3/15 Ask Liz: Engagement Party Potlucks & Pretty Wedding Dresses

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Dear Liz, 

My fiancé and I became engaged in September of last year, and we are getting married this September on our anniversary, which is so awesome! But here’s the thing, we never had an engagement party. I’ve spoken to and read a lot of articles about how you can have an engagement party whenever, but my sister (and maid of honor) is convinced it is much too late for one, now that we are only six months out from the actual wedding. Additionally, because I am a true BAB, we do not have any funds for such an event, which also greatly concerns my sister. But a friend of mine suggested having a potluck in a park somewhere and asking guests to also bring a bottle of wine to help stock the bar for the wedding (something we could really use). Is this too much to ask of people, to bring two items to a party? Is it too late for an engagement party?


Late to the Party

Dear Late,

I don’t believe there’s any such thing as “too late” to have a party, and your idea sounds great. I pinned a couple of examples on my Budget Wedding Tips board, too. Just keep it casual. The only glitch might be with the bottles of wine. If you’re not going to serve the bottles of wine people are bringing, you’re going to have to figure out something else to give them. Sodas, water, a specialty drink (sangria is pretty easy and you can make it beforehand), something like that.  Other than that, go for it.

Dear Liz,

So, I purchased my wedding dress this weekend. It was the first place I visited and I tried on about 10 to 15 dresses. I purchased the one that looked amazing on me (Allure 9003) and had the feel of a Pnina Tornai I always liked. I felt very ambushed at the shop, and when I got home I had major anxiety that I should’ve looked elsewhere and that maybe it wasn’t the dress for me (I never ever thought I would be in a ballgown). Do most brides have that second thought panic? Or did I choose wrong?


Dress Second-Guess

Dear Dress,

I wouldn’t say “most” brides, I’d leave it at “a few.” What I can say is that many brides think they want one dress style and end up loving a different design that looks better on them. That happens a lot.

If you really feel that the dress looked amazing on you, than you made the right choice. It sounds like you didn’t like how you were treated at the shop, but that’s a whole other issue.  You only have to deal with them a couple more times until you get your dress, and on one of those occasions, you can talk to the shop manager about your experience.

Any of you thinking about having a potluck engagement party or wedding, even? And how were you treated when you shopped for your dress? Let us know in the comments below! And, if you’d like to find out more about me and my part of Wedding World, go to www.silvercharmevents.com.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith is the owner of Silver Charm Events, a wedding planning service in Los Angeles. She's also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and the author of "DIY Your DOC: Do-it Yourself Wedding Day Coordination." Follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.