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Pre-order The Broke-Ass Bride’s Wedding Guide TODAY! The Big BAB Book Buy Is Here!

UPDATE! As of 6pm PST today, we’re holding steady at #5 on the Amazon Best Seller List in the Wedding Planning category! GREAT WORK, Team Broke-Ass! Let’s keep it going! Have you pre-ordered your copy yet? How about as a gift for someone you know? How high can we get that number? :)

Attention Broke-Ass Brigade! Today is a very exciting day! It’s here!
First, you may have noticed a GORGEOUS new site design courtesy of the fabulous Kate at Striped Cat Studio, which we’ve launched in celebration of…. *drum roll please…..

The Big BAB Book Buy is TODAY! The plan is simple: getting a book up the Amazon bestseller list for a couple of days isn’t impossible, because it takes only hundreds of sales, rather than thousands or more, to get there.

THIS IS WHERE YOU COME IN. Our goal is to get as many people as possible to buy the BAB book on the same day, to propel it up the Amazon ranking chart, which will be very exciting for a first-time author such as myself, and might get us a little extra attention along the way to help promote it! Your support will let the wedding world and publishing industry know that we need more representation and resources for couples who want to rock bad-ass weddings without breaking the bank. That there’s a big difference between spending smart and being cheap. That our personalities and values should be reflected in the execution of our wedding, not dampened under layers of predicable tulle and lace. That we’re broke-ass brides and proud of it, damnit! How amazing would that be, yo?!?

And I need you guys to help make it happen. But first, here’s a little taste of the delicious cake I’m serving up, to whet your palates for more! Scroll on through the excerpt to see a sneak peek of the book!

Not too shabby, eh? Packed with wedding planning tips and tricks, advice from real broke-ass brides (like you!), DIY craft tutorials, recipes and sample budgets from real brides… I think this book delivers quite a powerful punch! Like, spiked punch, yo. DRANK.

So please, pre-order the book TODAY! Perfect holiday timing to buy for yourself, as a gift for your newly-engaged friends or family, or for anyone helping you plan your wedding, or their own! It will be delivered on December 17th – the day the book appears in stores! You can order the book through:

If we can get The Broke-Ass Bride’s Wedding Guide to be a best-seller, even if only for a day, it will bring much-needed attention to our little corner of the internet, give strength to a value system that doesn’t get enough credit in the wedding industry, and help grow our community exponentially!

Please spread the word! Share your purchase on Facebook and Twitter to help other brides-to-be find their way to a bad-ass, broke-ass wedding day!

Wanna Play for Team Broke-Ass?

That’s right! We’re recruiting a few more contributors to play in our sandbox and rock their broke-asses in our general direction… so we’re going straight to the source. To the goods. To the most bad-ass readership around!

If you’re….

a frugal fashionista obsessed with thrifty threads and knows where to find ‘em……

OR

a savvy-shopper who can Can’t Afford It/Get Over It like a picture-perusing powerhouse

OR

planning your own wedding like its your life’s broke-ass masterpiece…..

OR

a party-planning maven with a yen for dreaming up fun and funky themed events…

…. AND you’re also:

possessed by everything wedding-related like in a way that makes you worry for your sanity…..

AND futhermore, you’re:

clever, crafty, smart, sassy, cheeky, funny, mouthy, resourceful, witty, reliable, of questionable propriety, punctual, piquant and (above all), can do it all in writing... then we want you!

zombie bride wants you, too!

Specifically, we’re in the market for contributors in our Can’t Afford It/Get Over It, Wedding Inspiration, Fashion and Real Brides columns… the roost is expanding! Know how to use creativity as currency? Can you commit to us with as much hot passion as we do to you? Got a voice and know how to use it? Want to gain valuable writing experience and exposure? You might be just our kind of chicken.

Or, if you have an original column idea to pitch, we want to hear that too!

If you think you’ve got the chops and want in on this party (its kind of really a super fun party), shoot us an email detailing why you want to be a member of Team Broke-Ass, throw in some links to your favorite writing samples and generally make us love you! ‘Cuz we wanna love you. We wanna love you loooooooong time. (bonus points for entries involving haiku. for realsies. no, I mean it.)

info [at] brokeassbride [dot] com

We’ll be accepting applications alllllll week long, and probably even next week, too. Bring it on, Broke-Ass Masses!

{Housekeeping} Dine with me, and stuff!

Peep a few little tidbits of SUPER IMPORTANT INFO! I’m rounding up some important updates that I’ve been meaning to share. And away we go!

1. I’m hosting a dinner at Hugo’s (the day after my birthday!), through Grub With Us

- a cool new social dining/networking company, which hooks up people like me with a meal-full of like-minded, hungry eaters. I’m a super big fan of Hugo’s – and am excited to connect with anyone interested in weddings, social media, blogging, (or other general interests of mine such as acting, movies, video games, or being a bad-ass redhead). We need 3 more sign-ups to make the dinner happen, so I hope you’ll come join me! I promise that I make a very fun date :)

2. I’m co-hosting a panel for the LTDlive2012 conference with one of the loves of my life, Anne Sage (of The City Sage and Rue Magazine fame) on The Business of Blogging: Find Your Voice, Find Your Niche: Make Blogging the Most Powerful Tool in your Entrepreneurial Toolkit. Going to the conference? Come see us speak! Not going to the conference? What’s wrong with you, already?!?

3. My good buddy Meg, from A Practical Wedding (one of the best wedding blogs around, I promise you) is coming to SoCal for the final stop on her fancypants Book Tour. She’ll be stopping in Pasadena at Vroman’s on February 12th from 1pm-3pm. Click here to RSVP. I’ll be there with bells on. And that’s a promise. (or a threat. but wouldn’t you rather find out which, in person?)

Ok, people. Make this happen. Annnnnnnnnd, go!

Yay, housekeeping! Who’s with me!

A Practical Wedding Presents: Yay New York!


We’ll shout it from the rooftops: We heart marriage equality! And our fabulous bloggy friends over at A Practical Wedding are throwing a fabulous shindig in NYC to celebrate the state’s recent legalization of gay marriage! “Yay New York: A Mass Reception to Celebrate Marriage Equality” is taking place on August 25th at 320 Studio in Manhattan’s fashion district. Check it out, it’s pretty stunning.

It’s gonna be a massive, 200 person dance party/wedding reception/fundraiser/epic celebration! Earlier in the day, two lucky couples will be wed on 320 Studio’s beautiful outdoor terrace (with APW footing the bill!) – and they’ll be celebrating their union in style that evening at YNY!  There will be raffles, sweet tunes provided by DJ Whitney Day, dancing, an open bar – you’ll never have more fun celebrating civil rights, AND of course, it’s all for a great cause.

Tickets are $20, with a suggested donation of $40 for Lambda Legal at the door. The aim of this event is to raise $10,000 for LL, to assist them in “achieving full recognition of the civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender people and those with HIV through impact litigation, education and public policy work.” And if you’re not in New York but still want to lend support, check out the awesome regional parties that are popping up! We want as many Broke-Ass Nation representatives at this event as possible, so please buy tix and help spread the word about Yay New York!

Tasty Dishing for Dana News!

One month from today, I’ll be in my 12th surgery. Time is moving way too fast.

The outpouring of love and support from you readers, and the wedding community, has been absolutely incredible, and I’m thrilled to announce that the current Dishing for Dana FUNdraising total is….

$8,320.96

– that’s nearly 40% of our goal! That’s also $832.00 going to the AARDA to help the greater good as well. I can’t believe how far we’ve come in just the past 3 weeks, thanks to you. My awe is only exceeded by my gratitude.

And it just keeps getting better. This morning I applied for a debit card through our paypal account, so that we start paying off some of the worst of our debt from previous surgeries. The idea that I will no longer be hounded by creditors or collections-people is absolutely thrilling and makes my soul sing, especially going into another expensive operation. I can’t wait to karate-chop those bills and send those creditors packin’. Heeee-ya! (that’s my bad-ass karate noise)

We’re adding new recipes to the database all the time, and will be debuting some dishes from some very special friends in the coming weeks, so stay tuned to Dishing for Dana for those big reveals. There’s mucho deliciousness to be had and food porn to enjoy. C’mon, you know you wanna peek :)

If you haven’t donated yet, I encourage you to check out our special perks and incentives available to donors, because there’s some shamazing deals in there, including discounts on bridal accessories and wedding photography! Stay tuned also for our Dishing for Dana auction, which is the ultimate win-win… you’ll get a chance to save lots of money on some very valuable items, and all the proceeds will benefit our drive and the AARDA! The online auction will be part of our final push as I go into surgery, the week of May 25th.

And if you don’t have a dime to spare, I understand. I really do. (You know I do.) But it doesn’t cost a thing to share our story, or a link to the Dishing for Dana page with your community via your blog, twitter, facebook, skywriter, loudspeaker, or tattoo on your arm (ok, maybe not that extreme… but it would be pretty bad-ass). Keeping up the momentum will be the key to our success over the coming month, and would love your help!

Thanks again to the following blogs for spreading the Dishing for Dana word far and wide. If I’ve missed you, hit me up in the comments and I’ll add your link!

Astrid Mueller, Illustrator The Bowie Bride HitchDied small time cook Blonde Ambition Bride Support Married in Chicago Taylor D Coil Geek in Heels Random Acts of Writing Soho Taco A Hot Pink Petticoat The Betwixt Bride She Just Got Married Burbank Homes for Sale Silver Charm Events The Thirty-Something Bride We’ve got it! Chicago Miss Kitschy A Bird, A Carpenter, and a Baby Closing Notice Rock n Roll Bride The Man Registry Bridal Rehab Anne Oleinik Photography The Roddy Bride Jars of Love Southern Weddings Magazine Blog Fashion Under $100 The Wedding Pantry Jo Jo’s Buttons Budget Savvy Bride Nostalgia Film Intimate Weddings Ever Ours Recycled Bride That Brides Got Moxie Michelle’s Musings Pixy of Whimsy Big Day for $10k Love Your Way Brooklyn Cheapskate Bikini by 30 This Little Journey Bob Gail Events Amber Events The Charitable Wedding Cupcake Friday Project The Flirty Blog Girly Wedding WishpotMisMikado Down the SidewalkLil Budget BrideI want wedding champagne A Los Angeles Love Chic CelebrationsJust Wenderful

Whew. That’s a lot of love. It warms the cockles, don’t it?

Happy Monday, everyone! What are you celebrating today?

Mean Wedding Girls

Dana forwarded a letter to me from one of our readers who was having trouble with the message boards on another wedding website. No, she didn’t say which one. But “C” recently tried to post a couple questions of her own on the board, and was shocked at the response:

I like it and she likes it, but if you don't, just respond and recycle without comment, please.

Both posts received the cattiest, snarkiest responses I could imagine, not one of which was actually helpful or even slightly compassionate.  I was shocked! My questions were perfectly legitimate, nothing out of the ordinary from what I had seen other people posting. I then began to look at some other boards and realized that the majority of these messages were snarky and unhelpful, and that very few people actually respond in any sort of helpful manner. What the hell, ladies?

Seriously, what the hell? I mean, I know that the internet breeds anonymous nastiness, heck, I had a  job in the late 90s that was based on it, but it’s just not cool in an environment that’s supposed to be about sharing information and educating each other. There’s no reason to call someone or their ideas stupid, or ugly, just because you don’t like it or wouldn’t do it yourself. I noticed the same posts when I was planning my own wedding five million years ago, and it bums me out that it still exists.

But the problem is that this nastiness exists in Live Wedding World, too. And it’s not just your mother. It’s a bridesmaid that repeatedly points out the slight paunch showing in the front of your dress (like you don’t know it’s there) , or refers to the color of the yellow roses in your centerpieces as “bile colored.” Or the best friend from college who rags on the font choice on your invitations after she gets the invitation. Like, calls you up to complain about it. I have seen and heard about all these things. Everywhere you turn, there seems to be a woman who takes a personal affront to your personal taste. There is definitely a lot of Girl-on-Girl crime going on out there, as Tina Fey would say.

And, really, it doesn’t matter why, there are a thousand reasons why. It could be jealousy, it could be stress, it could be the result of the societal pressure that is put on women to be perfect and to know how to have and to have a perfect wedding, through like, osmosis, or whatever. It could just be that time of the month, because it’s always that time of the month for someone somewhere. Could be their dog died. Could be the condo is getting foreclosed on. I don’t care.

Knock it off.

Not your choice? NOT YOUR WEDDING.

“C” wondered if her tormentors had never heard of the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I’d go one step further and remind them of this one, “Do unto others as you would have done to you.” How would you feel if someone said these things to you? You might think of it as constructive criticism, but I know constructive criticism, because I have to do it all the time.  Are you adding the “constructive” part in there? Got any advice, pointers, anything helpful before the fact? If not, shush. Wrinkling your nose and proclaiming “That sucks, ” is only going to end in hurt feelings, just like it would hurt yours. The people on the internet may not have faces or names, but they exist. And your friends and family totally exist and will be with you much longer than a username. Do yourself a favor and behave accordingly – charity begins at home. Or if you can’t think of anything nice to say, then start with, “I don’t know, what do YOU think?” Which is perhaps a better jumping off point than, “You look like a tranny whore.” I’m just saying.

So, when was the last time you were a victim of a mean wedding girl? How did you respond? Share the shock in the comments below.

See you at the end of the aisle,

For Japan, With Love

There’s not much I can say about the devastation in Japan that hasn’t already been said. Its simply heartbreaking. One thing that continually blows my mind about the blogging community is our ability to come together in times like these and rally support for those in need.

Enter Lydia (our real weddings editor and the talent behind Ever Ours), and Lucia and Henny (the utterly brilliant Utterly Engaged team), who have organized For Japan, With Love – a fundraiser for earthquake/tsunami relief which culminates this Friday with a Bloggers’ Day of Silence.
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All donations through For Japan, With Love go to ShelterBox, which provides emergency shelter and lifesaving supplies for families around the world who are affected by disasters at the time when they need it the most. Each large, green ShelterBox is tailored to a disaster but typically contains a disaster relief tent for an extended family, blankets, water storage and purification equipment, cooking utensils, a stove, a basic tool kit, a children’s activity pack and other vital items.

If you’re a blogger, please consider joining us this Friday in the Bloggers’ Day of Silence out of honor and respect for Japan’s long road toward healing. If you’re interested in participating, please e-mail lydia@ever-ours.com or info@utterlyengaged.com for more information.

Thanks to Lydia and Lucia for organizing this heartfelt effort! And thanks to all of you for your support.

Meatless Mondays: Starts Today! (& It’s Freaking Delicious!)

I love to cook, a lot. A lot a lot. Like, A LAWT. Back when we were fancy, cable-having people, I watched the Food Network like it was porn and worshipped at the altar of Ina Garten. I cooked all the time.

Then we moved to a place that didn’t really have the best kitchen for cooking, and we cut the cable cord, so I slowed my cooking roll… but never stopped feeling that itch. That wanna-cook-twinge. It was always there.

So now that we’re finally in a new house with much dreamier kitchen (and Ina on hulu), I’ve been getting back in the game…. learning to better support my vegan diet requirements without leaning too much on processed foods, and LOVIN the results! Cooking at home keeps our bodies healthier and wallets heavier, (and who doesn’t want that?), so we thought it would be fun to share our favorite recipes with you in a new feature we’ll call Meatless Mondays!

vegan pumpkin alfredo You could be eating this! (yeah yeah, we’re working on our camera skillz)

While I could go on about the various health, environmental, ethical and fiscal benefits to moving to a plant-based diet, I don’t expect y’all to just give up meat and dairy just like that. It ain’t easy, I know… and its not necessarily for everyone. But I will encourage you to experiment! It doesn’t have to be “all or nothing” – try subbing out a meal or two each week with something meatless… I bet you won’t be sorry! The Kind Diet by Alicia Silverstone is a great starter resource that speaks to all levels of interest and commitment without judgment, but this short and sweet video from the Ted conference presents a great perspective on how every effort we each make, even if in baby steps, adds up to big results.

To celebrate kicking off Meatless Mondays, we’re amped to introduce this week’s Bargain Bash sale! Whether you’re trying to cut back on meat, or time in the kitchen, or those pesky extra holiday pounds…. Gobble Green‘s vegan and gluten-free meal delivery service is a bad-ass treat you’ll love to eat! You may remember Gobble Green from our Flab to Fab Test Lab, and we loved our month on the plan so much that we invited them to be part of the Bargain Bash!

This week (and this week only) you can score an introductory week of fresh, balanced, and delicious breakfasts, lunches and dinners served right to your door, anywhere in the US, at 44% off! With tasty items like banana nut muffins, “chicken” salad, and “meatloaf” with mashed potatoes… you’ll love the healthy, yummy convenience that Gobble Green delivers. Click here to get started!

Enough with the talk now…. ONTO THE FOOOOOD! Come on by later, we’ll be showing you our Pumpkin Harvest Alfredo Pasta. Now, doesn’t that sound sexy? Watch for falling drool!

Tuesday, November 2nd.

This is a site that is supposed to be fun, inspirational and mainly about weddings. So where do I get the cajones to bring up politics into this place that we try to escape those concerns? Well don’t git scurred, I’m keeping my political opinions out of this, and trust me that’s hard ‘cause I can jibber jabber politics ’till the Congress comes home. (Did I get that expression right?) I’m just going to encourage you to act on behalf of what you want for your life, for your marriage and for your future. Every day with our behaviors and interactions, we are making a choice to create the future we desire. When we take a vow to our spouse, we look to the future together and promise to make it the best one possible. Tomorrow is one of those moments where we have the opportunity to talk directly to our government to change the future for the better.

Yes we can!

In all the days you spend on this earth there are very few moments that offer you an opportunity to directly affect the direction your society moves in. How often have you murmured under your breath, “That’s ridiculous!” or “If it were up to me…” regarding the powers that be – whether it be a politician, corporation or simple “public policy”. So isn’t it painfully ironic that with all of these incredible personalities with strong perspectives who live in our kick-ass nation that some estimates are below a meager 50% of our country actually participating in a midterm election.

Some may say that it is because the political system is not engaging their needs. Oh, I hear ya! All the more reason these folks need to get in the ring and start punching, or rather get in the booth and start punching (ballot cards). Government is a “too many cooks in the kitchen” operation. It is not a pebble that can be thrown to where we desire but a gigantic boulder that will only reach the peak of our desires if we all push and never give up. It is incredibly frustrating that we all can’t agree on the best way to reach the top, but regardless if we are all committed and never stop pushing, eventually we will have enough common ground to move forward. It is only if we give up, step away, and wipe our hands clean of the responsibility of participation that government and with it our future is sure to roll down the hill and smash amongst the rocks of disarray.

Politics has never been at a point of such confusion in my lifetime as it is now. People are hurting in this country and they demand a better life. It is times like this when it is the hardest to agree. And with the unfortunate tactics of many, it can be disheartening and confusing to get involved. But that is why we must. Regardless of your opinion, your desire, your “side” of the issue or candidate, I implore you. Take five minutes tonight and look at the choices you have tomorrow. And then tomorrow take five more minutes to make a choice (and bring a friend). Make a choice to look to the future and, inch by inch, we will push this boulder together.

VOTE.