Broke-Ass Category: Wedding Advice

5/31

Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut!

My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place summer of 2019, so that we have plenty of time to save. Therefore, I’ve decided to take my time and come up with various options before I get into the nitty gritty of wedding planning. Of course, I’ve already joined various wedding crafting groups and signed up for at least five wedding-themed newsletters. I’ve also read so many real wedding stories that I could fill a three-subject notebook with tips, tricks and anecdotes, and I’ve only been engaged since March.

Ready? Here we go!

The Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments

1. Thou Shalt Embrace Thine Inner Crafting Goddess  

Fact: When you are on a broke-ass budget, DIY will become your middle name. Give into it. Embrace it. Dive in like you would dive into a carton of Hagan Daaz after you’ve been dieting for a week. (Don’t act like that’s just me.) The key is to know what you are good at and what you can teach yourself. Most of all, know what you shouldn’t touch with a 20-foot pole, rubber gloves and a hazmat suit. Play to your strengths and you’ll be fine. Also, keep in mind how much time your DIY projects will cost you, because if you don’t, you will take on more than you can handle and you WILL regret it.

2. Thou Shalt Stay True to Thine Own Style, Not What’s Trending on Pinterest

Don’t get me wrong, I love Pinterest. I love, love, LOVE it, because Pinterest can provide you with a lot of great ideas and inspiration. However, Pinterest can also drop kick you into the fiery chasm of hell if you let it. Why? First of all, Pinterest can lead to the decimation of your budget. That’s huge. Furthermore, you may find yourself  on the day of your wedding looking around at a mish-mash of styles that say nothing about who you are as a bride and as a couple. If bold colors are what’s hot, but you had your heart set on earthy tones, then guess what — earth tones it is! Your wedding will be beautiful because it will be a reflection of you.

3. Thou Shalt Ask for Help if Thou Needs It

I’m not sure how, or why, it happens; but as soon as we have that beautiful ring on our finger we turn into Super Bride. Super Brides think they are indestructible and can plan this amazing wedding all by themselves. Wrong! You ARE amazing, but you you CAN’T do everything by yourself, nor should you try. Super Brides often find themselves overextended, and as result, they burn out. So, if you don’t want to be a frazzled mess of a bride on your wedding day, ask for help. Bridesmaids are not just for looking pretty in pictures, they are there to support you. Now, having said that, please do not think I am encouraging the indentured servitude of your friends and family. Remember, they are not there to plan the wedding for you, but to lend a helping hand when you need one.

4. Thou Shalt Not Become Bridezilla

Planning a wedding is stressful, and you are bound to have a short fuse from time to time. It’s expected. Having a bridezilla moment is not the end of the world. No friendships will be ruined, no innocent villages will be destroyed. You will recover. However, if you are a raging, bridezilla from the moment you said “yes” you will run the risk of ruining some relationships. If you need an outlet go for a walk or a run, hit a punching bag, get a massage. Do something. Whatever you do, do not unleash the beast on your friends and family members who are just trying to help. 

5. Thou Shalt Splurge on One Detail or Two    

If there’s one thing that a broke-asses learns early on, it’s that you can’t have everything that you want. You have to decide what is a “must-have” and what is a “nice-to-have” and crossing those “nice-to-have” items off of your list can be depressing. However, being a broke-ass does not mean that you can’t splurge a little. In fact, I encourage it. If it’s important to you to get married under a beautiful wedding arch, put extra money into your decor budget. If you and your fiance are foodies, flush out that catering budget. It’s your wedding day, if ever there was an occasion for a little splurge it’s your wedding day. And when I say “little splurge” I mean “little splurge.” Do NOT go crazy and start over-spending left and right.

 

***Stay tuned for Part TWO!***

 

My fiancee and I — pre-wedding planning madness.

  • 5/10

    Pinterest is a wonderful wedding planning tool.

    There are so many options, suggestions and design ideas that quite possibly anyone, even without a “crafting thumb” could follow the instructions and make something wonderful.

    For months, I have collected these ideas on my special secret wedding planning board and I even shared with others that my planning progress was right on track, primarily because I had this board with a million ideas “pinned” and I felt somewhat accomplished.

    Then I had a lightbulb moment and I sat down to read through all of my pins and figured out what ideas would become a reality.

    It was a mess!

    I was all over the place and needed to figure out what DIY projects would fill my to do list. I tried to do this by myself by printing out everything, laying it all out on the floor and checking to see how much it would cost to make my design dreams come true. Again, the process was a mess!

    I needed help.

    I called Leigh Strong a real life Superhero but also known as a designer and stylist. Leigh assured me that she could whip my plan into shape and we scheduled a meeting.

    Leigh Strong, Designer Extraordinaire

    We started talking at 7 a.m., and two hours later I had a solid plan and realized that I would save tons of money by focusing on what I REALLY wanted vs being solely inspired by my Pinterest board.

     

    Planning on a budget? Make sure you think about the following:

    • Pinterest ideas still require time and money. Do your homework before you commit to the DIY project, price out how much the materials will be as well as the investment of your time!
    • It’s amazing how a little instruction/how to lesson can open your eyes to the additional items that you will need to make DIY project come to life! When I made my wedding budget, I  didn’t plan on buying power tools or a Cricut machine.
    • DIY + non-DIY projects, are not always created equal. Take inventory on what you plan to make, buy and/or rent and ensure there is a good design flow. You don’t want some things to look better than others.

    How did you organize all of your creative ideas? What tips do you have? Share in the comments below!

     

     

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