Broke-Ass Category: Wedding Planning


So, after my slight breakdown , I’m back on track. Chris, the girls and I had a wonderful Mother’s Day, we went to Busch Gardens and had a really fun, relaxing day, which I think helped my overall mood a lot. My mother came down today to help me with the kids, which is always great. I have a race on Sunday, but their dad is going to a conference in Florida, and Chris has his paramedic class, so I needed some help with child wrangling. Cue my mother!

Say hi, Mom!

My mother, like me, is very type-A. She warned me before she came down that she had a list of things she had thought of that I still needed to do for our wedding. She wasn’t kidding.

The note.

Having both my mom and Chris is a wonderful thing. Chris is very laid back. He’s not uninterested, he just isn’t picky at all and is usually pretty happy with most of my ideas. My mom, on the other hand, is definitely on my team and agrees with a lot of what we want, but she will most definitely tell me when she doesn’t think something is a good idea or doesn’t think I need to do it, which is great when it comes to keeping costs down. So I have a good mix of laid back and type-A to help me plan. I was actually thinking of details today, and was considering wedding shoes. I’m definitely not a heels kind of girl. I’m tall, and Chris is my height (though he insists he’s a half an inch taller), so I don’t really need them. I’m also about as graceful as a baby giraffe, and I’d prefer not to break an ankle walking down the aisle. I already have a marathon the week before, so I’m definitely thinking flats are the way to go. Our colors are purple and silver, so I wanted to go with purple shoes. So I headed on over to Etsy, and I am absolutely in love with these shoes:

Purple wedding flats available from Etsy seller Walkinonair

I absolutely love the lace details around the heel, it’ll match the lace designs on my dress. They’re $67, which, for someone who usually shops at Payless (except for running shoes, those are the only shoes I’m willing to spend a ridiculous amount of money on) is a bit pricey, but not horribly so. And I definitely have no problem wearing these again, I think wearing them to work after we get married will make me smile throughout the day. I think I’m actually liking planning the little details more than the big, expensive parts of the wedding. The girls and my mom are currently looking at flower girl dresses, so it may be one more detail down!

How’s your planning going? Is your mom stepping in to help?

  • 5/19

    Hello gals & gents. I’m back to recant a bit of my experiences in the Twin Cities with my partner, Kristofer. He’s spent a lot of time there, being a Minnesota native himself, but it was my first time. Below are just a few of the places we hit.

    Wise Acre Eatery is a great place for lunch — they’re known for their INSANELY amazing bacon.

    The beautiful McNeely Conservatory at the Como Zoo & Park in St. Paul. You guys, there’s a sloth. Enough said.

    The set of King Lear at the Guthrie. Such a cool, modern theater!

    Traveler Tip: The Guthrie is linked into a bunch of the hotels in the area, so you can get discounted rates if you book in advance.

    On our way to lunch, we stopped at Minnehaha Falls and enjoyed this crazy waterfall. It’s surrounded by a really beautiful park, with a scenic trail for runners and a great spot for picnics. (If you’re digging my yellow jacket, you can pick up a similar one from Old Navy here.)

    Other places I recommend?

    Shopping: Calhoun Square
    Italian Food: Bar La Grassa
    Museum: Walker Art Center (An AMAZING gift shop)
    Coffee: Dogwood Coffee Co.
    Brunch: French Meadow Bakery & Cafe
    When You’re Starving: Brasa Premium Rotisserie

    Enough of that, let’s get to the packing.

    If you’re going in the winter, expect to see a lot of snow and get chilly gusts. Though cold, it’s a beautiful time of year in Minneapolis and St. Paul and there’s still oodles and oodles to do. In the warmer months, you’ll still want to make sure you pack a sweater and a light jacket just in case a night chill blows in. Also, it’s wise to bring a raincoat, as the weather has a tendency to be pretty wet year round.

    For the Cold

    Levi’s Trucker Jacket, $200 from Men’s Wearhouse

    Lems Boulder Boot, $115 from Huckberry

    Wallace & Barnes Workshirt, $88 from J. Crew

    For Warmer Times

    8″ Club Shorts, $19.99 from Target

    K-Way Anorak, $49.98 from Huckberry

    Saucony Originals, $26–$65 from Amazon

    If y’all want to see more of our excursions in Minnesota (travels to Duluth & Grand Marais, the grandness of Lake Superior, playing slot machines way out in the woods …), follow me on Instagram (@jellybeanmagician)! Also, I love recommendations, so let me know if you have haunts you like to frequent.

    Do you have any great trips planned? Where are you going? Share below!

  • 5/18

      Hi BABs!  This week’s request comes from reader Stephanie, who wrote to us on this post and is inspired by several Hayley Paige gowns: I'm a broke-ass-bride and I love Hayley Paige! I am trying to find a style with her signature layered, flowy skirt look, spaghetti straps with a v-neck, and some kind of shimmer or fun detail! My favorites of hers are the…

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    As someone who has only seen episodes of Say Yes to the Dress in the time it takes for the channel to load and me to flip to the next channel, I was completely unprepared for wedding dress hunting. I was a "good" bride/friend and invited my mom and two besties to Charleston for the process.  I made appointments at 3 different bridal shops (Bridals by…

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    To do notepad available from Etsy seller marrygrams Here's the thing: I've been gifted with a degree of creativity and innovation, however, I'm really, really bad at delegating. With a project as colossal as a wedding, this is not a good thing. I'm pretty sure if I try to micromanage every little thing, I'll be so busy that I wont have time to enjoy one…

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  • 5/10

    Pinterest is a wonderful wedding planning tool. There are so many options, suggestions and design ideas that quite possibly anyone, even without a "crafting thumb" could follow the instructions and make something wonderful. For months, I have collected these ideas on my special secret wedding planning board and I even shared with others that my planning progress was right on track, primarily because I had…

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    An older person once told me that you shouldn’t marry someone unless they were your best friend. At the time I didn’t really understand what he meant, but I think I have a better idea now. Michael and I have been going out for almost eight years now. We’ve fought as fiercely as siblings at times. We’ve laughed so hard we cried and cried so…

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    So, I'm not going to lie, I've done very little planning during the past couple of weeks. I finally was able to mail out our save the dates, and the verdict on our choice was very positive, which made me happy. My next meeting with Cathy (our venue coordinator) is in July, where I'll give her the first half of the payment for the wedding…

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  • 5/4

    Welcome BABs! We have another CAI/GOI for you today with a gorgeous Rue de Seine gown inspiration. Reader Haley commented on this post looking for a boho dress for her wedding: Rue de seine Blake or Raven for under $1000. I like the bohemian, festival, hippie style. Thanks! Haley Okay, Haley -- I hear you on these great Rue de Seine gowns! These gowns are both lovely…

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