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Coming up with a meaningful wedding ceremony from scratch proved to be quite the challenge! We ended up using many sources…traditional Christian ceremonies, literature we both loved, inspiration from wedding blogs, and my amazing Grandfather/officiant. In the end, I’m so so so happy with how personal and emotional our ceremony was! Here are a few highlights!
We used “Sigh No More” by Mumford and Sons as our processional music.
Walking down the aisle, I couldn’t believe it was finally happening! All I tried to do was breathe and stay present in the moment as much as possible. After some introductory words from my grandfather, one of our friends read our first reading, a poem by e.e. cummings that we love!
“i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)”
Instead of a unity candle, we decided to include a ritual that was much more “us” in our ceremony. So we planted a tree! Much of the credit for this idea goes to the awesome blog 2000 Dollar Wedding. We played “Old Pine” by Ben Howard while we got our Aspen sapling into the ground.
Grandpa: Zach and Carrie have chosen to symbolize their commitment here today by planting a tree with the help of their parents. Just as the love and support of their parents has helped them grow into the people they are today, so will the water and soil here support and nourish this tree. While it is now a small sapling, over time, with proper care, it will grow and flourish into a strong and mature aspen tree. Given the same care and attention, the marriage of these two will similarly flourish and prosper.
One of our best friends gave our next reading, a quote by Louis de Bernieres:
“Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And
when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether
your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you
should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness,
it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is
just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over
when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate
accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other
underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their
branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.”
I loved how this quote also tied in the tree metaphor! Next was the hardest part: our vows! We wrote our own vows and didn’t share them with each other beforehand. I was so afraid I would start bawling! Zach went first, and I just tried to absorb his words without starting to cry!
Zach: When I met you, my life was good, but there was always something missing. After only a few dates, I knew you were the person I needed. I knew you were the one. I found a new satisfaction in life that was exciting and real. I felt whole.
Carrie, I love you because every day you expect me to be a better man than the day before. You’re never satisfied with the normal thing, only greatness.
I love you because there is no one like you in the world. You’re caring, thoughtful, and the funnest person that I have ever met.
I promise to love you no matter what. I promise to wake up every day with the thought of making our lives better. I promise to work as hard and as long as I need to make sure we accomplish all of our goals. I promise to listen to what you need and continue my quest to be your perfect partner. I cannot wait to spend my life with you.
Next was my turn! Ahhh!!! Thankfully, my acting training from back in the day kicked in, and I was able to keep a clear and strong voice, despite the emotional weight of the moment.
Carrie: Zach, when I met you, unexpectedly, the timing was horrible. But it didn’t take me long to fall in love with you. For the first time ever, I felt that my life was not all about me anymore. You were the first and only person who I ever considered changing my best-laid life plans for. When we were continents apart I laid under my African mosquito net and dreamed of our future together as I fell asleep. I think I knew, even then, that we would someday be standing where we are right now.
Zach, I love that you are constantly seeking to learn more about the world. I love how you can’t ever read a book or watch a movie without something making you say “I want to do that!” or “I want to go there!” I love that you are so calm under pressure, so laid back, and so optimistic and joyful about life. In you I find a balance I desperately need, and I am so grateful for that. I love that you have so many talents and are wildly successful at anything you try, from hockey, to science, to music, to cooking. Every day I am more proud that you are mine.
Zach, because I love you, I promise to always be by your side. To take care of you when you’re sick or sad or tired. To seek to understand you more every day. I promise to control my temper and impatience, to be a better partner for you every day. I promise to appreciate the ways in which we are different, as they make us perfectly compatible. I promise to use my skills and abilities to make all of our adventures unforgettable. I promise to support you and to prioritize our relationship no matter what obstacles we encounter.
Love, I believe, is an action and a choice and I will choose to love you even when it’s hard, even when it hurts, and even when I don’t want to. And I promise that I will be faithful to you, and God willing, we will keep exploring the world together until we are both old and gray.
Since we didn’t buy new or different wedding bands, we exchanged the same rings we had been wearing as engagement rings all along. The symbolism of rings was still an important part of the ceremony for us.
The rings on our fingers, we were almost done!
Grandpa: Forasmuch as Zachary and Carrie have consented together in holy wedlock and have witnessed the same before God and this company, and thereto have pledged their faith each to the other, and have declared the same by joining hands and by giving and receiving rings; by the power vested in me by the state of Arizona, I now pronounce them husband and wife. What God has joined together let no one put asunder. Zach, you may now kiss the bride!
For the closing of our ceremony, we couldn’t help but include the commonly-used but wonderful Apache Wedding Blessing. This blessing spoke perfectly to our love for travel, adventure, and each other!
“Now you will feel no storms,
for each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no loneliness,
for each of you is companion to the other,
You are two persons,
but there is one life before you, and one home.
Turn together to look at the road you traveled,
to reach this—the hour of your happiness.
It stretches behind you into the past.
Look to the future that lies ahead.
A long and winding, adventure-filled road,
whose every turn means discovery,
new hopes, new joys, new laughter,
and a few shared tears.
May happiness be your companion,
May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead;
And through all the years to come.
Go this day to your dwelling place
and enter into your days together.
May your days be good and long
upon the earth.
Your adventure has just begun!”
As we recessed down the aisle in a haze of exhilaration, “That’s What’s Up” by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros played and all of our guests clapped and cheered for us!
Totally unexpectedly, the recessional actually produced some of my favorite pics from our day! Aren’t the looks of pure joy on our faces just unbeatable?
Coming up next: Our homespun reception!
All photos copyright Bright Fizz Photo
Hey everybody! Long time no write! Life is awesome (but busy) here in newlywed-land! I can’t believe it’s already been four months since Zach and I tied the knot!
A little preview of our wonderful day!
To start off my recaps, I thought I’d update you on how all of our last minute DIY projects turned out! I was pretty stressed about all we had to do in the week before our wedding. It was definitely a lot to do, and the process was not without its hiccups. I’m pretty proud of how everything turned out in the end though!
One of the first things we tackled was our tablecloths! In order to create the exact hues we wanted, we used this handy Rit Dye Color Formula Calculator. The hardest part of the process was just figuring out how much dye we needed to make and calculating the amount of each color to use for a huge bucket of dye. Once we got it figured out though, the dip dyeing was super simple!
Tablecloths in windy action!
Our next big project was a photobooth! My “Pinspiration” was this photo booth:
But with a little ingenuity and use of some already-lying-around wood, this is what Zach built:
Suffice to say, it was a HUGE hit and totally worth all of our (mostly Zach’s) hard work!
Inevitably, there were a few projects that fell by the wayside. We never got around to making an arbor or focal point for our ceremony. Oh well!
Our biggest project was definitely self-catering our food and desserts! Thankfully, we had a lot of help from family and friends, and everything came together beautifully and deliciously in the end. It was definitely a busy week in the kitchen! We actually ended up with too much food! Here’s a little peek at the dessert spread my mom, sister, and I slaved away over:
Would I recommend saving so much DIY for the week before your wedding? Definitely not! Making all this happen and getting along while doing it was not without its challenges! I’m so happy with how everything turned out in the end!
Did you save lots of DIY for the last minute? How did it end up for you?
(Special thanks to our photographer Bright Fizz Photo!)
Editor’s note: Our little Carrie is MARRIED, y’all! She just returned from her honeymoon, and we’re giving her a little time to bask in newlywed-dom, but she wanted to pop in and share the good news with our fabulous readers! Join us in wishing her a hearty congrats!
Greetings from married life, BABs! I want to wait for our professional photos to come back before I write official recap posts, but I had to pop in to say that WE DID IT! Our wedding was a whirlwind of stress, hard work, last minute details, laughter, reunions, love, and joy. It was completely homespun, perfectly imperfect, and we loved it. To everyone going through planning conundrums, DIY frustration, and other wedding-related headaches, it is SO, SO WORTH IT IN THE END!
I promise you’ll hear more from me once I have some pro photos to back up the story! Hopefully any day now!
1. You can’t sleep. And when you do sleep, you dream about weird/crazy/horrible things happening at your wedding.
2. 90% of the things you say to your partner are wedding-related. As soon as they open their eyes in the morning you’re asking “Have we called the rental company to tell them how many chairs we need?”
3. You decide it’s a great idea and totally necessary to work out 3 times a day.
4. You believe your wedding is a valid excuse for slacking at work. When your boss asks you about a project you’re supposed to be finishing, you actually say, “You know, my wedding is in two weeks!”
5. Your “To Do” list has taken over your life. Your response to most invitations is, “Maybe after the wedding.”
6. You thought of this entire blog entry during a yoga class, during which you were supposed to be relaxing and focusing on your breath.
Anyone else suffering from these symptoms? What other crazy ways did “Bride Brain” manifest itself for you? Well guys, my wedding is in 10 days and I will see ya on the flipside!
Our friends definitely know how to have a good time, and past weddings among our crew have definitely resulted in some drunken shenanigans. But hey, weddings are a once-in-a-lifetime celebration, so that’s the way it should be, right??? While I definitely plan on trying hard to limit my consumption on my wedding day so as not to be “that bride” and make a fool of myself, I will definitely have a couple drinks. And I want everyone else to have a blast!
To keep things simple, we are just having beer and wine. I don’t expect anyone to have a problem with that, although of course people can bring their own liquor if they want!
On the beer side of things, we’re getting two half kegs from the Grand Canyon Brewing Company. We love good beer and this place makes it right! We plan to serve their Whitewater Wheat Beer and their Sunset Amber Ale. Both are lighter beers that still have great flavor!
For wines, we’re hitting up one of my favorite stores, Trader Joes! TJ’s has a really awesome selection of affordable wines of all varieties! Their prices range from $2-$20/bottle so for the last few months we have tasked ourselves with the mission of taste-testing as many low-price bottles as possible! What a hard job, right?
I made a spreadsheet for us to rank the wines so we’d remember which ones we like best. Some have been yucky (Two Buck Chuck=water), but we’ve also found some real winners. We plan on picking up several bottles of a few different varietals for the wedding and hopefully people will find something they like!
For non-drinkers, we’ll also make up some lemonade. I’m so excited to share some good drinks with good people on my wedding day!
What did you do to keep your alcohol costs down? Anyone have people complain about not being served liquor?
Excuse me while I rant for a moment, BABs, but maybe some of you can relate.
Why the heck will hardly anyone RSVP for our wedding?
Sure, we did go the non-traditional route by sending out video e-vites instead of paper invitations. But still! We included the link to our wedding website at the end of the video AND in the original email! Our wedding website, if I do say so myself, is awesome, functional, and has a bright and shiny RSVP button in clear view! The button leads to what I thought was an easy-to-use RSVP form for the majority of our guests who are young and tech-savvy.
Le sigh. It is now officially six days away from our RSVP deadline and literally LESS THAN HALF OUR GUESTS have responded. Granted, some have talked to us over the phone or email and we know they’re coming. But I worked so hard on the wedding website that I kinda wish people would give me the satisfaction of USING THE DAMN THING!!!
I’ve heard of other brides having similar trouble getting peeps to “respondez-vous.” It’s just weird to me because an RSVP seems like a common courtesy and I know I’ve RSVPed to every wedding to which I’ve been invited! Is it really a lost art? Since our wedding involves travel for most our guests, the easy solution is to assume anyone who doesn’t RSVP isn’t coming. I certainly don’t feel like calling all those people and pathetically begging them to come! But some may have genuinely forgotten the invite in the shuffle of their busy lives. So, the question is, what should I do now?
I must admit, I’m not much of a crafter. Sure, I dabbled in cross-stitching, rug hooking, and sewing back in my middle and high school days. This mostly led to a bunch of abandoned, half-finished projects. My creative talents mainly revolve around cameras, not quilts or paints. Basically, Martha Stewart, I am not.
However, a budget backyard wedding definitely calls for some crafting, whether I like it or not. I do want our wedding to be pretty, after all! With the overload of wedding “Pinspiration” out there, Zach and I tried to restrict ourselves to a select few important DIY craft projects. Here’s what we’re hoping to accomplish:
I really didn’t know what to do about tablecloths until I found this beauty online and fell in love! Our plan is to dip-dye white cotton tablecloths in several different jewel tones. I already have all the dye and all the tablecloths, but we’re waiting until we arrive in Arizona the week of the wedding to dye them since we don’t have space for this project in our apartment. I really hope it works! We’re also hoping we can resell the tablecloths later if they turn out well!
We definitely need some romantic white lighting to transform our very “driveway-ish” driveway into a magical fairyland! Luckily, Zach’s parents already have a ton of white string lights. Since Zach used to be an electrician, I’m delegating this project to him and hoping it will turn out as pretty as this picture!
This is our most ambitious project, and, I feel like it’s the most likely to get axed if we run out of time and energy. But seriously, how awesome is this photobooth? We want to use old family wedding photos to celebrate our loved ones and also get some funky props and costumes for people to pose. I’m hoping we have time to construct this!
We need some sort of focal point for our outdoor ceremony. Zach’s also taking this one on, hoping he can construct something simple and pretty from some old wood and flowers!
At first I wanted to scour antique stores and thrift shops for vintage-y looking cake stands and serving plates. I soon realized that was more expensive than I originally envisioned. Then I stumbled into this idea on Pinterest. You just buy some fun, colorful plastic plates and cups, glue them together, and voila!
These are most of the craft project we hope to accomplish, although this is not all we’ll be DIY-ing, by any means. We’re also going to make all of our food and all of our desserts, do our own flowers, design our own playlists, and write our own ceremony. Uh-oh, I’m getting overwhelmed just thinking about it! The most stressful part about these crafts is that we can’t really do any of them until we arrive in Arizona. It’s going to make for a busy pre-wedding week, but there’s really nothing we can do about it. Thankfully we’ll have lots of able-bodied friends and family members arriving early to help!
What do you think of our craft list? Too ambitious? Anyone have tips for any of these projects?
Okay, okay, I’m not talking about the big “IT”, as in getting my V-card swiped. I’m talking about losing some poundage! If you remember back to my Wedding-Induced Ugly Duckling Syndrome post you remember me mentioning that I wanted to lose a few pounds in order to look my best for my wedding. I know I was far from alone in wanting this. I totally believe that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and I don’t agree with the immense amount of pressure put on brides to be a stick figure. But on the other hand, I had been just a little over my ideal weight for years and I figured the wedding was the best excuse I would ever have to drop it!
So in January (along with millions of other New Years Resolution-makers) I commenced my very own Operation Flab to Fab! The happy news I can now report is that I have lost 24 pounds!!!!!!
I don’t think the difference is too obvious in photos, but people have been noticing in real life, which is nice! Now you may be waiting with bated breath to hear my big, miraculous, easy weight loss secret…
Welp, I’m sorry to disappoint but I made this happen with the two classics: DIET and EXERCISE. Since January, I’ve been using www.myfitnesspal.com to count calories. This method works well for me because I can really eat anything I want, I just have to budget for it! I also experimented with counting calories by the week, instead of by the day, so that I could have some extra treats (or beers) on certain days of the week.
Fitness wise, I’ve been pretty active! On June 2 I will be running my first half marathon and training for that has definitely kept me moving. I’ve also been going to yoga class once a week, biking, and hiking on days off. I’m all for putting the effort into exercise in order to earn those extra calories!
I don’t want to make it sound easy, because it definitely hasn’t been. I LOVE cooking, baking, eating out, going out to bars, and pretty much every other unhealthy hobby out there. Thinking of the wedding, support from Zach, mental toughness, and encouragement from a couple other dieting friends has helped me get this far. The thing is, I’m not done yet! I have a mere two and a half months until my wedding and three weeks until my final dress fitting and I still would like to lose six more pounds. Despite my success so far, I feel like I’ve hit a wall. I’ve been making too many excuses and cheating on my eating far too much! Getting close is not enough; I want to meet my final goal! (Which is still in the middle of my healthy BMI range, FYI.)
So I guess part of my reason for writing this is to ask for some support and accountability! The clock is ticking and I really need to recommit in order to get my body to truly FAB status by wedding time!
Does anyone have any tips for getting through the last few pounds? Any other encouraging pre-wedding weight loss stories out there?
I imagined us making a video for our wedding invitation pretty much from the beginning. We obviously had no budget for buying fancy invitations and paper crafting is something I’ve just never been into. So we decided to put my film degree to use!
We basically wanted to share a little of our journey and history with our invitees through this video. I came up with the stop-motion animation idea as a fun, cartoon-ey way to tell our story. Zach used his artistic talents to make the cars, buses, and boats you see in the video. We chose the song “Flowers in Your Hair” by The Lumineers because we love the sound and lyrics, and it’s so short it forced us to keep the video brief! All of our guests received a short email with the link to this video. (Also, in the version guests received, the last title shows our wedding website URL, but I took it out here to maintain our privacy.)
So, without further ado, the Broke-Ass Bride premiere of Zach and Carrie’s wedding invitation video!
What do you think? Did anyone else make a video invitation? What did you do? How did your guests react?