Broke-Ass Category: Budget Concerns

1/23

Hi BABs,

I’ve noticed that there are a few common questions people ask you when you tell them that you are engaged. They consist of “ohmygosh! Let me see the ring!” “How did he propose?” “Do you have your dress yet?” “When’s the big day?” and finally, “where are you going to go for your honeymoon?”

As much as I love talking about myself, and my wedding, the last question pains me. People, I love to travel. A lot. When I imagined my wedding, before I got engaged, where I never considered the scenario that one day of my life could easily cost the same as a mid-sized sedan, I imagined my honeymoon. I imagined I’d be honeymooning in an overwater bungalow in Bora Bora, in a treehouse in the rainforests of Brazil, or diving the the great barrier reef.

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Unfortunately, that’s not happening, I’ll revisit that possibility sometime around my 10th anniversary, maybe?

So, since my original plan is out of the way, what do I do, besides wallowing in self-pity?

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Of course I can’t have I want. That’s okay. But I do want to take a trip with my love to commemorate the start of our marriage in some way or another. I could do a mini-moon somewhere local. Or, I could have a delayed honeymoon. Many of my friends who were married before me made the case for not going on a honeymoon immediately after their wedding. They said it was rather stressful planning a wedding and an international trip at the same time, not to mention had to book a huge chunk of time off work to do it. They considered that a gap in between the wedding and honeymoon may have been easier.

Plus, I’m getting married in early September, when the weather is still lovely. If I’m going to jet away somewhere gorgeous and hot, I’d rather not miss out on the minuscule amount of Canadian summer/fall that is also gorgeous and hot. I’d rather skip out on snow, thanks very much! So, Ev and I will enjoy our wedding, and then phase back to the real world, only to extend the fun in our January or February where I suspect we will be needing it a lot more. Ideally, we will also have recovered a teensy bit financially. You can bet I’ll still be telling everyone we “just got married!” and taking my free drinks!

Are you taking your honeymoon right away or are you going to delay it a bit?

  • 1/20

    If the new year brought you a new big step in your relationship, congratulations! We’re so happy to have you! As you jump into the world of wedding planning, know that it’s totally normal and very much ok to be feeling a little … overwhelmed about where to start, to say the least.

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    If your head is feeling like a giant cloud full of tulle and fondant at the moment, take a deep breath, smile and remind yourself that this is going to be great. Then, take a look at our suggestions to get you on the right track to a sane, prioritized planning process.

    Focus on the big picture.

    Take some time to think about what your wedding *feels* like. Is it a big, backyard bash with all of your favorite people? Maybe an intimate cocktail party with your closest family a friends? Make sure to have open conversations with your partner about this so you can suss out any areas you’ll potentially need to compromise. Thinking about the overall size of your wedding helps with other big decisions like the venue and budget.

    Identify YOUR priorities and where you’re willing to splurge.

    Maybe you know exactly what you want to wear or have long dreamed of a specific venue. It could be that you really want to hire that band you saw together on a special date. If there are big ticket items that you know you’ll regret not having as a part of your day, pick them out, write them down and look into what it will cost, then start building your budget around that. It may mean spending less on other areas, but making room for the things you both want is worth it!

    Check out venues and build from there.

    Even if you don’t feel like the venue is the most important choice you’ll make, it’s still a good place to start. Reserving a venue secures your date and having a date allows you to book all of the other vendors you want. Venues are also likely to have rules that could end up being a deciding factor on other vendors or elements you want to include. Things like sparklers, including pets in your ceremony and pretty much anything that includes an open flame may be a no-go. It’s up to you whether the location is worth sacrificing something you wanted to have in your wedding.

    Don’t put too much stock in checklists.

    Timelines and checklists can be great at keeping you organized and helping you plan how to space out big purchases, but they’re not the end-all-be-all of wedding planning. If you’re the type of person who starts the day by making a to-do list, by all means, find one that fits you! Just don’t brand yourself a failure if your stationery isn’t chosen six months out. If you feel confident about a purchase at a time a great deal comes up, think of it as meant to be, regardless of whether or not a checklist tells you it’s “time.”

    Above all, trust yourself and your partner because this is going to be a fun ride! Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice and find your favorite ways to share your love story.

    Are you having a hard time figuring out the next step to take in your wedding planning? Let us know what has you stumped in the comments below!

  • 1/17

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    Ladies, let’s talk accessories and all those little glitters that add to your look. If you are a tomboy like me, you may be completely out of your league when it comes to this. I know I felt like I was. I think the thing I had the absolute hardest time finding was shoes and a veil. When you’re in the bridal shop trying on a…

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    1/12

    Fig Dress from BHLDN

    Today's CAI/GOI request is for a fun and casual dress from BHLDN. Reader Kate commented on this post with: "Y'all are incredible. So glad to have stumbled on these posts--have loved looking at some of the Etsy sellers you've mentioned! After a painful divorce a few years ago, I'm blessed to be a second-time-around bride, looking for something a tad more casual than the frothy…

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    1/10

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    I mentioned a while ago that we planned to use fake flowers when it came time for bouquets, bouts, corsages and decor. So that's what we did. Other than my bouquet, every other piece of flowery goodness was made with artificial flowers, and we were insanely happy with how they all turned out. We had two separate seating areas since dinner was outdoors, and dancing…

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  • 12/22

    Berta 15-18

    Y'all have some major love for Berta gowns! Today's CAI/GOI request is from Amber, who commented on this previous Berta post. She writes: "HELP! I also fell in love with a Berta gown, Berta 15-18 to be exact. My budget is around $3,000. Any recommendations?? Thanks!" The Berta gown in question is an embellished lace sheath number, complete with detachable train, from the 2015 Spring/Summer…

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    12/20

    RR-31

    Our wedding was the best day ever, so naturally we wanted some really fun ways to remember it. I talked about my way too expensive Instax guestbook a while back, and while it did cost a pretty penny, I am SO glad we ended up doing it. I am obsessed. There was a time when we had no idea where the guestbook was going to…

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    12/19

    diy real wedding

    Credit: Juniper Photography I’m sure many people have ideas about how they want their weddings to be even before they start planning them. Maybe they know for sure they want to get married on the beach, or they’ve always known they would wear a family heirloom that has been passed down for generations. I had ideas like that too -- my matrimonial must-haves, if you will.…

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  • 12/15

    Nicole Miller Ashley Gown

    Hey BABs! This week, we have a request from reader Katelynn who commented on this post saying: Nice Work! I love BAB!! I've got my own CAI/GOI conundrum: I've fallen in love with the Ashley bridal gown by Nicole Miller (http://www.nicolemiller.com/as... but it's more than I wanted to spend at $1800. Ideally, I'd love a dress between $500-$800. I love the lace, low back, and halter…

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