in people’s faces. If you don’t want gifts, you can write something cute like, “No gifts, your presence is present enough” on a card or website, which, to be honest, causes my teeth to ache a little bit. I’m a bigger fan of not putting registration info in either, at all.  If someone asks where you’re registered, you tell them that you don’t want gifts, just guests (wince). Odds are, a few people won’t read or notice the omission, and will end up giving you cards with cash or checks in them. And the only response to that is “Thank you.”

    But, since you’re sending wedding announcements, instead? Don’t mention gifts at all, unless someone asks, in which case you tell them, “No, we don’t want/need gifts, but thank you!” Always end with a thank you.

    Dear Liz, 

    Our wedding is in two weeks and we’re really struggling with how to seat people. The tables fit 10 people and we have 125 guests. Are there any “rules” for who should sit where? 


    Table Tied

    Dear Tied,

    Ooh, most of the time I stay away from seating arrangements, because you know your guests,  and their various relationships with each other, and I … don’t. No one has an easy time doing it, though, if it’s any consolation. Start with who absolutely cannot be at the same table with each other — divorced couples, divorced parents, known mortal enemies, etc. Let’s call them the problem children. Put them at separate tables. Move on to your family and wedding party. Do you want your wedding party all at one table ,or is it okay if they are scattered around? Remember, couples and other family units should sit together. So, by now you have five or six tables of people who should and can spend an evening together, so just fill it in. Go over it at least three times (sorry), if you’re not sure, ask whoever whatever questions you need to in order to make it work , try not to overcompensate for the problem children. You can’t make everyone happy.  Once you’ve got the table seating down, work on where each table should go in relation to all the others. It’s not uncomplicated, but it’s definitely doable.

    How’s your guest seating going? Are there more problem children than you thought? Let me know if you any questions or tips of your own in the comments below.

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    See you at the end of the aisle,

  • 1/27


    Have you figured out what you're doing for your registry? More and more couples are going the cash registry route for their wedding wishlist -- whether they're saving up for a house down payment, are whittling away at starting their marriage debt-free or are looking to go on an adventure of a lifetime with their honeymoon. And, y'all, there are a TON of cash registry options…

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    Big Ticket vs. The Little Guys Registry Showdown Target Edition

    One of the super fun parts of planning your wedding is getting to set up your registry ... because let's be real: Gifts, y'all. I was at a specialty store this weekend making an exchange (though, it's not like I really ever need a reason to step into said store) and my newly-engaged spidey sense was kicking into high gear as I realized that at…

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    Dear Heather, I have an etiquette question for you. Someone sent me a gift in the mail, and it was off registry. It is a kitchen item I already own. It didn't have a receipt, so I don't know how or where to return it. What do I do? Ansley Dear Ansley, Hopefully there was a card with the gift, so you at least know…

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  • 7/18

    One of my favorite ideas for a wedding sendoff has always been bubbles -- they're fun, they get people (and dogs!) excited and they add serious pop (heh) to a wedding tradition. In that vein, I thought it would be fun to find other ways to make life more poppy, and these five items won't burst your registry bubble! EP Phone Home Phone Stand -…

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    Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! For this week's Five for Friday, we're partnering with Blueprint Registry, a free registry site that helps you set up your wishlist based on the layout of your home. Since Blueprint partners with a huge number of retailers, you can build the registry more with your home in mind and less by the restrictions of one specific store. Which is pretty cool.  With summer comes parties and…

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    Happy Friday, Broke-Asses! For this week's Five for Friday, we're partnering with Blueprint Registry, a free registry site that helps you set up your wishlist based on the layout of your home. Since Blueprint partners with a huge number of retailers, you can build the registry more with your home in mind and less by the restrictions of one specific store. Which is pretty cool. As…

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  • 4/25

    Wedding presents

    Image courtesy of Asdrid Dear Heather, I have all these cards and slips from the stores where we registered that I want to distribute, but all of the books and websites say to not include them with your invitations because it's rude. My save the dates already went out, so I can't include them with those. What am I supposed to do with these cards?…

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