Comments on: {Guest Post} 20 Ways to Avoid the Wedding Industrial Complex

By: Springflower

Springflower — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 17:50:16 +0000

I am Pressing the Like like Like Love Button!! This is the best!! I feel like printing it and posting it in every bridal boutique!! =)

By: Nicola

Nicola — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 10:54:38 +0000

Great article and I too am delighted that I haven’t succumbed to any of it – in fact we are having a destination wedding in New York with only 2 guests so it’s going to be the most laid back relaxed wedding ever! I designed my own card to send to my 2 guests just for fun, I designed my own dress which is being handmade at a fraction of the cost of a ‘designer’ one, our photographer is included in the cost of the wedding package we booked (which was my only concern but I’ve seen his work and it’s not too shabby!) We are then flying off to acapulco for our honeymoon and the whole cost including that, is about 1/4 of what UK brides normally pay for one big poofy, fluffy, over the top day of worrying about what everyone else thinks!!

By: kelly @outlawheart81

kelly @outlawheart81 — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 21:55:45 +0000

whoops on the double post… darn mobile web. can i delete the 1st one somehow?

By: kelly @outlawheart81

kelly @outlawheart81 — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 21:50:37 +0000

lol! love all this! except the groom’s cake!?! especially in a time of endless dessert buffets i say nix the big bulky Foo-Foo cake and use smaller more personal cakes.

and now that we were forced to postponing and starting from scratch we’re implementing this list… BTW anyone wanna buy 200 14k mint tins engraved Dustin & Kelly 10*3*10??
just kidding, but it’s a helpful reminder why splurging on personalized junk is a BAD idea!
circumstances beyond your control may leave you with 500 books of matchstick reminders of your dream wedding up in flames, for whatever reason it didn’t happen, lucky ours was a mutual financial decision, but HELL hath no fury like a bride to be, scorned… with monogramed matches in hand!

By: kelly @outlawheart81

kelly @outlawheart81 — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 21:39:14 +0000

lol! love all this! and now that we were forced to postponing and starting from scratch we’re implementing this list… BTW anyone wanna buy 200 14k mint tins engraved Dustin & Kelly 10*3*10??
just kidding, but it’s a helpful reminder why splurging on personalized junk is a BAD idea!
circumstances beyond your controll may leave you with 500 books of matchstick reminders of your epic fail, or your dream on hold, which ever it turns out to be.

By: Miss Queenie

Miss Queenie — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 07:44:14 +0000

I truly appreciate this list. I'm in the process of planning my wedding and intend on staying married after the ceremony. Watching bridezilla and all that other crap made me realize that people just start to get crazy besides at the end of the day what will the guest remember, trust me its not nan-one of the items on ya list- All of which can ring up a big bill.

Post ceremony people cant even enjoy the commitment because they are still tryna figure out how to pay their wedding off.. Ridiculous,( i rebuke that spirit)

I'm going for meaningful, purposeful-waste-less and eco friendly- No paper invites- we dump in the trash, its 2010 you'll get the URL for the invite- no individual programs on the day of wedding. We will print a few big ones and make a few 4 x6 using no more than 5 pieces of paper. Not spending an arm and a leg on the dress, thinking reasonably not like the industry wants me to.. etc..

You shouldn't have to think about how are you are going to PAY for your wedding but only answering WHEN are you getting married!

you should call it SMART ASS BRIDE..lol

Love it!

By: cj1

cj1 — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 12:46:39 +0000

Even if you want some of this stuff you don't have to spend a ton of money on it. For example: I think it is fine to want a guest book, but you can buy a cheap one and cover it with decorative paper to make it look nice instead of spending a fortune on a designer one. As a guest I am most concerned about the food and the music:)

By: chicista

chicista — Tue, 03 Aug 2010 01:41:20 +0000

Absolutely fantastic and hysterical! I agree on most things, but my inner Southern girl still wants a groom's cake…

By: Jeliza

Jeliza — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:05:45 +0000

Where I work (I am not a wedding photographer, but I do post-processing for several) we love engagement sessions because a) it lets *you* get comfortable with the photographer before the big day and b) it lets the photographer learn what angles are best for your face, and if you have any expressions to watch out for (i.e. heavy blinkers benefit from taking more frames in group shots, etc.) This is why so many photographers include the engagement session as part of every package.

I don't know that it helps to be *formal* though, unless you are sending it to the nytimes.

By: melissa

melissa — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 15:36:14 +0000

I am ridiculously happy to admit that we're not having a single one of these at our wedding! I kept scrolling down with hesitation, thinking surely the next one would be something we've spent money on, but nope, not a one!