Posts in the 'Christen' Category
Social media, y’all. It’s a part of the world. I know there are still a few holdouts — hell, my friend who works for a popular blog featuring proposals is still a non-Facebooker. I was on Facebook as early as 2004 … so there’s that.
But here’s the thing: Social media ends up kind of being a dumping ground for all of our thoughts, ideas and opinions — for better or worse. And when it comes to planning your wedding and using social media? Well, that shit can get complicated. From nosey Nellys to judgey Judies to snarky Susies, the second you put yourself out there on the Interwebz, you’re opening yourself up to a potential tidal wave of grief. Because: Assumptions. Do you have 400+ Facebook friends, but really only 50 that you’d consider inviting to your wedding? Well, all 400 of them are going to see any wedding update you post, and even though you haven’t seen Ophelia, your college roommate’s best friend’s cousin, since that one frat party, she might chime in with her two cents on all things planning-related. So how do you keep this from happening?
Post wisely, darling.
Stay on the DL
A friend told me she has a Facebook friend who posts updates from her wedding countdown app twice a day. TWICE. A. DAY. Y’all, don’t be that friend. While we’re all very, very excited that you’re excited, and love is a wonderful thing, there is almost nothing that will unexcite your guests / friends / the world more than this constant bombardment. And twice a day?!? Oh, honey. This exuberant behavior will easily earn eye rolls, but it could also have your guests saying “OMG. FINALLY. Now we can stop hearing about this thing.” when your wedding day approaches. There is such a thing as oversaturation, and this is it.
Instead, create a private Facebook group. Invite those you intend to invite to your wedding. Post your updates there, and use this space to collect addresses, share ideas or what have you. Sure, you can post occasional updates on your regular newsfeed, but if you’re the kind of person who just can’t not post, then private groups are your friend.
You can also create a custom friends list so only select people can see your posts on your timeline … but this needs to be changed with every post if you have different audiences in mind.
Chelsea LeVere, of Tidewater & Tulle, used private Facebook groups during her planning:
As a bride who had 5 bridesmaids (with only one of them local), creating a private Facebook group was super important for communication and allowed my bridesmaids to connect with each other/become friends before the wedding day. They’re still friends even today!
Pinterest is another platform where you have the option of keeping things a little under the radar — especially if you have that friend who is constantly nosing into your plans, and you just don’t care to share. Pinterest provides the option to create a secret board (or five), which you can also invite people to pin to, but without others being able to snoop.
A little goes a long way
Sometimes social media is the easiest way to get all your friends in one place — because, let’s face it, we all have that one friend who just won’t respond to texts. But tread lightly, y’all. Over-tagging your bridesmaids on every Instagram photo / pin / Facebook post that inspires you will likely have them running for the hills. Unless they’re as gung-ho as you are, be selective about what you show them, and how much interaction you ask of them.
Real Bride Shannon suggests using a private Facebook message group to collaborate with your bridal brigade:
“Facebook Messenger groups are a great way to collaborate with your bridal party on ideas and schedules, but before you hit send, ask yourself, ‘Would I include all of these people in a face-to-face conversation?’ Save it for the times you need or truly want EVERYONE’S input. If a two-way conversation between you and your MOH starts blowing up the rest of your party’s notifications, they’re likely to check out and miss something big. Most importantly, never use it to call someone out. Some things are just better left one-on-one.”
While it can be super tempting to connect all of your social media accounts so that anything posted on Pinterest or Insta also gets posted on Twitter and Facebook, proceed with caution, y’all, because here’s where that super fine line between gathering inspiration and bombarding your friends gets blurry.
Or in the words of Cris Stone from Kiss My Tulle:
Don’t connect your Pinterest pins to your other SM accounts. No one wants to be notified every 5 seconds when you pin a new idea.
Think about it: You’re lounging around on a Sunday morning, post-brunch and with a mimosa in hand when you go on a Pinterest spree (it happens, I understand). Next thing you know, you’ve pinned 15 dresses, 20 bouquet ideas and a holy buttload of decor inspiration. You head on over to your Facebook and see that every. single. one. of those pins have also been shared on your timeline. Which means that’s all your friends have been seeing you post. Now think about when you’ve seen it from someone else — say, a pregnant friend who is planning her nursery or that cousin who has gotten really into gluten-free, paleo cooking. Slightly irritating, no?
OK. So. Disconnect those accounts. Cross-post with intention. Feel free to have a melee on Pinterest, but leave it there.
Be excited about your wedding. Talk to your people. But keep in mind that the more you share, the less things will be a surprise come your actual wedding day … and the surprise is a lot of the fun. You get to wow people, but if they know what to expect, it’ll be hard to do that. No one wants to steal your thunder, I promise, but by sharing every little thang, you’re stealing your own thunder.
How are you staying sane with social media in the lead-up to your wedding day? Tell us in the comments below!
Admittedly, I’m not quite the Queen Bey worshipper that much of the world seems to be, but I respect the shit out of her. I get it though — homegirl has some tight game. She’s a stone cold fox, has pipes for days (and legs to match) and she’s solid about feminism and being a woman. She’s a mother, a wife (in a seemingly pretty solid relationship) and a business woman. What she also has, though, is some schamazing song lyrics that pretty much make perfect art that I can totally get behind, and I’d venture to guess all of the Beygency would, too. Here are my five favorite pieces of art inspired by Beyonce herself that could make rad gifts for your bridal brigade … or yourself:
This one kind of covers all the bases: In love? Check. Drunk? Check. Drunk and In Love? Nailed it!
Subtle enough that your folks won’t know what the song lyrics allude to, yet pretty enough to display prominently.
Bonus: I’m also madly in love with this mug, because, #duh.
Which of these Beyonce-inspired prints is your favorite, BABs?
Aisle Perfect launched their own app, and to celebrate they’re giving away an Apple Watch.
Struggling with the guest list? You’re not alone. Every Last Detail took a poll and posted the results about who’s in and who’s out.
Trying to find an area to cut back on costs? Kiss My Tulle has five ways to save on centerpieces.
How do you find complementary wedding dresses without being completely matchy-matchy? Love Inc. has a few tips for you.
Looking for flower girl dresses that hover under around $70? Head to Brenda’s Wedding Blog.
ICYMI: BHLDN’s new line is pretty awesome.
Budget Savvy Bride busts out her Budget Wedding Tip #34 with a piece of advice that may surprise you.
What beautiful weather we’ve been having here in Philadelphia. The sun is shining and there is just a hint of a breeze in the air. It almost feels like I’m at the Jersey Shore, and definitely makes me want to take a ride on the ol’ bike. It’s like the East Coast decided to skip spring and head straight into summer — perfect for the start of a busy wedding season.
Unfortunately, on one of the first warm days of the season, I lost my grandfather — just five and a half weeks short of my own wedding day. My grandfather was not your average man: Throughout his 84 years, he’s owned a business, clocked in many, many hours of community service, and even ran for mayor of his small South Jersey town. But his best role was that of a family man. He was a husband for 61 years, the father of seven, the grandfather of 24, and the great-grandfather of 14 — or what some may call the “perfect example.”
For the past 17 months, I was counting my lucky stars to have all four of my grandparents alive to see me marry the man of my dreams. All of the sudden, this wasn’t the case any more. Hours after finding out this devastating news with my mind still unable to fully comprehend what had happened, I scrambled to find a way to honor my grandfather on our wedding day. We’ve all seen it before — the bride and groom lighting a candle in remembrance, the bride proudly displaying a photo charm on her bouquet or reading about how the newlyweds will be donating to a certain cause in lieu of favors.
While these are all beautiful ideas, they aren’t all for me. I’m a BAB, and we BABs need to get creative sometimes! Here are a few of my favorite ideas and how to pull them off.
In the Ceremony
This is one of the simplest (and cheapest) options out there, especially for unexpected situations. This can be as easy mentioning your deceased loved ones in the program. There are also options to incorporate them into the actual ceremony, such as a reading of their favorite poem or walking down the aisle to a song that reminds you of them. In my humble opinion, one of the more powerful yet subtle ways to honor a loved one is to save a seat for them. A lot of times, I see a flower reserving the seat, but there are plenty of other ways to go about this, such as a photo or an item of theirs, like a baseball hat.
Photo courtesy of inkedweddings.com
This is another one that is pretty popular. I had plans to make up a table of family wedding photos myself, but now it will have an extra special meaning. I’m thinking of lighting a candle next to the photo of my grandparents on their wedding day to make it stand out above the rest.
Toast to Their Memory
Coming up with a toast + my big Irish family = recipe for success! I’m not sure when the most appropriate time is for this to occur, but I’m thinking right before dinner would be a good. To be determined!
This is something I thought of while I was browsing through the Internet for other ideas. Go through your loved ones wedding photo album, pick a cute pic and let your photographer know you want to re-enact it. It will be more of a fun way to remember those who can’t be there with you that day, especially if it is a grandparent you are honoring. They didn’t do as many Instagram-worthy poses back then, but candids make the best photos!
I’m not exactly sure how I’ll be honoring my grandfather at our wedding, but I do know that I will honor him in a way that is as special as he was. Myself and the rest of my family were able to share once last dance with him at a family wedding just a few days before he passed. I’ll be forever grateful for that dance, even it had to happen before my own wedding.
If you’re honoring the memory of a loved one on your wedding day, how are you doing it? Tell us in the comments below!
Have y’all been over to BHLDN lately? No? Go ahead. I’ll wait.
OK, ya back? Good. Now let’s chat. Because this line is awesome. Immediately I spied a few hot, new numbers well under the $1000 line — making them bona fide Broke-Ass friendly — and totally almost fell of my chair when I saw how much color and floral awesomeness is included. Let’s go through a few of my faves, shall we?
Florals fave been ruling the runways, and we’re totally on board with the gorgeous blooms. For a bride looking for something a little less traditional, but still drop-dead gorgeous, THIS.
Needle & Thread has been popping up on my radar, mostly thanks to my endless scrolling through Asos. The designers crafted this beaded stunner, and if it’s anything like the beaded BHLDN dresses I know, it’s probably a treasure to twirl in.
Aidan Mattox does it again with his beading and shimmering and elegance. The forgiving blouson shape hints at a boho feel, but the texture and shine are fancy. The best of all worlds, really.
My jaw literally hit the keyboard when I saw these beauties. I mean, wow! And at under $200, they clock in well below most of BHLDN’s shoes.
OK, so the Juliette dress isn’t really new, per se, but the convertible Jenny Yoo creation hasn’t come in ivory yet (that I can recall). And now that it does? Well, here’s your $300 BHLDN wedding dress, darling!
Granted, this is some hefty dough to shell out for separates, but that ivory silk camisole definitely has more life in it than just your wedding day, as does the Kay Unger lace skirt. If you’re worried about dropping cash on an outfit for just one day, this might be your answer.
Another winner from Needle & Thread! This dress is firing on all cylinders: Flowers, tulle and an under-$500 price tag.
This one immediately scored with me because of the name (if only Anna Chlumsky was modeling), but sealed the deal with the pewter color and sequin detail.
Which of the new items in BHLDN‘s Spring/Summer line is your favorite, BABs?
So, I like unicorns (I mean, it’s in my job title, y’all) and they’re kind of the unofficial mascot of BAB / my spirit animal. And I love cats (which you know if you follow me on Instagram), and recently a buttload of CAT UNICORNS have been gracing my social media, thanks to my friends who know full well the ish I dig. And it would be oh, soooo selfish of me to keep all of that goodness to myself, so for this Five for Friday, I’mma be sharing my five favorite caticorns with you so you, too, can have a kickass Friday:
Obviously, this would be the most magical way to take a shower. And, um, you can register for your wedding at Etsy … and you should probably register for this. I would.
Personally, it’s the gloomiest, frumpiest of days where the caticorn really steps up and makes everything a little better. Get a jumpstart by wearing your heart on your sleeve … er rather kitticorn on your chest.
Strategy: Get a stack of these and hand ’em out to those who piss you off. They’ll get the picture and you can keep on sparklin’!
Upon discovering this magic piece of art, my life will not be complete until it is mine and displayed prominently in my house. Probably with jewelry hanging from it and surrounded by string lights.
If there is a better way to start your day than by downing java out of this gorgeous caticorn vessel, I don’t want to know what it is. And actually, the whole Etsy shop is just hilarious (I love this mug, too.)
Which of these caticorns is your favorite, BABs?
Happy Friday, BABs! I’ve been seeing flowers everywhere this spring — and not just outside. Blooms seem to be an ever-growing trend around Weddingland, and I’m not hating it. Here are my five flowery ways to incorporate the trend into your big day — or every day!
Guys, I have this robe and I love it so, so, so much. It’s super soft and it makes me feel faaaancy when sipping my morning coffee. Every woman should start the day like that.
What trend is catching your eye, BABs? Tell me in the comments below, and I might just use it in a future Five for Friday!
Sure, the Lily Pulitzer collab and it’s stoopid-fast sellout might be all the buzz surrounding Target, but the retailer is one of my favorite go-tos for picking up a cute outfit quickly and on the cheap. For Broke-Ass Brides, Target is also a great resource for pretty dresses for your crew that you can totally buy — or not feel guilty about asking them to buy. Sure, they have their own gorgeous and chiffon-filled bridesmaid line, but the retailer also carries tons of wedding worthy frocks. In classic shapes that are completely rewearable, these dresses are completely adorable and totally BAB-friendly. Here are my five favorite dresses under $40:
Which one of these affordable darlings is your favorite, BABs?
Y’all know I have a love for all things sparkle, so this starry night inspired post on Brenda’s Wedding Blog put me over the moon.
Photo: Tab McCausland Photography
Headed on your honeymoon? Before you pack, read this list of 5 essential items to remember from Chic Brown Bride.
Who doesn’t love a great bubble bath? Classic Bride Blog has a rad DIY for bath fizzies.
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Hey Disney darlings! In honor of Earth Day today, Inspired by Dis has an earthy Disney styleboard up.
I’m loving the Idaho Wedding Collective flirty inspiration shoot featured on Love, Inc.
Always the bridesmaid? Be the best one EVARRRRR with these tips from Bridal Musings.
Prepping for your e-shoot? Aisle Perfect has tips to help coordinate your outfits for your engagement session.
Finally, our girl Budget Savvy Bride has another amazing budget wedding tip for you.