Will You Do “The Nasty” On Your Wedding Night?
And by “do the nasty,” I mean HAVE SEX. Personally, for us, the answer to that question is an absolute YES. Even if we are too drunk and exhausted to stand up, and we have to be carried into our hotel room by our wedding party… and have to hire an exotic in-house fluffer named Esmeralda, wedding night sexual intercourse will most definitely take place. I probably won’t remember it the next day, but when do I ever? (ok, I’m kidding).
I once read a blurb in a bridal magazine that discussed this very topic. Aside from the fact that I was totally, but pleasantly surprised that a bridal magazine would discuss said topic so openly, I was even more surprised by the general consensus. Believe it or not, a lot of couples do NOT do the deed on their wedding night. I, for one, was shocked. So that lead me to generate a little poll. A sexified lil poll. This poll is directed at both married and yet to be married folk. So if you’re willing to share, go ahead and weigh in:
And if you’re feelin’ extra brave and awesome, please share your stories and opinions on Wedding Night Sex in the comments below. This could get interesting…
Hmmm, I'm 50/50 – btwn "not sure" and "too drunk". I guess I'll find out. Most people I've talked to didn't either. I would rather party with my guests at the bar afterward and have a little pre-brunch nookie. I think that counts.
I would probably be up for it, but we're having a Friday night wedding and leaving for our honeymoon the next morning. So I'm going to have to say it'll most likely be no.
We made an agreement to not get drunk at our wedding…but I did and in the hotel bar after the wedding, my cousin bought me a glass of scotch and that was the end of the story…I got sick in the bathroom in our suite and my very forgiving wife invited our attendants over for some champagne without me… I passed out. Pretty embarrassing but my wife is awesome and it's all good.
Oh, yeah. While I was still in the dress, and it was pretty hot. And then we immediately fell asleep, for like, 10 hours. I loved my wedding, I really did. My wedding was awesome.
I hate any kind of pressure to have sex. And I will not be pressuring myself into it just because it's my wedding night. Pressure equals biggest turnoff ever. I like it to be spontaneous, and I want us to both be into doing it. If it happens, great. If not, then it will the next morning. And I'll be honest…I much prefer the morning sex anyways.
So we got married twice – once in an ultra-private-justice-of-the-peace kind of deal and later with the big family shin-dig.
BEFORE GETTING HITCHED. Since the first ceremony was involved just us two we had some private time together before going to the court house. So before doing the deed – we did the deed. I was in the shower getting ready and getting cold feet. I got out, ready to tell my beloved it was a no go, and he was waiting there with the most beautiful smile and a towel – so I got rid of my cold feet by knocking boots.
AFTER GETTING HITCHED. The second ceremony was a big ol' family party with lots of happiness, dancing , laughing and (yes) booze. We stumbled up to the hotel room and fell into bed announcing there was no chance of more than sleep. But there was.
I have to say that in retrospect neither amorous embace was, how shall I say, "camera-ready". But both memories evoke such joy and were so full of deep passion and committment that even if we our technical score was a bit off, we made it all up on artistry.
We were way too tired. I just wanted to go home, eat something, and pass out.
Dude, one of the reasons we scheduled our wedding to be an afternoon ceremony w/ a reception ending around 6pm is so that we can then LEAVE to ENJOY OUR WEDDING NIGHT.
I knew if we had a night time bash with lots of alcohol that I would be way too sleepy.
We were tired and starving. We ordered room service and fell asleep. We both asked if the other was going to even shower and we were both too tired. Not a hot wedding night but we laughed about it the next morning and made up for it.
Can we make "God I hope so?!" an option? I went with maybe because I'm hoping I won't be crazy tired/drunk.
Abso-effing-lutely NOT.
1) As others have pointed out: the drunkenness. I will be TEH Drunkenness at that point in the evening. Yes, I needed to capitalize that, because that's how INSANELY DRUNK I will be.
2) Look, I don't know if you guys maybe have sexual superpowers that I don't, but drunken sex? For me? Is the worst. I can't really feel much of anything, my mind wanders, I forget what I was trying to do in the first place. And it takes EFFING FOREVER to get it over with. No. This is not the kind of sex I want to have.
In summary, I'd rather just wait until I sober up some.
KTHXBYE.
i wish i could have voted for both too drunk AND too tired. Our reception venue kicked us out at midnight so we hit the town (in full wedding attire) to continue the party! When we got back to our hotel room at about 4am I managed to get into some sexy lingerie but we passed out right after that!
I hate any kind of pressure to have sex. And I will not be pressuring myself into it just because it's my wedding night. Pressure equals biggest turnoff ever. I like it to be spontaneous, and I want us to both be into doing it. If it happens, great. If not, then it will the next morning. And I'll be honest…I much prefer the morning sex anyways.
I hate any kind of pressure to have sex. And I will not be pressuring myself into it just because it's my wedding night. Pressure equals biggest turnoff ever. I like it to be spontaneous, and I want us to both be into doing it. If it happens, great. If not, then it will the next morning. And I'll be honest…I much prefer the morning sex anyways.
I did, but I definitely do not think it is required. I'm with Ms. Bunny – pressure = turnoff.
I think Josh would have the marriage annulled if I said no to him on the wedding night. We're doing the long distance thing right now so I think we'll both really want to.
Funny, though, unlike Lyn I LOVE drunk sex. Well, only wine-drunk sex. And Josh loves wine-drunk Emily. And wine-drunk Emily looooves everybody. And now I'm getting into TMI territory so I'll end with that
haha… i had no sex. Hubby fell asleep when I came out of the washroom. We laugh about it…
We both fell asleep and made up for it in the AM…big time!
Can we make "God I hope so?!" an option? I went with maybe because I'm hoping I won't be crazy tired/drunk.
Can we make "God I hope so?!" an option? I went with maybe because I'm hoping I won't be crazy tired/drunk.
we were EXHAUSTED but .. we did "poke" for a few seconds. No finish, but we did poke. There was no way either of us could finish.
If I have enough energy or am sober enough, I plan to boink the night through. Otherwise, I'm totally fine with passing out, drooling on my dress, then doing it in the morning.
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We're getting married in the morning, having our Reception with the family at lunch, and then heading to a huge After Party with our friends at a groomsmen's house (4 stories + some acerage). We're spending the night in the guest bedroom… and I'm almost 100% certain that we're going to say "hi" to everyone when we get there, and then sneak away. Our friends will figure this out – and I hope they make a hell of a lot of noise cheering us on.
OMG – so glad to have stumbled across your blog. I'm way over the mommy-blogs, as cute as they are
Stop on by my blog to check out my wedding planning (or LACK there-of!) http://www.CrowningVictoria.blogspot.com
(although my last post was just a tribute to a friend!)
OMG – so glad to have stumbled across your blog. I'm way over the mommy-blogs, as cute as they are
Stop on by my blog to check out my wedding planning (or LACK there-of!) http://www.CrowningVictoria.blogspot.com
(although my last post was just a tribute to a friend!)
OMG – so glad to have stumbled across your blog. I'm way over the mommy-blogs, as cute as they are
Stop on by my blog to check out my wedding planning (or LACK there-of!) http://www.CrowningVictoria.blogspot.com
(although my last post was just a tribute to a friend!)
Solution: Have sex BEFORE the party–then get drunk! Why compromise?
My fiance and I are really really really looking forward to the wedding night. We live in two different cities and decided to abstain until marriage (more of a spiritual decision). So we are both ready to open that door again on the wedding night
i got sex on my wedding ninght and it was amazing, i striped for him we took pictures and the alchol helped not too much though, we didnt sleep together for a month before and it made it so special
I think we are going to, and I must confess, I planned an afternoon wedding SPECIFICALLY so nothing would interfere with our wedding night. High school sweet hearts together for almost seven years, and abstaining for all of them….we're christian, but seven years…good lord help me, I'm pretty frustrated up in here! I planned a casual, relaxing ceremony just so I'll be relaxed enough.
I am from Finland and just found this poll by accident while searching for all kinds of stuff about wedding; the traditions, et cetera.
I'd like to share a different kind of story, sorry that it grew quite long but I hope you'll read it through:
We just got married on Saturady, June 26, 2010 and didn't place too much expectations on the wedding night, knowing that there was going to be a party after the ceremony. Indeed it was a big party that lasted until 6:00 the next morning… we drank responsibly but didn't really have time to be alone at any time, although we did take a couple of long walks together and just enjoyed the happiness we shared that day. We had many long, hot kisses that day and night, but we didn't go any further. It's not that we didn't want to have sex…
Sunday morning, when we woke up, we had to clean up the remains of the party and take all of our stuff back home, so we were in quite a hurry – and the day went by quite fast… Then we decided to take a rest and went to my wife's parents' house for a relaxing sauna and some BBQ in the evening. The next day I had to go to work again, so we went to sleep early.
So, it was Monday evening when I came home from work and my wife had cooked dinner already. She had really put some effort on welcoming me home from work! We ate and enjoyed the feeling of not having anything urgent to do that day. We had the evening to ourselves. After dinner we kissed a bit… well, the passion kind of grew so we went to take a shower together, fell on the bed and had some absolutely amazing sex. It didn't seem to bother either one of us that we didn't have sex on the wedding night or the morning after the wedding. We waited for a good time when there's absolutely no rush and we could spend time all alone – and trust me, it paid off.
My advice would be not to worry about it too much, it's no good to go for it in a hurry.
Some sites say wedding night without sex is somewhat a sin, but I wouldn't look at it that way.
You know, the best things will happen if you just wait patiently for the right moment to let them happen
And you can think about it this way: The wedding day is probably one of the finest, most beautiful days in anyone's life, and I'll bet most people want to share the day with their relatives and best friends. That's what we did – we devoted the day to celebrating the best thing in our life so far. We didn't want to shut out the people we love after the ceremony was over, and thanks to this, we had the most memorable wedding day and night even though sex was not involved.
And I'll probably remember the evening and night of June 28 a long, long time!
On our wedding night my husband planned a surprise 4 me. I sat on a chair blindfolded & waited for him to come out of the bathroom. To make a long story short, I did have sex on my wedding night (July 25, 2009) but not with my husband. When I took off my blindfold & opened my eyes there stood before me a very well built (Very well built) and very naked Black Man. My husband said this was my surprise "gift". I was shocked & totally flabergasted, yet I did enjoy my "special gift" that evening with my husband watching us. It was a night to remember believe me. My husband waited until the the next evening to consumate our marriage.
LOL I giggled outloud. Poke….teehee.
I hope we do…but I know how I am when I am tired.
Now that is the perfect way to start a fantastic marriage. Im so jealous
AMEN!
Well, our wedding took place in the morning, with the reception in the afternoon, with everything being finished by 5 or so. We had a nice quiet dinner, in our hotel room, in a very posh and expensive honeymoon suite. Neither of us had really drank anything, other than the champagne used for the usual toast. We laid on the bed, and watched an awesome concert together on PBS. I kept trying to get more and more affectionate with her, but she continually pushed me away from her. Finally, I got up the gumption to ask her, straight out if we were going to have sex that night, and how I felt it was really important, that even if tired, we should've tried. She listened, didn't say much but continued to push me away. I can only tell you that she awoke in bed, alone the next morning, and before she was able to leave the hotel, I had been to the city hall, and had the marriage license nullified, as it was still within a 72 hour window that the locality we were in, allowed for people to back out of the legal commitments of marriage. She called me on my cell phone, and asked me what was going on. I told her, since she valued my feelings so lightly, and wasn't willing to discuss the matter nor come up with a compromise, I felt that the marriage was a mistake.
She turned quite nasty, and indicated that she was now my wife, and expected to be given half of my assets in a divorce. She did offer to settle the divorce for a flat monetary sum, to save us all the expense of a long drawn out divorce. I then informed her that, legally speaking, we had never been married, nor was she eligible to sue me for anything in divorce court. I then hung up. She kept trying to call me for weeks, until I changed my phone numbers. I had the locks in my house changed, and installed a security system. She then began to stalk me – everywhere I went, I'd see her pop up. Whenever I went out, she continually would accost any women I was with. I filed a restraining order against her. She soon violated it, and was jailed. It took her like 3 trips to jail, before she got the idea that she should just move on with her life. The point that I'm trying to make is that if someone chooses not to have sex on their wedding night, for little or no reason, then you can be sure there is something wrong with that person, and you should run, not walk, to your lawyers office to get a divorce.
You divorced her cause she didn't feel like having sex with you?? Hmmm…. seems kind of low…
AMEN!
I don't think it's fair to blame him in this case. It's expected to have sex on your wedding night. As seen above a few people have a problem with the expectation. If that was the case the matter should have been discussed beforehand.
Had they had sex previously, or how recently?
I think his point was that because she did not have sex he realized there was an extreme problem here. That problem was confirmed when she wanted half his stuff! (That shouldn't be the first thing that crosses your mind if this is her true love). He also said "For little or no reason". Things such as such as being very drunk, tired, etc wasn't his circumstance.
If a girl is into you she will want it all the time.
I have read in many women's magazines how sex on the wedding night is not standard nor should it be expected. From my experience I warn all brides to be to not take this dismissive approach on something very important to men. My wife gave me the cold shoulder on our wedding night even after having two conversations prior to the wedding where I made it very clear that I expected we do this on our first night as husband and wife. It is a lifetime of questions that I live with now as will every man who's wife rejects him on his wedding night. One night of tired/drunk sex is well worth the cost for a lifetime of your husband questioning and holding it against you. Huge mistake to not do this! To this day I harbor resentment to my wife and mother of 2 as a result of dismissing something that was so important to me on our wedding night.