5/6

Last week, Universal treated myself and a few members of Team Broke-Ass to a sneak preview of Bridesmaids, which we turned into a girls night out surrounded by many a cocktail. I was so excited for this film. The all-star line-up features some of my very favorite female comedic actresses, and the uber-duo of producer Judd Apatow (Knocked Up, Superbad) and director Paul Feig (creator of Freaks and Geeks) quite literally tickles my funny bone.  So I rounded up Liz, Britt and Maddie – and we met up with Lydia – and we headed out on the town for rambunctiously good time!

Team Broke-Ass rocking beers and Bridesmaids. Hell to the yeah!

Check out the premise: Kristen Wiig leads the cast as Annie, a maid of honor whose life unravels as she leads her best friend, Lillian (Maya Rudolph), and a group of colorful bridesmaids (Rose Byrne, Melissa McCarthy, Wendi McLendon-Covey and Ellie Kemper) on a wild ride down the road to matrimony. Annie’s life is a mess. But when she finds out her lifetime best friend is engaged, she simply must serve as Lillian’s maid of honor.  Though lovelorn and broke, Annie bluffs her way through the expensive and bizarre rituals.  With one chance to get it perfect, she’ll show Lillian and her bridesmaids just how far you’ll go for someone you love.

And there’s some hella decent eye candy, too – with Chris O’Dowd (or as Britt calls him – Chris En’dowd) winning at being cute like he’s got tiger blood coursing through his heartmelting Irish veins, and Jon Hamm popping in for a very fun spin on his handsome-boy-modeling-school reputation. We laughed, we cried… it became an instant classic in the Broke-Ass film library, and I’m already looking forward to seeing it again!

It was especially fun to view it from an “inside the business” perspective. There were plenty of wedding in-jokes, jabs at ridiculously over-the-top details, and commentary on the external pressures under which a bride (or her maids) can easily find herself succumbing her vision and get into a wedding that either costs way too much, or feels nothing like “their style”.  It definitely provided some interesting conversation fodder among me and the girls over our beers at Beauty Bar later. $3 Buds? Yes please!

Here’s what BRITT had to say:
An aspect in “Bridesmaids” that really struck a chord with me was the relationships between each of the maids. Chances are, your bridesmaids won’t know each other prior to being asked to stand in her wedding.  And since there will be many social activities leading up to the wedding in which each of the bridesmaids will be forced to interact, (i.e. engagement party, shower, bachelorette party etc.) it is imperative that the bride do her best to foster these new friendships so that everyone feels comfortable.  Speaking from experience, I have been the “odd maid out” before. I’ve been the “badseed bridesmaid” who’s loud and curses and drinks way more than the other bridesmaids.  Thankfully, for the most part, my fellow bridesmaids were open to my more wild-child, big-city gal behavior.  But they had warning, thanks to the bride.  So when I gave my bridal shower gift to the bride — “anal ring toss” and some classless lingerie (as a joke) — they already expected it and were therefore less-so shocked by my antics and more-so amused by them.  And in the end, I walked away with a host of new friendships, ones that I still maintain til this day, even though we are all very different as individuals.

Here’s what had LIZ talking afterward:
Bridesmaids: Have the wedding YOU Want.

I love that Bridesmaids tells the story of Lillian’s wedding from Annie’s point of view, the Maid of Honor who’s known Lillian her entire life. And given what we know about Lillian through Annie’s eyes… this isn’t Lillian’s wedding. It happens all too often, a bride gets in over her head and loses control of her vision to the point where it’s unrecognizable. Later in the movie, Annie points out that if it was someone else, the two of them would making fun of how completely over the top the whole thing is. And it is completely over the top.

So, this is coming from a wedding planner: Be very cautious when anyone, family or friend, offers to take over any part of your wedding. Because they will. Maintain your right of first refusal. And second refusal. And that’s if you’ve hired a wedding planner, too.  It’s a very sweet offer, but I’ve seen it go wrong many, many times.  Raise your hand, ask questions, say No, and have the wedding you want.

MADDIE had this to say:
I think the funniest part of this movie was how out of control everything with the wedding got. I’ve never been a bride or a maid of honor before, but I definitely think you should relax. Don’t try to go super crazy out of this world over the top with dresses and party favors and shower themes. It’s your party and you can do what you want. And don’t let people influence your decision making either. Be true to yourself.

And MY two cents:
Too often, brides morph from friend into manager when the ring slips on, and views her maids more like assistants and less as besties for the duration of the planning process. While your wedding party is there to support you and shoulder some of the weight to help your big day be as seamless, beautiful and memorable as possible, try to be sure to nurture your friendships throughout the process and remind them how much you appreciate their help, patience, expense and support. Think “in their shoes” and do unto your bridesmaids as you would have done unto you, were the roles reversed – they very well may soon be! Be mindful of their time, effort and expense – and be flexible and thankful whenever you can. Plan non-wedding related “detox dates” with your girls and ban wedding talk from the evening. Ask instead about their lives and catch up on what’s new with them. Remember the balance so that your friendships not just survive the wedding, but flourish as a result. It’s such a special time – a beautiful opportunity to share moments and memories that will carry through the lifetime of your friendship… so make it fun for everyone, and be as gracious as you can, even when they’re all driving you secretly crazy :)

But most of all, take your girls to see this movie, and definitely go out for drinks after. Let the girl bonding begin!

Don’t forget to check out the other stops along the Bridesmaids Blog Tour!
May 2               Borrowed & Bleu
May 5               Ever Ours
May 8               Merci New York
May 9               Forget Me Knot Weddings
May 10             Green Wedding Shoes
May 12             The Brides Cafe
May 13             From “I Will” to “I Do”

Bridesmaids opens in a theatre near you on May 13th!


The Broke-Ass Bride
Dana is the head woman in charge here, the original Broke-Ass Bride. Learn more about her here. And, follow her on Twitter (@brokeassbride), Pinterest (@brokeassbride), Facebook (/thebrokeassbride) and Instagram (@brokeassbride).
Share this!

8 Responses to “{Bridesmaids Blog Tour} Team Broke-Ass breaks it down”


  1. Genny

    Loving this team Broke-Ass round table action. I was wondering about Bridesmaids, but now I kind of feel like I have to see it. It's research, right!

  2. Lisa

    I <3 KRISTIN WIIG!!!!

  3. Bertha

    Girl Power! So cool that it's a top notch comedy with an all female lead cast. Makes me want to crank up a Beyonce song!

  4. Lucille

    You guys go out to movies!!! I wanna come ;-)

  5. brooklyncheapskate

    I'm sorry kittens, I can't bring myself to see that movie because I hate the poster so much. Way to take the only curvy girl in the cast and put her in a completely different dress from everyone else, complete with sleeves and a high neck. Srsly? (and this is from someone who wears sleeves herself for personal modesty reasons, but it was just too obvious that they Went There.)

    Or, as one of my girlfriends put it, "oh no! you'd better cover her! little girls might see her and think it's okay to love themselves for who they are!"

    Sigh.

  6. reilly

    I loved Bridesmaids!! Dana — did you think the Cake Baby logo looked similar to your blog header and logo design? It reminded me of Broke Ass Bride the instant I saw it! Do you + the film share a designer? I know yours came first and I couldn't help but ask!

  7. Link Love From Around the Bridal Blogs XV | HLW

    [...] The Broke-Ass Bride crew for their stop on the Bridesmaids Blog Tour – sharing their thoughts on Wedding Party fun and follies to make your planning process a lot [...]

  8. Link Love From Around the Bridal Blogs XV | HLW

    [...] The Broke-Ass Bride crew for their stop on the Bridesmaids Blog Tour – sharing their thoughts on Wedding Party fun and follies to make your planning process a lot [...]