Broke-Ass Category: Real Brides

6/21

Early in my engagement, literally in the first few months of adorning my new bling, I shared with friends that I planned to plant a rose garden and DIY my wedding bouquet and flowers. Of course everyone thought that I was crazy and that eventually the idea would fade as I began to make decisions and evaluate how much time I would have during the week of the wedding.

Well they were right, kind of right …

I aborted the idea of growing my own garden but secretly I held on to the idea of DIYing my flowers. I tried to do it the traditional way: I made appointments to look at florist portfolios, I invested hours in explaining my “vision” and I reviewed a pile of quotes. At the end of the day, I returned to my original DIY decision! Now I just need to narrow down where I will purchase the flowers. I did some research and explored lots of options, It’s By U caught my eye and I decided to give them a try. Once my sample bouquet arrived, I quickly discovered …

Five ways to avoid a DIY bouquet meltdown.

1. Delivery timing is EVERYTHING!  The contact at It’s By U asked me if a Saturday delivery would work and I thought that it would be perfect. I just didn’t think about the flowers being delivered to the leasing office, the FEDEX notification email landing in my inbox after the leasing office was closed and my fresh flowers sitting in the office until Monday at 10 a.m. because the office was closed on Sunday. Lesson learned! When I order my flowers for the wedding I will think about all of the potential risks and plan ahead for them. It’s very important that you get your flowers in water ASAP so that they remain hydrated.  The upside is that once I picked up the flowers, I immediately put them on water and they were still in good shape.

I immediately placed the flowers in the kitchen sink to hydrate!

2. While my flowers were soaking up some water, I began to read through all of the instructions and supplies that were included with my delivery. This is a VERY important step! If you think that you can just create your bouquet based on the pictures that you have seen on Pinterest, you may be in for a surprise. I learned everything from the way that you should cut your stems to the proper way to hold the stems in order to achieve the shape that I wanted. It’s by U covers all bases to ensure that you have what you need to be successful. The instructions were on paper, in my email inbox and on a Youtube video.

Detailed instructions from It’s By U

3. Next up, I prepared my working space. Parchment paper or newspaper is a good idea because loose stems and leaves were all over the place. I would DEFINITELY recommend laying everything out so you have all you need right in front of you. The flowers need to stay near water because you don’t want to pause while you are in the middle of the process. Also, this is not a task that should be done while watching Lifetime. I had to pay attention to the Youtube video while keeping my paper instructions nearby and there was no room for multitasking.

Setting up my space

4. Once I started to make my bouquet, I gave myself GRACE — remember this is not your day job. It’s OK if you make a mistake or two. If I didn’t like the shape or I forgot to add the berry fillers, I would just start over. Also, I could appreciate that in the instruction video, they give you a heads up that it may take two or three attempts before you make a perfect bouquet. Basically your wedding day bouquet should not be the first time you embark on this journey. I plan to pick up some flowers from the grocery store once a week and each time do a little practice session. I might even try making corsages next!

Practice makes perfect!

5. Last but certainly not least, once you are done, the #1 way to avoid a meltdown is to CELEBRATE your success! You did it! It may not be perfect but you tried. I immediately took a picture and sent it to my bridesmaid GroupMe. They were authentic and supportive and it was just what I needed to stay motivated. After I cleaned everything up, I dropped the bouquet in a vase, poured a glass of wine and put my feet up.

Not too bad for a first try!

Are you taking on any big wedding day DIYs? How are you avoiding a DIY meltdown?

  • 6/20

    Hey everyone! Sorry for the week off, I was dealing with some family issues but I’m back! So when we went to the bridal expo a few months back, we signed up to do our wedding registry at Bed, Bath & Beyond. I’m not going to lie, I didn’t even know if we were going to do a registry, but they tempted me with the lure of free stuff.

    I can’t say no to a free coffee mug!

    So I signed up for a day a few months in the future. Unfortunately, I thought we were going to have to cancel or postpone it because Chris had Army stuff that weekend, but he ended up getting back in time, so we packed the kids up and off we went.

    Now, I know I say this a lot, but taking my kids was not ideal. I adore my children, but their idea of a good time is not walking around a big store where they can’t touch anything and hearing me whisper/hiss “stoptouchingthatdon’ttouchyoursistersohelpme … ” We’re going to have to go back at some point, just Chris and I, but we did get a lot of the basics onto our list.

    I was hesitant about making a registry — we already live together and have everything we need — but after talking to a few of my married friends who also lived together and had registries, it makes sense to have one. So we put down a lot of things that we could upgrade. New dishes, cups and silverware; upgraded kitchen supplies; upgraded bedding sets … it was kind of fun to go through everything and decide what we would really like to have.

    The process was pretty simple.

    We met with the lady in charge and she briefly explained everything to us, gave us a few pamphlets (and the mugs!) and sent us on our merry way with the cool scanner gun thing that I couldn’t get to work. Obviously user error, since Chris started showing off how he could scan things upside down, behind the back … the girls were at least amused!

    So now we have a registry that hopefully we remember to go back and update at some point.

    It was fun to pick things that we’d have to start our married life together. I think I’d also like to do an Amazon registry, I had a baby registry through them and it was great, and I also love me some Amazon. I feel like things will start snowballing soon — we have less than five months to go until the big day and I’m trying to hold off the impending freakout!

  • 6/19

    I got engaged Memorial Day Weekend in 2016. We set our wedding date for September of the next year because September is a special month for us and it gave us about 15 months to save for our wedding. I asked all my girls to be my bridesmaids and I was locked and loaded to go. I was trying to be gracious. Then one of…

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    6/13

    Hello fellow BABs! I'm back with Part 2 of my Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments. I know you have wedding planning and general badassery to get to; so let's get right into it. Ten Broke-Ass Bride Commandments 6. Thou Shalt Not Feel Guilty for Cutting your Guest List. The size of your guest list is what drives up the cost of your wedding; mo’ guests equals mo’ money…

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    6/12

    Wedding countdown chalkboard available from Etsy seller LavishLilLuxuries Earlier this month, it was the one-year anniversary of the day he proposed. Not to sound cliche, but I cant believe how much time has flown since then. We've also hit the three-month countdown until the wedding and that is an incredibly exciting and yet terrifying feeling. While we have all of our gotten our vendors booked, deposits…

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  • 6/6

    Keepsake box from Etsy Seller mariaallenboutique Tradition recommends a bride have something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue as she goes down the aisle. I’ve been throwing tradition to the wind all Willy Nilly the entire time but this one gives me pause. Four items -- how hard can that be? Famous last words. Obviously the something new is easy enough. Essentially everything I’m wearing is…

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    6/5

    Hi, my name is Ciji and I am a rule breaker. Now that we have established who I really am, let me tell you more about my EPIC bridal shower. A tea party just didn't seem like my kind of fun. We "brunch so hard" every weekend that a ladies brunch just didn't seem like anything special. I needed to share with my bridal shower…

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    5/31

    Hello my fellow BABs! Greetings from Connecticut! My name is Kimberly and I am a 36 year old Database and Office manager. In addition to being the lucky mom of a fabulous 18-month-old daughter, I am also the momma of a 14-year-old grumpy pug. My fiance, Antonio, and I are planning a romantic, garden themed wedding for (hopefully) 100 guests. Our wedding will be taking place…

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  • 5/30

    Novelty socks available from Etsy seller shopsockprints As I may have mentioned already, my partner, bless him, has been wonderfully supportive and helpful throughout the entire process of planning our wedding. This has transpired despite my occasional failures to delegate, as I wrote about in my last post. He’s also been extremely chill about pretty much everything that’s been suggested. Whereas, his list of must-haves…

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