Broke-Ass Category: Broke-Ass Brilliance

4/26

So the bridal shower has been sort of an ongoing issue with my bride tribe and I. To be honest, a shower was never even on my radar as something I would need to worry about. Isn’t that a time when friends and family get together and shower the bride with gifts? Shouldn’t her only job be to show up? Welp, apparently not.

My MOH is wonderful and I love her dearly. Planning parties is not her thing. If I say, find me someone who rents freezers in Syracuse, she will bring me a list of everything sorted by distance and price. We shop and brainstorm together while taking no prisoners. But apparently she lacks the genetic coding that allows me to say “will you plan the shower?” and for her to reply with” I’ve already booked the venue and have a menu set.” If you caught one of my earlier posts, you’d know what I’m talking about.

One of the tea cups my mother started hoarding

Fast forward to now. I’m living in another state and I’m about 300 miles from home. I rallied the other ‘maids to help my MOH with her planning. My sister and another ‘maid have been trying, unsuccessfully, to contact the venue I picked for the shower. The lack of response from the venue was at first manageable. The owner apparently had some sort of family emergency and was unavailable for a while. Since the owner is the one that books all events, my girls were at a standstill to book the venue. A week turned into two week and then well over a month with no phone calls being returned. The girls called a few times and got the same response. Well crap. This is not worth the hassle, back to the drawing board.

Teapot we got at an antique store

I have a family friend who has a giant house and hosts parties all the time. I had hesitated to ask her if she could host the shower, 1) because she can be a bit overwhelming at times, 2) she and my MOH do not get along, at all, and 3) I didn’t want her going wildly over the top with this, something that has happened before. But, desperate last minute times call for last minute measures. I casually texted her about something completely unrelated and mentioned that we were looking for venue suggestions if she knew any. Not an outlandish question, she’s well connected and party planning is her jam. She responded with the expected response of “you can have it here.” I’ll admit I was very relieved. Anything that she gets her teeth into will be beautiful and go off without a hitch. Problems? Welp, my sister has this vision of what she wants for my shower. I asked for a tea party. Little sandwiches, hats, tea, the whole pinkies up extravaganza. (Not to be confused with Alice and Wonderland).

My sister has been roaming the country and city side in search of antique tea items. She hopes to use them for centerpieces since buying 40 for everyone to drink out of is a bit insane. She asked my mother to help with tea-item acquiring and my mom has gone a little insane hunting down tea cups. Some of them are really stunning though and I plan on running away with them afterwards.

Sale at Michaels on tea party items

So, we now have a date, time and location. My sister is working with the friend and together they can hopefully create something awesome. Spoiler alert: I don’t really care what the party looks like. I’d just like to hang out with an awesome pack of ladies and drink tea in our fancy hats. I have a small army of cute hats that I’m currently debating which to wear. If only all my decisions were this difficult.  

What about you? Are you experiencing unexpected twists and turns when it comes to the shower?

  • 4/24

    I will fully admit that I used to judge brides who claimed they were “sooooo stressed over wedding planning.” Just as I’ve been forced to admit over the past seven years that I truly know nothing about parenting, I’m now eating my words about wedding planning. I got lucky in the fact that the venue comes with a built-in planner who will help me plan the food, decorations and music, but I didn’t realize there were so many other details that came with the territory before we even get to that point. I’m trying to piece them out so I don’t get completely overwhelmed, but I tend to not be a “live in the moment” kind of person; I like to plan things three or four steps ahead so that I’m not surprised by anything that pops up. So this week I decided to tackle the save the dates.

    Chris and I have decided not to do an engagement shoot. I have a friend who is an amazing photographer, and I would definitely have chosen her to do a session, but she’s having her first baby and is due next week, so Chris and I talked it over and decided to just skip having engagement pictures taken. It doesn’t hurt that it saves us money, and it keeps me from having to worry that we’re going to have to cut it short and drive my friend to the hospital! I’m more worried about getting amazing wedding pictures, so I’m not too bummed. It does mean that when I was looking for save the dates, I was going to have to pick ones that either didn’t have a space for pictures or use pictures that we already have.

    I decided to go with Vistaprint. The price was right (31 cents a piece), and I really liked the design. My mom, sister, and bridesmaid Shay all said the same thing: it’s not overly mushy, and it fits us well.

     

    Real Bride Alissa's Save the Date

    I think it’s cute and fits our personalities well. It’s fun and tongue-in-cheek, while not being dismissive, and it shows our genuine excitement! We don’t have a wedding website, so I took that part out, but everything else was very easy to fill out. Vistaprint shows you where to fill out your personal information, and it’s easy to take fields like the wedding website out. I’m pretty happy with how they turned out, and the price was right (it was less than $25 before tax), and they’ll be here Friday! Now to worry about other things, like flower girl dresses and bridesmaids dresses and invitations … oh my!

  • 4/21

     This sponsored post is brought to you by Evite® and Olive Garden as part of the Evite® Influencer Program Wouldn't we all love to jet off and have a romantic destination wedding, especially somewhere as gorgeous as Tuscany? Unfortunately, with Broke-Ass budgets, dreamers can dream ... but, in that same vein, doers can make a dream come to life without even stepping on a plane.…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!

    4/20

    Reader Sandra commented on this post looking for a floaty dress for her 30th anniversary vow renewal: "Just found "Can't Afford It" today. Wonderful! My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary in 2018, and would like to have a vow renewal and small party. I really like Inga Nataya's "River Fairy" dress in Lilac, but $900 is too much for me to…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!

    4/19

    Honeymoon Vibes shirt available from Etsy seller TheDailyTay Hello, it's me ... that Broke-Ass Bride who has been MIA for a bit. Life has been nuts! But let's not dwell on that; let's talk about fun, happy things ... like a honeymoon with your new husband. Russel and I both love to travel. He's spent time in Europe and Colombia among other places, and I just…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!
  • 4/18

    Print available from Etsy seller WishfulPrinting The biggest expense at any wedding are the guests. They are the consumers, so the more guests you have, the more expensive your reception will be (in theory, I'm sure someone can prove me wrong about that). We are opting to have a buffet dinner at our reception and we figured to keep costs down, we need less mouths…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!

    4/17

    Work has calmed down a bit in the last few weeks, so Ev and I have started putting some official wedding prep in motion. I managed to wrangle everyone's address, and after entirely too much obsessing, I picked out an invitation I liked and customized it. We are just waiting on our engagement photos to come back so we can post them up on our…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!

    4/12

    Modern RSVP card available from Etsy seller EmmyPaperie Every wedding planning book, blog, article advises that you should set your RSVP date for one month before the wedding. It seems to be a logical request. Most important vendor deadlines require that you confirm your final head count at least one month before the wedding. Let's re-read that last sentence, "at least one month before the…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!
  • 4/11

    If you saw my last post, you know what I’m in the middle of packing and moving everything. I can’t find anything because most of it is already packed. A few days before I found out I was getting a new job and moving, I started doing trials on drying flowers. As a broke, DIY bride, I was hoping I could preserve my own wedding…

    Read the full article →
    Share this!