Almost three weeks later, I have a new husband, a new job, a new last name and a new haircut. These last couple weeks have been almost as much of a whirlwind as the month leading up to the wedding itself, and this is the first weekend I’ve had to just chill out. I almost can’t believe that everything is done, but to be honest, I’m glad.
I think weddings are probably like childbirth, where you don’t remember all the pain because you have this awesome baby. Now that everything is over and I have the pictures back, I have only good memories. I have not, however, ever been so tired as I was when I woke up on the morning after the wedding.
Yes, there were snags. My mother-in-law decided to change the venue of the rehearsal dinner three days before the event. That was a challenge. My headpiece was MIA until an hour before the ceremony – I was resigned to the fact I wasn’t going to happen. The first bridesmaid down the aisle took off waaaaaaay before her cue. But you know what? It had absolutely no bearing on how wonderful the whole day was.
If I can offer any advice to my broke-ass friends, it would be the following:
Ask for help, and take it when offered
I felt almost useless because everyone helping out was so on top of it. My friend Jenny, my coordinator, went above and beyond transforming my venue into a magical place that you could see Gatsby and Daisy dancing the night away in. She had the entire day scheduled down to the minute (so not my forte), and made sure everyone stayed on track, time-wise. Honestly, it would have been a whole different wedding without her, and I am be eternally grateful.
Try not to take things personally
I’m not going to lie, Bryce turned into quite the “groomzilla” the week of the wedding. My uber laid-back attitude and his compulsive need to have a hand in everything and make sure everything is perfect did create some drama the week of the wedding. The low point might have been a meltdown in the middle of the grocery store, but I realized that weddings do make people a little bit crazy. Take a deep breath and try not to take it personally.
Something that seems bad might actually be good
It rained pretty much all day – poured during parts of it. Since everything was inside, that didn’t really affect me too much, but on the upside, the temperature was nice and cool. I had expected it to be a typical, hot, muggy August day. I expected the make-up to be melting off my face, and being somewhat uncomfortable in my dress. Instead, it was cool (some people were even chilly), and the rain broke for just enough time to get some awesome outdoor shots.
Listen to your photographer
My photographer was amazing. He knew exactly what to do to make us feel comfortable. He had great ideas for where to take pictures and how to set them up (and quickly!) He took a venue that was pretty challenging to shoot in, lighting-wise, and gave me some of the most beautiful pictures I’ve ever seen! If you’re in North Carolina (or anywhere, I’m sure he’d be glad to travel), I’d HIGHLY recommend Jon Black Photography.
On that note, I’ll leave you with some of my favorite pics from the day. Best of luck with your upcoming nuptials, my broke-ass friends.